How do you get up from being burned?

I've been having a lot of realization since may of this year some of it is good for my own development but most of it feels like someone is torturing me for a lot of reasons

1.i think i only have 1 friend left that is true to me until proven otherwise,i've cut off my so called bff since she is not giving the same effort as i have in our friendship,she doesnt even msg me to ask how i am and its always been me keeping our connection,now i have stopped doing it for more than a month now and she doesnt even msg so theres the proof but i feel like i want to say what i feel to her to chat her and say what a lousy friend she is but i dont know if i should?

2.I realized that my family is actually the ones holding me back from doing what i want to do with my life because i always make them my priority hence being taken advantage off but still they say bad things about me i know because i can hear them which they dont know and after i blow up and had an argument with my brother thats the last straw i decided to get out of there and what do you know im making plans for my future now and excited for it

3.my ex bff came back and messaged my gf if i already forgave her and if i will ever forgive her,to be honest i dont know,i think i can but when somehow i thought about what she did it still hurts

4.I realized that im not lovable maybe because i dont love myself i dont know,when im being serious people tend to be intimidated by me hence they dont get close to me but when im all smiles,helpful and show people i care they take advantage of me not once did i experienced this

I am just about done with friendship and expectations its like i have this trauma again to get close with someone

The quote

"Expectation is the root of all heartache" coudnt be more accurate with how i am feeling right now

5.i cant even talk to the only person i can count on this situation,everytime i try she gets angry because she hates how i still keep thinking about those people who have hurt me,she is more resentful than i am whenever someone hurts my feelings.

I guess writing here somehow helped me to unload this crap off my chest

Music and surrounding myself with better people

You focus on the present and the future not your past. Easier said than done especially for a scorpio moon. Expect nothing from anyone and rely on nobody for your happiness. People will disappoint you that's life but usually we can learn something from it.

Posted by Whorpio

Music and surrounding myself with better people

thank you so much that helped me 🙂

Posted by Timone

You focus on the present and the future not your past. Easier said than done especially for a scorpio moon. Expect nothing from anyone and rely on nobody for your happiness. People will disappoint you that's life but usually we can learn something from it.

yes I've learned it the hard way because I keep holding on

Posted by ClassyAquarius

How old are you? I went thru what you saing. Not the same, but I think every one of us going this way in some part of their lives. Don't give up, focus on yourself and what do you want from life. Once you will be in peace with yourself, because that's what this moment is about, it will be easier for you to see thru your problems. You will know what you want and whom you want in your life. Also, you can be nice without being too nice. People worth your time will eventually appear.

Im 31 and I've experienced this all my life, now my walls are up again good luck to the people who will want to be my friend,I Have tried to be open really open so people will understand how I work but it's still the same I still get treated like crap,I always help people whenever they need me its hard for me to say No in the past and when I learned to say No people still talk trash about me, every time someone calls me/message me I already know they need something from me and not because they want to hang out or they miss me, They always remember me when they want me to do something for them but when they have special occasions they will left me out and i will know about it from other people or saw it on Facebook and they will be like "bummer you didn't come" and i would say "no one invited me or told me so how will i come?" the person will just shrug it off and say "oh well theres always next time" and i would just smile to them even though deep inside I'm hurting because I've realized yet again that i have no one i can call my real friend or my people

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How old are you? I went thru what you saing. Not the same, but I think every one of us going this way in some part of their lives. Don't give up, focus on yourself and what do you want from life. Once you will be in peace with yourself, because that's what this moment is about, it will be easier for you to see thru your problems. You will know what you want and whom you want in your life. Also, you can be nice without being too nice. People worth your time will eventually appear.

Im 31 and I've experienced this all my life, now my walls are up again good luck to the people who will want to be my friend,I Have tried to be open really open so people will understand how I work but it's still the same I still get treated like crap,I always help people whenever they need me its hard for me to say No in the past and when I learned to say No people still talk trash about me, every time someone calls me/message me I already know they need something from me and not because they want to hang out or they miss me, They always remember me when they want me to do something for them but when they have special occasions they will left me out and i will know about it from other people or saw it on Facebook and they will be like "bummer you didn't come" and i would say "no one invited me or told me so how will i come?" the person will just shrug it off and say "oh well theres always next time" and i would just smile to them even though deep inside I'm hurting because I've realized yet again that i have no one i can call my real friend or my people

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Re-evaluate the kind of people you are around in the first place, before you go cutting off your nose to spite your face(punishing yourself).

Believe it or not, not everyone is like what you described. Consider what everyone else has who went thru what you did just told you. Honestly it kind of a rite of passage and your late to the party at 31. Never too late to change it though :- )

Thank you for the advice I will take it and think things through 🙂

You don't sound like you have boundaries and it's making you blame everyone else for the way you feel. I get that people hurt you but it seems you're expecting everyone in your life to respect boundaries you haven't established yet

these are learning experiences. take care of yourself first. give yourself love, trust in yourself. figure out the type of friendships/relationships you want and need. cut out all toxic people and environments that weigh you down. you'll get hurt again, but next time you'll be better prepared for it.

You have the typical Air sign problem when they're young. They look for happiness and fulfillment anywhere and everywhere except within themselves. Happiness is inward. Not outward. The sad truth is no one is here to be your friend. To be your family or to be your partner. You have to know what you want. What you deserve, and what you will not compromise for. All this is found within, and most Air Signs never get to look within because so many people demand their attention without. Take a step back. Assess your situation. Take the time to get in touch with how you really feel without thinking about other people or their feelings, needs, etc. When it comes to your happiness, your wants, and your needs, YOU are going to have to be selfish. It's your responsibility in this life. The world owes us nothing.

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Posted by ClassyAquarius

How old are you? I went thru what you saing. Not the same, but I think every one of us going this way in some part of their lives. Don't give up, focus on yourself and what do you want from life. Once you will be in peace with yourself, because that's what this moment is about, it will be easier for you to see thru your problems. You will know what you want and whom you want in your life. Also, you can be nice without being too nice. People worth your time will eventually appear.

Im 31 and I've experienced this all my life, now my walls are up again good luck to the people who will want to be my friend,I Have tried to be open really open so people will understand how I work but it's still the same I still get treated like crap,I always help people whenever they need me its hard for me to say No in the past and when I learned to say No people still talk trash about me, every time someone calls me/message me I already know they need something from me and not because they want to hang out or they miss me, They always remember me when they want me to do something for them but when they have special occasions they will left me out and i will know about it from other people or saw it on Facebook and they will be like "bummer you didn't come" and i would say "no one invited me or told me so how will i come?" the person will just shrug it off and say "oh well theres always next time" and i would just smile to them even though deep inside I'm hurting because I've realized yet again that i have no one i can call my real friend or my people

Well all I can say is, you are an Aquarius, you will never fit in so don't even try. Just live your life and trust me the right people will come and you won't have to convince them to stay or be genuine.

I changed my social life when I was 24. People I used to hang with was drug addicts or alcoholics, toxic and were using me to bust their confidence. Once I cut them from my life, I was alone. I wasn't able to call anyone my friend but then it changed.

I have 2 people in my life I can call friends and they doesn't use my good nature.

Don't give up, sometimes the more we want something the more it hides from us.

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thank you that is quite reassuring,I'm 31 now but its not too late,I guess its time I have my own way now,I think 31 years giving my life to my parents and brothers is enough its my turn now even if they don't appreciate me.

Posted by besarlalluvia

You don't sound like you have boundaries and it's making you blame everyone else for the way you feel. I get that people hurt you but it seems you're expecting everyone in your life to respect boundaries you haven't established yet

I actually realized it the moment I wrote my long 2nd comment but to be honest I really don't know how to establish boundaries so it might take a while for me, although I already did something to set one and mind you I did it speaking to the person calmly but it blew out of proportion(just like the other times when i want to teach them how to grow up,its not a first time though because i tend to get intense/violent reactions from my family everytime i had enough and wouldn't do what they want me to do even if i talk nicely its still the same reaction, it was my brother I told him I wouldn't take care of his laundry anymore(because for crying out loud he's already 26 and me and my mother are still doing his laundry right from the start after that he was angry telling me that I don't know how to read a room or something(He was expecting all of us to do him favors because according to him he is letting us stay at his house), saying awful things about me just to hurt me, after we reconcile I did stand my ground that I still wouldn't do it for him,not anymore.

Posted by GemCurioThe1

You have the typical Air sign problem when they're young. They look for happiness and fulfillment anywhere and everywhere except within themselves. Happiness is inward. Not outward. The sad truth is no one is here to be your friend. To be your family or to be your partner. You have to know what you want. What you deserve, and what you will not compromise for. All this is found within, and most Air Signs never get to look within because so many people demand their attention without. Take a step back. Assess your situation. Take the time to get in touch with how you really feel without thinking about other people or their feelings, needs, etc. When it comes to your happiness, your wants, and your needs, YOU are going to have to be selfish. It's your responsibility in this life. The world owes us nothing.

something hit me with this,I appreciate the advice and words of wisdom and I will do it 🙂

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You have the typical Air sign problem when they're young. They look for happiness and fulfillment anywhere and everywhere except within themselves. Happiness is inward. Not outward. The sad truth is no one is here to be your friend. To be your family or to be your partner. You have to know what you want. What you deserve, and what you will not compromise for. All this is found within, and most Air Signs never get to look within because so many people demand their attention without. Take a step back. Assess your situation. Take the time to get in touch with how you really feel without thinking about other people or their feelings, needs, etc. When it comes to your happiness, your wants, and your needs, YOU are going to have to be selfish. It's your responsibility in this life. The world owes us nothing.

something hit me with this,I appreciate the advice and words of wisdom and I will do it 🙂

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Do it for yourself. You Aquas deserve happiness too..

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Posted by besarlalluvia

You don't sound like you have boundaries and it's making you blame everyone else for the way you feel. I get that people hurt you but it seems you're expecting everyone in your life to respect boundaries you haven't established yet

I actually realized it the moment I wrote my long 2nd comment but to be honest I really don't know how to establish boundaries so it might take a while for me, although I already did something to set one and mind you I did it speaking to the person calmly but it blew out of proportion(just like the other times when i want to teach them how to grow up,its not a first time though because i tend to get intense/violent reactions from my family everytime i had enough and wouldn't do what they want me to do even if i talk nicely its still the same reaction, it was my brother I told him I wouldn't take care of his laundry anymore(because for crying out loud he's already 26 and me and my mother are still doing his laundry right from the start after that he was angry telling me that I don't know how to read a room or something(He was expecting all of us to do him favors because according to him he is letting us stay at his house), saying awful things about me just to hurt me, after we reconcile I did stand my ground that I still wouldn't do it for him,not anymore.

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I don't think there's a single way to do it, but i would say for a start, to not get emotional when you tell them you've had enough etc. I know it's hard, as I'm going through the same thinf myself. But when they see your emotion it's harder to take u seriously (as in some people like that they trigger you). When you do this you may even set a new boundary for yourself (that is, emotional boundary)

An obvious solution is to move out of course. However i imagine you have this kinda trouble outside your family? Maybe not.

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You don't sound like you have boundaries and it's making you blame everyone else for the way you feel. I get that people hurt you but it seems you're expecting everyone in your life to respect boundaries you haven't established yet

I actually realized it the moment I wrote my long 2nd comment but to be honest I really don't know how to establish boundaries so it might take a while for me, although I already did something to set one and mind you I did it speaking to the person calmly but it blew out of proportion(just like the other times when i want to teach them how to grow up,its not a first time though because i tend to get intense/violent reactions from my family everytime i had enough and wouldn't do what they want me to do even if i talk nicely its still the same reaction, it was my brother I told him I wouldn't take care of his laundry anymore(because for crying out loud he's already 26 and me and my mother are still doing his laundry right from the start after that he was angry telling me that I don't know how to read a room or something(He was expecting all of us to do him favors because according to him he is letting us stay at his house), saying awful things about me just to hurt me, after we reconcile I did stand my ground that I still wouldn't do it for him,not anymore.

I don't think there's a single way to do it, but i would say for a start, to not get emotional when you tell them you've had enough etc. I know it's hard, as I'm going through the same thinf myself. But when they see your emotion it's harder to take u seriously (as in some people like that they trigger you). When you do this you may even set a new boundary for yourself (that is, emotional boundary)

An obvious solution is to move out of course. However i imagine you have this kinda trouble outside your family? Maybe not.

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Yeah they are definitely doing it to trigger me because they know how emotional I am ,to answer your question most of my problems came from my family and the occasional people/friends that only remember me when they need something from me.Thank you for your advice and I hope it goes well for you too

Posted by alexscaries

It might be a bad thing to say, but you can't change your world by blaming other people. And that's from an Aries.

if it looks like I'm blaming people to you then there's nothing I can do about it,but I am not because if I am then there would be much chaos I'm telling you, if you know a scorp moon then you will know how chaotic we can be when we blow up but I'm controlling the situation by not getting emotional in front of them(the people that I mentioned and cut off doesn't even know what I feel and what I'm thinking but it doesn't mean that I'm not releasing this emotion elsewhere like for example HERE.

Posted by poeticseraphim

You can only burn what is flammable. You can only lose fake friends.

I had to shake off a lot of users recently. I feel much better.

Plus it allowed me to focus on my real friends.

Im sorry about your family.

Mine has always been supportive so i dont know that i am qualified to answer or help.

But i hope you know you deserve support.

Thank you so much!, I feel lonely right now and I fell I have no one but one of the user here gave me an awesome advice and I'm holding on to that,I may be lonely and alone right now but I'm hoping the right people will come into my life in the future

It's story time. I've dated Aquarius women for years and what you've said I've always seen again and again. You gals pride yourself in family and friend love, and you're all great family members and friends to all. But the reality is that you expect love to be reciprocated by people and most people in your lives never love you equally. One of the things that empowered my exes was learning to be happy alone. Everyone in life is not meant to share your joy. Nor will they be happy for your success. The same people in the past which had so much influence on our relationship were the people laughing at them when I left. It was only then that they began to learn to trust and love themselves. Stop taking phone calls from people who take you for granted. Everyone is not meant to understand you so learn to kindly tell them to kick rocks. We all eventually are the only ones who must live with the choices in our lives and tolerance of negligent and abusive people, or even people who don't value us means that we accept the situation as is. So just cut them all off. Doesn't matter their title in your life if they don't live up to the definition of it. You Aquas give tons to those you love for crumbs from their tables. Stop accepting the crumbs knowing you deserve a three course meal. If you cut off everyone for a year, no matter how difficult or scary it may be, you will learn so much about yourself and finally have solid values to stand on, because you have taken the time to stand on those values alone. Many people wouldn't agree with this, but the majority of people are selfish by nature anyway and looking to take advantage of someone instead of freely giving. So... From one person who freely gives to another, cut off all the nouns (people, places, and things) that aren't serving your higher values and learn to have your dignity in exchange for fake and slimy family and friends. Do it on your own terms, because eventually life will do it for you regardless. However, when life does it, it's way more uncomfortable...

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It's story time. I've dated Aquarius women for years and what you've said I've always seen again and again. You gals pride yourself in family and friend love, and you're all great family members and friends to all. But the reality is that you expect love to be reciprocated by people and most people in your lives never love you equally. One of the things that empowered my exes was learning to be happy alone. Everyone in life is not meant to share your joy. Nor will they be happy for your success. The same people in the past which had so much influence on our relationship were the people laughing at them when I left. It was only then that they began to learn to trust and love themselves. Stop taking phone calls from people who take you for granted. Everyone is not meant to understand you so learn to kindly tell them to kick rocks. We all eventually are the only ones who must live with the choices in our lives and tolerance of negligent and abusive people, or even people who don't value us means that we accept the situation as is. So just cut them all off. Doesn't matter their title in your life if they don't live up to the definition of it. You Aquas give tons to those you love for crumbs from their tables. Stop accepting the crumbs knowing you deserve a three course meal. If you cut off everyone for a year, no matter how difficult or scary it may be, you will learn so much about yourself and finally have solid values to stand on, because you have taken the time to stand on those values alone. Many people wouldn't agree with this, but the majority of people are selfish by nature anyway and looking to take advantage of someone instead of freely giving. So... From one person who freely gives to another, cut off all the nouns (people, places, and things) that aren't serving your higher values and learn to have your dignity in exchange for fake and slimy family and friends. Do it on your own terms, because eventually life will do it for you regardless. However, when life does it, it's way more uncomfortable...

" because eventually life will do it for you regardless. However, when life does it, it's way more uncomfortable"-THIS, right now I'm experiencing it as in even if I keep holding on especially since may to this year its like my head hit a wall and my protective helmet came off with the realization and now I'm even 2nd guessing my 14 years relationship i don't know why but i feel like i want to be completely free and don't give a fuck about everyone and explore the world and do crazy shits I've been resisting my wholelife but at the back of my mind i know that would be bad(i have strong self restraint),Still thank you for the advice,I'm still a work in progress even with my age

" because eventually life will do it for you regardless. However, when life does it, it's way more uncomfortable"-THIS, right now I'm experiencing it as in even if I keep holding on especially since may to this year its like my head hit a wall and my protective helmet came off with the realization and now I'm even 2nd guessing my 14 years relationship i don't know why but i feel like i want to be completely free and don't give a fuck about everyone and explore the world and do crazy shits I've been resisting my wholelife but at the back of my mind i know that would be bad(i have strong self restraint),Still thank you for the advice,I'm still a work in progress even with my age

We're all a work in progress, but one day you'll have to face the mirror because none of us can continually live behind a mask. One day the mask will be too heavy to wear. Please, don't wait until you hate HATE everyone and everything around you. Make a decision for yourself an inch at a time. Start with something small like a new hair style or color, but gradually be you.

Have you ever been completely free?? No boyfriend/husband, no responsibility to or for anyone other than yourself— Free to choose what you want for yourself?? I find most Air Signs rarely experience being free of people to experience who they are, what they like, or even pursuing what they want.

You realize you’re a Scorp moon and stop self-victimizing.

1. Take responsibility for your part in all that went wrong;

2. Detach from others who wronged you; and

3. Put the necessary things you gotta do in action.

I always search reddit for posts of people with similar issues and/or aspirations. That puts me at ease cause I dont feel alone

anymore and my problems feel less like a burden cause they are suddenly so mundane and so not special. Everything has

already happened to million other people who often think and feel the same way as OI often find

people who solved those problems with more resolve and more intelligence than I did. I copy them without shame. I dont know if that works you, but you could try it.

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Have you ever been completely free?? No boyfriend/husband, no responsibility to or for anyone other than yourself— Free to choose what you want for yourself?? I find most Air Signs rarely experience being free of people to experience who they are, what they like, or even pursuing what they want.

Completely free? I don't even know the word haha, since I was born my parents control my life even choosing a degree that I don't want, I feel like even my long time relationship tend to want to control me, my decisions, my beliefs when I don't agree on something they usually spite me for it and push their beliefs and wants on me, I don't want to be the victim here really I don't because I hate it when people pity me but I've come to this point where I look like I'm looking for pity and victimizing myself still I really don't care and that's a new for me I always care what people think of me that's why I seldom say NO but right now meh!! -.- because I really need this

I'm thinking of getting away from all of them even my gf when I have enough money ill go somewhere I don't know where and i don't care i just want to be free, Really free for once no one to bother me and no one to disagree with me or control me

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I always search reddit for posts of people with similar issues and/or aspirations. That puts me at ease cause I dont feel alone

anymore and my problems feel less like a burden cause they are suddenly so mundane and so not special. Everything has

already happened to million other people who often think and feel the same way as OI often find

people who solved those problems with more resolve and more intelligence than I did. I copy them without shame. I dont know if that works you, but you could try it.

Thats interesting, I will do that thanks for the info

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Have you ever been completely free?? No boyfriend/husband, no responsibility to or for anyone other than yourself— Free to choose what you want for yourself?? I find most Air Signs rarely experience being free of people to experience who they are, what they like, or even pursuing what they want.

Completely free? I don't even know the word haha, since I was born my parents control my life even choosing a degree that I don't want, I feel like even my long time relationship tend to want to control me, my decisions, my beliefs when I don't agree on something they usually spite me for it and push their beliefs and wants on me, I don't want to be the victim here really I don't because I hate it when people pity me but I've come to this point where I look like I'm looking for pity and victimizing myself still I really don't care and that's a new for me I always care what people think of me that's why I seldom say NO but right now meh!! -.- because I really need this

I'm thinking of getting away from all of them even my gf when I have enough money ill go somewhere I don't know where and i don't care i just want to be free, Really free for once no one to bother me and no one to disagree with me or control me

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The real problem is how much of this desire is decades of bottled up emotions driven to mania?? There's no way to truly know, but I highly suggest you start small. Make your hair pink or cut it all off. IDK what you want to do but do something today that you want to do. Skip work and just do it...

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Have you ever been completely free?? No boyfriend/husband, no responsibility to or for anyone other than yourself— Free to choose what you want for yourself?? I find most Air Signs rarely experience being free of people to experience who they are, what they like, or even pursuing what they want.

Completely free? I don't even know the word haha, since I was born my parents control my life even choosing a degree that I don't want, I feel like even my long time relationship tend to want to control me, my decisions, my beliefs when I don't agree on something they usually spite me for it and push their beliefs and wants on me, I don't want to be the victim here really I don't because I hate it when people pity me but I've come to this point where I look like I'm looking for pity and victimizing myself still I really don't care and that's a new for me I always care what people think of me that's why I seldom say NO but right now meh!! -.- because I really need this

I'm thinking of getting away from all of them even my gf when I have enough money ill go somewhere I don't know where and i don't care i just want to be free, Really free for once no one to bother me and no one to disagree with me or control me

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Hey... Change your wardrobe to something you really like or buy a motorcycle. Grow gruffy facial hair and put on some ganster rap music in rebellion. Whatever it is you do, do it because you want to and do it loudly and without restraint. One real inch at a time. nd believe it or not, you're probably inspiring other Aquarius people and Air Signs to wake up to the lives they want to live instead of what they are doing on a day to day basis.

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Have you ever been completely free?? No boyfriend/husband, no responsibility to or for anyone other than yourself— Free to choose what you want for yourself?? I find most Air Signs rarely experience being free of people to experience who they are, what they like, or even pursuing what they want.

Completely free? I don't even know the word haha, since I was born my parents control my life even choosing a degree that I don't want, I feel like even my long time relationship tend to want to control me, my decisions, my beliefs when I don't agree on something they usually spite me for it and push their beliefs and wants on me, I don't want to be the victim here really I don't because I hate it when people pity me but I've come to this point where I look like I'm looking for pity and victimizing myself still I really don't care and that's a new for me I always care what people think of me that's why I seldom say NO but right now meh!! -.- because I really need this

I'm thinking of getting away from all of them even my gf when I have enough money ill go somewhere I don't know where and i don't care i just want to be free, Really free for once no one to bother me and no one to disagree with me or control me

Hey... Change your wardrobe to something you really like or buy a motorcycle. Grow gruffy facial hair and put on some ganster rap music in rebellion. Whatever it is you do, do it because you want to and do it loudly and without restraint. One real inch at a time. nd believe it or not, you're probably inspiring other Aquarius people and Air Signs to wake up to the lives they want to live instead of what they are doing on a day to day basis.

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it makes you wonder right?a sign that loves freedom but i see a lot of aquarius who are stuck in their life like me people controlling them,that sounds amazing,im actually doing what i want right now gradually like my gf usually have this habit of asking favors like love cook this,do this,do that,even to the point of what i wear.just this afternoon i said no to one of her request because i feel like its not my responsibility like seriously?you want me to clean the poop of your aunts baby?then give him milk?,im like no i dont want too because thats not my responsibility im already looking after the baby,you know dude/mam i dont know your gender haha,i feel like im doing the exact same thing back at home with my family and their taking advantage of me again

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Have you ever been completely free?? No boyfriend/husband, no responsibility to or for anyone other than yourself— Free to choose what you want for yourself?? I find most Air Signs rarely experience being free of people to experience who they are, what they like, or even pursuing what they want.

Completely free? I don't even know the word haha, since I was born my parents control my life even choosing a degree that I don't want, I feel like even my long time relationship tend to want to control me, my decisions, my beliefs when I don't agree on something they usually spite me for it and push their beliefs and wants on me, I don't want to be the victim here really I don't because I hate it when people pity me but I've come to this point where I look like I'm looking for pity and victimizing myself still I really don't care and that's a new for me I always care what people think of me that's why I seldom say NO but right now meh!! -.- because I really need this

I'm thinking of getting away from all of them even my gf when I have enough money ill go somewhere I don't know where and i don't care i just want to be free, Really free for once no one to bother me and no one to disagree with me or control me

Hey... Change your wardrobe to something you really like or buy a motorcycle. Grow gruffy facial hair and put on some ganster rap music in rebellion. Whatever it is you do, do it because you want to and do it loudly and without restraint. One real inch at a time. nd believe it or not, you're probably inspiring other Aquarius people and Air Signs to wake up to the lives they want to live instead of what they are doing on a day to day basis.

it makes you wonder right?a sign that loves freedom but i see a lot of aquarius who are stuck in their life like me people controlling them,that sounds amazing,im actually doing what i want right now gradually like my gf usually have this habit of asking favors like love cook this,do this,do that,even to the point of what i wear.just this afternoon i said no to one of her request because i feel like its not my responsibility like seriously?you want me to clean the poop of your aunts baby?then give him milk?,im like no i dont want too because thats not my responsibility im already looking after the baby,you know dude/mam i dont know your gender haha,i feel like im doing the exact same thing back at home with my family and their taking advantage of me again

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Just spend the rest of the day saying...No. Thank you... I'm a guy btw... But like I said, you Aquas at times just give too much to the point of losing yourselves... Nice small start by the way. It's perfect.. Just say no to everything for a week...lol

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Have you ever been completely free?? No boyfriend/husband, no responsibility to or for anyone other than yourself— Free to choose what you want for yourself?? I find most Air Signs rarely experience being free of people to experience who they are, what they like, or even pursuing what they want.

Completely free? I don't even know the word haha, since I was born my parents control my life even choosing a degree that I don't want, I feel like even my long time relationship tend to want to control me, my decisions, my beliefs when I don't agree on something they usually spite me for it and push their beliefs and wants on me, I don't want to be the victim here really I don't because I hate it when people pity me but I've come to this point where I look like I'm looking for pity and victimizing myself still I really don't care and that's a new for me I always care what people think of me that's why I seldom say NO but right now meh!! -.- because I really need this

I'm thinking of getting away from all of them even my gf when I have enough money ill go somewhere I don't know where and i don't care i just want to be free, Really free for once no one to bother me and no one to disagree with me or control me

Hey... Change your wardrobe to something you really like or buy a motorcycle. Grow gruffy facial hair and put on some ganster rap music in rebellion. Whatever it is you do, do it because you want to and do it loudly and without restraint. One real inch at a time. nd believe it or not, you're probably inspiring other Aquarius people and Air Signs to wake up to the lives they want to live instead of what they are doing on a day to day basis.

it makes you wonder right?a sign that loves freedom but i see a lot of aquarius who are stuck in their life like me people controlling them,that sounds amazing,im actually doing what i want right now gradually like my gf usually have this habit of asking favors like love cook this,do this,do that,even to the point of what i wear.just this afternoon i said no to one of her request because i feel like its not my responsibility like seriously?you want me to clean the poop of your aunts baby?then give him milk?,im like no i dont want too because thats not my responsibility im already looking after the baby,you know dude/mam i dont know your gender haha,i feel like im doing the exact same thing back at home with my family and their taking advantage of me again

Just spend the rest of the day saying...No. Thank you... I'm a guy btw... But like I said, you Aquas at times just give too much to the point of losing yourselves... Nice small start by the way. It's perfect.. Just say no to everything for a week...lol

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Hey dude glad to finally put a gender to the person who continue to give a fck about me,yeah saying No didnt go well with my gf right now but you guys whos giving me advice right now gave me the courage to do that,I'm not that scared to be alone anymore,it made me think I was always alone so why am I so scared when in truth i am always alone.

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Have you ever been completely free?? No boyfriend/husband, no responsibility to or for anyone other than yourself— Free to choose what you want for yourself?? I find most Air Signs rarely experience being free of people to experience who they are, what they like, or even pursuing what they want.

Completely free? I don't even know the word haha, since I was born my parents control my life even choosing a degree that I don't want, I feel like even my long time relationship tend to want to control me, my decisions, my beliefs when I don't agree on something they usually spite me for it and push their beliefs and wants on me, I don't want to be the victim here really I don't because I hate it when people pity me but I've come to this point where I look like I'm looking for pity and victimizing myself still I really don't care and that's a new for me I always care what people think of me that's why I seldom say NO but right now meh!! -.- because I really need this

I'm thinking of getting away from all of them even my gf when I have enough money ill go somewhere I don't know where and i don't care i just want to be free, Really free for once no one to bother me and no one to disagree with me or control me

Hey... Change your wardrobe to something you really like or buy a motorcycle. Grow gruffy facial hair and put on some ganster rap music in rebellion. Whatever it is you do, do it because you want to and do it loudly and without restraint. One real inch at a time. nd believe it or not, you're probably inspiring other Aquarius people and Air Signs to wake up to the lives they want to live instead of what they are doing on a day to day basis.

it makes you wonder right?a sign that loves freedom but i see a lot of aquarius who are stuck in their life like me people controlling them,that sounds amazing,im actually doing what i want right now gradually like my gf usually have this habit of asking favors like love cook this,do this,do that,even to the point of what i wear.just this afternoon i said no to one of her request because i feel like its not my responsibility like seriously?you want me to clean the poop of your aunts baby?then give him milk?,im like no i dont want too because thats not my responsibility im already looking after the baby,you know dude/mam i dont know your gender haha,i feel like im doing the exact same thing back at home with my family and their taking advantage of me again

Just spend the rest of the day saying...No. Thank you... I'm a guy btw... But like I said, you Aquas at times just give too much to the point of losing yourselves... Nice small start by the way. It's perfect.. Just say no to everything for a week...lol

Hey dude glad to finally put a gender to the person who continue to give a fck about me,yeah saying No didnt go well with my gf right now but you guys whos giving me advice right now gave me the courage to do that,I'm not that scared to be alone anymore,it made me think I was always alone so why am I so scared when in truth i am always alone.

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That's the sad truth. If we cannot be ourselves.. Our true selves, we end up feeling alone anyway. There's nothing to lose in this life. What's yours is always yours. I think you're having a new path laid in front of you. Leading towards your true wants and desires for yourself. Be fair and honest with yourself right now before doing anything. What you're feeling and thinking is real and there's no such thing as a small decision in life. Take a little time to reflect on what you feel concerning all the people that matter to you. Then after you understand yourself better, talk to everyone individually about whatever it is that bothers you or that stands in the way of your personal goals, aspirations, and the real you. These conversations must happen before moving forward so you can live with any decisions you make. It's the best way. Continue to break the chains brother. All that is ever in the way of our freedom is the way our minds process information. I'm glad that you are growing. This post will help others for years....