How do you know he/she is THE ONE?
This topic was created in the Relationships forum by Aya34 on Friday, March 27, 2009 and has 37 replies.
How do you know?
How do you know?
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You just know. It is hard to explain.
I love Diary of a Mad Black Woman!
Who is that actor, anyway? That man is fineeeeeeeeeeeeeee.
Who is that actor, anyway? That man is fineeeeeeeeeeeeeee.
*swoon*
Found him on google.
You're all very welcome. Haha
Whatevs he's still fine.
You know when he's "the one" when you meld into him like you're from the same cloth. Know what I mean? its a feeling of unconditional love that you have for nobody else that inspires you towards your lifepath and be closer to the god within.
Before omes belief. Then comes knowing. When you know something, you are connected to the universal force. And that is 'THE ONE'!
Before omes belief. Then comes knowing. When you know something, you are connected to the universal force. And that is 'THE ONE'!
Mooneyes you freakin crack me up sometimes. You remind me of a friend of mine. Anyway i love that movie. And he is hhhooottt! That movie Someone like you. With Hugh Jackman and Ashley Judd. That is a good movie also. I can watch that thing over and over again. Love it!!!
Shamar Moore
Ohhhh Yeah!! I know he's the one!!!
Ohhhh Yeah!! I know he's the one!!!
The world is 2 big of a place.There's no such thing .Date them all.
Good question
i hate to tell you but there's no such thing as "the one". :-O
if you're looking for a "sign" you won't get one. if you can picture your future with someone, and have the desire to make it work with them, then consider that enough to go ahead.
if you're looking for a "sign" you won't get one. if you can picture your future with someone, and have the desire to make it work with them, then consider that enough to go ahead.
Just because YOU may think someone is "The One" doesnt mean they are!!
Ever heard of "Unrequited Love"
I agree with pinkladie.
Ever heard of "Unrequited Love"
I agree with pinkladie.
We come to love not by finding a perfect person but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly.
it seems much more likely to me that rather than "the one" existing, there are many "the ones" for most individuals. needing a sign to confirm your own feelings for someone is very silly to me. if two people are a good fit, and like each other enough to want to be together, then that's really all there is to it.
we make our own realities.
"it took me years but, i do know what loves feels like...like each breath u breathe is not ur own. u want to share ur entire world even the bad stuff cuz it doesn't feel quite as bad when they r there *shrugs* and when u can not imagine falling asleep in any else's arms." - nihilist, this is a fabulous description.
and starfish i agree that you need to feel thankful for that feeling if you have it because some people never do.
i'm certain some people will object to what i am about to say but i believe i have met my "one". yes, i'm very young, but my mum was my age when she met her "one" (who is my dad and who she is still married to).
indeed, i didn't particularly like the guy the first time i saw him. thought he was a bit arrogant and immature. i soon learnt that this was his cancer shell because he's really shy. got to know him more and fell in love with him hook, line and sinker. i knew he was the one when i saw him one day really dishelleved and tired, looking an absolute mess and being all snappy and grumpy and still feeling, with absolute certainty, that i would never love anothr person the way i love him.
and starfish i agree that you need to feel thankful for that feeling if you have it because some people never do.
i'm certain some people will object to what i am about to say but i believe i have met my "one". yes, i'm very young, but my mum was my age when she met her "one" (who is my dad and who she is still married to).
indeed, i didn't particularly like the guy the first time i saw him. thought he was a bit arrogant and immature. i soon learnt that this was his cancer shell because he's really shy. got to know him more and fell in love with him hook, line and sinker. i knew he was the one when i saw him one day really dishelleved and tired, looking an absolute mess and being all snappy and grumpy and still feeling, with absolute certainty, that i would never love anothr person the way i love him.
when they are willing to put up with 50 years of your crap, and vice versa.
hahaha!
Posted by irishlibraiskatie
a friend of mine (pisces) said she just knew when she met her second husband (scorpio)...she said that it is like your life is just beginning and you wonder what you even did before you met....seems like another lifetime...when she told me this, she choked up to cry...it is really beautiful to see....i also have a brother (pisces) who married his wife (libra) 30 years ago and he still looks at her as the greatest girl in the world....beautiful love story also
it doesnt happen to everyone, but even to observe it in others is a beautiful thing (and im sure only a fraction of what it would even feel like to actually experience it)
Posted by RainFairy_Lioness72
i hate to tell you but there's no such thing as "the one". :-O
if you're looking for a "sign" you won't get one. if you can picture your future with someone, and have the desire to make it work with them, then consider that enough to go ahead.
>>I have to disagree with you with this one. There is such a thing as "the one". There is a reason why they say "you'll just know." You will. It is a strong and definite feeling. You won't have any doubts about it. The closest description I can tell you is when you know for sure that something wonderful is going to happen today. For example, you applied for a job and even before they hire you, you have this strong feeling that you will get that call for an interview and you will get that job on that day - and it happens! -- It doesn't matter what other people think or say to you - no matter how much of a downer they may be, you just stick to your belief and it is so because you believe it.
You can ask for a sign for confirmation and if you are sincere, you surely will get it. I have.click to expand
These are both perfect examples. For those that say 'there is no one'.... its obvious that the answer is they just haven't met that person.
I feel this in my heart for the person that I started dating late last year. We are so close at this point. I was with my kids' father for almost 11 years and never loved him like I love the man I am with now. I have never felt this sort of love in my entire life.
The best thing in the world is not only having the feeling; but also having that feeling be mutual. Seriously... birds friggin sing when I think of him. LOL
I have to say that I agree. You do just know. I've heard some people say that they were with the person awhile and one day realized they didn't want to live without them. I've also heard people say they knew when they first met the person. Personally, I knew when I met my husband. I was 34 years old, had been in long term relationships before but never had I felt for someone the way I felt for him and yes it was immediate. The first kiss sent chills down my spine. Don't get me wrong, there were problems and break ups but at the end of the day. We always came back to each other.
All I can say is, you don't know how it's going to happen for you. You can meet "the one" but it may time you some time to realize it. Also, I'm not so sure it's only one person either. But the person you do choose, should be the one that you don't see yourself being without. Anything less than that i.e. we're good friends, we get along great or as someone suggested you can tolerate each other. To me, seems like settling. Don't settle, keep looking until you find it. I was 36 years old, when I married (for the first time). I'm so glad I waited for him.
All I can say is, you don't know how it's going to happen for you. You can meet "the one" but it may time you some time to realize it. Also, I'm not so sure it's only one person either. But the person you do choose, should be the one that you don't see yourself being without. Anything less than that i.e. we're good friends, we get along great or as someone suggested you can tolerate each other. To me, seems like settling. Don't settle, keep looking until you find it. I was 36 years old, when I married (for the first time). I'm so glad I waited for him.
when they are willing to put up with 50 years of your crap, and vice versa.
LMAO
Priceless
LMAO
Priceless
lmao...this thread makes me wanna pull my hair out.
Posted by sexyscorp19
..... I've also heard people say they knew when they first met the person. Personally, I knew when I met my husband.
So you felt it as soon as you met them hmm?
I believe I have also; but it seems like every outside force imagineable; is out there to tell you NO! NOT POSSIBLE.
but whatever.... I like my way better ;D
Posted by Starfish225
It is a deep confimation to the soul. Its a feeling that you may not get with any other person ever. Some ppl know upon meeting a person that they will get married before a relationship even starts. I know several couples like that. A gf of mine knew immediately that she would marry this guy and she did.
Extrasensory perception (ESP)
ESP is the apparent ability to acquire information by paranormal means independent of any known physical senses or deduction from previous experience.
The term was coined by Duke University researcher J. B. Rhine to denote psychic abilities such as telepathy, precognition, Retrocognition, Intuition and Psychokinesis. ESP is also sometimes casually referred to as a sixth sense, gut instinct or hunch.
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Posted by depth_scorp
We come to love not by finding a perfect person but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly.
I concur
Posted by Skin
when they are willing to put up with 50 years of your crap, and vice versa.
LOL
and as for me: I guess you just know by putting up with their daily crap xD
...you just know by putting up with their daily crap xD
the same here. when I stick with someone I see his crap and find it sweet or erotic. I don't wanna change them in thir ways.
This is the one:
In all seriousness, when you don't have to ask the question, "how do you know if he/she is the one" is when you know you actually have "the one".
In all seriousness, when you don't have to ask the question, "how do you know if he/she is the one" is when you know you actually have "the one".
damn keanu reeves is fine as hell!!!!
I especially love it when people refer to The One, in saying they have had several ... usually they use the word "soulmate", they will make reference that they've met their soulmate, but, it didn't work out.
I just love that shit.
I just love that shit.
Personally, I think it is an emotional casualty we suffer from having the God program.
In love, we erroneously believe ... believe with all our fucking heart ...
.... there is only One, and the love is an unconditional one ... forever
In love, we erroneously believe ... believe with all our fucking heart ...
.... there is only One, and the love is an unconditional one ... forever
I do belive that there is a "One" for everyone. Just because some people/most people meet the "One" more then one time in a lifetime doesn??t mean that there isn??t that special One for someone at every given moment.
I??m really inlove with someone right now, we??re not togeather, infact I haven??t told him about my feelings, but I KNOW he??s the One.
I don??t know how to explain it. When I first layed my eyes on him standing in a dark crowd in some rutten dark place, I just knew he was going to be an important person in my life for a very long time. This was a year ago. And I know I??ll feel this way about him for meny more years. (A capricorn just knows)
When he approached me and started talking to me there was something inside me that just stopped functioning. I remember talking to a bunch of guys that night thinking to myself: "This guy has a very sexy voice" or "That guy has very beutiful eyes".
And then I saw him and all of a sudden I was thinking: "Where am I?", "WHO am I?", "And why is the earth moving?
When you meet THE ONE you can just kiss your brain goodbye.
I??m really inlove with someone right now, we??re not togeather, infact I haven??t told him about my feelings, but I KNOW he??s the One.
I don??t know how to explain it. When I first layed my eyes on him standing in a dark crowd in some rutten dark place, I just knew he was going to be an important person in my life for a very long time. This was a year ago. And I know I??ll feel this way about him for meny more years. (A capricorn just knows)
When he approached me and started talking to me there was something inside me that just stopped functioning. I remember talking to a bunch of guys that night thinking to myself: "This guy has a very sexy voice" or "That guy has very beutiful eyes".
And then I saw him and all of a sudden I was thinking: "Where am I?", "WHO am I?", "And why is the earth moving?
When you meet THE ONE you can just kiss your brain goodbye.
Posted by P-Angel
Personally, I think it is an emotional casualty we suffer from having the God program.
In love, we erroneously believe ... believe with all our fucking heart ...
.... there is only One, and the love is an unconditional one ... forever
AMEN.
I do believe though that people also believe in "the one" because it makes it easier to cope with than believing that there are many, if any, can work.... ahhhh!! Too many choices!
It makes love more concrete and tangible for people.
I don't know if there is only one or not, but I do believe in special connections.
I disagree with the people who say you can make it work with anyone...I'm sorry, I just can't agree with that...And why would you want to struggle day in-day out fighting to try and make something work when it's not fulfilling you anyway? When you never get that "magic"? When you never feel in sync with eachother (coz you are just incompatible), and the list goes on and on (but I won't haha)...Some people just don't "gel", and no matter what you do, you just can't make it work...
When you meet someone and you do have that special connection, you just know, there is no denying it...Who knows how long it's for, not everything is meant to last forever. And people who haven't experienced such a connection usually don't understand, or have no concept of what it is like...It really is life-changing
I disagree with the people who say you can make it work with anyone...I'm sorry, I just can't agree with that...And why would you want to struggle day in-day out fighting to try and make something work when it's not fulfilling you anyway? When you never get that "magic"? When you never feel in sync with eachother (coz you are just incompatible), and the list goes on and on (but I won't haha)...Some people just don't "gel", and no matter what you do, you just can't make it work...
When you meet someone and you do have that special connection, you just know, there is no denying it...Who knows how long it's for, not everything is meant to last forever. And people who haven't experienced such a connection usually don't understand, or have no concept of what it is like...It really is life-changing
yeah, don't confine urself to dreaming up "the one". i, too, think there are many "the ones" out there. just let it go.
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