How Long Should You Wait?....
This topic was created in the Relationships forum by CuteCapri on Monday, September 10, 2012 and has 5 replies.
I am curious to know if there is a time frame as to how long a couple should wait before becoming exclusive?
Meeting the friends/family? And if either one has any children, How long before meeting his/her children?
Meeting the friends/family? And if either one has any children, How long before meeting his/her children?
No set rule...go with how you feel about everything. If you have children, you'll know whether to introduce them or not and how it will effect them. If they are his, then he will judge. I think the more you stress and push these sorts of issues can create there own problems.
My bf wanted me to meet his children straight away and I told him I wasn't ready (they are younger than mine) I finally met them after 3 months, he had met mine in the first 6 weeks. To me all things were considered...their ages, how long each of us had been separated etc. And originally, I was just a friend of his. His weekends with them were shared with me during the day and no sleepovers til we thought they were ready for Dads new gf.
My bf wanted me to meet his children straight away and I told him I wasn't ready (they are younger than mine) I finally met them after 3 months, he had met mine in the first 6 weeks. To me all things were considered...their ages, how long each of us had been separated etc. And originally, I was just a friend of his. His weekends with them were shared with me during the day and no sleepovers til we thought they were ready for Dads new gf.
Ditto to earlier comments. There's really no such rule or timeframe which is why I find it hilarious when people try to put a set time on it. Go with the flow. It's really gut instinct and you'll know when it's time.
You see, I've always thought the same thing. However, based on some books and articles that I've read previously, they've set time frames as to when you/him should introduce the family/friends. When ya'll should have sex (which may apply at times if its too early). When ya'll should say I love yous and so on. So I'm here confused as to what is right and what's wrong
Well, my friend surprised me with meeting his friends the last time we hung out and we've been talking and hanging out for less than three months. Plus he surprised me by taking me to a spot where everyone knew his name. That was his comfort level. My friends and associates are dying to meet him, I personally think I can wait a bit. Children only matter if they still live at home. The only suggestion I can make on that is to wait until both of you have discussed the nature of your relationship and are both willing to invest long term in each other and focus on the perspective of the children and their needs. Not your own selfish desire to be together and damn everyone else. Sex; who the hell knows. But I will say this, the female should always be certain she is ready for intimacy regardless of the outcome because we are the ones who "give it up".
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