How to give a hint that I'm bisexual?

This topic was created in the Relationships forum by GeminiSun on Sunday, July 1, 2018 and has 31 replies.
Any ideas on how to give some subtle hints or discreetly bring up the fact that I'm bisexual when in a conversation? Or any hints that gay people pick up but non gay people ignore? Thanks!
Posted by Squishy_Marshmallow
If I were gay hmmm idk I would suck my index finger and give her a quick wet Willy and run away from there.
yeah that's too subtle.. Anyone more serious?

Posted by Squishy_Marshmallow
Posted by GeminiSun
Posted by Squishy_Marshmallow
If I were gay hmmm idk I would suck my index finger and give her a quick wet Willy and run away from there.


yeah that's too subtle.. Anyone more serious?



I would hint about some past gf. Or just make it sound like a one time you know like an experimental experience during college days? And see how they react.
Sorry I'm not of any help. Once my bisexual gf kinda teased me to remove/change my top in front of her... She said I wanna see you. That's how I knew she is bi.

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Thank you
Posted by Nevamore
As long you hinted to the right person.
She's a lesbian & I'm into her. I assume she's the right one.
Why cant you just come out and say it?
Posted by DMV
Why cant you just come out and say it?
Ιt's not that easy...
Posted by GeminiSun
Posted by DMV
Why cant you just come out and say it?


Ιt's not that easy...
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how is it not easy?
Posted by Librasetting777
Posted by GeminiSun
Posted by DMV
Why cant you just come out and say it?


Ιt's not that easy...

how is it not easy?
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The girl I'm into is my colleage. Not sure whether I can trust her yet. That's why I prefer suble hints
Posted by GeminiSun
Posted by Librasetting777
Posted by GeminiSun
Posted by DMV
Why cant you just come out and say it?


Ιt's not that easy...

how is it not easy?


The girl I'm into is my colleage. Not sure whether I can trust her yet. That's why I prefer suble hints
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oh ok that's makes sense. if you know her and talk to her daily Tell her she looks good/beautiful/stunning while biting your lip all sexy like but at the same time trying to contain it like you didn't even know you were doing it then keep checking her out for the rest of your day and try to get her to catch you checking her out. It's going to make her curious that she might approach you.
Posted by GeminiSun
Any ideas on how to give some subtle hints or discreetly bring up the fact that I'm bisexual when in a conversation? Or any hints that gay people pick up but non gay people ignore? Thanks!
You really only need to tell potential partners your bi. No need to conform to gay or bi stereotypes on how to dress/act. Be your own person.

Be brave and just say it

What's the big deal? You're not admitting to being a mass murderer or rapist

Posted by Librasetting777
Posted by GeminiSun
Posted by Librasetting777
Posted by GeminiSun
Posted by DMV
Why cant you just come out and say it?


Ιt's not that easy...

how is it not easy?


The girl I'm into is my colleage. Not sure whether I can trust her yet. That's why I prefer suble hints

oh ok that's makes sense. if you know her and talk to her daily Tell her she looks good/beautiful/stunning while biting your lip all sexy like but at the same time trying to contain it like you didn't even know you were doing it then keep checking her out for the rest of your day and try to get her to catch you checking her out. It's going to make her curious that she might approach you.
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Αwesome tips! Thank you Librasetting!
Posted by GeminiSun
Posted by Librasetting777
Posted by GeminiSun
Posted by Librasetting777
Posted by GeminiSun
Posted by DMV
Why cant you just come out and say it?


Ιt's not that easy...

how is it not easy?


The girl I'm into is my colleage. Not sure whether I can trust her yet. That's why I prefer suble hints

oh ok that's makes sense. if you know her and talk to her daily Tell her she looks good/beautiful/stunning while biting your lip all sexy like but at the same time trying to contain it like you didn't even know you were doing it then keep checking her out for the rest of your day and try to get her to catch you checking her out. It's going to make her curious that she might approach you.


Αwesome tips! Thank you Librasetting!
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hey that's what we venusian dudes are for 😘
Posted by MyStarsShine
Be brave and just say it
What's the big deal? You're not admitting to being a mass murderer or rapist

The girl I'm into is my colleague. I don't wanna be gossiped in my workplace in case I be rejected.
Posted by GeminiSun
Posted by MyStarsShine
Be brave and just say it
What's the big deal? You're not admitting to being a mass murderer or rapist



The girl I'm into is my colleague. I don't wanna be gossiped in my workplace in case I be rejected.
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So you're not proud or owning who you are ?

Not a good way to live
Posted by GeminiSun
Posted by Nevamore
As long you hinted to the right person.


She's a lesbian & I'm into her. I assume she's the right one.
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Well if you are certain that she's a lesbian, just ask her out.
Posted by Ram416
Posted by GeminiSun
Posted by Nevamore
As long you hinted to the right person.


She's a lesbian & I'm into her. I assume she's the right one.


Well if you are certain that she's a lesbian, just ask her out.
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Yes, I'm certain. She's openly gay. What if she's in a relationship? I'm planning to ask her out after I come out to her.

Posted by Librasetting777
Posted by GeminiSun
Posted by Librasetting777
Posted by GeminiSun
Posted by DMV
Why cant you just come out and say it?


Ιt's not that easy...

how is it not easy?


The girl I'm into is my colleage. Not sure whether I can trust her yet. That's why I prefer suble hints

oh ok that's makes sense. if you know her and talk to her daily Tell her she looks good/beautiful/stunning while biting your lip all sexy like but at the same time trying to contain it like you didn't even know you were doing it then keep checking her out for the rest of your day and try to get her to catch you checking her out. It's going to make her curious that she might approach you.
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This won't work if the girl thinks OP is just playing and not really serious.

The one thing I always wished for in the past was if someone was interested in me that she should just say so and not beat around the bush like this. It's annoying to be kept guessing like that. But that's just me.
Posted by GeminiSun
Posted by Ram416
Posted by GeminiSun
Posted by Nevamore
As long you hinted to the right person.


She's a lesbian & I'm into her. I assume she's the right one.


Well if you are certain that she's a lesbian, just ask her out.


Yes, I'm certain. She's openly gay. What if she's in a relationship? I'm planning to ask her out after I come out to her.

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You speak to her daily. I'm sure she will be fine with mentioning her relationship (if any) especially if she's openly gay.
Posted by Ram416
Posted by Librasetting777
Posted by GeminiSun
Posted by Librasetting777
Posted by GeminiSun
Posted by DMV
Why cant you just come out and say it?


Ιt's not that easy...

how is it not easy?


The girl I'm into is my colleage. Not sure whether I can trust her yet. That's why I prefer suble hints

oh ok that's makes sense. if you know her and talk to her daily Tell her she looks good/beautiful/stunning while biting your lip all sexy like but at the same time trying to contain it like you didn't even know you were doing it then keep checking her out for the rest of your day and try to get her to catch you checking her out. It's going to make her curious that she might approach you.


This won't work if the girl thinks OP is just playing and not really serious.
The one thing I always wished for in the past was if someone was interested in me that she should just say so and not beat around the bush like this. It's annoying to be kept guessing like that. But that's just me.
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I think it has potential to open things up for her but I see your point too but not everybody has that type of courage.
Posted by Librasetting777
Posted by Ram416
Posted by Librasetting777
Posted by GeminiSun
Posted by Librasetting777
Posted by GeminiSun
Posted by DMV
Why cant you just come out and say it?


Ιt's not that easy...

how is it not easy?


The girl I'm into is my colleage. Not sure whether I can trust her yet. That's why I prefer suble hints

oh ok that's makes sense. if you know her and talk to her daily Tell her she looks good/beautiful/stunning while biting your lip all sexy like but at the same time trying to contain it like you didn't even know you were doing it then keep checking her out for the rest of your day and try to get her to catch you checking her out. It's going to make her curious that she might approach you.


This won't work if the girl thinks OP is just playing and not really serious.
The one thing I always wished for in the past was if someone was interested in me that she should just say so and not beat around the bush like this. It's annoying to be kept guessing like that. But that's just me.

I think it has potential to open things up for her but I see your point too but not everybody has that type of courage.
Then I would recommend this instead.

Posted by LethalFantasia
When the conversation of dating comes up, talk about dating women in the past, and if you haven't, talk about being interested in finding the right girl to date but it's hard in your area.
I don't know but be subtle about it. lol.
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Ok. I get it.

Venus in Taurus likes subtly. Innuendo.

That's sexy. I also enjoy saying it without saying it. It's a game for me tho. This sounds more complicated.

When I flirt with mine, I mention certain videos, or post specific clips to send.

Passive aggressive flirting.



Posted by Librasetting777
Posted by Ram416
Posted by Librasetting777
Posted by GeminiSun
Posted by Librasetting777
Posted by GeminiSun
Posted by DMV
Why cant you just come out and say it?


Ιt's not that easy...

how is it not easy?


The girl I'm into is my colleage. Not sure whether I can trust her yet. That's why I prefer suble hints

oh ok that's makes sense. if you know her and talk to her daily Tell her she looks good/beautiful/stunning while biting your lip all sexy like but at the same time trying to contain it like you didn't even know you were doing it then keep checking her out for the rest of your day and try to get her to catch you checking her out. It's going to make her curious that she might approach you.


This won't work if the girl thinks OP is just playing and not really serious.
The one thing I always wished for in the past was if someone was interested in me that she should just say so and not beat around the bush like this. It's annoying to be kept guessing like that. But that's just me.

I think it has potential to open things up for her but I see your point too but not everybody has that type of courage.
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Can't agree more Libra! I'm not actually beating around the bush. I'm just testing the waters.
Posted by DMV
Ok. I get it.
Venus in Taurus likes subtly. Innuendo.
That's sexy. I also enjoy saying it without saying it. It's a game for me tho. This sounds more complicated.
When I flirt with mine, I mention certain videos, or post specific clips to send.
Passive aggressive flirting.


That's my kind of flirting. Slow and sensual. Passive aggresive ftw. But I wanna feel secure before I make any move.
Posted by DeadInside
never date a colleag
This is something I consider as well... :/ Things may turn awkawrd in case of rejection.
Posted by Squishy_Marshmallow
A cosy dinner for two at home... If you are into it wear some sexy lingerie and a see through blouse... Subtle gestures. The way you touch yourself mid convo, stroke your neck gently as if you are tired, if she looks keen you can add a sensual element to it... Light sensual touches and intense eye contacts.
If she is uncomfortable you can stop anywhere.
Same thoughts here.. We should date one day Big Grin
How about bisexual clothing:

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Most straight people won't get it anyway (if it's a bit codded - like a hidden line/message).
Posted by neves
How about bisexual clothing:



Most straight people won't get it anyway (if it's a bit codded - like a hidden line/message).
hahaha wow cool idea! Or a T-shirt with a "God save the queer" stamp! Big Grin
Posted by LaMadrina
Why is this need to know information? Do straight people have to mention that they are straight? What happened to dignity? Unless this is a love interest, you shouldn't have to bring up your sexuality.
I feel like everyone wants to announce private business that really is no one else's business. That's why it is hard to take ppl seriously nowadays. Like thanks for the overstating but why?
If I don't mention to her that I'm not straight she will consider that I'm straight. We live in a heteronormative world, where the majority of people are straight. Given the fact that I'm femme, I'm invisible to gay ladies. There must be some subtle hints. If you recheck the thread's title, I'm writing SUBTLE HINTS. I never said I want to announce my sexual orientation publicly or shout it out..Jeez..
Touch her more than a normal friend
Why not be upfront about it? smile

Or just compliment them and be touchy a bit.

Flirt?