how to stop obsessing about someone

the persons thoughts consume you for days. you stalk the person (online of course) and their friends and family and any person they talk to lol. it's crazy all because you fancy this person. there is nothing going on between you two, maybe the person likes you too but hasn't said that to you. how do you stop this obsession madness. it stops after a while when you don't see or talk to the person for days, but then you see them or have a general conversation and it starts again. and if you see them after days and they are talking to someone else, the jealousy and rage oh god. why we think so much when there has been nothing said, just some random clues you are trying to cling to.

Get a job, get a hobby, get a new friend, get a good book, get a life!



Oh...and delete your FB, Instagram and whatever account you may have.



Simple!

Posted by puhleeze
the persons thoughts consume you for days. you stalk the person (online of course) and their friends and family and any person they talk to lol. it's crazy all because you fancy this person. there is nothing going on between you two, maybe the person likes you too but hasn't said that to you. how do you stop this obsession madness. it stops after a while when you don't see or talk to the person for days, but then you see them or have a general conversation and it starts again. and if you see them after days and they are talking to someone else, the jealousy and rage oh god. why we think so much when there has been nothing said, just some random clues you are trying to cling to.

what if this person is from your job and not on any of your social accounts?

The first thing I said "get a job". If your job environment makes you unhealthy, start applying for other jobs.

You said: "you stalk the person (online of course) and their friends and family and any person they talk to lol."

i am fine not seeing, talking. but when there is interaction or i see them i obsess for some days and then it fades off and i go back to normal until there is a meeting again. or of course i see them talking with someone else lol

Posted by Undine
The first thing I said "get a job". If your job environment makes you unhealthy, start applying for other jobs.

You said: "you stalk the person (online of course) and their friends and family and any person they talk to lol."

yes, i mean the person is not active on social media so i don't get much out of stalking but i click around seeing what people are in their life. not everyday but the times when i am obsessing ha. usually its just the thoughts for those few days till my mind calms down.

fuck a duck?

Posted by LibraLovesHim
fuck a duck?

what??

Posted by puhleeze

Posted by LibraLovesHim
fuck a duck?

what??

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have sexual intercourse...

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Posted by puhleeze

Posted by LibraLovesHim
fuck a duck?

what??

have sexual intercourse...

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this is emotional obsession or dare i say feelings hmm. how i wish we can tell what the other person is feeling.

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Posted by LibraLovesHim
fuck a duck?

what??

have sexual intercourse...

this is emotional obsession or dare i say feelings hmm. how i wish we can tell what the other person is feeling.

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do give some input oh wise one, tbh never obsessed about anyone in my life...

"how i wish we can tell what the other person is feeling."

Again, simple.

Go to Freetarot.com online. Click on "free tarot reading". Choose "One Card Love Spread" and follow the steps.

Ask as many question as you like, till you get bored. As a side effect, you may discover a new talent. You may even change obsessions 😄

I have a similar problem, but I don't stalk very much. Only here and there. But I do think about him a lot when I'm not doing anything. Best to keep busy. If you start to think about him, turn the tv on.

Posted by pinkbird03
I have a similar problem, but I don't stalk very much. Only here and there. But I do think about him a lot when I'm not doing anything. Best to keep busy. If you start to think about him, turn the tv on.

yes stalking is not that bad since he is not active on social forums so nothing much to look for. it's not having that get up and talk anytime relation with him and then looking for excuses to talk is what is making it frustrating lol. maybe that is what is also causing the attraction. hope it is same for him too.

Get some sleep

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Posted by pinkbird03
I have a similar problem, but I don't stalk very much. Only here and there. But I do think about him a lot when I'm not doing anything. Best to keep busy. If you start to think about him, turn the tv on.

yes stalking is not that bad since he is not active on social forums so nothing much to look for. it's not having that get up and talk anytime relation with him and then looking for excuses to talk is what is making it frustrating lol. maybe that is what is also causing the attraction. hope it is same for him too.

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If you want to talk, just talk. It might help him feel comfortable talking to you more if you initate it in the beginning.

OP what is your sign?

Posted by Aquistorm
OP what is your sign?

virgo

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Posted by pinkbird03
I have a similar problem, but I don't stalk very much. Only here and there. But I do think about him a lot when I'm not doing anything. Best to keep busy. If you start to think about him, turn the tv on.

yes stalking is not that bad since he is not active on social forums so nothing much to look for. it's not having that get up and talk anytime relation with him and then looking for excuses to talk is what is making it frustrating lol. maybe that is what is also causing the attraction. hope it is same for him too.

If you want to talk, just talk. It might help him feel comfortable talking to you more if you initate it in the beginning.

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we don't work together on same team or there is not enough reason to hang out so it is difficult to just start talking. sigh.

Posted by puhleeze
i am fine not seeing, talking. but when there is interaction or i see them i obsess for some days and then it fades off and i go back to normal until there is a meeting again. or of course i see them talking with someone else lol

I'm gonna take a stab in the dark. You have strong Scorpio placements?

Imagine him with a duck's face, wearing a baby's nappy and sucking a soother

That should do it

😛

i think i will be okay when somebody else comes in and gives attention haha

i usually don't think much about anyone until they give some sign. then i am like wow this person thought of me and then the obsessing starts. so they always have to initiate or make some general comment then i start imagining things, until then you can be the most attractive person and i won't have any expectations. usually when you are aloof to someone and not even thinking about them you see them approach you with something. most times i am caught off guard before the obsession begins lol maybe they want you to notice them because you are being aloof.

Posted by MyStarsShine
Imagine him with a duck's face, wearing a baby's nappy and sucking a soother

That should do it

😛

haha it's not about the looks more about what's going on in that head lol

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Posted by puhleeze
i am fine not seeing, talking. but when there is interaction or i see them i obsess for some days and then it fades off and i go back to normal until there is a meeting again. or of course i see them talking with someone else lol

I'm gonna take a stab in the dark. You have strong Scorpio placements?

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i don't think i have scorpio in my chart. virgo, leo, gemini, aries i guess.

Posted by tiziani
It's because nothing has been said that it becomes harder to not think about it.

If you just talk with them, you'll more than likely find out your connection is normal and mundane. Then you no longer feel the need to fantasise about them.

And in the odd case that the connection turns out to be extraordinary, great.

Either way, you don't look anything by talking with each other. It's nothing but up from here.

this person is not very approachable i mean like for friendly talk. you can just manage a hi hello when there is nothing work related to ask so that makes it more difficult. some people you can just start chatting with and become friends with over time, this person i don't know. i guess will have to wait and see. meantime somebody else might come along who might be able to distract me from him lol

Posted by Geminariescharmer
I don't see why not? You like him you get obsessed over him just let it be haha. Follow your heart gal 😉

yes can't stop thoughts from coming. well let them run their own course. maybe time will tell whether the thoughts are mutual or if they were just temporary thoughts.

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Posted by tiziani
It's because nothing has been said that it becomes harder to not think about it.

If you just talk with them, you'll more than likely find out your connection is normal and mundane. Then you no longer feel the need to fantasise about them.

And in the odd case that the connection turns out to be extraordinary, great.

Either way, you don't look anything by talking with each other. It's nothing but up from here.

this person is not very approachable i mean like for friendly talk. you can just manage a hi hello when there is nothing work related to ask so that makes it more difficult. some people you can just start chatting with and become friends with over time, this person i don't know. i guess will have to wait and see. meantime somebody else might come along who might be able to distract me from him lol

Just remember it's your time and your peace of mind at stake.

I will start talking more with someone and even tell them "I'm doing this because I've been thinking about you". Whether it comes off direct or just weird isn't as important as the fact I'll finally have my peace of mind back after that conversation is done. That's just me though.

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i agree. i have done that in the past said to someone i just wanted you to know and then never felt like looking back because i was at peace. but the moment just has to come without deciding it. i might blurt it out without thinking. or i might not feel this way anymore.

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Posted by tiziani
It's because nothing has been said that it becomes harder to not think about it.

If you just talk with them, you'll more than likely find out your connection is normal and mundane. Then you no longer feel the need to fantasise about them.

And in the odd case that the connection turns out to be extraordinary, great.

Either way, you don't look anything by talking with each other. It's nothing but up from here.

this person is not very approachable i mean like for friendly talk. you can just manage a hi hello when there is nothing work related to ask so that makes it more difficult. some people you can just start chatting with and become friends with over time, this person i don't know. i guess will have to wait and see. meantime somebody else might come along who might be able to distract me from him lol

Just remember it's your time and your peace of mind at stake.

I will start talking more with someone and even tell them "I'm doing this because I've been thinking about you". Whether it comes off direct or just weird isn't as important as the fact I'll finally have my peace of mind back after that conversation is done. That's just me though.

i agree. i have done that in the past said to someone i just wanted you to know and then never felt like looking back because i was at peace. but the moment just has to come without deciding it. i might blurt it out without thinking. or i might not feel this way anymore.

I understand.

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turn off for me is when he is trying to get somebody else's attention. if he is chatting with someone that makes me jealous, but if he is trying to grab their attention, i feel angry and want to turn my back on him. lol i know he has no commitment to me and does not even know my thoughts, but that helps me to stay away.