how/when do you know you're ready to date or
This topic was created in the Relationships forum by bloodflood on Sunday, January 26, 2014 and has 9 replies.
have a relationship? on the flip side, how do you know that you AREN'T ready for a relationship (other than just not wanting one at the moment)?
I think you just know, at least I do. When I'm not ready I have zero interest, everybody is one sex. But, when I'm ready I start noticing stuff about the opposite sex.
I think you're not ready to date if you have some unresolved issues like trust, believe all wo/men are the same based on your past relationships, etc.
I think you're not ready to date if you have some unresolved issues like trust, believe all wo/men are the same based on your past relationships, etc.
You are ready when you can see through your future partner intentions.
1) To do that, you need to meet lots of people first.
2)Don't compare yourself to others. Going down that rabbit hole is a sure way to create self-doubt. Just because someone else thinks a certain way doesn't mean you have to think that way, too. Allow yourself to be the strongest possible. You, not a weaker version of someone else.
**I highly recommed you going to the gym, the spinning is soft and easy as hell the first day.
And everyone will treat you nicely, because you are a girl
After 1 month you will be Mentally and Emotionally Stronger.
Good Luck!
1) To do that, you need to meet lots of people first.
2)Don't compare yourself to others. Going down that rabbit hole is a sure way to create self-doubt. Just because someone else thinks a certain way doesn't mean you have to think that way, too. Allow yourself to be the strongest possible. You, not a weaker version of someone else.
**I highly recommed you going to the gym, the spinning is soft and easy as hell the first day.
And everyone will treat you nicely, because you are a girl
After 1 month you will be Mentally and Emotionally Stronger.
Good Luck!
There is no way of knowing one way or the other. You can't over think these things. You just have to follow your heart.
I am ready for a relationship if I harbor no ill feelings towards any of my exes. I usually don't but I watch myself for that.
As far as time, distance, where we are in life, personal issues we might be going through...that's something you cannot control.
As far as time, distance, where we are in life, personal issues we might be going through...that's something you cannot control.
Posted by tiziani
You are never ready for a relationship IMO. You cannot control attraction. All you can know is if you're ready to be comfortable by yourself, alone.
I agree with this.
Posted by bloodflood
have a relationship? on the flip side, how do you know that you AREN'T ready for a relationship (other than just not wanting one at the moment)?
How to know if you ARE ready for a relationship? Simple. Jot down the top 10 things you consider important in any relationship & then jot down the 10 things that you'd 100% sure need in order for you to consider a relationship worth it. Once you've made the list, ask yourself if you're willing to give AND receive all of those traits. If the answer is yes, then you are ready.
Example list:
1. Both people being over an ex/being emotionally available. (If you want someone who is over their ex but yet you know deep down that you aren't, then you aren't ready for a new relationship.)
2. Both people being willing to be faithful. (If you want someone who is 100% faithful, but yet you can admit deep down that you're not 100% ready to stop playing the field, stop flirting with others or stop doing all of the things that 2 people in your desired relationship wouldn't do, then the answer is NO, you're not ready for a relationship.)
It's important that you jot down the traits that matter to YOU. Not necessarily others or society b/c hey, some people want/need different things than others. Someone who is adventurous, spontaneous or romantic may not be as important or a top priority to you as it would be to someone else. Your own personal desires for a relationship that fits your personality & life style might be completely different than someone else's.
A good rule of thumb is this: If you wouldn't date yourself, you're NOT ready for a relationship.
Posted by krysrenee7Posted by bloodflood
have a relationship? on the flip side, how do you know that you AREN'T ready for a relationship (other than just not wanting one at the moment)?
How to know if you ARE ready for a relationship? Simple. Jot down the top 10 things you consider important in any relationship & then jot down the 10 things that you'd 100% sure need in order for you to consider a relationship worth it. Once you've made the list, ask yourself if you're willing to give AND receive all of those traits. If the answer is yes, then you are ready.
Example list:
1. Both people being over an ex/being emotionally available. (If you want someone who is over their ex but yet you know deep down that you aren't, then you aren't ready for a new relationship.)
2. Both people being willing to be faithful. (If you want someone who is 100% faithful, but yet you can admit deep down that you're not 100% ready to stop playing the field, stop flirting with others or stop doing all of the things that 2 people in your desired relationship wouldn't do, then the answer is NO, you're not ready for a relationship.)
It's important that you jot down the traits that matter to YOU. Not necessarily others or society b/c hey, some people want/need different things than others. Someone who is adventurous, spontaneous or romantic may not be as important or a top priority to you as it would be to someone else. Your own personal desires for a relationship that fits your personality & life style might be completely different than someone else's.
A good rule of thumb is this: If you wouldn't date yourself, you're NOT ready for a relationship.click to expand
i WILL do this!! you know, i've read a lot of your comments around here and your words are so inspiring!
@BloodFlood: Thanks!
You'll know when you're ready for a relationship when you can answer YES to being willing to receive AND give all of the top priorities (top 5, 10 or even 50 lol) you desire in the kind of relationship that you feel is perfect for YOU personally in accordance with your personality & life style .
If all of your answers are YES, but theirs are NO, then THEY are not ready for a relationship. If all of their answers are YES, but yours are NO, then YOU are not ready for a relationship.
The hardest part in compatibility is in finding someone who answers YES to all questions right along with you lol. And in the case that both people's answers are not the same but yet they go ahead & decide to be a couple anyways, you'll notice that at least 1 of the main issues that spring up during the relationship probably stems back to the question they answered differently on lol (whether it's communication, fidelity, vulnerability, etc.)
You'll know when you're ready for a relationship when you can answer YES to being willing to receive AND give all of the top priorities (top 5, 10 or even 50 lol) you desire in the kind of relationship that you feel is perfect for YOU personally in accordance with your personality & life style .
If all of your answers are YES, but theirs are NO, then THEY are not ready for a relationship. If all of their answers are YES, but yours are NO, then YOU are not ready for a relationship.
The hardest part in compatibility is in finding someone who answers YES to all questions right along with you lol. And in the case that both people's answers are not the same but yet they go ahead & decide to be a couple anyways, you'll notice that at least 1 of the main issues that spring up during the relationship probably stems back to the question they answered differently on lol (whether it's communication, fidelity, vulnerability, etc.)
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