I don’t feel comfortable making the first move. Why do men act like this?
This topic was created in the Relationships forum by Rainbow87 on Friday, May 3, 2024 and has 4 replies.
So I’ve been talking to a guy here and there. He’s the one who initiates most of the time. On Wednesday night we were flirting a lot through text until we went to sleep and I suggested for us to continue talking the next day. He told me I could always text him if I wanted to.
So yesterday I initiated by texting him first because I wanted to show him I’m interested, but I normally prefer to wait for a man to text me because I don’t want to be taken for granted. We only talked a little bit and then he said he had to go to work and would text me later. He didn’t text me back at all yesterday and I felt dumb for making the first move to feel ignored afterwards. He talked to me a little bit and then didn’t bother to text me as he said he would.
Today he texted me and asked me if I was going to my friend’s house (I had mentioned this before). I asked him how he was and told him I was going to my friend’s house after 4. He only wrote “cool”. He didn’t asked me anything else.
If he texted me first, why is he not interested in continuing the conversation? I didn’t asked him questions because I’m the one doing it most of the time so I just said: “yeah”. And that was our only conversation for the day.
It’s beyond frustrating how this guy acts. Is it because I was flirty or made myself look too available?
Men say they like women who show interest but in my experience it seems like men take us for granted. He doesn’t act like this when I play it cool and try to not make myself obvious. I don’t know what to do at this point. Can you give me your thoughts?
So yesterday I initiated by texting him first because I wanted to show him I’m interested, but I normally prefer to wait for a man to text me because I don’t want to be taken for granted. We only talked a little bit and then he said he had to go to work and would text me later. He didn’t text me back at all yesterday and I felt dumb for making the first move to feel ignored afterwards. He talked to me a little bit and then didn’t bother to text me as he said he would.
Today he texted me and asked me if I was going to my friend’s house (I had mentioned this before). I asked him how he was and told him I was going to my friend’s house after 4. He only wrote “cool”. He didn’t asked me anything else.
If he texted me first, why is he not interested in continuing the conversation? I didn’t asked him questions because I’m the one doing it most of the time so I just said: “yeah”. And that was our only conversation for the day.
It’s beyond frustrating how this guy acts. Is it because I was flirty or made myself look too available?
Men say they like women who show interest but in my experience it seems like men take us for granted. He doesn’t act like this when I play it cool and try to not make myself obvious. I don’t know what to do at this point. Can you give me your thoughts?
Stop texting.
Posted by Rainbow87Being bad at texting isn’t taking someone for granted lol
Men say they like women who show interest but in my experience it seems like men take us for granted.
Don’t let ego get the better of you because your phone is dry.
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