I Don't Understand Us

This topic was created in the Relationships forum by cappysweetie on Monday, July 6, 2009 and has 19 replies.
Okay, I may be a woman but I don't understand us whatsoever. Why is it that many women would forsake everything they have in this world for ... some guy?
I know a woman that leaves her child alone at night (:O :O :O!!!!!!!!) to come and be with a guy that only wants to have sex with her and thats it -- no strings-attached. However, she leaves her daugther (who is under 5) alone with everyone who would baby-sit her towards the morning.
Thats just one example but I've seen others things that are just impossible to go unnoticed.
Why is it that women would lay all that they have on the line for some guy that only does barely the same in return?
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Fear of being alone; desperate; everybody else has a man/date/fwb; they think they can change the guys mind to want more. The list is endless, but I totally get what you are saying. I've been b*tchin' about this for years! LOL.
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Why is this question only isolated to women???? Some men have jacked up priorities as well and do things that are not right in child welfare.
Bottom line Cappy ......there are usually root things that happen in people's lives that have a domino effect on how they behave. i.e. Maybe these women had similar childhoods and becomes a viscious cycle, maybe they are young and irresponsible. I am not making excuses for these women, however I think your header should read more like ....I don't understand some people because it could be a man or a woman and not all women behave as you mentioned. I refuse to be put in a catagory just because of a gender.
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I agree Pisces_Dream, that men have messed up priorities too, so that, is not isolated to women; however, men are not predisposed to have this unending, dying quest to get married. Let me be clear, I'm not saying that EVERY woman wants to get married, and that NO MEN want to get married, but in our society (in the U.S.) women are/were brought up to get married. Their whole existence was to provide a home for a man - Home Economics courses,Etiquette courses, and the such were for women to be good wives. What gets me is that then, and even now, there was really not much talk about what men should do for a woman, barring providing a paycheck.
I believe that society plays a role in some of the choices women have made in the past/present, but ultimately it comes down to us as women. We have come a long way, and we have too much information available to us to continue making the same mistakes that we continue to make. I have to agree with Prince Pisces in that women are very insecure - NOT ALL WOMEN, and yes, men are insecure too, but if we weren't insecure beings, trust in the fact that all of these plastic surgeons, cosmetic companies, etc would be out of business.
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Posted by USCTaurusGal
Fear of being alone; desperate; everybody else has a man/date/fwb; they think they can change the guys mind to want more. The list is endless, but I totally get what you are saying. I've been b*tchin' about this for years! LOL.


Hey USC,
Its like, are you kidding me? Why are these women doing this to themselves. I guess thats why I tend not to know what to say when I hear of 'women impowerment' in all that jazz.
Its like we are women are at a crossroads at the moment -- and the crossroads is bridged upon who can be a bigger whore or the best saint.
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Posted by eden 3
^ prince *gasps*
i'm not insecure... and I know I don't "need" anyone to complete me although I love my hubby. I could be on my own & luv it! I also would Neva put any man b4 my children's safety. I luv kids and not only want to have them but will also adopt a couple as well.
I'm sorry cappy but those womens priorities r jacked up. Sad



I feel the same way.
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i don't get those women at all. i also don't put myself in the same category with them, and you shouldn't either! Tongue
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Something I read on post secret once that really rang true to me: We accept the love we think we deserve.
It really is that simple.
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Little sparrow where you been hiding?
No excuse but are they leaving their own homes to do the deed cos they dont want it around their own children??? I would think at least they have the decency to not bring these type of men into their childrens lives!!! And I believe they will when they think they have someone that is worthy.
Don't be too judgemental with some mother's most will protect their children from anything & everything they can and put themselves out in order to accomplish it!
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the one thing in this world I will not joke about is childern. I can not for the life of me understand people ( no there not people they are below animals) who abuse childern in any way. I get outraged at this I could beat a s.o.b. to death who harms a child. It just gets to me real bad.
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"And it goes back to the issue of priorities what are they, focus on them and get your goal, you cannot do this if you are not secure in your person!!"
That is definitely the truth!
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That's y i don't hang out with woman i can't be like that...it's not in me
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Posted by sb
I think as a bystander, if you don't even have the voice to call out what you see as a wrongdoing, you really have no business judging the other person for being careless. AFAIK, that bystander is almost as much guilty of being spineless as the parent.


lol, sorry SB but no -- I pick and choose my battles. It wasn't the right time to say anything to her about the child WHILE the child was present in front of us. It was enough that my roomie was being an asshole to her. And before I left to go to work, I did tell him to lay off of her. I didn't say anything to the woman because I was so frustrated with her, all sorts of things would have came flying out of my mouth -- I would never act that way in front of a child, no matter how pissed I am. Someone had to be the level-handed adult there -- my roomie and the girl were acting about as dumb as two jackasses running into a brick wall LOL, its true.
It was funny how I got the child to start lashing out at him before I left for work lol, that was funny. I did it on purpose because I thought, if the mom won't stand up for her kid, then the kid should stand up for herself with my help of course Winking
I don't know, I guess if you weren't there its hard to understand the situation.
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Posted by Pisces_Dream
Why is this question only isolated to women???? Some men have jacked up priorities as well and do things that are not right in child welfare.
Bottom line Cappy ......there are usually root things that happen in people's lives that have a domino effect on how they behave. i.e. Maybe these women had similar childhoods and becomes a viscious cycle, maybe they are young and irresponsible. I am not making excuses for these women, however I think your header should read more like ....I don't understand some people because it could be a man or a woman and not all women behave as you mentioned. I refuse to be put in a catagory just because of a gender.


Oops, I missed this.
Well, the woman is older than me, she's almost 30 so thats why I was like, 'Wow, whats her deal?' And you are right, not all women behave like you mensioned but this one in particular, I don't know, she really, really, really disappointed. I was waiting for her to grab her kid and leave ... and she didn't ...
I thought, "Are you kidding me?"
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Posted by sb
Because being an upstanding person in the shadows is as good as you not being one.


sb darling, the child was present, I'm not that crazy to say whatever I please in front of the kid. It was enough that I was rambling on and on with my roomie for being a prick lol. Then the little girl decided to tell him off too ... in her own little cute way LOL!!!!! That was funny, I decided to leave on that note, if she would have kicked him around his ankles, that would have made my day ^_^.
But no, its a time and a place for anything. I need to get the woman alone to talk to her but there have been a few things she has said about me recently -- so my need to help her has gone down the drain Winking You don't slap the hand thats trying to feed you lol. I just hope she never brings the kid around anymore my roomie anymore.
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Posted by sb
the woman's always to blame. Always.


Of course, it should be her fault. Thats her child, no one should have had to come to her daughters rescue, thats her damn job.
Certain women shouldn't have children, seriously they shouldn't. The only add to society's problems. And she's one of them.
I told my cappy buddy about that whole situation and she was harder on the woman then I was and she thinks my roomie is an SOB lol
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Posted by cappysweetie
Posted by Pisces_Dream
Why is this question only isolated to women???? Some men have jacked up priorities as well and do things that are not right in child welfare.
Bottom line Cappy ......there are usually root things that happen in people's lives that have a domino effect on how they behave. i.e. Maybe these women had similar childhoods and becomes a viscious cycle, maybe they are young and irresponsible. I am not making excuses for these women, however I think your header should read more like ....I don't understand some people because it could be a man or a woman and not all women behave as you mentioned. I refuse to be put in a catagory just because of a gender.


Oops, I missed this.
Well, the woman is older than me, she's almost 30 so thats why I was like, 'Wow, whats her deal?' And you are right, not all women behave like you mensioned but this one in particular, I don't know, she really, really, really disappointed. I was waiting for her to grab her kid and leave ... and she didn't ...
I thought, "Are you kidding me?"
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That is pretty selfish of her ....some people only care about themselves ...it is sad....poor kiddos. Sad
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Oh okay, SB deleted her account, thats why it looks so weird lol!
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Posted by Pisces_Dream
Posted by cappysweetie
Posted by Pisces_Dream
Why is this question only isolated to women???? Some men have jacked up priorities as well and do things that are not right in child welfare.
Bottom line Cappy ......there are usually root things that happen in people's lives that have a domino effect on how they behave. i.e. Maybe these women had similar childhoods and becomes a viscious cycle, maybe they are young and irresponsible. I am not making excuses for these women, however I think your header should read more like ....I don't understand some people because it could be a man or a woman and not all women behave as you mentioned. I refuse to be put in a catagory just because of a gender.


Oops, I missed this.
Well, the woman is older than me, she's almost 30 so thats why I was like, 'Wow, whats her deal?' And you are right, not all women behave like you mensioned but this one in particular, I don't know, she really, really, really disappointed. I was waiting for her to grab her kid and leave ... and she didn't ...
I thought, "Are you kidding me?"


That is pretty selfish of her ....some people only care about themselves ...it is sad....poor kiddos. Sad
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Yes, she's a pretty sad woman indeed. I'm not sure what sign she is but she is ... not a good role model. I would put her in a group of women who should have never openned their legs for any reason whatsoever lol
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