I Gotta Burnin' and a Yearnin'!

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As some might know, the Virgo who I am dating and I have decided to not have sex. My mind has NO problem with this at all. In fact, I WANT to abstain. BUT the FLESH is ohhh so WEAK! I have had dreams about certain intimate moments two nights this week! My mind says "no" but my BODY says "yes". This past weekend he spent the night over my house. When we woke up on Sunday morning, if it werent for the Eagles game. . . I might have lost focus! Lol. 🙂

It is not a really serious issue and if it gets any worse, I have no problem talking to him about it. But right now...I have a burining and a yearning like nobody's business! Lol.


Just venting...

Posted by Jason2213
So you're both abstaining from anything sexual with each other? Not even mutual masturbation? 😢

Yes, we are both abstaining. I am not sure if he is masterbating. I am sure he is. But I just cant get into it. 😢 I am a Scorp. We like that direct body to body connection/feeling that masterbation doesnt quite provide. Lol.

I think he meant masturbating with / in front of each other...

Posted by lildol
I think he meant masturbating with / in front of each other...

Oohh. Lol. Okay. Hmm... But wouldnt that be like a tease. That would be cutting it REALLY close. How does a person fight the temption of just tackling the other person while that is going on?!?!

You could always tie him up and "take" him lol

VH, I think YOU should provide me with a picture of yourself, ASAP. Lol. Seriously, I mean, I could tie him up. But the thing is that I have this internal struggle going on between my mind and my (ah hem) womanly parts. Lol. Ahhh

Jason, boooyyy! You just dont know. That would be SUCH a MAJOR tease to me. I might end up hurting the man! Lol. In fact, we did a little fooling around a few wks ago that included body parts being exposed. I had to stop, get up and walk to the blacony to contain myself. I ahd to walk it off! Lol. We have not gone to 3rd base since. It's a slippery slope. Especially, when you KNOW the goodness thart lurks beneath. Lol.

Posted by Jason2213
I don't think its a tease. Couples get to feel each other closeness while feeling pleasure. Its not quite sex but its better than torturing yourself by simply not doing anything. If you must then use toys. 🙂

Maybe toys. . . maybe. But I just dont have much experience with that kind of stuff. I am used to the traditional way of handling that kind of business. Lol.

Posted by FeistyAquarian
Hope that works for you guys lol

My boyfriend and I tried to abstain....we got 4 months into dating and, well...it didn't work out 😛 And the we stopped for a month or two and then...yeah...lol Oh well!

Ahh. The longest you and your b/f abstained was the first 4 months?

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Posted by natural25

Posted by FeistyAquarian
Hope that works for you guys lol

My boyfriend and I tried to abstain....we got 4 months into dating and, well...it didn't work out 😛 And the we stopped for a month or two and then...yeah...lol Oh well!

Ahh. The longest you and your b/f abstained was the first 4 months?

haha Yes. The main reason we tried was because, well, we wanted to get to know each other a lot before but also we were heavily involved in religion. We remained involved in religion after the fact, but I just had a hard time bottling up the pent-up energy inside me. I mean, how does one abstain successfully for a very prolonged period of time?? It's such a strong drive!! I actually know a couple who were able to abstain for 9 years, and that was when they were 15-24. That's freakin' amazing, but next to impossible for someone like me lol

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Oh okay. Yes, it is VERY hard to abstain. Well, I will put it like this, sometimes it does not bother me. Other times, I feel the pinch. Lol. Him and I are partly doing this for relgious reasons as well. I think I also do not want to go back on the decision that I have made. I am a stubborn Scorp. I made a promise to not only him, but to myself. I do not want to break that promise. BUT AGAIN, the flesh is OOOHHH SOOO WEAK! Lol.

Posted by Jason2213
lol. Forget masturbation then. Go grab some handcuffs and ropes and go cowgirl on him.

Lol.

Posted by Prince_Pisces
why would you wanna abstain? I could never be in a relationship where theres no sex LOL!!!

Yea...I feel you! This is not typical for me. Him and I decided that we wanted to first build a strong foundation before we become intimate. We also made this choice for religious reasons as well.

Thanks eden and feisty! This is especially hard bc (get this) we have already had sex. When we first met the connection was sooo strong! But when we started to get serious a couple of months ago we made the decision to stop. So, I know what it could be like. . . 😢

Saywha - lol @ doing the nastiness! Yes, I am hoping that I will be able to look back on this and (maybe. . .just maybe) be proud of myself or something like that. :/ what doesn't kill you makes you stronger. . . Ill just keep telling myself that. Lol

Fleo, thank you. We had amazing sex a few times when we first started dating and trust me homeboy is FAR from a pencil. Good lord! We decided to stop when things got serious and we started going to church together. Yea I'm not too suspious of his motives. He is pretty religious and I believe he wants to do things the "right" (according to the Bible) way. If he is up to no good, oh well, what can I do. What's done in the dark will show its ugly self in the light. If this is the case, ill be on about my business but at least I won't be too srpung off the loving. Lol. But for now ill trust him. Thanks for the support!

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Posted by natural25
Thanks eden and feisty! This is especially hard bc (get this) we have already had sex. When we first met the connection was sooo strong! But when we started to get serious a couple of months ago we made the decision to stop. So, I know what it could be like. . . 😢

okay, there's my answer!! 🙂

What strength you have -- I don't like to use the word CAN'T, but to have my man in the free world, get a taste of the goods and then pull the stop sign out -- I can't do that -- and if it was good, GOOD LAWD, I couldn't. Please let us know when you get weak, break down, and start begging him for some!! 🙂

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Lmao! Lord willing I will not break down . . . I will remain strong! BUT in the event I get weak and we get it cracking like nver before, ill give you guys the play by play. Lol. Jk.

Posted by saywha?
Please let us know when you get weak, break down, and start begging him for some!!

Hehehe... and you really think scorpio is gonna beg? 😛

I'm sure, if shit does hit the fan... she'd be up in her best hottest lingerie and with all her seductress powers reel the poor unwitting Virgo into her trap 😛.... then of course.. 😉 we'll know who'd be begging for some.


::whispers in Natural's ear, "I'm counting on you 😉" ::

Lol! Omg! This is SO true. Well I prob won't be in lingerie. I would use the direct approach - id just be in my birthday suit! Lol.

toys are so much fun! i have few myself for the times when i'm just too damned busy. just close ur eyes and think of the time u both got to 3rd base then let the wave of vibrations take over! i understand wanting to actual physical aspect of it but u can feel that connection if u focus with mind and body. the brain is a supremely powerful thing. when i'm not getting any i will wake up in the middle of orgasms caused by dreams... and i nor anyone else is touching me!

lol


So, let me get this straight ... you have two reasons ..


One is to build a strong foundation between the two of you ....... when in reality, the strongest bond two people can make is through intimate compatibility, which creates the passion necessary to be fiercely devoted.

Two is for religious purpose .... when in reality, this so-called "god", encourages the lambs to be fruitful.

Obviously you two aren't virgins .. so what exactly are you saving this for?




What is really going on is a desire for you to keep him stoked in anticipation of what you might give him. He tried to get your clothes off, and you had to get up and go to the balcony to cool off, so we know that he is wanting to fuck, not abstain.

But, if you keep him at bay sexually, then you think you are gaining something.

"This is especially hard bc (get this) we have already had sex. When we first met the connection was sooo strong! But when we started to get serious a couple of months ago we made the decision to stop"




What?

So, the religious excuse was bullshit ... because if you two were actually this devoted to your vows, then there wouldn't have even been the first time.

And the buildling of something based on not experiencing each other sexually was bullshit also, since this experience has already happened.


What are you playing at?


Obviously he wants to fuck ... you are holding back because you are trying to manipulate him.


::::: shakes head ::::::



Scorpios do this .... and they lose. You'll see.

Posted by natural25
STOP right here if you embarass easily, all others read on...

As some might know, the Virgo who I am dating and I have decided to not have sex. My mind has NO problem with this at all. In fact, I WANT to abstain. BUT the FLESH is ohhh so WEAK! I have had dreams about certain intimate moments two nights this week! My mind says "no" but my BODY says "yes". This past weekend he spent the night over my house. When we woke up on Sunday morning, if it werent for the Eagles game. . . I might have lost focus! Lol. 🙂

It is not a really serious issue and if it gets any worse, I have no problem talking to him about it. But right now...I have a burining and a yearning like nobody's business! Lol.


Just venting...

I'm proud of ya natural. Just going a day being a scorp and fighting these urges for one day is impressive enough.

P angel - yes we did it before. I have done a lot of things before that I did not feel were right for me that I don't do anymore. Just bc I did before doesn't mean that I should continue doing the same thing regardless of if I think it is right for me or not. He was actually the one who brought it up one day after church on Saturday and I agreed. It was not me who brought it up inititally and I respect him so much for bringing it to my attenton. So, no I'm not tying to manipulate him. As far as my religious beliefs, this is what I feel is best for me. Might not work for you. Whichj is fine. I haven't read anything from you in a while....always interesting and nive to hear from you.

BigD - thanks so much!

Ill be back I have to go to my spinning class! Lol

You're so full of shit, Natural.


We already know just by what you described that he wants to fuck ..... your words are saying he doesn't want to, but, your description of events clearly shows that he does and it's you who is pulling away to go cool off on the porch, after you've got him stoked.


seriously ... this isn't a news flash .... just being a Scorpio who manipulates people through sexual guises. Scorpios like to pride themselves on being sexual gods and goddesses, and alls this boils down to is that they use it, and so when the other people gets stiff/aroused then the Scorpio thinks they must be special.



Here's a newsflash for you ..... anybody can get a man's dick hard and then keep him interested in getting your pussy by telling him "no" while smiling and swinging hips to insintuate "yes" ... being Scorpio isn't required.



Seriously, the only thing you've proven to me here is that you're a cock tease.

Because clearly ....... you aren't faithful to vows if you have fucked outside of wedlock anytime in your life.

And clearly .... he's getting hard-ons, since you have to remove yourself from him to cool off .. which means, you are participating in getting him aroused, and then telling him "no"



Bitch

P angel - is my life so important to you that oyu have to resort to calling me a bitch. Come on. I have explained to you in previous posts that I have no reason to lie about anything on this forum. Trust me, he is happy and I'm not manipulating him. I know that it doesn't take much to get a man arroused. I never claimed to be hot stuff. I'm just doing what I feel is right for me and he (again) is the one whgo brought it up. We have had previous convos about how proud of one another we are for holding out. I'm not going to go back and forth with you about my beliefs, etc. Again I have no reason to lie. I am cool with the decision that him and I have made. I am cool with my beliefs. No one is perfect. I have made mistakes in my past. But I am working on making myself a better person. Youdont have to believe me. Again I am cool with this. Its too bad that you have sucha problem with. Name calling...come on surely you can do better than that.

Believe it or not this time...I am trying to do this relationship thing the right way. We started off on the wrong foot...but all is well now and I am very proud and happy with decision that we made.

Having sex is starting off the wrong way?


::: shakes head :::


Resentment is what you two are going to grow into.


You once said on the Virgo board that you didn't love him, and when I mentioned love, you said you never said you loved him.

And you never will, if you two withhold physical bonding ... except to tease .. you will fall in spite.

Calling you a bitch comes from you teasing this man ... and so long as you doso, you will remain a bitch.


If the two of you are abstaining ... then don't tease the man into getting erections ... my god woman. You cannot passionately kiss him or anything that gets him aroused and then say "no" .... that's just wrong.


Women like that get raped.

" ... just doing what I feel is right for me and he (again) is the one whgo brought it up. We have had previous convos about how proud of one another we are for holding out. I'm not going to go back and forth with you about my beliefs, etc ..."




I don't give a flying fuck about your beliefs .. you can worship marbles and the plug them up your ass as a ritual for alls I care.

Why is it you always turn around what I'm saying to pretend that I mean something else?

I haven't once said ..... don't abstain, wtf is the matter with you for being celibate


I said ... don't fucking tease the man's cock, because that makes you a bitch.

.... was that ^^^^^ direct enough for you to grasp the meaning?

Just look at the title of this thread, and the message inside.



You are out of your natural nature of being ...... you want to fuck him.


Here you talk about developing a real relationship with this man based around honesty ... and then you piss off the one thing that comes more naturally to two people in the developmental stages of a union than any other thing.



Seriously ....... quit fucking playing adult, and be one.

If you're horny for each other ... then fuck, geez.

Posted by BellaBulleautiful
I admire you both Nat,what you are doing is incredibly hard and shows so much commitment and respect not just for each other,but relationships.

Thank you Bella, I appreciate it. 🙂

P-Angel, after the incident when things got hot and heavy we decided to knock all of that out. That happened very shortly after we initially made this decision. Again, I was not teasing him. If anything, we were teasing one another. Old habits die hard. And of course the body has sexual urges. I also have the urge to not work out and eat a big ass burrito and Rocky Road ice cream alot, but that does not mean that I am going to sit up and eat a gallon of ice cream a day. Listen, if it doesnt work out and us not having sex right now is what breaks us up, then we werent meant to be together to begin with, and I will be sure that you are the first person I share the news with, becasue I know that you are so concerned with the happiness and the health of my relationship. 🙂

Posted by BellaBulleautiful
I admire you both Nat,what you are doing is incredibly hard and shows so much commitment and respect not just for each other,but relationships.

What she said.

Libra and Eden - Thank you so much! Like I said, of course from time to time, I get urges. Lol. I also get urges to go on shopping sprees and eat certain foods that I have no business eating. I do not think that I should give into every urge that I have. Especially, if it is not right for me right now. Self control is a wonderful thing. I have to hand it to the Virgo as well. He has hung in there (no pun intended). Lol. We do things that do not involve heavy petting to make sure that we avoid the URGE or geting worked up. It is actually working out rather well. 🙂

Natural,

How are things going? Are you still hanging in there?

Libras - YES! We are hanging in there and things are going excellent. We have been doing stuff like, going to the fair, movies, eating, malls, sports bars....anythign that does not involve long periods of time in the bed awake. Lol. Jk. But yes, everything is going well. Thank you for checking up!! 🙂

Thanks Jason!!!!

That's awesome, Natural. Just know that I am routing for you and I hope (all) your desires for your relationship are fulfilled.

Posted by LibrasRule36!
That's awesome, Natural. Just know that I am routing for you and I hope (all) your desires for your relationship are fulfilled.

Aww... I feel all warm and cozy inside. Lol. Thanks so much!!!! 🙂

You are welcome, Natural.

You are a beautiful woman (and seem to be on the inside too - more importantly) & I admire what you are doing for the sake of personal convictions and to strenghten your relationship.

Much respect. (I don't know if I could refrain especially if I'd already been intimate (and it was good) with my S/O)

Temptation is SO strong....

Yes. You are preaching to the choir. Temptation IS extremely strong!!! But I think him and I are doing the right thing. It actually get a little easier as time goes on. 🙂

Yeah, Natty, good luck. I KNOW this is nothing I would sign up for, but I give you MUCH dap on even attempting it. I respect that you said that you are attempting to do this for the reasons that are important to YOU TWO. Regardless of what other's must think you have made a personal decision for what suits you two. I love me some....ummm, yeah...you know where I'm going with this, so enough said. Do your thang girlfriend!

It kinda sounds like you don't really trust the relationship in the first place because you can't do a basic part of it. It's like you don't think sex is important but if you really thought that than why would you take it out? Idk but thats cool.

Hey Nat,

I know a religious group that dont have sex before marriage and the way they control those urges is to make sure there aren't any temptations at all. They always double date or have a third person with them so they are never alone. they dont touch on the subject....makes everything easier BUT then they generally get married and are promised to each other within the year. Is that what you have decided to do or are you hanging on indefinetly?