I have been sleeping with my ex

Its been two years. I still love him and want us to be together. I have told him now Im not doing this anymore.

Good for you!

Posted by tiziani
I don't think pushing someone away is the way to get them to commit to you. And if it is, well that speaks for the nature of the relationship.

that was perfectly said.

Have you tried any other way of restoring your relationship besides sex? That isn't enough for someone to want to get back together with you.

That is the problem when people tie sex with love. While it's part of it, it's not even close to all.


It's like the lazy way of getting to have someone around/getting some closeness (just enough) but it's not stable. I think you should think about how committed of a person you actually are when that's all your trying to do.



Both parties have to try a lot harder than that. You can go on having sex forever but if you're excluding the real intimacy nothing is gonna form from it. It's like trying to grow a flower with only soil and sunshine. It needs water to bloom. If you don't add that it will always just be dirt lol


I'm not trying to be rude at all and I hope I didn't offend you, I just find it chimes to be very true after you seriously look at it.

Can't just open your legs honey, gotta open that heart too! I know ain't easy!

Nobody really gives a fuck, except for you.

Posted by tiziani

Posted by Sag89

Posted by tiziani
I don't think pushing someone away is the way to get them to commit to you. And if it is, well that speaks for the nature of the relationship.

that was perfectly said.

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Well there's a reason you 2 are no longer together.

Have you both addressed AND fixed that problem?

Sex is NOT a substitute or solution to fix problems.

You guys need to take your time with each other & your lives more seriously. Get out of bed & off your knees & fix whatever problem led to the breakup in the 1st place. Fix it, not necessarily for him or the relationship, but for yourself so that you can gain good experience/practice changing that specific problem (that you very well may experience in your next relationship).

If you guys don't want to address of fix the problem then move on. Problems don't magically vanish or disappear so don't think that all the mind-blowing sex in the world or all the ignoring of the problem is gonna make it go away.

If you're truly done or feeling like getting your ex back emotionally (not just intimately) is becoming impossible, then the WORST thing you can do is foolishly believe that withholding sex as a manipulative tool is going to work. Again, NO MORE of using that "sex" thing to escape a problem OR get what you want.

If you're done, be done. If the problem is no longer fixable b/c 1 or both of you aren't dedicated at all OR enough to fix it, then be done. The whole back-n-forth thing is a dead end street, as I'm sure you're probably noticing now.

If what you're doing isn't working, then change it. Take yourself more seriously

Is he seeing someone else?

^^^ lol hope not!