I ignored a guy I liked after he insisted on video chatting with me. Was I wrong?

This topic was created in the Relationships forum by Lizz549 on Thursday, January 12, 2023 and has 7 replies.
I’ve been messaging with a guy for a while. We’re long distance but we had already seen each other face to face in the past. I think he likes me because he always finds excuses to talk to me.


I decided to be bold and confess my feelings for him, so I wrote him an email and told him everything. After that he messaged me and thanked me for my sincerity. He proposed to do a video chat with me someday to talk things over. It makes sense to talk about something deep over FaceTime since we’re long distance. The thing is that it makes me really nervous and I’m extremely shy on camera, especially in front of him. Even when I saw him in person I was so nervous and kept laughing all the time like a dork.


So I was honest and told him I’m shy to talk on camera. He insisted and said it was going to be quick and this and that… since I wasn’t comfortable, the last thing he wrote me was:

“I want to talk things with over but since you don’t want to chat over video because you’re too shy or something else, then there’s nothing else for me to say. Just do what’s best for you”.

So after that I didn’t reply back and just left it like that. I just didn’t know what else to say. Look, I know I’m immature but I’m scared of looking pathetic in front of him. I even suggested for him to make a video for me instead of chatting live but he didn’t want to.

Did I messed up by ignoring him or what was I supposed to say after he didn’t want to compromise and only talk via FaceTime? Hopefully he’ll talk to me again and be more understanding. Was I in the wrong?
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What are your astrological placements?
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Practice speaking with people you aren't crushing on. It'll be less heart pounding and anxiety inducing.


Also this person is basically a stranger so get a handle on your expectations and just take him as he is. He wasn't interested in being considerate to your feelings. He ain't the one. Keep it moving.
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Facetime him.... Obviously he has something to say, and you want to know what that is. It's better than talking on the phone with the "invisible man", because he could remind himself how pretty you are, and that you are still there, should some moment at silence occur.


You are in control, by the press of a button, should the conversation become uncomfortable. Don't give too much power to a stranger and don't put him on a pedestal. He is just an average, flawed human being, like the rest of us. Relax!



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Actually a real man would like to talk Toyo’s face to face in this case FaceTime Vic texting n messaging I mean aren’t you curious. If he’s asking he’s a bit interested
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He’s a Scorpio and I’m a shy ass Cancer.

Do you think he likes me though??

What if he wanted to tell me face to face that he only sees me as a friend? 🙁

Actually I did wanted to see him on videochat but I just wasn’t prepared honestly. I hate being nervous around a guy I like. Maybe I should’ve told him to give me some time. But I don’t know how much patience he might have. At the same time, not everyone feels comfortable video chatting, so why pressure me???

And lastly, do you think he’ll message me again? He was the one initiating the texts. I would feel embarrassed messaging him because I might seem desperate. I already confessed all my feelings

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Posted by Lizz549
He’s a Scorpio and I’m a shy ass Cancer.
Do you think he likes me though??
What if he wanted to tell me face to face that he only sees me as a friend? 🙁
Actually I did wanted to see him on videochat but I just wasn’t prepared honestly. I hate being nervous around a guy I like. Maybe I should’ve told him to give me some time. But I don’t know how much patience he might have. At the same time, not everyone feels comfortable video chatting, so why pressure me???
And lastly, do you think he’ll message me again? He was the one initiating the texts. I would feel embarrassed messaging him because I might seem desperate. I already confessed all my feelings



He may not even remember how you look like and wants to see your face and smile, how you interact with him in real time and hear the sound of your voice, before making any decision. These are important things in an LDR, so if you have a smartphone and know how to use it, facetime him now! Nobody is going to change their relationship status for the cat in the bag, so why would he?


You don't come across as desperate, but as a challenging weirdo or insecure mess. When it comes to facing the consequences of your own actions, you hide your head in the sand. Relationships take work and courage, so if you don't have it in yourself atm, why force yourself into this relationship? Anyway, the ball is in your court, if you want to hear what you want to know....facetime him now. Or forget about him....
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