if i meet another guy who says...

if i meet ANOTHER guy who says, "You are too good for me. I don't deserve you." or "I just can't love like you can," or "I cannot believe you like ME," or "You are the best thing that has ever happened to me. You are amazing and incredible. I can't continue with this because I am such a fuck-up."

If i meet another guy who says any of the above, I AM GONNA SCREAM!!!!

i mean "You are the best thing that has ever happened to me. You are amazing and incredible. I can't continue with this because I am such a F-up."

Some would kill for sucha problem...



But yes its annoying....doubt is never becoming.

LOL..Leos wouldn't do that 😛

SagGirl, you'll find somebody who will think they are "good enough" and its definitely not you, they are teh F-upped ones.....sometimes it takes quite a few until you meet one that "deserves" you 🙂

Dont take it to heart, don't get upset, get some chocolate, devour it knowing that you didnt have to share with some man!!!

if i meet ANOTHER guy who says, "You are too good for me. I don't deserve you." or "I just can't love like you can," or "I cannot believe you like ME," or "You are the best thing that has ever happened to me. You are amazing and incredible. I can't continue with this because I am such a fuck-up."

If i meet another guy who says any of the above, I AM GONNA SCREAM!!!!


Ahh Haah Haaaa!!!! LMFAO!! Are you in my head SagGirl?? I swear you're dictating my exact thoughts!!

It all sounds so patronizing to me too. I just want to say to him, please could you just spare me the goddamm drama, do you need a midol??

"do you need a midol??"

aahahahahhaha. classic!

An Aries was one of the signs that told me this! I've also heard it from a Virgo, a Scorpio, and a Cancer.

I don't even think it's a matter of signs in this case, just guys who are way too insecure!

Chatz--i totally agree that it's not me! i just can't even believe some of these guys sometimes! maybe its cuz i live in LA and everyone is just so f-upped here. ha! thanks, chocolate does always help!

I don't even think it's a matter of signs in this case, just guys who are way too insecure!

Yeah, I think it's pretty independent of sign as well. How old are you SagGirl (it doesn't say in your profile)? Actually, the more important question would probably be, how old are the men you know that use these lines? Why can a man take on pretty much anything, yet still be afraid of even their own feelings? Aren't our feelings supposed to be the most elemental of things?

Most men and women will say these type of words to another to get themselves out of the relationship in a "kind" way as to not hurt the other persons feelings. This way they feel less quilt.

Me? ah....i just say like it is - not a pretty sight afterwards but, it is the truth.

Men do not like to see a woman get emotional - cry, beg, pout.....so, they try to soften the blow a bit wanting to leave the woman with no hurt feelings - they take the blame to get out.

Now, a man who is more secure and honest with himself with be the same with the women. Ya never know .... in their past they may have told a girl how they felt and she laid the "quilt" trip on him.......

Ya never know .... in their past they may have told a girl how they felt and she laid the "quilt" trip on him.......

*this statement is in regard to why they say what they say to not hurt a woman's feelings.

** reaches for more coffee w/cream 😉

Most men and women will say these type of words to another to get themselves out of the relationship in a "kind" way as to not hurt the other persons feelings. This way they feel less quilt.

You're right, sometimes that may be the case. I guess one just needs to be perceptive enough to know for certain. In my situation, in the two months that my Aqua and I have not been together, he has been the one to always initiative contact (even though I had thought about it every day, but refrained 😉, saying how much he misses me and how he's dreamed of us being married (of course, all while a little intoxicated) So, I could be wrong but it doesn't sound like he's looking to sever the ties between us right away. Things aren't always that simple, at least that's what I've learned. So sometimes reading the subtext (esp. with men) is required (or at least making sure they've had a few to drink!)

initiative = initiate

i am pretty sure they said it as a nice way to get out of the relationship. i agree that a secure man would just tell the honest truth. i am a sag--i can take the honest truth!!! i hate the bullshit. i'd rather know than not know everything. even if it stings. i'll bounce back!

i am 24. the aries was 21 at the time (i was 22), the virgo was 23 at the time, the scorpio was 31 (just happened recently), and the cancer was 24/25.

wow, i really don't like that word--bullshit. it automatically changed it, hahahaa.

yeah, to be honest i'd like that better. at least i know it's the honest truth and not bullshit. and, it's easier to get over. i'm not a whiny person. i am attractive. i like my morals...so f*** someone who doesn't like me for who i am. you know? it's harder to get over someone who says i am amazing because then i can't understand if i am "so amazing," why are you not with me?

if i meet ANOTHER guy who says, "You are too good for me. I don't deserve you." or "I just can't love like you can," or "I cannot believe you like ME," or "You are the best thing that has ever happened to me. You are amazing and incredible. I can't continue with this because I am such a fuck-up."

If i meet another guy who says any of the above, I AM GONNA SCREAM!!!!

Girl, dont you know that's the easy way out for them? it's a bullshit line that all guys use at some point. Ive heard that so many times that I could just spit. It's a cop out and only cowards say it when they dont want to tell you that they dont want to be with you or the relationship is getting too heavy for them.

my bf told me that he didnt deserve me when he got into hot water with me, but instead of saying he was going to let it go because he didnt deserve me, he said damn it im going to work on it and you're going to love me... i was astonished... when did they start incorporating that into the "i dont deserve you speech" i thought he was going to break out into song like Jennifer Holiday/Hudson from Dream Girls

lilmermaid- yeah, i know it's an easy way out. i've always known that. and probably deep down before they've said it, i knew it was coming to an end anyways.

i'd just much rather have the truth. but then it's like...what is with all these guys who can't handle heavy relationships! such a mess.

i'm glad you've found someone who is willing to work at it...that's what it's about! good luck!

SagGirl: I fully understand what you are going through. I'm in my late 30's and I still have men say that to me. It is very common. I also agree that I would rather have someone tell me that they think I'm ugly or whatever then to say that I'm too good for them. I'm experiencing this again right now. I have this unbelievable chemistry with this guy and he seems to be very drawn to me too but, he seems to get scared and backs off then, he comes around again. He told me that my life is too stable and he was not very stable right now and doesn't have anything to offer me so, he wonders why I want to be with him. Don't they get it! We like the way they make us feel and I can financially support myself and then some. I'm a Sag girl and I have no problem attracting men but, I do find that I attract the emotionally unavailable men.

oh he's willing right now... i dont put it past him that "I dont deserve you and i dont want to hurt you so im leaving" is coming soon enough.

you know what, y'all...they usually say it to me after they've opened up or like cried in front of me or like shared a lot of personal information with me or shared their feelings with me. it's like once they've done this, they can't go on with me anymore. is it because i've seen them all vulnerable and sensitive or something?

the virgo was actually the most open one of the bunch! hahaha. the cancer too. not the scorpio or the aries.

SagGirl: Wow, I have been going through the same thing. They open up about stuff they would never ever tell anyone else and then I think they get scared because we know too much about them and they go find someone else.

I'm dealing with a Virgo right now too and wow, he can be very deep and very emotional.

sometimes i think what i am looking for doesn't exist.

i hear ya

Hi SagGirl,

I am also experiencing the same thing that you are going through, actually been through it too many times!! And like you, I already knew deep down that the guy (who's a Sag) I was seeing wasn't all that interest, but he was so wishy-washy it start to piss me off. I prefer that you tell me no matter how bad it hurt so I can get on with it!! This morning I called and made him tell me. And of course he start to put his tap dancing shoes on, but I wasn't having it! And I FINALLY got my answer that I need to here. Now I am satified. And I agreed it is time for men who BS start being accountable for their actions and I will point it out whether they like it or not!! I cannot stand a Bser and don't like nobody blowing smoke up my azz!! Just save me the drama and tell me how you really feel.