sweethearts
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if you could get away with it...
no
Depends what the conversation is about tiz? I wouldn't feel threaten with a catch up but if it was regular and well you know, down the sexual path them yes I'd consider that emotional cheating.
Posted by AfternoonDelights22
no
Really delightful?? Marriage is in its 10 th year, sex is drying up...someone fresh is coming on to you...the little fellas getting excited and you haven't felt that in a while...
Is flirting part and parcel of cheating?
It is hard to keep away from one's cheeky nature.
Therefore I would have to agree with tiz.
It is hard to keep away from one's cheeky nature.
Therefore I would have to agree with tiz.
Nope.
Posted by BikerCh1ckPosted by sweethearts
Would you cheat? So easy to do these days with fb, texting and everyone walking around with mini computers at their hip.
So would you? Maybe an with an ex, or an old flame from school or even someone you've just met and there's that strong undeniable attraction.. or with someone from here??
Cheating is an act that does not bring good for either sides.
It is hell not heaven.click to expand
Most things that give pleasure are short live...aren't they?
Posted by sweetheartsPosted by AfternoonDelights22
no
Really delightful?? Marriage is in its 10 th year, sex is drying up...someone fresh is coming on to you...the little fellas getting excited and you haven't felt that in a while...click to expand
Well first of that implies that I'm married... fat chance lol
Second implies that I wouldnt want a divorce if the lack of action had been for a long time
Cheating is annoying. Cake eaty. All that stuff.
I feel like if I am ever cheated on in the future it will be highly unhealthy for her life lolol..
Posted by tizianiPosted by sweethearts
Depends what the conversation is about tiz? I wouldn't feel threaten with a catch up but if it was regular and well you know, down the sexual path them yes I'd consider that emotional cheating.
Fair play. I thought emotional cheating was considered to be when people confide secrets/emotions in someone else instead of their partner. Whole thing is a grey area to me.
I think the key is boundaries. I wouldn't cheat on someone just because "opportunity" arose. I couldn't see myself cheating on someone period. But then again I wouldn't want to put my relationship is a place where there was even unnecessary temptation anyway.click to expand
Fair enough..sometimes it comes looking for you..ae you string enough to catch it and discard it before it gets a hold of you? This all came from the fb thread in R & A.
If there is a problem at home, in a relationship/marriage/and so forth, deal with it head on, be it through mending or divorcing.
Cheating does not will away any problems, it simply forces one to dig even deeper holes which would not be conducive to the situation already at stake.
Entirely unhealthy in my opinion and hardly productive.
Besides, cheating usually arises from lonely individuals, neglect and ego.
Although for the most part, my answer would still remain as a 'No'.
Cheating does not will away any problems, it simply forces one to dig even deeper holes which would not be conducive to the situation already at stake.
Entirely unhealthy in my opinion and hardly productive.
Besides, cheating usually arises from lonely individuals, neglect and ego.
Although for the most part, my answer would still remain as a 'No'.
Posted by TheLadyScorpio
Is flirting part and parcel of cheating?
It is hard to keep away from one's cheeky nature.
Therefore I would have to agree with tiz.
I personally think flirting with sexual conversations, is considered cheating if you have a partner. Chances are you will act on it once you get a clear chance...I wouldn't be comfortable with my partner being suggestive with anyone else.
Posted by tiziani
But then it really wouldn't be because of opportunity. It would be because things were just broken anyway. So the relationship would probably be over and, if it wasn't, that's just confirmation.
Your question kind of implies people can be duplicitous, which I know I cannot be.
An opportunity to escape rather than to face a confrontation.
An opportunity to sweep everything under the carpet rather than to complete deep cleaning.
An opportunity to put a bandage over an otherwise gaping wound, hoping it would heal.
It may not have been broken but it will be once the cheater has been but discovered.
Besides every day we live with opportunities and temptation.
Even if one is secure and loyal, in a healthy relationship, with the third reason which I have given, ego. Certain individuals, simply based upon this on trait, will prevail upon cheating, stupidity? Perhaps, or there may have been many underlying reasons that have been festering and now bursting forth.
Posted by sweetheartsPosted by TheLadyScorpio
Is flirting part and parcel of cheating?
It is hard to keep away from one's cheeky nature.
Therefore I would have to agree with tiz.
I personally think flirting with sexual conversations, is considered cheating if you have a partner. Chances are you will act on it once you get a clear chance...I wouldn't be comfortable with my partner being suggestive with anyone else.click to expand
That is simply the matter of trust, how much one is willing to give and take.
One of the first areas that break down in a marriage is sex and communication. You can still live someone and want to be with them but miss these two important things..not right to look elsewhere but it happens and its not easy to get it back when it's gone..the sex and real talk.
@ tiz
Yes, I would agree. If one were to cheat, or contemplating cheating, there are serious problems within the said relationship or marriage etc. If it is not dealt with, then only more problems could arise possibly reaching a dangerous d?nouement.
Personally, how on earth could cheating save a relationship/commitment, the trust is gone, could the foundations really be mended, certain actions can never be undone. It is what it is, cheating, personally is out of my books. Ones cheeky nature shall remain the same, even on compromise, to be tampered down a notch or two.
Yes, I would agree. If one were to cheat, or contemplating cheating, there are serious problems within the said relationship or marriage etc. If it is not dealt with, then only more problems could arise possibly reaching a dangerous d?nouement.
Personally, how on earth could cheating save a relationship/commitment, the trust is gone, could the foundations really be mended, certain actions can never be undone. It is what it is, cheating, personally is out of my books. Ones cheeky nature shall remain the same, even on compromise, to be tampered down a notch or two.
Posted by AfternoonDelights22Posted by sweetheartsPosted by AfternoonDelights22
no
Really delightful?? Marriage is in its 10 th year, sex is drying up...someone fresh is coming on to you...the little fellas getting excited and you haven't felt that in a while...
Well first of that implies that I'm married... fat chance lol
Second implies that I wouldnt want a divorce if the lack of action had been for a long time
Cheating is annoying. Cake eaty. All that stuff.
I feel like if I am ever cheated on in the future it will be highly unhealthy for her life lolol..click to expand
I say marriage because that's where my heads at and the question is if you could get away with it...won't get caught..
Fair call, your not a cheater...funny how no one will come and own up they would..I imagine the yes I would should be a lot higher than the no's!
@ purrs, 20 years of marriage and no cheating, didn't cheat on my last partner and had opportunity...
Posted by twinklebluetoes
I'd rather break up first and then be free to do whatever I want than to just play with someone's heart. I don't get the appeal.
+ 1
Unfortunately some people can not get it pass their thick heads that their relationship is in fact over.
Their possessiveness continues on as if they own the other individual, therefore even when one might think they are free to roam again.
The ugly drama has yet to begun.
Though, on a general whole, I do agree.
Posted by tizianiPosted by sweetheartsPosted by AfternoonDelights22Posted by sweetheartsPosted by AfternoonDelights22
no
Really delightful?? Marriage is in its 10 th year, sex is drying up...someone fresh is coming on to you...the little fellas getting excited and you haven't felt that in a while...
Well first of that implies that I'm married... fat chance lol
Second implies that I wouldnt want a divorce if the lack of action had been for a long time
Cheating is annoying. Cake eaty. All that stuff.
I feel like if I am ever cheated on in the future it will be highly unhealthy for her life lolol..
I say marriage because that's where my heads at and the question is if you could get away with it...won't get caught..
Fair call, your not a cheater...funny how no one will come and own up they would..I imagine the yes I would should be a lot higher than the no's!
Cheating is a funny topic. Everyone says they would never, and hate it. Yet by so many other people's definitions, everyone is a cheater to one degree of another. So much cheating apparently going on in the world, yet we can never find the people responsible to come forward and take the fall for the crime. The picture never adds up.click to expand
Exactly...where are the yes's??
No because you "never get away"...it's called karma. Unless you are in an open relationship then physical and emotional intimacy is by definition cheating. My bigger issue isn't cheating it is why be with someone and claim you want exclusivity, one-on-one and then cheat? Why not stay single and be with whomever whenever? That way you aren't lying to yourself or someone else. To me you don't get married or agree to a mutually exclusive relationship and then date. WTF? Like I said, if you and your significant other are open to others in your relationship, i.e. swapping, menage a trois, etc. more power to you. It is at least a choice you both made. Its when the other person starts making choices and hiding those choices so the other person has no say or power in the relationship is when things turn foul.
Posted by TheLadyScorpioPosted by sweetheartsPosted by TheLadyScorpio
Is flirting part and parcel of cheating?
It is hard to keep away from one's cheeky nature.
Therefore I would have to agree with tiz.
I personally think flirting with sexual conversations, is considered cheating if you have a partner. Chances are you will act on it once you get a clear chance...I wouldn't be comfortable with my partner being suggestive with anyone else.
That is simply the matter of trust, how much one is willing to give and take.click to expand
Really?? You'd be ok if your partner was having late night conversations about sex with another woman?? You'd be a minority!
Good question, short answer is No...
Posted by sweethearts
One of the first areas that break down in a marriage is sex and communication. You can still live someone and want to be with them but miss these two important things..not right to look elsewhere but it happens and its not easy to get it back when it's gone..the sex and real talk.
Thought I'd clarify this again now that I'm not on my phone...
For those that have been in LONG relationships, they would understand this more but The SEX, is one of the first things that go. You still love the person and live your lives together and share certain things still but sex is mundane and some just stop and not bother. Some people even op for separate beds. Life goes on, you maintain your family lives with children etc as routine but the sparks are all but a fizzle of what was...Communication is how was your day and a peck on the cheek...
Then one day out of the blue, you run into someone and your heart skips a beat...that excitement that you haven't felt in 10-15 years all comes rushing back all at once and damn it feels good! It doesn't stop there because that person is unrelenting. Maybe you gave out your number or they looked you up on FB...however it happens...it happens all the time and some peoples morals are easily compromised...
We can all say No No No...but there will be a lot that are compromised in certain circumstances. I know that for a fact. Many a time my friends and I have spoken about friends of friends and the cheating and there's always that one...No way, never thought that would happen to them, they seemed so perfect!! Funnily enough it was all around the late 30's, children growing up, wife feeling no longer useful, man not feeling the love anymore because she was too focused on everything but him...
Seen it lots, hear about it around here all the time
Posted by sweetheartsPosted by TheLadyScorpioPosted by sweetheartsPosted by TheLadyScorpio
Is flirting part and parcel of cheating?
It is hard to keep away from one's cheeky nature.
Therefore I would have to agree with tiz.
I personally think flirting with sexual conversations, is considered cheating if you have a partner. Chances are you will act on it once you get a clear chance...I wouldn't be comfortable with my partner being suggestive with anyone else.
That is simply the matter of trust, how much one is willing to give and take.
Really?? You'd be ok if your partner was having late night conversations about sex with another woman?? You'd be a minority!click to expand
No, flirting does not pertain nor equate to sex-talk. End of question, for you are going to an extreme.
But otherwise if he were to have female friends which he would have heart to heart with, I would not drag him away otherwise, even if my Stinger side may be sparked. Why? Because I would expect him to give me the same respect and space, should I venture off and enjoy a day with a male friend. Fair is fair. One would give what they would hopefully expect in return.
I have never cheated on my wife, and I never will. I've had MANY opportunities, and turned every one of them down. Things may go bad from time to time with the wife, but I don't want to leave her. If things got so bad that I wanted to go through with an opportunity, I would leave her before cheating.
Posted by starloverPosted by VirgoMerlot
I have never cheated on my wife, and I never will. I've had MANY opportunities, and turned every one of them down. Things may go bad from time to time with the wife, but I don't want to leave her. If things got so bad that I wanted to go through with an opportunity, I would leave her before cheating.
awwwwww that is really goodclick to expand
Agreed...but would you leave because you have someone better to go to? Statistics show when men leave..they have someone to go to, when a woman leaves, it's because she's had enough!
Posted by ninjutsu
I have encountered "opportunities" where I would have been able to get away without my spouse knowing, but I did not indulge any of them. I can relate a lot to what purr was saying about not even being tempted when I'm in love with a person because they are my focus. Outside of that though like poisson, I just know that my conscience would crumble if something like that was on it. I feel guilty enough about things I shouldn't feel guilt over, so I don't need legitimate shit on top of that.
+1
Posted by Poisson
I can't get away from my conscience.
Posted by ninjutsu
I have encountered "opportunities" where I would have been able to get away without my spouse knowing, but I did not indulge any of them. I can relate a lot to what purr was saying about not even being tempted when I'm in love with a person because they are my focus. Outside of that though like poisson, I just know that my conscience would crumble if something like that was on it. I feel guilty enough about things I shouldn't feel guilt over, so I don't need legitimate shit on top of that.click to expand
Girls with a conscience. Are there any better kind? ;D
Posted by sweetheartsPosted by starloverPosted by VirgoMerlot
I have never cheated on my wife, and I never will. I've had MANY opportunities, and turned every one of them down. Things may go bad from time to time with the wife, but I don't want to leave her. If things got so bad that I wanted to go through with an opportunity, I would leave her before cheating.
awwwwww that is really good
Agreed...but would you leave because you have someone better to go to? Statistics show when men leave..they have someone to go to, when a woman leaves, it's because she's had enough!click to expand
I would always have somewhere to go. If I were to leave, it would be because I was done.
Nope!
Posted by AfternoonDelights22Posted by sweetheartsPosted by AfternoonDelights22
no
Really delightful?? Marriage is in its 10 th year, sex is drying up...someone fresh is coming on to you...the little fellas getting excited and you haven't felt that in a while...
Well first of that implies that I'm married... fat chance lol
Second implies that I wouldnt want a divorce if the lack of action had been for a long time
Cheating is annoying. Cake eaty. All that stuff.
I feel like if I am ever cheated on in the future it will be highly unhealthy for her life lolol..click to expand
lmao @ highly unhealthy for her life
damn straight. make dat bytch life miserable...lol
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