Is Sadness a turn off
This topic was created in the Relationships forum by Aju on Thursday, February 21, 2019 and has 16 replies.
Should it be hidden?
Posted by elllle
Never hide anything, Aju. You are beautiful! ❤
thank youu u
I never show sadneto people in my life. Idk why. I can easily feel sadness, but find it almost impossible to show. I’ve helped so many people in my life feeling sadness, but can’t help thinking how great it would be to find a person I could be 100% open with about how I feel. To just feel safe with them, and not feel like I’m being judged or annoying.
Posted by AjuI find most people are uncomfortable with it! I also posit this is primarily due to their own inability to handle “negative” emotion. Either that or greater than recommend degree of self-involvement.
Should it be hidden?
That being said, chronic sadness is not just inconvenience for all parties involved but also detrimental to subject’s overall health.
Posted by Soulright.
I never show sadneto people in my life. Idk why. I can easily feel sadness, but find it almost impossible to show. I’ve helped so many people in my life feeling sadness, but can’t help thinking how great it would be to find a person I could be 100% open with about how I feel. To just feel safe with them, and not feel like I’m being judged or annoying.
just laying thinking about it for a while.
.. Is being all me wise to attract another who craves the authentic
or just hope that when I'm all there .. she doesn't go?
Posted by Schawqreally? how so?
Sadness is a turn on
It can be a turn off if you are always sad, but regardless, be you and don’t hide it.
Posted by Schawqyes. and be human together.Posted by AjuBecause for a male I have an urge to comfort and make him feel better, care for him because he’s sensitive and cares a lot.Posted by Schawqreally? how so?
Sadness is a turn on
For a female I like when they’re sad because we can relate.click to expand
and not get caught up in this "pretend" or "guess who"
to see how close one can get only to not like what is revealed when the game is over
Posted by Impulsv
I’m
Attracted to brooding men
Papi and happy all the time seems fake for me
yeah definitely.
I've just been thinking lately a lot about it. that maybe in this world of dating
and attracting that it's wrong to show, well not wrong but not accepted by most (male/female)
Posted by rmactavish
No I don't think so. If a person shows that they're vulnerable, it's not a weakness tbh but a strength, a strength of keeping in touch with your emotions which alot of us in the modern times, lack!
I agree. do you feel most think this way though?
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I can't relate the emotion to arousal. I don't see a connection. I don't run from or avoid people feeling sad. I'm a mother, wife, etc. So, I deal. I'm married to a brooding Cancer Moon. His emotions are extraordinary.
To me, sadness is not weakness, vulnerability, or turn-off. It's just sadness.
Cause, I've seen sad people do some amazing things.
(((Huggles)))
Now that I think about it. Hubby seemed seemed sad when I met him. I thought it mysterious. It made me care for him. We all acted sad back then whether sad or not. We were all sad, angry, or nothing. And, then came grunge, alt rock, and gangsta rap. We were all cool with sadness. If we remember our youths... As an artist, I saw my emptiness as muse and his sadness was something-ness.
To me, sadness is not weakness, vulnerability, or turn-off. It's just sadness.
Cause, I've seen sad people do some amazing things.
(((Huggles)))
Now that I think about it. Hubby seemed seemed sad when I met him. I thought it mysterious. It made me care for him. We all acted sad back then whether sad or not. We were all sad, angry, or nothing. And, then came grunge, alt rock, and gangsta rap. We were all cool with sadness. If we remember our youths... As an artist, I saw my emptiness as muse and his sadness was something-ness.
Posted by SchawqIf he is constantly sad, even a bit depressed, does it become a turn off in the long run?Posted by AjuBecause for a male I have an urge to comfort and make him feel better, care for him because he’s sensitive and cares a lot.Posted by Schawqreally? how so?
Sadness is a turn on
For a female I like when they’re sad because we can relate.click to expand
Everything negative is a turn off and may be judged by others from their own lens of perspective.
But fuck that anyway, you do you. Be the real you. ❤️
But fuck that anyway, you do you. Be the real you. ❤️
Yes it’s a turnoff. I’m not a nurturer. Anyone who finds it attractive is probably also in a dependent/toxic relationship where they are relied heavily on for emotional support or vice versa.
Humans and their fake captain save-a-sad-hoe rhetoric will start to exhibit resentment, at some point. Why? They get caught in a cycle of trying to save someone and build someone up and forget about their own emotions and self.
Humans and their fake captain save-a-sad-hoe rhetoric will start to exhibit resentment, at some point. Why? They get caught in a cycle of trying to save someone and build someone up and forget about their own emotions and self.
Posted by FknMeowLike being miserable? I don't know about that, but I understand what you said.Posted by Icy_monsoonPosted by SchawqIf he is constantly sad, even a bit depressed, does it become a turn off in the long run?Posted by AjuBecause for a male I have an urge to comfort and make him feel better, care for him because he’s sensitive and cares a lot.Posted by Schawqreally? how so?
Sadness is a turn on
For a female I like when they’re sad because we can relate.
For me yes, it wears on me, and I want to be happy. Good vibes. But there are a lot of people who like to be miserable in relationships I've noticed. I cant do it for long. I need something that brings me up not down.click to expand
Thank you for being honest and practical.
Posted by SchawqI think that will be the case for every woman.Posted by Icy_monsoonMaybe. If he’s becoming abusive toward me and/or the depression is becoming unreasonable, then yes.Posted by SchawqIf he is constantly sad, even a bit depressed, does it become a turn off in the long run?Posted by AjuBecause for a male I have an urge to comfort and make him feel better, care for him because he’s sensitive and cares a lot.Posted by Schawqreally? how so?
Sadness is a turn on
For a female I like when they’re sad because we can relate.click to expand
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