IS THERE A GOOD WAY TO SAY GOODBYE?
This topic was created in the Relationships forum by Jwalker on Friday, April 20, 2007 and has 9 replies.
I want some ideas from you guys on ways to end a relationship so that a friendship can still remain. Is it impossible to be friends with someone when even in a relationship you can't see eye to eye? Do "irreconsilable differences" on the homefront mean you can't get along otherwise? I know this depends on the people involved, but in general...IS there a GOOD way to end it?
Jwalker,
What has worked for me in the past is that I say what I need to say honestly from my heart to the other person knowing that I have no attachment to the outcome. If they truly do want to remain friends, they will - if not, no problem - you wouldn't want them in your life anyway.
"IS there a GOOD way to end it?" Yes, when in speaking to the other person you are coming from a place of truth and honesty within yourself doing the BEST that you know how to do in that moment. This is the GOOD way to "resolve" the issue - maybe you do not need to forsee it as an "ending" rather the relationship is CHANGING.
Just be truthful to yourself and in doing so you will be giving the other person a gift.
What has worked for me in the past is that I say what I need to say honestly from my heart to the other person knowing that I have no attachment to the outcome. If they truly do want to remain friends, they will - if not, no problem - you wouldn't want them in your life anyway.
"IS there a GOOD way to end it?" Yes, when in speaking to the other person you are coming from a place of truth and honesty within yourself doing the BEST that you know how to do in that moment. This is the GOOD way to "resolve" the issue - maybe you do not need to forsee it as an "ending" rather the relationship is CHANGING.
Just be truthful to yourself and in doing so you will be giving the other person a gift.
That is good advice Freebird. I am just kind of forseeing a bad fight, and a reluctance to let go (on my partners part)...we are reaching a cross-road where I do not feel either one of us is being fufilled by the other, and with each passage of time I feel I am drifting to a point of no return. As much as I try to display my heart, it is ignored. I hate to give up but I am exhausted. I'm just am not sure how to communicate. I see myself as a good communicator, but I am not being heard. Thanks.
Yeah...Jwalker, I too have been down that path in my past. Just do your best - unfortunately, it may lead to you using the NO CONTACT rule - which too can be a bit difficult however, it will most definately test the strength of your will.
This may help as well - maybe within your thoughts you can forsee a peaceful resolution. The mind is very powerful and what we FOCUS on we will bring to ourselves to experience.
My best to you
This may help as well - maybe within your thoughts you can forsee a peaceful resolution. The mind is very powerful and what we FOCUS on we will bring to ourselves to experience.
My best to you
Thanks to all of you...you make sense and I know you are right!
God Bless you all and thanks for the encouragement!
I feel better knowing you guys are out there (in here).
God Bless you all and thanks for the encouragement!
I feel better knowing you guys are out there (in here).we're in here??? OMG lol
listen to 100 ways to leave your lover.
is that supposed to be 50 ways to leave your lover? You know....slip out the back jack. Make a new plan Stan...you don't need to be coy Roy. Just get yourself free..." I know Paul Simons version, but what's 100 ways?
its 50 been a long time sence I heard the recording.
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