krysrenee7
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Is watching alot of porn, cheating?
I'm not really bothered if my significant other is looking at porn while we're together... I mean... I admittedly do the same if we aren't together. There is a difference, IMO, between just wanting to indulge in something for the moment that doesn't completely affect your relationship or sex life and over-indulging in porn to the point that you can't function without watching it a certain amount of time a day.
I'm not upset because there isn't a snowball's chance in hell that he's going to end up with the porn star (same with me). So if he's lusting and wanting to get his rocks off, he can.
Now, if he wanted to do that instead of having sex with me, then there is an issue.
Honestly, I wouldn't even be opposed to watching it together. But that's just me and my desires lol.
I'm not upset because there isn't a snowball's chance in hell that he's going to end up with the porn star (same with me). So if he's lusting and wanting to get his rocks off, he can.
Now, if he wanted to do that instead of having sex with me, then there is an issue.
Honestly, I wouldn't even be opposed to watching it together. But that's just me and my desires lol.
Also wanted to add, if we can't get together to have sex, you need to find release somehow... and if it's with your right hand and your laptop, it's better than finding it with another person.
Posted by ianthepiscesPosted by Candeh15
Also wanted to add, if we can't get together to have sex, you need to find release somehow... and if it's with your right hand and your laptop, it's better than finding it with another person.
Truth.. i need to bust a nut 3 to 9 times a day.. what woman can keep up with that? Not many...click to expand
I ain't even mad. 😛
Posted by starlover
I prefer erotica...its more artistic, more convincing
Porn is toooo obvious for me and also sets up a totally unrealistic impression of sexuality, especially to younger people
Plastic tits, big dicks, lots of "oooohhh aaaaahhhs" can after a time becoming tedious and predictable.
Real people aint always like that and for anyone who is a little naive, it can cause an illusion around sex. I have been telling my son that people come in all different shapes and sizes and arent actually airbrushed 🙂 in real life
Amateur porn/homemade videos. It's more real and sexier.
Posted by krysrenee7
The article is trying to say that:
1. If it's considered dead wrong/cheating when your man jacks off to a picture of their ex or someone they know, why wouldn't it be just as wrong for your partner to masturbate to someone they don't know? (If that's the case then that means that cheating shouldn't hurt or be considered cheating if it's done with someone you barely know vs. someone you do know)
2. The physical/emotional/psychological aspect of pleasuring yourself while lusting over someone else is wrong
3. It's an insult to your partner to watch porn, especially if they're pleasing you & giving you the real thing. Why would something you can't even touch be more fulfilling in the moment than your own partner at home whom you CAN touch & do all those same dirty little things with
4. If you'd get upset with your man b/c he's drooling & lusting over some female (stranger) at the grocery store, club or mall, what's the difference b/w that & your man doing the exact same thing behind a computer screen?! It's STILL a real live person & you're still the only person they oughta be pleasuring themselves to
5. Porn is fantasy land & yes it's filled with dirty little sluts who do things your own partner probably wouldn't do. BUT if that's the case, why not go get a partner who will OR try those same things with your own partner? Jacking off to a porn star won't make your own girlfriend get any better in bed! Instead of expecting some pornstar on a tv screen to uplift your sex life, why not put in the same work & "hand energy" to please/pleasure your own partner
what kind of fucked up thinking is this? no one knows someones TRUE purpose for watchin porn when they're in a relationship-classic example of girls overthinking shit. maybe i got a secret foot fetish or ear fucking fetish and i dont want to seem like a freak. or maybe i just got a favorite vid i havent watched in a while. the possibilities are endless,if i walked in on my wife goin at it, id find that shit hot and join in-not get butthurt! dayum!
Posted by ianthepiscesPosted by Candeh15Posted by starlover
I prefer erotica...its more artistic, more convincing
Porn is toooo obvious for me and also sets up a totally unrealistic impression of sexuality, especially to younger people
Plastic tits, big dicks, lots of "oooohhh aaaaahhhs" can after a time becoming tedious and predictable.
Real people aint always like that and for anyone who is a little naive, it can cause an illusion around sex. I have been telling my son that people come in all different shapes and sizes and arent actually airbrushed 🙂 in real life
Amateur porn/homemade videos. It's more real and sexier.
Thats true... the middle eastern ones are always good.. they are all the same tho.. the guy almost seems like hes forcing himself on her.. she denies his advances.. he keeps pushing it.. she denies, pushes him off like he repulses her.. he advances his forcefulness.. and finally the woman submits... its funny and hot.. LOLclick to expand
Are you talking about the ones where the woman doesn't want to have sex with the guy because he's "American and white" and it like "disgusts" her or something? Hahaha those always cracked me up, but they were hot.
Ah okay, I was thinking of something else, but I think it's along the same premise.
I don't really care if my S/O watches porn. I don't think it's cheating. I'm one of those who would be more bothered by an emotional involvement than a physical one. Porn is safe. There are no STIs involved. Personally I think it's ridiculous that someone is expected to find only one person in the entire world sexually attractive for the rest of their lives until death do them part - laughable
When you see an old couple in their 70's and they are laughing and smiling and he holds the door for her and gives her his arm to hold onto as they walk away, I doubt he does that because he finds her sexually attractive.I think it's because he loves her - and probably not in the same way he did when they first got together. They are bonded because they've become a part of each other's life. I'm pretty sure with every couple someone has found a person outside of the twosome bangable no matter how solid/happy the relationship is. It's natural. Porn is just made for profit and for pple to jerk off to and is totally different from cheating.
When you see an old couple in their 70's and they are laughing and smiling and he holds the door for her and gives her his arm to hold onto as they walk away, I doubt he does that because he finds her sexually attractive.I think it's because he loves her - and probably not in the same way he did when they first got together. They are bonded because they've become a part of each other's life. I'm pretty sure with every couple someone has found a person outside of the twosome bangable no matter how solid/happy the relationship is. It's natural. Porn is just made for profit and for pple to jerk off to and is totally different from cheating.
I am only speaking for myself.
I will agree with point 1 & 2 of the article because I'll never want to understand them completely and I abhor it.
3, [second half of 4], and 5 however is unnervingly ignorant, selfish, and unrealistic to think such things and is direct proof that sex happens more in the mind than the body externally. I am upset.
Just because I watch porn and jack off to it and I'm not touching and giving my love to you doesn't mean you are far from my thoughts, my heart, and soul. I do it because I love me too. Its always been about me and not the people in the porn. I like to feel the sensations, the feeling that something amazing is going be released from my body just for me. I am feeling love for who I am, my whole being, entirely. And then it happens--wonderfully warm, thick, and made only by me--onto my face--on my lips (so I can taste how delicious I am), neck, chest, belly, pubic area, and more often than not, over my shoulder...No one else can give me this love except me. Yet you want all of my love for yourself?
...I do not believe that Love must always be with Sex. I believe that Sex must always be with Love. This includes masturbation, etc.
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Like Ian already said men often need to release more than once a day. Myself included. And most women just aren't up to it all the time. But it does call for concern when there is only porn and no bonding.
In fact, I was going to watch porn, masturbate, then go back to bed but I burned the past two hours illustrating my feelings for myself and revising and editing this post.
I will agree with point 1 & 2 of the article because I'll never want to understand them completely and I abhor it.
3, [second half of 4], and 5 however is unnervingly ignorant, selfish, and unrealistic to think such things and is direct proof that sex happens more in the mind than the body externally. I am upset.
Just because I watch porn and jack off to it and I'm not touching and giving my love to you doesn't mean you are far from my thoughts, my heart, and soul. I do it because I love me too. Its always been about me and not the people in the porn. I like to feel the sensations, the feeling that something amazing is going be released from my body just for me. I am feeling love for who I am, my whole being, entirely. And then it happens--wonderfully warm, thick, and made only by me--onto my face--on my lips (so I can taste how delicious I am), neck, chest, belly, pubic area, and more often than not, over my shoulder...No one else can give me this love except me. Yet you want all of my love for yourself?
...I do not believe that Love must always be with Sex. I believe that Sex must always be with Love. This includes masturbation, etc.
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Like Ian already said men often need to release more than once a day. Myself included. And most women just aren't up to it all the time. But it does call for concern when there is only porn and no bonding.
In fact, I was going to watch porn, masturbate, then go back to bed but I burned the past two hours illustrating my feelings for myself and revising and editing this post.
Mann porn is porn ....its just a good visual for you if your imagination don't take you there. And at that- you have a wide variety to choose from! lol I dont see anything wrong with it if you are just watching it to enjoy yourself or laugh...its entertainment in a way...and sometiems that shit is hot!
Posted by starlover
The difference is women can "imagine".....men have to physically "see"
personally i find the art of visualisation far more erotic then the somewhat predictability and tedium of porn..the workings of the mind and the imagination are, to my mind, far more colourful
maybe men are just lazy 🙂
x
truth. even when im watching porn i still have to use my imagination!
Everyone watches porn. I own some porn and I watch it on the net sometimes.
Ya it can be addicting and yes sometimes it causes men to have no sexuality.
Ya it can be addicting and yes sometimes it causes men to have no sexuality.
.......
Actually, a group of MEN wrote that article. Not "Stupid women" as 1 or 2 of you stated lol smh
They weren't saying that watching porn in itself was wrong. They were dwelving into the true purpose for it & were opening up the dialogue for why it's so necessary/important.
They weren't claiming that a person watching porn was cheating. They were mentioning the irony in the fact that a woman who doesn't get mad at her man watching/lusting over a hot chick on a computer screen may very well be the very SAME woman would be offended/hurt/disrespected persay her man choose to "lust" over anyone else OUTSIDE of the computer screen.
They were questioning why fantasy was so important. Sex sells, yes, but WHY? That's the question they are asking. They're wondering why so many people are obsessed with fantasy land when the very same things in fantasy land happen in real life! After all, isn't fantasy considered fantasy b/c it is FAR from reality?
The article was pointing out that people are greedy. It's 1 thing to play a video game full of crazy guys shooting eachother in a desert OR a video game like Harry Potter b/c that stuff isn't real & doesn't happen in real life (i.e. fantasy). So 1 can understand why people are drawn to that, b/c hey it's fantasy, meaning there's nothing realistic about it.
But yet people consider porn fantasy. Weird. The very same things that happen in pornos happen already in most of our daily sex lifes, so technically, what purpose does porn really serve? THAT was the question
They weren't saying that watching porn in itself was wrong. They were dwelving into the true purpose for it & were opening up the dialogue for why it's so necessary/important.
They weren't claiming that a person watching porn was cheating. They were mentioning the irony in the fact that a woman who doesn't get mad at her man watching/lusting over a hot chick on a computer screen may very well be the very SAME woman would be offended/hurt/disrespected persay her man choose to "lust" over anyone else OUTSIDE of the computer screen.
They were questioning why fantasy was so important. Sex sells, yes, but WHY? That's the question they are asking. They're wondering why so many people are obsessed with fantasy land when the very same things in fantasy land happen in real life! After all, isn't fantasy considered fantasy b/c it is FAR from reality?
The article was pointing out that people are greedy. It's 1 thing to play a video game full of crazy guys shooting eachother in a desert OR a video game like Harry Potter b/c that stuff isn't real & doesn't happen in real life (i.e. fantasy). So 1 can understand why people are drawn to that, b/c hey it's fantasy, meaning there's nothing realistic about it.
But yet people consider porn fantasy. Weird. The very same things that happen in pornos happen already in most of our daily sex lifes, so technically, what purpose does porn really serve? THAT was the question
For serious.
(sigh)....... porn takes alot of effort and a hands on type work ethic that I'm not sure I'm ready for. You have to pick what type the actors/actress, which company/series, bluray/dvd, used/new, that's sounds like more work than I wanna put in..... screw that noise.
(sigh)....... porn takes alot of effort and a hands on type work ethic that I'm not sure I'm ready for. You have to pick what type the actors/actress, which company/series, bluray/dvd, used/new, that's sounds like more work than I wanna put in..... screw that noise.
Posted by everevolvingepithet
"Ya it can be addicting and yes sometimes it causes men to have no sexuality."
Don't you mean sex drive ?
No I mean sexuality. Like they don't know how to please a woman at all/ even care. Just do straight missionary style not even look at you go really hard till they cum. Being a replacement for a hand pretty much.
Posted by oldskoolflavor
when you do fantasize about 1-3 women in the porn industry,
only to end up fucking your current partner ..
aren't you cheating on the actors you fantasize about ?
is it normal to experience guilt ?
lol
Posted by Claire
I think watching too much porn can have an adverse effect on a relationship. .
And that was what the authors were trying to say. If a little bit of porn is innocent & doesn't count as cheating, how can alot of porn consitute the opposite even if there's NEVER any touching involved?
If you really think about it deeply, it makes no sense to only care when someone watches alot of porn & yet not care at all when they only watch a little.
What's the difference b/w a man watching porn twice a week vs. the man who watches it 5xs a day? Porn is porn. The reason behind watching it remains the SAME regardless of how many times you watch it, but yet people swear it's wrong & can ruin a relationship only some of the time
True, people who watch too much porn (define "too much") may be at higher risk for not sexually satisfying their partners as much, BUT then again, whether or not a person is willing to leave their partner high & dry or cheat depends on what purpose the porn is actually serving them in the 1st place.
There are plenty of men who cheat even though they don't watch porn "alot" & it's b/c some people cannot make out the difference b/w reality & fantasy. And there are plenty of men who watch "too much" porn but yet still satisfy their partners. But yet the companions of these people are only upset when the porn watching becomes frequent even though the mentality of the person watching it may be the same, regardless of how many times it's watched. Weird
Posted by Claire
Less porn and they tend to appreciate each other more and how they are naturally without becoming bored of the sex as easily.
That seems to be the female take on it ... while men find it much more boring to see one set of tits for the rest of their lives.
This seems twisted .... you are saying that to look at just his woman equals not being bored so easily .. when it's the other way around.
Women, however, since they aren't necessarily visually stimulated ... actually have a misguided concept that makes them falsely believe that men think the same way.
Since you are female, you could look at the same naked body for eternity, since your love is directly connected to your sexuality .... so you would associate the two as being one in the same, and could therefore only see your man's nakedness and be content.
Because he's male, his love for you isn't connected to his sexuality .. it's connect to his territory of having you. Since he's not connected to your nakedness, because he isn't connected to sex with you ... he can look at many naked females, and it would never interfere with his relationship with you.
All of you women must keep in mind here ..... you are the ones who would be responsible for relationship problems ensuing .. not him. He could look at porn every day, and it would never change or effect his relatinship with you.
Women may say they realize that men are visual creatures ... but, it's a rare day that I find a woman who actually applies this knowledge .. and will not understand that her man really does want to look at a lot of naked women.
Women for the most part ... have no real understanding of men.
Women for the most part ... have no real understanding of men.
Is watching porn cheating?
Thats the most absurd fucking thing I have ever read. Well that and Palin for President.
Porn is nothing but a collection of training videos.
I know in a perfect world most women dont want their men to watch porn or go to strip-clubs but its part of the male world.
But to imply that its cheating because Im imagining myself with the woman in the videos is just dumb.
Im less likely to cheat because I have access to porn and thats the god honest truth.
Thats the most absurd fucking thing I have ever read. Well that and Palin for President.
Porn is nothing but a collection of training videos.
I know in a perfect world most women dont want their men to watch porn or go to strip-clubs but its part of the male world.
But to imply that its cheating because Im imagining myself with the woman in the videos is just dumb.
Im less likely to cheat because I have access to porn and thats the god honest truth.
i'd rather watch spanish soap operas than porn lol you wouldn't believe the amount of hot women who get half naked on those shows lol american porn is especially trashy and vulgar. there's no real passion. it's not that different from watching two dogs fucking eachother in a grass field somewhere lol i don't like porn in general.
Posted by wgamador2
Is watching porn cheating?
Thats the most absurd fucking thing I have ever read. Well that and Palin for President.
Porn is nothing but a collection of training videos.
I know in a perfect world most women dont want their men to watch porn or go to strip-clubs but its part of the male world.
But to imply that its cheating because Im imagining myself with the woman in the videos is just dumb.
Im less likely to cheat because I have access to porn and thats the god honest truth.
Posted by ianthepiscesPosted by Sagittarius89Posted by everevolvingepithet
"Ya it can be addicting and yes sometimes it causes men to have no sexuality."
Don't you mean sex drive ?
No I mean sexuality. Like they don't know how to please a woman at all/ even care. Just do straight missionary style not even look at you go really hard till they cum. Being a replacement for a hand pretty much.
If a guy is relying on porn to learn how to please a woman, then you might as well find a replacement...
Women are easy to get off...
The problem that you are talking about has everything to do with the guy being selfish...
If you stick around, thats on you..click to expand
Truth..........
Posted by Jesse91
i'd rather watch spanish soap operas than porn lol you wouldn't believe the amount of hot women who get half naked on those shows lol american porn is especially trashy and vulgar. there's no real passion. it's not that different from watching two dogs fucking eachother in a grass field somewhere lol i don't like porn in general.
Man...thats kind of the point.
Its supposed to be vulgar for us guys.
Like when I watch porn with my woman, she is like, dont you have any classy porn.
Im like, why? are you going to write a fucking movie review on Rotten Tomatoes.com?
Im like, babe, it doesnt get any classier than a double-penetration scene. Think about it.
She does and then I fast-forward to the money-shot scene.
Posted by P-Angel
Women may say they realize that men are visual creatures ... but, it's a rare day that I find a woman who actually applies this knowledge .. and will not understand that her man really does want to look at a lot of naked women.
Women for the most part ... have no real understanding of men.
If only more women took notes from you.
Posted by Claire
.. someone might actually become jealous of the porn stars that their lover is watching just because of the thought of them being turned on by somebody else.
When you say someone, you mean women. Women are the ones who become jealous.
Jealousy isn't porn relative .. it's insecure relative.
Keep in mind that men who are turned on watching porn, aren't turned on by the star, they are turned on by the act. Women tend to personalize sex, because of reasons I already stated ... they say that men are visual creatures, but, really don't get it.
she would get jealous thinking he is turned on by the porn star and he isn't .. he's turned on by what she has as if she is an object ... women will say they get it, but they don't .. if they in turn get jealous over it, because this jealousy is representative of believing he's wanting the star's body personally, as if he actually wants her.
this is a misconception of how women are understanding men and it often becomes so conflated in her mind that she would actually become insecure about how he loves her.
Seriously, if a woman would become jealous over the watching of porn .. the she is so fucked up that she is believing that how he loves her is in jeapordy ... and it doesn't get more fucked up than that in a relationship because it's an indicator that she's is extremely insecure.
"Keep in mind that men who are turned on watching porn, aren't turned on by the star, they are turned on by the act. Women tend to personalize sex, because of reasons I already stated ... they say that men are visual creatures, but, really don't get it."
Some of us really do get it,and are the same way.
Maybe because I'm the age I am,but I don't even look at faces. 😉
Couldn't care less. :p
So yeah,nuttin to be jealous about.
Some of us really do get it,and are the same way.
Maybe because I'm the age I am,but I don't even look at faces. 😉
Couldn't care less. :p
So yeah,nuttin to be jealous about.
And WG,that classy porn thing cracked me up. 🙂
I do believe tho,that when there's an addiction...it can destroy a relationship.
I think it's best watched together,also.
I think it's best watched together,also.
Posted by Candeh15
I'm not really bothered if my significant other is looking at porn while we're together... I mean... I admittedly do the same if we aren't together. There is a difference, IMO, between just wanting to indulge in something for the moment that doesn't completely affect your relationship or sex life and over-indulging in porn to the point that you can't function without watching it a certain amount of time a day.
I'm not upset because there isn't a snowball's chance in hell that he's going to end up with the porn star (same with me). So if he's lusting and wanting to get his rocks off, he can.
Now, if he wanted to do that instead of having sex with me, then there is an issue.
Honestly, I wouldn't even be opposed to watching it together. But that's just me and my desires lol.
I'm with this, if you don't have hang ups and not insecure then what the hell? it really is just what it is
I think what a lot of the problem with women is,and probably was with me at one time....is the type.
Overly produced,commercial porn with plastic women,and perfect lighting....it might make "insecure" women feel their man compares them to that "perfection" and that's impossible to live up to.
Amature and low budget stuff,hell...there's a good chance WE are better or at least as good as those...😉 ha ha
commercial porn is selling fantasy,home vid's sell reality.
I'm an earth person,I like reality. 🙂
Overly produced,commercial porn with plastic women,and perfect lighting....it might make "insecure" women feel their man compares them to that "perfection" and that's impossible to live up to.
Amature and low budget stuff,hell...there's a good chance WE are better or at least as good as those...😉 ha ha
commercial porn is selling fantasy,home vid's sell reality.
I'm an earth person,I like reality. 🙂
Posted by ellessque
can a vibrator really desensitize your clit?
*looks at my vibrator in horror*
I've never used one,but I can see where it might.not in the sense you'd lose feeling,but more that you would get used to that feeling and need it to get off?
I dunno. *shrugs*
it seems like someone here who had used one alot,one time said it does....but not sure.
LOL! HA!
Nanny nanny boo boo,that thing gonna ruin your hoo hoo!!!!
😛
Nanny nanny boo boo,that thing gonna ruin your hoo hoo!!!!
😛
LMAO
Posted by krysrenee7
They were mentioning the irony in the fact that a woman who doesn't get mad at her man watching/lusting over a hot chick on a computer screen may very well be the very SAME woman would be offended/hurt/disrespected persay her man choose to "lust" over anyone else OUTSIDE of the computer screen.
if u watching alot of porn and u in a relationship then u need to get out of it, i dont see why people watch porn anyway, that shit head fucks people's minds, plus who wants to watch two people fuccing, kind of perverted to me
Posted by Pride of 0ctober
if u watching alot of porn and u in a relationship then u need to get out of it, i dont see why people watch porn anyway, that shit head fucks people's minds, plus who wants to watch two people fuccing, kind of perverted to me
I am not on board this love train.
Posted by wgamador2Posted by Jesse91
i'd rather watch spanish soap operas than porn lol you wouldn't believe the amount of hot women who get half naked on those shows lol american porn is especially trashy and vulgar. there's no real passion. it's not that different from watching two dogs fucking eachother in a grass field somewhere lol i don't like porn in general.
Man...thats kind of the point.
Its supposed to be vulgar for us guys.
Like when I watch porn with my woman, she is like, dont you have any classy porn.
Im like, why? are you going to write a fucking movie review on Rotten Tomatoes.com?
Im like, babe, it doesnt get any classier than a double-penetration scene. Think about it.
She does and then I fast-forward to the money-shot scene.
click to expand
Hahahahahahahaha
I don't know why people think p-angel is crazy. She makes so much sense.
Posted by BellatheBull
LOL! HA!
Nanny nanny boo boo,that thing gonna ruin your hoo hoo!!!!
😛
bwahahahahahaha
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5. Porn is fantasy land & yes it's filled with dirty little sluts who do things your own partner probably wouldn't do. BUT if that's the case, why not go get a partner who will OR try those same things with your own partner? Jacking off to a porn star won't make your own girlfriend get any better in bed! Instead of expecting some pornstar on a tv screen to uplift your sex life, why not put in the same work & "hand energy" to please/pleasure your own partner
In a nutshell, the article was calling out those who watch porn & asking, what does it really do for you? Why is it really necessary?
What's your take on porn? Seems like some of you don't care as long as it's not excessive, but like the article states, what's the big difference? Whether someone lusts for a woman on the screen once a week or 30 times a week, it's STILL your man/woman lusting over another person to the extreme!