Keep looking at my ex’s insta story...is that weird?
This topic was created in the Relationships forum by dannmann1992 on Sunday, June 10, 2018 and has 21 replies.
So I loved my ex very much and wanted to marry her. Stuff happened and we broke up. Well, she broke up with me. She came back 6 months later. I was really torn. We discussed things for almost 2 months and in one of our discussions about us she said something that really pissed me off to the point that it made me change my mind about us. I called her later that same day and told her she needed to move on.
So is it weird that I keep looking at her Insta story a few days after telling her to move on? I’ve been looking almost every day for a little over a week now.
For those who don’t know, if you view someone’s story it tells you who has viewed it-so she knows when I look. She posted something at 1 am last night and I checked it. I stopped looking then went back and looked at the rest of her story.
So is it weird to look?
So is it weird that I keep looking at her Insta story a few days after telling her to move on? I’ve been looking almost every day for a little over a week now.
For those who don’t know, if you view someone’s story it tells you who has viewed it-so she knows when I look. She posted something at 1 am last night and I checked it. I stopped looking then went back and looked at the rest of her story.
So is it weird to look?
Yes. Very.
Posted by exsqueezemeHow is it weird?Posted by LDM90
Yes. Very.
YAS. VARY. click to expandclick to expand
Are you connected on Instagram?
Posted by GuardianAnuYea
Are you connected on Instagram?
Posted by dannmann1992Then no, it's not weird. Just like being friends on facebook, the point is to see each other's posts.Posted by GuardianAnu
Are you connected on Instagram?
Yea click to expandclick to expand
Posted by GuardianAnuEh. I think it's pretty weird to tell someone to move on and then days later look at their stuff almost every day since telling them to move on.Posted by dannmann1992Posted by GuardianAnu
Are you connected on Instagram?
Yea click to expand
Then no, it's not weird. Just like being friends on facebook, the point is to see each other's posts. click to expandclick to expand
Posted by LDM90Just because you break up with someone and tell them to move on doesn't mean you aren't suddenly not curious about what they are doing, especially if that information is right there on your feed.Posted by GuardianAnuPosted by dannmann1992Posted by GuardianAnu
Are you connected on Instagram?
Yea click to expand
Then no, it's not weird. Just like being friends on facebook, the point is to see each other's posts. click to expand
Eh. I think it's pretty weird to tell someone to move on and then days later look at their stuff almost every day since telling them to move on. click to expandclick to expand
Perhaps it depends on the reasons he is looking. He might still have feelings he hasn't sorted out, which is common in break ups.
Posted by GuardianAnuI don't disagree with still being curious after a breakup, BUT it's a whole different ball game to tell someone to move on (implying that you have moved on) and looking almost DAILY. Looking that often is beyond curiosity. You just told someone to move on aka I don't care enough to keep you in my life but I care enough to see what you're up to almost daily? To me, that's more than curiosity.Posted by LDM90Posted by GuardianAnuPosted by dannmann1992Posted by GuardianAnu
Are you connected on Instagram?
Yea click to expand
Then no, it's not weird. Just like being friends on facebook, the point is to see each other's posts. click to expand
Eh. I think it's pretty weird to tell someone to move on and then days later look at their stuff almost every day since telling them to move on. click to expand
Just because you break up with someone and tell them to move on doesn't mean you aren't suddenly not curious about what they are doing, especially if that information is right there on your feed.
Perhaps it depends on the reasons he is looking. He might still have feelings he hasn't sorted out, which is common in break ups. click to expandclick to expand
She’s probably posting for your attention
Posted by pinkbird03She's been posting like she normally does so idk.
She’s probably posting for your attention
Posted by dannmann1992Hmm well you’re not the only guy who does this. My ex does too. Even after I told him it makes me think he still has feelings for me... you’d think that’d make him stop.... but back to u. Why do you look? HonestlyPosted by pinkbird03
She’s probably posting for your attention
She's been posting like she normally does so idk. click to expandclick to expand
Not weird but she's probably thinking you're playing games or something.
No its not weird at all..what i do think is weird is her saying ONE THING and that ending if FOREVER. Wtf couldve been that bad?
So if I view a story it let's the person know .
Good to know
Good to know
It's normal to be curious. However, it doesn't do you any good. If you carry on looking every day, especially a few seconds after she posted something, and/or at late hours, you come across as obsessed, stalkerish, passive aggressive and hypocritical (since you told her to move on, but you didn't do the same).
You should learn self control. SELFCONTROL!!!! This is actually one of the main features that women are looking for in a mate or even friend. It shows strength of character. You are failing at it pathetically. So stop!
You should learn self control. SELFCONTROL!!!! This is actually one of the main features that women are looking for in a mate or even friend. It shows strength of character. You are failing at it pathetically. So stop!
Posted by pinkbird03What did your ex say in response to it made it seem like he still had feelings for you?Posted by dannmann1992Posted by pinkbird03
She’s probably posting for your attention
She's been posting like she normally does so idk. click to expand
Hmm well you’re not the only guy who does this. My ex does too. Even after I told him it makes me think he still has feelings for me... you’d think that’d make him stop.... but back to u. Why do you look? Honestly click to expandclick to expand
Posted by LDM90Didn’t respond right away and changed the subject. I think we are both guilty of keeping each other on the hook so the other doesn’t fully move on. But I don’t know why we bother. There hasn’t been any progress relationshipwise.Posted by pinkbird03Posted by dannmann1992Posted by pinkbird03
She’s probably posting for your attention
She's been posting like she normally does so idk. click to expand
Hmm well you’re not the only guy who does this. My ex does too. Even after I told him it makes me think he still has feelings for me... you’d think that’d make him stop.... but back to u. Why do you look? Honestly click to expand
What did your ex say in response to it made it seem like he still had feelings for you? click to expandclick to expand
Its weird if you guys arent friends on IG. If you are, its not weird at all.
you are doing it because you can - because of the familiarity and attachment ... once you stop you will move on or vice versa but as long as you continue watching her stuff, the more those old feelings will stick around
gotta throw you hands in the air like you just don't care - cut the cord and come clean - cold turkey - whatever - just let it go man
gotta throw you hands in the air like you just don't care - cut the cord and come clean - cold turkey - whatever - just let it go man
Does Instagram tell every time someone has viewed or only once?
Like if someone looked repeatedly, does Instagram tell on them?
Asking for a friend.
Like if someone looked repeatedly, does Instagram tell on them?
Asking for a friend.
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