Ladies and Gents...

This topic was created in the Relationships forum by Caia on Wednesday, April 22, 2015 and has 18 replies.
Question.
Ladies: Have you ever been in a relationship with a man younger than you (I'm talking at least 10 yrs younger)? Would you do it again? Why?
Gents: Have you ever been in a relationship with a woman older than you (I'm talking at least 10 yrs older)? Would you do it again? Why?
Posted by Gemi9
Posted by Caia
Question.
Ladies: Have you ever been in a relationship with a man younger than you (I'm talking at least 10 yrs younger)? Would you do it again? Why?
Gents: Have you ever been in a relationship with a woman older than you (I'm talking at least 10 yrs older)? Would you do it again? Why?


Yeah. I was 28. We were in relationships for a long time. He was studying in a different city. Every time he came home I had visit and flowers etc. He ask if we can get married and I said when you are at least 25. I left the country. He left the country. I got married, he never did. He is still asking me if I will ever visit. I actually thinking if I was braver and married him I would have life everyone would envy. His parents were visiting me a few years ago. Mom told me he loved me like never again. I felt bad. Mom said she approves my husband. LOL
I am still thinking that maturity and age is a different thing. He was mature at 18 like no one I know. Maybe because he lived by himself since very early age. I would definitely do it again.

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Awww that sounds so heartbreaking. The poor pup.
At that age, you were most definitely his first love.
Did you ever feel like you were his mother? Or find yourself having to guide him through life?
Posted by Gemi9
One day I am definitely visiting him! I just have to come up with a good excuse for my husband to go Europe alone Winking


Just ditch the hubby and go to your soulmate. He sounds like a keeper.
I know how you feel about the whole cougar thing.
I'm currently being pursued by a man 10 yrs younger than me. He thought I was younger than him. His jaw literally dropped when I told him how old I really am.
Thank goodness he's a workaholic cos I really need time to figure this thing out without him being in my face 24/7.
We made out a little, he initiated and gawd almighty it was passionate. He's got pluto all over his venus and mars so that whole intensity thing freaked me out. I pulled away and literally disappeared. It was at a party.
He's started calling me baby and it's making me want to run for the hills. I'm fiercely independent and I don't know where this is going to go. I mean, I'm never getting married (I know that for sure) and kids are off the table.
I don't want him to lose out on life or waste his time. I can do a fling but with his moon in cap, I'm thinking fling is an alien word to him.
It wasn't a relationship. Nope. Millennials are assholes.
/getoffmylawn
In all my relationships always men are younger , maximum 12 years difference. Maturity is obviously not a date on a paper.
Posted by TeaMint
In all my relationships always men are younger , maximum 12 years difference. Maturity is obviously not a date on a paper.


True. But surely there are some pros and cons?
You sound experienced in this matter.
Care to share?
Posted by kissmygrits
It wasn't a relationship. Nope. Millennials are assholes.
/getoffmylawn


Not a good experience then? Ok.
I have a friend who is married to a man ten years younger than she is. They seem pretty happy. I suppose the age difference doesn't make as much impact when you're 50 and 40.
Also, my cousin married a woman ten years old than him. They have a really strong marriage. They were probably 45/35 when they got married.
Posted by starlover

I much prefer younger guys as lovers as i am very highly sexed, sensual and overly passionate but as for going the mile with them, no




LOL, that's what I was thinking.
When he kissed me the first thing that crossed my mind was, sex with this guy is gonna be off the charts.
I hope I get to cross that bridge with him.
Posted by truecap
I have a friend who is married to a man ten years younger than she is. They seem pretty happy. I suppose the age difference doesn't make as much impact when you're 50 and 40.
Also, my cousin married a woman ten years old than him. They have a really strong marriage. They were probably 45/35 when they got married.


I agree, the older you both are, the less impact the difference makes.
I should probably tell my guy to go forth, live and prosper.
Call me in 10 years.
Posted by dontgetmewrong
My girlfriend is seeing someone who is 23, she's 35. I don't know where it's gonna go, but they seem to be doing well. They're about a year into it now.


Wow. Ask her to share some tips!
Pros. Cons. How is she coping? smile
Just came across this article. Very interesting.
Younger Men Who Now Prefer Dating Older Women
The image is pretty hilarious though.
Posted by starlover
Caia, how old is the boy Tongue
What sign?


Ha! I can't reveal the boy's age without revealing mine as well.
All I'm willing to say is that he's way older than Gemi9's pup and old enough to know how to make a woman scream.
My instinct tells me there'll be some screaming involved.
Given the fact of my current age. I am still young if I do that.. hm lets see they would be a teen barely 21 must be over 21 seriously, hm but older than my brother who is 9 years apart from me.. and if I do go the opposite way.. way too stable may or may not want marriage and family life...so it depends currently I do 5 years max either way.
Posted by Gemi9
Posted by Caia
Posted by starlover
Caia, how old is the boy Tongue
What sign?


Ha! I can't reveal the boy's age without revealing mine as well.
All I'm willing to say is that he's way older than Gemi9's pup and old enough to know how to make a woman scream.
My instinct tells me there'll be some screaming involved.



Everyone sees by now that you are about to jump his bones!smile)
Do it already and report back! Good screaming to you both!!!
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I'm happy to report that I didn't have to jump his bones. He was way ahead of me on that one. smile
Hot doesn't even begin to describe how HOT it was. I don't think I've ever felt anyone desire me that much.
He was "pin me to the wall" aggressive. Like he hadn't had sex in like - I don't know - forever?!
Somehow we managed to have a serious conversation amidst all that.
Apparently he's looking for his one true love. He wants a wife, kids the whole nine yards.
So...as long as I'm not his one true love, this should all be a breeze for me.
Yikes. Fingers crossed.
Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
Given the fact of my current age. I am still young if I do that.. hm lets see they would be a teen barely 21 must be over 21 seriously, hm but older than my brother who is 9 years apart from me.. and if I do go the opposite way.. way too stable may or may not want marriage and family life...so it depends currently I do 5 years max either way.


Report back in 10 years.
Posted by dontgetmewrong
She says he's very mature for his age..that's the only reason why she is still with him. He likes older women, says girls his age are silly and don't know what they're looking for, or who they are, and they play too many games. Plus she looks great, so I'm sure that helps too! Lol. He's just an old soul.


This guy I'm kinda "seeing" seems like an old soul as well.
Posted by starlover
I was with a friend last night who told me her son who is 27 is seeing a lady who is 45, she has met her and says she is gorgeous. She said that when she borowed her sons car, she found a big box of condoms in there Tongue. He is very open with his mum and said they were having great fun together. The impression she gets is that it won't go anywhere because of the huge age gap
For anyone who enters this kind of rship,just be sure to be prepared to let the younger one go, especially if they are a virgin (been there, done that) and if they may want children and you don't




Wow. 18 years? Well at least he's reached his saturn return.
His mother might get the shock of her life if they actually go the distance.
Sometimes the younger ones aren't prepared to let go - but yeah, I get what you mean.