Posted by LadyNeptune
The answer is nowhere.
Men by nature are hunters and go after what they want. If he wanted you to be his wife, he would have proposed. If he wanted you to be his lady, he would have asked you.
Men go hard for what they truly want. If he is not going hard for you, you are not what he wants.
Posted by Scenic
The OP is a huge generalization and ignores many circumstances, such as financial issues, that may lead to holding off on proposals. Not to mention, men can be just as unsure. The questions in the OP are not ones that only women ask.
Posted by KsamCancer
Its 2015, yet bishes want to use chivalry when it benefits them
Posted by HeartPosted by AmaraPPosted by Heart
What? From what I notice today it's the opposite. Men are asleep at the wheel when it comes to showing their feelings. Most guys who've liked me didn't bother saying anything. . Apparently if you have a career and you're own money they think you don't need them. A lot of men treat themselves like banks and value themselves in a way that's flawed and superficial.
I've not had that happen to me. Ive had it the other way that men try and find out how much I earn, how much debt I have, do I own a home....These days men DO WANT a woman with money as they dont want to provide everything.
Well it depends what the person wants. But you have the husband who provides everything but offers no love or affection. You can have chivalry and equality, all it takes is a little balance.
That means if women should have money, then men need to get in tune with their feelings.click to expand
Posted by AmaraPPosted by Heart
What? From what I notice today it's the opposite. Men are asleep at the wheel when it comes to showing their feelings. Most guys who've liked me didn't bother saying anything. . Apparently if you have a career and you're own money they think you don't need them. A lot of men treat themselves like banks and value themselves in a way that's flawed and superficial.
I've not had that happen to me. Ive had it the other way that men try and find out how much I earn, how much debt I have, do I own a home....These days men DO WANT a woman with money as they dont want to provide everything.click to expand
Posted by AmaraPPosted by Infinite8Posted by AmaraPPosted by Heart
What? From what I notice today it's the opposite. Men are asleep at the wheel when it comes to showing their feelings. Most guys who've liked me didn't bother saying anything. . Apparently if you have a career and you're own money they think you don't need them. A lot of men treat themselves like banks and value themselves in a way that's flawed and superficial.
I've not had that happen to me. Ive had it the other way that men try and find out how much I earn, how much debt I have, do I own a home....These days men DO WANT a woman with money as they dont want to provide everything.
Wow... How unromantic.
I shit you not!
One of them I met online, in our first phone call before we met, he asked if I owned a house.
The next one asked how much I earned and if I had any debt...all within a couple of dates. And he was a Pisces who are not supposed to care about material things. The Pisces guy i realized was atrocious with money and spent every cent he earned which is why he couldnt afford his own condo. So he is going to need a woman who earns money as he could barely support himself.click to expand
Posted by LillyPetal
^^^
I'm referring to the bit about asking. It may seem crass, but it's logical to me.
Posted by AmaraPPosted by LillyPetal
^^^
I'm referring to the bit about asking. It may seem crass, but it's logical to me.
Sure but in a call before you've even met yet? Ask if someone owns a house?click to expand
Posted by LillyPetal
*since HE opened the door...
Posted by AmaraPPosted by LillyPetal
*since HE opened the door...
You're mixing the guys up. He wasnt in bad financial situation and nor was I.
The next one was.
Owning a house doesnt indicate how much money you have. You may own a house but owe $ 250,000 on a mortgage and be struggling to pay it.click to expand
Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by Scenic
The OP is a huge generalization and ignores many circumstances, such as financial issues, that may lead to holding off on proposals. Not to mention, men can be just as unsure. The questions in the OP are not ones that only women ask.
Look. Sigh. It's not about a proposal or the social status of a ring.
My point is that a man, a real man mind you not an insecure boy, will make it known to you that he's interested. He will make his presence known to you and will let you know just how important you are in his life.
Tired of every other topic on here being about women chasing after guys that just aren't that into them.
*end rant space.click to expand
Posted by LadyNeptune
Look @scenic I can say whatever I damn well please. Dis is my topic.
Posted by DatariesgirlPosted by GobshitePosted by cheekyfaerie
I get the sentiment. Every relationship is different, but some things should be in the same ball park. If it's a healthy one, both parties should feel secure. In that, if you have to wonder or worry, there's almost definitely a problem.
Yes, it all boils down to insecurities (with a dash of selfishness thrown in).
True...click to expand
Posted by jeane
sometimes the question has to be asked though. i'm not sure op's opposition is to women who chase or women who ask. i see nothing wrong with asking after an appropriate amount of time has passed. sometimes it is useful to ask to make sure you're on the same page. if you're interested in eventually getting married and having children and he isn't, isn't it better to ask? the alternative is assuming, getting years down the road only to find out they had a different idea.
the ideal situation is that it doesn't have to blatantly prodded out of the person but it is learnt through the natural course of getting to know someone.
Posted by LadyNeptune
The answer is nowhere.
Men by nature are hunters and go after what they want. If he wanted you to be his wife, he would have proposed. If he wanted you to be his lady, he would have asked you.
Men go hard for what they truly want. If he is not going hard for you, you are not what he wants.
Posted by jeane
i see nothing wrong with asking after an appropriate amount of time has passed.
sometimes it is useful to ask to make sure you're on the same page.
if you're interested in eventually getting married and having children and he isn't, isn't it better to ask?
Posted by LetltBPosted by jeane
i see nothing wrong with asking after an appropriate amount of time has passed.
sometimes it is useful to ask to make sure you're on the same page.
if you're interested in eventually getting married and having children and he isn't, isn't it better to ask?
The point of the thread (and OP correct me if I'm mistaken), is you wouldn't need to ask, because it's been communicated (key word) the guy's intention.
"appropriate amount of time" = EXPECTATION & DEMAND. A real man who really wants you will not allow you to get to that point...IF he wants you.click to expand
Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by LetltBPosted by jeane
i see nothing wrong with asking after an appropriate amount of time has passed.
sometimes it is useful to ask to make sure you're on the same page.
if you're interested in eventually getting married and having children and he isn't, isn't it better to ask?
The point of the thread (and OP correct me if I'm mistaken), is you wouldn't need to ask, because it's been communicated (key word) the guy's intention.
"appropriate amount of time" = EXPECTATION & DEMAND. A real man who really wants you will not allow you to get to that point...IF he wants you.
Irregardless of who does the asking, my point here is that you would know that your dude is feeling you because of how he treats you/what he says etc.
You'd be in no doubt of his intentions because he is eager to lock you down and make you his. If your left wondering, "what are we?" than his interest is fleeting or you are simply a side chick.click to expand
Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by LetltBPosted by jeane
i see nothing wrong with asking after an appropriate amount of time has passed.
sometimes it is useful to ask to make sure you're on the same page.
if you're interested in eventually getting married and having children and he isn't, isn't it better to ask?
The point of the thread (and OP correct me if I'm mistaken), is you wouldn't need to ask, because it's been communicated (key word) the guy's intention.
"appropriate amount of time" = EXPECTATION & DEMAND. A real man who really wants you will not allow you to get to that point...IF he wants you.
Irregardless of who does the asking, my point here is that you would know that your dude is feeling you because of how he treats you/what he says etc.
You'd be in no doubt of his intentions because he is eager to lock you down and make you his. If your left wondering, "what are we?" than his interest is fleeting or you are simply a side chick.click to expand
Posted by duchesslibro
I will say that I think it's completely acceptable for either party to be unsure of things in the early days of dating. Only fools are 100% certain 100% of the time. Questioning is normal and healthy and important.