LDR what is the point?

This topic was created in the Relationships forum by pisceswoman123 on Friday, November 3, 2017 and has 24 replies.
I noticed in here that it is so many people that are or have been on long distance relationships.

I had tried once when I moved to another country and I couldn’t do it. I found it super difficult.

I suppose I am just curious about it.

Can you tell me what you get from it?

Isn’t it better to be with someone that you can kiss and hug? 😊
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Posted by nano
You get space and time away from each other.


It tests your compatibility, patience, and the strength of the relationship.


You get to travel to see each other and show each other new and exciting things.


It makes you cherish the time you do have together, rather than taking for granted seeing each other every day.


Airport reunions.


Opening your mind to different cultures.


There are a lot of pros.
This I can understand. You have been together, you love each other. If you are going away for a while to travel and you are coming back. It is a matter of time and you see each other every now and then. No easy but it can work.

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Posted by GeminiGirl052388
I guess it all depends on your personality and what matters to you the most in a relationship. For me, I do long distance because I dont want things to get physical immediately. I prefer knowing the guy's personality very very well first. I'd like him to make an effort in communication. I'd like him to find ways to keep me despite the distance. I know that when I see the person face to face, it can get physical pretty quickly. I know myself. So to avoid that... hence, long distance works for me.
This is very interesting for me.


I suppose I am completely the opposite.


I will need the person next to me to see if I have a connection. Otherwise for me is a friendship.
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Posted by Aznnation
Real emotional connection
Is that enough?
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Posted by Senorita_LL
OMG! You will never know until you're in one.


You've come to realize, you will value the times you spend with one another, way better than those short distance rs you've had.


Even with communication wise, you communicate a lot more! It's amazing when 2 hearts are so connected despite the distance.


That's my take for LDR.


I follow you history and it seems really nice. I just... I don’t know. I suppose I need to know the person in person first 😊


I can imagine it to be like a crush on a famous person but they talk to you? It sounds silly but that’s the only way I can imagine how you feel 😂

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Posted by Senorita_LL
The best part of it all, those trips you gonna do!


Damn, reminds me of mine, which I just did. Singapore-Japan-Atlanta-Sarasota.


Imagine those anxiety, I've had, the moment I land in Sarasota and saw him sitting there waving at me. Gah!


Hello Gemini, I'm your Sag. That's what his face kinda tells me.Laughing
Sweet!


I can imagine...

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Posted by GeminiGirl052388
I guess it all depends on your personality and what matters to you the most in a relationship. For me, I do long distance because I dont want things to get physical immediately. I prefer knowing the guy's personality very very well first. I'd like him to make an effort in communication. I'd like him to find ways to keep me despite the distance. I know that when I see the person face to face, it can get physical pretty quickly. I know myself. So to avoid that... hence, long distance works for me.
This is very interesting for me.


I suppose I am completely the opposite.


I will need the person next to me to see if I have a connection. Otherwise for me is a friendship.
As a gemini, friendship and communication is the main foundation of any relationship I have. Much more than physical. Hahaha! Weird I know. But it is true that for gems (i think men and women), the best way to our heart is through the brain. Excellent communication is the start. We fall inlove with the wit and we forget everythingelse.
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Yes actually I learned that about gemini here. Very interesting... 😊


I have gemini friends but I never noticed that.
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Posted by Aznnation
Posted by pisceswoman123
Posted by Aznnation
Real emotional connection
Is that enough?
Yeah, cause its harder to find someone you can connect to on a emotional level or maybe i have high standards idk
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But that is what I found interesting. I get that you can get the emotional connection but what about the rest? I think it wouldn’t be enough. I think been near your love one is so important. I think I will feel physical pain not being next to him.

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Posted by nano
You get space and time away from each other.


It tests your compatibility, patience, and the strength of the relationship.


You get to travel to see each other and show each other new and exciting things.


It makes you cherish the time you do have together, rather than taking for granted seeing each other every day.


Airport reunions.


Opening your mind to different cultures.


There are a lot of pros.
I agree to that 100% , you also learn how to trust and how to communicate as well. I think that in a LDR you have a better understanding of one another and also a deeper emotional connection
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I get that. I used to enjoy when my partner had to travel for work. Once he had to be away for 6 months on and off. You miss each other, when you talk to each other is so lovely and when you meet again you love each other so much. The love seams stronge.


But for a really long time, without seeing each other much? Like I read in one post 3 times in years?
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probably for people with very low sex libido.
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I did it for three years. At that point we had been together for three years. For us it was super difficult. You've limited time together. You end missing things that are happening with the other. And I'm not even talking about the big things - I missed my ex phd thesis presentation for which I had helped a lot and even pushed her to do it. I'm talking that small day to day things that make you a couple. It's certainly possible but there are a few caveats. You need a plan, a future, a time frame, a goal. Because the longer you do it the more you fall for that person and the more you want to be with together. And I know there's some very independent people around but in the end of the day we all want to care for someone. If you have the ability to travel easily, the flexibility to see the other when you want!
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Posted by pisceswoman123
Posted by Rozaeon
Posted by nano
You get space and time away from each other.


It tests your compatibility, patience, and the strength of the relationship.


You get to travel to see each other and show each other new and exciting things.


It makes you cherish the time you do have together, rather than taking for granted seeing each other every day.


Airport reunions.


Opening your mind to different cultures.


There are a lot of pros.
I agree to that 100% , you also learn how to trust and how to communicate as well. I think that in a LDR you have a better understanding of one another and also a deeper emotional connection
I get that. I used to enjoy when my partner had to travel for work. Once he had to be away for 6 months on and off. You miss each other, when you talk to each other is so lovely and when you meet again you love each other so much. The love seams stronge.


But for a really long time, without seeing each other much? Like I read in one post 3 times in years?
Why it sounds like an issue to you ? ( to better understand your point of view )
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I guess I just feel for me is very important to see each other, the contact, to feel close to him.


It is a personal thing. I am a touchy person but only with my partner, otherwise I am quite distant, so without being able to be near I will feel very lonely.
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Posted by AerialView
probably for people with very low sex libido.
Lol. Definitely!
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Posted by pisceswoman123
Posted by Aznnation
Real emotional connection
Is that enough?
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Well. My relationship with my current partner started same way. 180 miles distance. It was good it happened this way. Haven't met each other one month or so in person but knew a lot about each other. The point is, you haven't met the person but you already have connection. It's good thing,because you focus on personality at the first place not only visual things attractive.

We went through difficult things in order to be together and it gives proper test for the relationship how you both stick. We moved together eventually, and I may say there were many female who pursuing quick dates before her but for me is important some level of connection so I mostly refused all these invitations.

What is really important is the timing and both of your needs for move step further. If it stands too long it rather damaging.
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Posted by Sheever
Posted by pisceswoman123
Posted by Aznnation
Real emotional connection
Is that enough?
Well. My relationship with my current partner started same way. 180 miles distance. It was good it happened this way. Haven't met each other one month or so in person but knew a lot about each other. The point is, you haven't met the person but you already have connection. It's good thing,because you focus on personality at the first place not only visual things attractive.

We went through difficult things in order to be together and it gives proper test for the relationship how you both stick. We moved together eventually, and I may say there were many female who pursuing quick dates before her but for me is important some level of connection so I mostly refused all these invitations.

What is really important is the timing and both of your needs for move step further. If it stands too long it rather damaging.
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Yes, I suppose you have to be ready to take the next step. Be open to the possibilities and go for it.

Really I can not relate to it at all. Every relationship I had I meet the guy in person, connected and when from there.

For me is important to be close. I think I could get a crush, but starting a relationship just from that? Umm, I don’t know. I think your article explains it for me 😂

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Did it once.

Never again.

No more than a 45 minute compute.
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Posted by pisceswoman123
I noticed in here that it is so many people that are or have been on long distance relationships.

I had tried once when I moved to another country and I couldn’t do it. I found it super difficult.

I suppose I am just curious about it.

Can you tell me what you get from it?

Isn’t it better to be with someone that you can kiss and hug? 😊
Ok love. My father was a merchant marine who was over seas for 6-9 months in one year..

Back then there were no communications unless they come to the port and post office is open and he could sent one telegram and we would get it and my mom was happy af!

That's how I am surviving my relationships right now though we are an hour apart.


It is possible. Depends on what you want and how much you want it.


God bless and good luck.❤️
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Posted by pisceswoman123
I noticed in here that it is so many people that are or have been on long distance relationships.

I had tried once when I moved to another country and I couldn’t do it. I found it super difficult.

I suppose I am just curious about it.

Can you tell me what you get from it?

Isn’t it better to be with someone that you can kiss and hug? 😊
Ok love. My father was a merchant marine who was over seas for 6-9 months in one year..

Back then there were no communications unless they come to the port and post office is open and he could sent one telegram and we would get it and my mom was happy af!

That's how I am surviving my relationships right now though we are an hour apart.


It is possible. Depends on what you want and how much you want it.


God bless and good luck.❤️
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Oh, I know is possible and I admire your mom for that.

I am just surprised that some people choose to do it from the beginning knowing how hard it can be. No judgment at all, I am just curious 😊

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Posted by Harukka

Its hard to do it..

Really hard, you just wanna someone to touch their faces and kiss them.

But if you love them before that for what they really are, it will be a perfect dream come true.



-I remember that woman from Seattle, she thought that person her real love, but he just kill her in their first date, so watch out babes. 💔😔
But in a way you prove my point... how can you know for sure before being with them. I feel I can only completely read a person when I am next to them. I trust that feeling more than anything.


Just think about that poor woman believing that he was the one...
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Posted by Aznnation
Posted by pisceswoman123
Posted by Aznnation
Posted by pisceswoman123
Posted by Aznnation
Real emotional connection
Is that enough?
Yeah, cause its harder to find someone you can connect to on a emotional level or maybe i have high standards idk
But that is what I found interesting. I get that you can get the emotional connection but what about the rest? I think it wouldn’t be enough. I think been near your love one is so important. I think I will feel physical pain not being next to him.



I dont know about you but i can compartmentalize sex and love so my primal needs would be met. About being closer i think the point of LDR is you met someone you like and LDR is the only choice and both work towards becoming lesser LDR.

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That is the thing, my primal needs wouldn’t be met, I need the contact 😊

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Thank you so much for all the answers! I understand all your different points of view. Very interesting.

I love that we are all so different 😄
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Had one once and it went well, but I still broke it off. I simply don't see the point of them unless there is an end goal.
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Posted by AerialView
probably for people with very low sex libido.
Or people who don't consider sex the be all and end all.
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Posted by Harukka

Its hard to do it..

Really hard, you just wanna someone to touch their faces and kiss them.

But if you love them before that for what they really are, it will be a perfect dream come true.



-I remember that woman from Seattle, she thought that person her real love, but he just kill her in their first date, so watch out babes. 💔😔
Ok what.


From Seattle as in me?
No .I don't know where are u from ?


I was talking about this case:



John Charlton - 28 December 1978


Cap sun, Sag moon, Cap Mars, Scorpio Venus


Ingrid Lyne - 2 August 1975


Leo sun, Gemini moon, Taurus Mars, Virgo Venus


At the time of his arrest, John Charlton was a homeless day laborer. He had a criminal record in six states, including convictions for aggravated robbery, felony theft, grand theft auto, assault, and third-degree larceny.


Leo women and their lousy taste in men...

Oh my god .. opposite moon sign 😢💔


Leo woman can be very naive .. but I wonder why would he kill her? I mean she just wanna be loved, it is just make no sense to me :/


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I don’t think we could ever understand the mind state of someone like that. So sad.
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