long distance relationship Scorpio&Gemini-Cancer?
This topic was created in the Relationships forum by admill77 on Friday, July 12, 2013 and has 15 replies.
Okay so I really need some help and for someone to tell me I am in fact NOT CRAZY..
I met this guy at a music festival and we really hit it off he is a Gemini-Cancer cusp and I am a Scorpio he was super interested in having deep conversations with me and really getting to know me. After the festival was over we exchanged numbers and planned on keeping in touch we were talking everyday and he even planned to come visit me
then he informed me that he couldn't come anymore because of his job but would try to figure out a way to see me so I suggested me visiting him and he was really excited about it. Lately though he hasn't tried texting me and when I text him he'll reply once or twice and then I won't hear from him after that... he has told me that he gets really busy and isn't very good with texting. When we talk on the phone he seems like he really wants to talk to me and is excited for me to still come and visit. Honestly I'm not exactly sure what is going to come out of me going out there... he lives 9 hours away. Basically I want to know if you think that a Gemini-Cancer cusp is capable of something long distance and if you think it is crazy to travel 9 hours to see someone I met once for 5 days?
I met this guy at a music festival and we really hit it off he is a Gemini-Cancer cusp and I am a Scorpio he was super interested in having deep conversations with me and really getting to know me. After the festival was over we exchanged numbers and planned on keeping in touch we were talking everyday and he even planned to come visit me
then he informed me that he couldn't come anymore because of his job but would try to figure out a way to see me so I suggested me visiting him and he was really excited about it. Lately though he hasn't tried texting me and when I text him he'll reply once or twice and then I won't hear from him after that... he has told me that he gets really busy and isn't very good with texting. When we talk on the phone he seems like he really wants to talk to me and is excited for me to still come and visit. Honestly I'm not exactly sure what is going to come out of me going out there... he lives 9 hours away. Basically I want to know if you think that a Gemini-Cancer cusp is capable of something long distance and if you think it is crazy to travel 9 hours to see someone I met once for 5 days?
If you don't mind me asking, how old is he?
He just turned 20
Trying to figure out the nicest way to say this. I haven't yet, so I'll leave this alone....
Good luck.
Good luck.
I'm a gemini-cancer, not in early 20s like your gemini-cancer guy though, I guess I still can give my two cents?
When I was 20... well, never really took myself seriously nor any relationships... it was all about fun, fun, fun - having more fun. I had some great romances which led to long distance, but never expected them to last nor planned to pursue them, because:
1) with most guys whom I had long distance relationships with, I had spent rather short time together with them, like, from one month to a half year to max 2) I was too young - back then, romance comes and goes quickly and quite easily - so many things can happen in a very short period of time 3) being young again, meant that I had lots of other things going on - school, future plans, friends, self searching, etc. Romance was just a part of those many things I went through & experienced, not my top priority back then.
Personally, I wouldn't invest too much in someone who I only spent five days, especially when myself being 20-year-old... but like I wrote right up there, 'personally'... it could be a different story with you and your guy.
Just my two cents. Hope you find this helpful!
When I was 20... well, never really took myself seriously nor any relationships... it was all about fun, fun, fun - having more fun. I had some great romances which led to long distance, but never expected them to last nor planned to pursue them, because:
1) with most guys whom I had long distance relationships with, I had spent rather short time together with them, like, from one month to a half year to max 2) I was too young - back then, romance comes and goes quickly and quite easily - so many things can happen in a very short period of time 3) being young again, meant that I had lots of other things going on - school, future plans, friends, self searching, etc. Romance was just a part of those many things I went through & experienced, not my top priority back then.
Personally, I wouldn't invest too much in someone who I only spent five days, especially when myself being 20-year-old... but like I wrote right up there, 'personally'... it could be a different story with you and your guy.
Just my two cents. Hope you find this helpful!
yeah no that was really helpful and makes a lot of sense, but even if it wouldn't work long term do you think I'm crazy for going and visiting?
No, I wouldn't think it's crazy nor are you. I think I would've done the same if I were 20 again and in the same situation lol
My motto is - it's better to regret you did than regret not doing it. After all, I was young back then and I just did things... guess it's a part of 'being young.' Done some crazy stuff or things one would not really go for once they get older...
But then I don't know, you are not me, I am not you - you do what you feel/think right, I don't see a problem with that personally. Do whichever makes you happy!
My motto is - it's better to regret you did than regret not doing it. After all, I was young back then and I just did things... guess it's a part of 'being young.'
Done some crazy stuff or things one would not really go for once they get older...But then I don't know, you are not me, I am not you - you do what you feel/think right, I don't see a problem with that personally. Do whichever makes you happy!
I didn't meet him 5 days ago we saw each other for 5 days then have been talking pretty much everyday for almost 2 months now and he was still wanting to try and find a way to come visit me but I suggested me visit because it would have been easier because of space and roommate issues here
And thank you xxixxi for the advice I'll definitely remember just to have fun with it and just roll with then punches
And thank you xxixxi for the advice I'll definitely remember just to have fun with it and just roll with then punches
I might have sounded self contradictory up there lol - I would just do things, but then would not invest much emotionally... yes, I'd just have fun, not expecting too much out of it. Of course it could fireback - sometimes you can't really control things happening to you, like, you decide not to get involved too much when you jump in, but end up just so :/
I don't know, for me, that was another fun, another kind of experience & lesson learnt, however, things could be different for different people. I'm adding this just in case that you OP follows my advice and ends up getting hurt too much to overcome - OP you (should) know what's for you and not well & better than me, I believe I just shared my thoughts - for me, when I was young, it was all about trial and errors, learning from mistakes I made lol and done some crazy stuff... which I laugh at now, looking back but some people learn and work things out differently from me!
Anyways, good luck to you OP whether you fly over to your guy or wait out more on him to see how things go.
I don't know, for me, that was another fun, another kind of experience & lesson learnt, however, things could be different for different people. I'm adding this just in case that you OP follows my advice and ends up getting hurt too much to overcome - OP you (should) know what's for you and not well & better than me, I believe
I just shared my thoughts - for me, when I was young, it was all about trial and errors, learning from mistakes I made lol and done some crazy stuff... which I laugh at now, looking back but some people learn and work things out differently from me!Anyways, good luck to you OP whether you fly over to your guy or wait out more on him to see how things go.
backfire* lol
Excuse me, English is not my mother tongue lol
Excuse me, English is not my mother tongue lol
Posted by admill77
He just turned 20
Hmmm.... I would suggest just giving him his space for now. Carry on with your life as usual...
Don't EXPECT anything. If he calls/texts, then great. But, for now, I would allow sleeping dogs to rest a bit.
The distance, air sign, no strong foundation created, and he's fairly young... Not saying he wont come around. But I would not wait for it. Just live your life and if he wants to be included, then great. But keep it moving for now.
Posted by PhoenixRising
Trying to figure out the nicest way to say this. I haven't yet, so I'll leave this alone....
Good luck.
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Posted by xxixxi
I'm a gemini-cancer, not in early 20s like your gemini-cancer guy though, I guess I still can give my two cents?
When I was 20... well, never really took myself seriously nor any relationships... it was all about fun, fun, fun - having more fun. I had some great romances which led to long distance, but never expected them to last nor planned to pursue them, because:
1) with most guys whom I had long distance relationships with, I had spent rather short time together with them, like, from one month to a half year to max 2) I was too young - back then, romance comes and goes quickly and quite easily - so many things can happen in a very short period of time 3) being young again, meant that I had lots of other things going on - school, future plans, friends, self searching, etc. Romance was just a part of those many things I went through & experienced, not my top priority back then.
Personally, I wouldn't invest too much in someone who I only spent five days, especially when myself being 20-year-old... but like I wrote right up there, 'personally'... it could be a different story with you and your guy.
Just my two cents. Hope you find this helpful!
+1
Thanks for the advice natural25
Youre welcome!
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