Posted by CaploveThe woman left and the guy claims he is scarred because she left and he is upset. He said they never talked about marriage and was just in a relationship
That's a long time! Did she want to get married? Was that the plan she had in mind?
Posted by RooSagicornYeah they lived together with 2 kids
16 years? I sure hope they lived together! Then you should have some rights. Depends on where though.. some states you are common law after a few years.
My ex-husband is in a 4 yr relationship & they still don’t live together. He told our daughter he’s never getting married again... so she puts up with it? So he does it. We were living together after 1 1/2 years, married at 3 1/2 years.. so he does have it in him. And 2 kids.
Posted by Scorpiogirl30I totally agree with you! My father always taught me that men know what they want when they see it but will happily drag their feet until something better comes along. He married my mother after a year and told me not to "date" a man for longer than 2 years. If you still want to see him thats fine but start dating others also and no longer make him a priority.
I have a question about a topic that caught my attention. Why do men stay in long term relationships with no plans to marry? I mean I’m hearing about 16 year relationships just breaking up and the woman are expected to move on like nothing happened and is owed nothing! I don’t know if sounds crazy to me I don’t believe a relationship should go pass two years without marriage being a option some woman claim to be cool with it since the relationship is going so well why complicate it but I just can’t believe anybody could be happy in a 6 year relationship with no future plans and I crazy or is this normal?
Posted by ImpulsvWell I hope who ever you date you let them know up front because what you label a piece of paper is something that makes the relationship honorable there is no future without marriage your would just be dating then break up without nothing to show for it but waisted yearsPosted by Scorpiogirl30
I have a question about a topic that caught my attention. Why do men stay in long term relationships with no plans to marry? I mean I’m hearing about 16 year relationships just breaking up and the woman are expected to move on like nothing happened and is owed nothing! I don’t know if sounds crazy to me I don’t believe a relationship should go pass two years without marriage being a option some woman claim to be cool with it since the relationship is going so well why complicate it but I just can’t believe anybody could be happy in a 6 year relationship with no future plans and I crazy or is this normal?
A piece of paper doesn’t mean anything you could get a divorce after 16 years. Some people don’t want kids I see the only reason to marry us to provide a family for kids otherwise if you’re in a monogamous relationship you are making a future together just without the paperclick to expand
Posted by Cancer LadyPosted by Scorpiogirl30I totally agree with you! My father always taught me that men know what they want when they see it but will happily drag their feet until something better comes along. He married my mother after a year and told me not to "date" a man for longer than 2 years. If you still want to see him thats fine but start dating others also and no longer make him a priority.
I have a question about a topic that caught my attention. Why do men stay in long term relationships with no plans to marry? I mean I’m hearing about 16 year relationships just breaking up and the woman are expected to move on like nothing happened and is owed nothing! I don’t know if sounds crazy to me I don’t believe a relationship should go pass two years without marriage being a option some woman claim to be cool with it since the relationship is going so well why complicate it but I just can’t believe anybody could be happy in a 6 year relationship with no future plans and I crazy or is this normal?
I evaluate my relationships like companies evaluate their employees lol. Every quarter/3 months I assess my relationship. Is it progressing, do the good still out weight the bad, is his actions matching his words. etc. If the relationship is still going good then I keep going. If I start to feel something is off, then I talk with the guy and make sure we're on common ground before moving forward.click to expand
Posted by C69Do you believe in GOD?
nothing much happens after marriage, so from that point of view why bother
but that’s just my opinion, I have never been married and I’m kinda programmed into thinking that it’s just a paper and a new ring
Posted by C69Posted by Scorpiogirl30I’m a weak agnostic, so it’s more yes than noPosted by C69Do you believe in GOD?
nothing much happens after marriage, so from that point of view why bother
but that’s just my opinion, I have never been married and I’m kinda programmed into thinking that it’s just a paper and a new ring
but I don’t practice any kind of rituals, I’m just not
No I completely understand but marriage is definely not just a piece of paper it’s a more like a merging of souls so to speak you become one with your husband I’ve been married before and going through a divorce but I still believe in marriage and understand that it takes a lot of work the devil hates marriage so he tries to break it up god has to be in the center of your marriage for it to last that’s the mistake I Made and also forgetting who the enemy isclick to expand
Posted by JanMayMarry
I've always believe it ain't right to stay together before marriage because it defeats the purpose. Men will think there's no need for marriage since they getting the same deal.
Personally, I want to be married again. I feel more secure knowing that the man I am with, is my rightfully husband than to just be sleeping with a stranger.
I've been there. Hanging on in a 5 years relationship that has no goals. Won't do that ever again! Urghh
I feel the same I would love to be married again marriage is not the problem but to wait around I haven’t experienced that I was married after 1 year together it’s just natural when you find some who provides that sercurity I could never understand people who say it’s just a piece of paper
Posted by ImpulsvSorry for your lost but I don’t feel the same why nothing holds a relationship together but God what is meant to be will be but I refused to reduce something so special to a piece of paper nothing is promised but I feel better going through it with someone who has the same values as me just dating will never be enough for me but to each it’s ownPosted by Scorpiogirl30Posted by ImpulsvWell I hope who ever you date you let them know up front because what you label a piece of paper is something that makes the relationship honorable there is no future without marriage your would just be dating then break up without nothing to show for it but waisted yearsPosted by Scorpiogirl30
I have a question about a topic that caught my attention. Why do men stay in long term relationships with no plans to marry? I mean I’m hearing about 16 year relationships just breaking up and the woman are expected to move on like nothing happened and is owed nothing! I don’t know if sounds crazy to me I don’t believe a relationship should go pass two years without marriage being a option some woman claim to be cool with it since the relationship is going so well why complicate it but I just can’t believe anybody could be happy in a 6 year relationship with no future plans and I crazy or is this normal?
A piece of paper doesn’t mean anything you could get a divorce after 16 years. Some people don’t want kids I see the only reason to marry us to provide a family for kids otherwise if you’re in a monogamous relationship you are making a future together just without the paper
Keep thinking that
Marriage some savior of a realationship
Mmmm was married n wow it’s was honorable
Still no future after divorce n would you say wasted time?? Oh it makes it better because I got money from ex?? If that’s what u mean
Now if u want marriage go for it
I say experience it at least one
But it ain’t no magic pill that keeps a relationship intactclick to expand
Posted by ImpulsvI never knocked anyone down I’m just saying for me it makes no sense to lead another person on if you don’t believe in marriage nothing is strong if it’s not took before God but if you don’t believe in God then I can see how you came to that conclusionPosted by RooSagicornPosted by Scorpiogirl30Well they spent a life together, she should get whatever she deserves however it all depends on the partner. I know people who got screwed even when they were married. I also know people who chose to never get married and just live together for a lifetime.Posted by RooSagicornYeah they lived together with 2 kids
16 years? I sure hope they lived together! Then you should have some rights. Depends on where though.. some states you are common law after a few years.
My ex-husband is in a 4 yr relationship & they still don’t live together. He told our daughter he’s never getting married again... so she puts up with it? So he does it. We were living together after 1 1/2 years, married at 3 1/2 years.. so he does have it in him. And 2 kids.
But you should always take care of yourself, you never know what’ll happen in life..
This if u want marriage well don’t fool yourself with someone who doesn’t .
But don’t knockdown someone else’s relationship because it has no paper
I’ve seen them stronger n more real that those who claim marriage n stay just for financial reasonsclick to expand
Posted by Scorpiogirl30But isn’t god everywhere, always?Posted by ImpulsvI never knocked anyone down I’m just saying for me it makes no sense to lead another person on if you don’t believe in marriage nothing is strong if it’s not took before God but if you don’t believe in God then I can see how you came to that conclusionPosted by RooSagicornPosted by Scorpiogirl30Well they spent a life together, she should get whatever she deserves however it all depends on the partner. I know people who got screwed even when they were married. I also know people who chose to never get married and just live together for a lifetime.Posted by RooSagicornYeah they lived together with 2 kids
16 years? I sure hope they lived together! Then you should have some rights. Depends on where though.. some states you are common law after a few years.
My ex-husband is in a 4 yr relationship & they still don’t live together. He told our daughter he’s never getting married again... so she puts up with it? So he does it. We were living together after 1 1/2 years, married at 3 1/2 years.. so he does have it in him. And 2 kids.
But you should always take care of yourself, you never know what’ll happen in life..
This if u want marriage well don’t fool yourself with someone who doesn’t .
But don’t knockdown someone else’s relationship because it has no paper
I’ve seen them stronger n more real that those who claim marriage n stay just for financial reasonsclick to expand
Posted by ImpulsvGood marriage is not overrated!
Rights lo
I don’t need to weasel money out of a ex from divorce I have my own goddamn money. So the paper means nothing to me. Plus I’ve been married so I know how overrated that is
Posted by LadyNeptuneI’m not going to debate if you don’t believe findPosted by Scorpiogirl30But isn’t god everywhere, always?Posted by ImpulsvI never knocked anyone down I’m just saying for me it makes no sense to lead another person on if you don’t believe in marriage nothing is strong if it’s not took before God but if you don’t believe in God then I can see how you came to that conclusionPosted by RooSagicornPosted by Scorpiogirl30Well they spent a life together, she should get whatever she deserves however it all depends on the partner. I know people who got screwed even when they were married. I also know people who chose to never get married and just live together for a lifetime.Posted by RooSagicornYeah they lived together with 2 kids
16 years? I sure hope they lived together! Then you should have some rights. Depends on where though.. some states you are common law after a few years.
My ex-husband is in a 4 yr relationship & they still don’t live together. He told our daughter he’s never getting married again... so she puts up with it? So he does it. We were living together after 1 1/2 years, married at 3 1/2 years.. so he does have it in him. And 2 kids.
But you should always take care of yourself, you never know what’ll happen in life..
This if u want marriage well don’t fool yourself with someone who doesn’t .
But don’t knockdown someone else’s relationship because it has no paper
I’ve seen them stronger n more real that those who claim marriage n stay just for financial reasons
I don’t see how making a commitment in a church changes anything...click to expand
Posted by tiziani
As for the OP question, I felt like it's all in the approach.
At the beginning of the relationship, clear stated goals = refreshing, respectable no matter what the values are.
On the other hand if the goal is to hang and spend quality time together that is just as good. But if it starts being reduced to arbitrary milestones along the way, and gradually the goalposts get shifted more and more, I feel like there is a part of me that fundamentally wants to deny that woman what she is angling for in that situation.
TLDR - it goes better if both people know and share clearly what they want from the start.
Never said to measure milestone but no one can convince me that staying in a 2+ year relationship with no type of marriage talk is normal but I agree to disagree
Posted by Scorpiogirl30Isn't that why you posted this thread...looking for peoples opinions?Posted by LadyNeptuneI’m not going to debate if you don’t believe findPosted by Scorpiogirl30But isn’t god everywhere, always?Posted by ImpulsvI never knocked anyone down I’m just saying for me it makes no sense to lead another person on if you don’t believe in marriage nothing is strong if it’s not took before God but if you don’t believe in God then I can see how you came to that conclusionPosted by RooSagicornPosted by Scorpiogirl30Well they spent a life together, she should get whatever she deserves however it all depends on the partner. I know people who got screwed even when they were married. I also know people who chose to never get married and just live together for a lifetime.Posted by RooSagicornYeah they lived together with 2 kids
16 years? I sure hope they lived together! Then you should have some rights. Depends on where though.. some states you are common law after a few years.
My ex-husband is in a 4 yr relationship & they still don’t live together. He told our daughter he’s never getting married again... so she puts up with it? So he does it. We were living together after 1 1/2 years, married at 3 1/2 years.. so he does have it in him. And 2 kids.
But you should always take care of yourself, you never know what’ll happen in life..
This if u want marriage well don’t fool yourself with someone who doesn’t .
But don’t knockdown someone else’s relationship because it has no paper
I’ve seen them stronger n more real that those who claim marriage n stay just for financial reasons
I don’t see how making a commitment in a church changes anything...click to expand
Posted by Scorpiogirl30The same men... if they would've gotten married, would've prolly left/divorced at that 16 year mark. Maybe even before. Marriage doesn't guarantee forever. Marriage doesn't guarantee fidelity. Plenty of married men and women out there acting scandalous and cheating.
I have a question about a topic that caught my attention. Why do men stay in long term relationships with no plans to marry? I mean I’m hearing about 16 year relationships just breaking up and the woman are expected to move on like nothing happened and is owed nothing! I don’t know if sounds crazy to me I don’t believe a relationship should go pass two years without marriage being a option some woman claim to be cool with it since the relationship is going so well why complicate it but I just can’t believe anybody could be happy in a 6 year relationship with no future plans and I crazy or is this normal?
Posted by tizianimaybe In the beginning a person is unsure but then they should tell the other person that they don’t see themselves being married just to set them free or decide to stay
@Scorpiogirl30 I was sharing two different types of approach I've seen and been part of myself. Not trying to convince you or anyone of what's normal, you gotta do what works for you. I've seen the approach with the least headache is to be upfront as soon as possible at the beginning but it's not a hard or fast rule.
Posted by LadyNeptuneGetting a opinion is not a debate I can’t convince you to believe or explain my reasoning maybe you should just comment and go don’t ask me questions or think I’m going to defend my stance and explain to youPosted by Scorpiogirl30Isn't that why you posted this thread...looking for peoples opinions?Posted by LadyNeptuneI’m not going to debate if you don’t believe findPosted by Scorpiogirl30But isn’t god everywhere, always?Posted by ImpulsvI never knocked anyone down I’m just saying for me it makes no sense to lead another person on if you don’t believe in marriage nothing is strong if it’s not took before God but if you don’t believe in God then I can see how you came to that conclusionPosted by RooSagicornPosted by Scorpiogirl30Well they spent a life together, she should get whatever she deserves however it all depends on the partner. I know people who got screwed even when they were married. I also know people who chose to never get married and just live together for a lifetime.Posted by RooSagicornYeah they lived together with 2 kids
16 years? I sure hope they lived together! Then you should have some rights. Depends on where though.. some states you are common law after a few years.
My ex-husband is in a 4 yr relationship & they still don’t live together. He told our daughter he’s never getting married again... so she puts up with it? So he does it. We were living together after 1 1/2 years, married at 3 1/2 years.. so he does have it in him. And 2 kids.
But you should always take care of yourself, you never know what’ll happen in life..
This if u want marriage well don’t fool yourself with someone who doesn’t .
But don’t knockdown someone else’s relationship because it has no paper
I’ve seen them stronger n more real that those who claim marriage n stay just for financial reasons
I don’t see how making a commitment in a church changes anything...
Re-phrase your op if not...click to expand
Posted by Scorpiogirl30Touchy. Take that to god. I'm not the one.Posted by LadyNeptuneGetting a opinion is not a debate I can’t convince you to believe or explain my reasoning maybe you should just comment and go don’t ask me questions or think I’m going to defend my stance and explain to youPosted by Scorpiogirl30Isn't that why you posted this thread...looking for peoples opinions?Posted by LadyNeptuneI’m not going to debate if you don’t believe findPosted by Scorpiogirl30But isn’t god everywhere, always?Posted by ImpulsvI never knocked anyone down I’m just saying for me it makes no sense to lead another person on if you don’t believe in marriage nothing is strong if it’s not took before God but if you don’t believe in God then I can see how you came to that conclusionPosted by RooSagicornPosted by Scorpiogirl30Well they spent a life together, she should get whatever she deserves however it all depends on the partner. I know people who got screwed even when they were married. I also know people who chose to never get married and just live together for a lifetime.Posted by RooSagicornYeah they lived together with 2 kids
16 years? I sure hope they lived together! Then you should have some rights. Depends on where though.. some states you are common law after a few years.
My ex-husband is in a 4 yr relationship & they still don’t live together. He told our daughter he’s never getting married again... so she puts up with it? So he does it. We were living together after 1 1/2 years, married at 3 1/2 years.. so he does have it in him. And 2 kids.
But you should always take care of yourself, you never know what’ll happen in life..
This if u want marriage well don’t fool yourself with someone who doesn’t .
But don’t knockdown someone else’s relationship because it has no paper
I’ve seen them stronger n more real that those who claim marriage n stay just for financial reasons
I don’t see how making a commitment in a church changes anything...
Re-phrase your op if not...click to expand
Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by Scorpiogirl30The same men... if they would've gotten married, would've prolly left/divorced at that 16 year mark. Maybe even before. Marriage doesn't guarantee forever. Marriage doesn't guarantee fidelity. Plenty of married men and women out there acting scandalous and cheating.
I have a question about a topic that caught my attention. Why do men stay in long term relationships with no plans to marry? I mean I’m hearing about 16 year relationships just breaking up and the woman are expected to move on like nothing happened and is owed nothing! I don’t know if sounds crazy to me I don’t believe a relationship should go pass two years without marriage being a option some woman claim to be cool with it since the relationship is going so well why complicate it but I just can’t believe anybody could be happy in a 6 year relationship with no future plans and I crazy or is this normal?
Also being in a committed relationship without marriage doesn't mean you aren't committed to the future with your partner and making plans. Different strokes for different folks.click to expand
Posted by Scorpiogirl30Principles such as no pre-nup?Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by Scorpiogirl30The same men... if they would've gotten married, would've prolly left/divorced at that 16 year mark. Maybe even before. Marriage doesn't guarantee forever. Marriage doesn't guarantee fidelity. Plenty of married men and women out there acting scandalous and cheating.
I have a question about a topic that caught my attention. Why do men stay in long term relationships with no plans to marry? I mean I’m hearing about 16 year relationships just breaking up and the woman are expected to move on like nothing happened and is owed nothing! I don’t know if sounds crazy to me I don’t believe a relationship should go pass two years without marriage being a option some woman claim to be cool with it since the relationship is going so well why complicate it but I just can’t believe anybody could be happy in a 6 year relationship with no future plans and I crazy or is this normal?
Also being in a committed relationship without marriage doesn't mean you aren't committed to the future with your partner and making plans. Different strokes for different folks.
No one is saying it’s a guarantee that the marriage will last forever it’s the principals that marriage is built onclick to expand
Posted by Scorpiogirl30You’re saying all this to someone who was married before and had a very difficult divorce.Posted by ImpulsvWell I hope who ever you date you let them know up front because what you label a piece of paper is something that makes the relationship honorable there is no future without marriage your would just be dating then break up without nothing to show for it but waisted yearsPosted by Scorpiogirl30
I have a question about a topic that caught my attention. Why do men stay in long term relationships with no plans to marry? I mean I’m hearing about 16 year relationships just breaking up and the woman are expected to move on like nothing happened and is owed nothing! I don’t know if sounds crazy to me I don’t believe a relationship should go pass two years without marriage being a option some woman claim to be cool with it since the relationship is going so well why complicate it but I just can’t believe anybody could be happy in a 6 year relationship with no future plans and I crazy or is this normal?
A piece of paper doesn’t mean anything you could get a divorce after 16 years. Some people don’t want kids I see the only reason to marry us to provide a family for kids otherwise if you’re in a monogamous relationship you are making a future together just without the paperclick to expand
Posted by ellesbellesI dunno why this made me laugh...Posted by CaramelprincessIt's not always men. I want to run away like a child when it gets too scary too. 🤣🤣🤣
The point of the post is when the girl DOES want all these things for all of you saying nah I don’t want marriage it’s just a paper.
Like sure do what you want you’re grown ups don’t get married if you don’t want to, but do share that with each other. Some men never do. They want all the benefits but the option to run away like a child when it gets too scary.click to expand
Posted by Scorpiogirl30How can you be longterm and have no future?
I have a question about a topic that caught my attention. Why do men stay in long term relationships with no plans to marry? I mean I’m hearing about 16 year relationships just breaking up and the woman are expected to move on like nothing happened and is owed nothing! I don’t know if sounds crazy to me I don’t believe a relationship should go pass two years without marriage being a option some woman claim to be cool with it since the relationship is going so well why complicate it but I just can’t believe anybody could be happy in a 6 year relationship with no future plans and I crazy or is this normal?
Posted by CaramelprincessYou get it ! I should of said men should only comment no one wants to hear the sob stories and how you don’t believe in marriage okay so what move on the question was why do men carry on relationships with no intentions to marry not one person answered the question just couldn’t wait to throw out negative and irrelevant comments
The point of the post is when the girl DOES want all these things for all of you saying nah I don’t want marriage it’s just a paper.
Like sure do what you want you’re grown ups don’t get married if you don’t want to, but do share that with each other. Some men never do. They want all the benefits but the option to run away like a child when it gets too scary.
Posted by Scorpiogirl30You should have posted this in the man cave forum then.Posted by CaramelprincessYou get it ! I should of said men should only comment no one wants to hear the sob stories and how you don’t believe in marriage okay so what move on the question was why do men carry on relationships with no intentions to marry not one person answered the question just couldn’t wait to throw out negative and irrelevant comments
The point of the post is when the girl DOES want all these things for all of you saying nah I don’t want marriage it’s just a paper.
Like sure do what you want you’re grown ups don’t get married if you don’t want to, but do share that with each other. Some men never do. They want all the benefits but the option to run away like a child when it gets too scary.click to expand
Posted by jeaneOkay would you be upset if he didn’t marry u and y’all break up and he marry somebody else after knowing them less than 4 years
i've been with my partner now for 4 years and in no rush to get married.
Posted by Scorpiogirl30yeah i would be upset. i'd be lying if i said no.Posted by jeaneOkay would you be upset if he didn’t marry u and y’all break up and he marry somebody else after knowing them less than 4 years
i've been with my partner now for 4 years and in no rush to get married.click to expand
Posted by i-xy"More breathing space?" Nah, more space for extra coochie.
Scorpio ex wanted a long term with a gemini (he cheated on me with her) and said no marriage. Whatever it will be. There's more breathing space with no marriage and no headache with the labels. At least that's what the exscorp said.
Posted by CheshI know couples who get divorced in 70's. Not marry, marrying, doesn't avoid a break-up... however categorized.
...Because divorce is high in numbers. I honestly wouldn't mind getting married in my 50's or 60's if I had to do it over again.
Posted by jeanePosted by Scorpiogirl30yeah i would be upset. i'd be lying if i said no.Posted by jeane
i've been with my partner now for 4 years and in no rush to get married.
Okay would you be upset if he didn’t marry u and y’all break up and he marry somebody else after knowing them less than 4 years
ultimately though, if he didn't feel it was right for him, then maybe it wasn't. if another woman is the one who he felt strongly enough to marry then maybe he saved us years of being unhappy
See that’s the purpose of my post to see try to understand why men won’t communicate that they don’t see marriage in the future because moving on and marrying someone else is hurtfulclick to expand
Posted by FantamRoosterI think it’s a gift from God to with the one you love some people are so connected they die right after their partner
One of the most depressing thoughts I've ever had is that the best possible outcome of a successful marriage is one of you gets to watch the other one die after you're already very old.
You're welcome.
Posted by Scorpiogirl30Posted by jeanePosted by Scorpiogirl30yeah i would be upset. i'd be lying if i said no.Posted by jeane
i've been with my partner now for 4 years and in no rush to get married.
Okay would you be upset if he didn’t marry u and y’all break up and he marry somebody else after knowing them less than 4 years
ultimately though, if he didn't feel it was right for him, then maybe it wasn't. if another woman is the one who he felt strongly enough to marry then maybe he saved us years of being unhappy
See that’s the purpose of my post to see try to understand why men won’t communicate that they don’t see marriage in the future because moving on and marrying someone else is hurtfulclick to expand
Posted by jeaneNo he told me he was never emotional connected to her and knew he would never marry her he just didn’t tell her because she never ask She left him and moved onPosted by Scorpiogirl30Posted by jeanePosted by Scorpiogirl30yeah i would be upset. i'd be lying if i said no.Posted by jeane
i've been with my partner now for 4 years and in no rush to get married.
Okay would you be upset if he didn’t marry u and y’all break up and he marry somebody else after knowing them less than 4 years
ultimately though, if he didn't feel it was right for him, then maybe it wasn't. if another woman is the one who he felt strongly enough to marry then maybe he saved us years of being unhappy
See that’s the purpose of my post to see try to understand why men won’t communicate that they don’t see marriage in the future because moving on and marrying someone else is hurtful
i guess the way you think people should behave is rarely how people actually behave.
we are all flawed. perhaps this guy didn't know until 16 years down the line. maybe he was just going with the flow until one day the clouds lifted and he thought, wtf? yes, it's hurtful. you know what's more hurtful? doing it after 20 years, 25 years, 30 years.
we are all just trying to be happy and doing the very best we can with what know how to do.click to expand
Posted by FantamRoosterHad the thought 14 years ago - thank you.
One of the most depressing thoughts I've ever had is that the best possible outcome of a successful marriage is one of you gets to watch the other one die after you're already very old.
You're welcome.
Posted by Scorpiogirl30Posted by jeaneNo he told me he was never emotional connected to her and knew he would never marry her he just didn’t tell her because she never ask She left him and moved onPosted by Scorpiogirl30Posted by jeanePosted by Scorpiogirl30yeah i would be upset. i'd be lying if i said no.Posted by jeane
i've been with my partner now for 4 years and in no rush to get married.
Okay would you be upset if he didn’t marry u and y’all break up and he marry somebody else after knowing them less than 4 years
ultimately though, if he didn't feel it was right for him, then maybe it wasn't. if another woman is the one who he felt strongly enough to marry then maybe he saved us years of being unhappy
See that’s the purpose of my post to see try to understand why men won’t communicate that they don’t see marriage in the future because moving on and marrying someone else is hurtful
i guess the way you think people should behave is rarely how people actually behave.
we are all flawed. perhaps this guy didn't know until 16 years down the line. maybe he was just going with the flow until one day the clouds lifted and he thought, wtf? yes, it's hurtful. you know what's more hurtful? doing it after 20 years, 25 years, 30 years.
we are all just trying to be happy and doing the very best we can with what know how to do.click to expand
Posted by RooSagicornHe said that she never talked about it she never brought it up I guess she kept it in and became resentful he said they had a messy breakupPosted by Scorpiogirl30Why did she never ask? That’s a long time to be waiting for a proposal.. I can’t imagine never talking about it for that many years.Posted by jeaneNo he told me he was never emotional connected to her and knew he would never marry her he just didn’t tell her because she never ask She left him and moved onPosted by Scorpiogirl30Posted by jeanePosted by Scorpiogirl30yeah i would be upset. i'd be lying if i said no.Posted by jeane
i've been with my partner now for 4 years and in no rush to get married.
Okay would you be upset if he didn’t marry u and y’all break up and he marry somebody else after knowing them less than 4 years
ultimately though, if he didn't feel it was right for him, then maybe it wasn't. if another woman is the one who he felt strongly enough to marry then maybe he saved us years of being unhappy
See that’s the purpose of my post to see try to understand why men won’t communicate that they don’t see marriage in the future because moving on and marrying someone else is hurtful
i guess the way you think people should behave is rarely how people actually behave.
we are all flawed. perhaps this guy didn't know until 16 years down the line. maybe he was just going with the flow until one day the clouds lifted and he thought, wtf? yes, it's hurtful. you know what's more hurtful? doing it after 20 years, 25 years, 30 years.
we are all just trying to be happy and doing the very best we can with what know how to do.click to expand
Posted by SagicornPosted by FantamRoosterPosted by Scorpiogirl30It's both a comfort and depressing to me. I'm younger and female, so I'm probably gonna be the one who watches and grieves.Posted by FantamRoosterI think it’s a gift from God to with the one you love some people are so connected they die right after their partner
One of the most depressing thoughts I've ever had is that the best possible outcome of a successful marriage is one of you gets to watch the other one die after you're already very old.
You're welcome.
Depends,if not too drastically younger doesn't have to be that way. In both aides of my grandparents grandma was first to go. Mom's side both from illness. Dad's side simply old age, but grandma was atill younger 3 or 4 years. Grandpa passed away month after her. So who knows...
I was told that people with that type of connection can’t survive without each other so when one die the other can’t live without them and die. You can even die from a broken heartclick to expand
Posted by FantamRoosterNo, not the reason for divorce... the solace in divorce.Posted by VenusAquariusWhat do you mean? You wanted to split because you couldn't stand the idea of watching him die some day?Posted by FantamRoosterHad the thought 14 years ago - thank you.
One of the most depressing thoughts I've ever had is that the best possible outcome of a successful marriage is one of you gets to watch the other one die after you're already very old.
You're welcome.
One of the reasons I was okay with divorcing my then and still husband. Divorced for 4 of our 24 years.
He told me he knew I felt that way. He just knew.click to expand
Posted by FantamRoosterRight I would be happy to have had all those years together imagine spending all those years with the person you love and they die that’s the most honorable death to me and life. No I’m not saying if someone don’t have the same life they are not honorable this is my opinion on a life style I hope to have this is not dismissing the new age relationships this is just my preferencePosted by VenusAquariusWhat do you mean? You wanted to split because you couldn't stand the idea of watching him die some day?Posted by FantamRoosterHad the thought 14 years ago - thank you.
One of the most depressing thoughts I've ever had is that the best possible outcome of a successful marriage is one of you gets to watch the other one die after you're already very old.
You're welcome.
One of the reasons I was okay with divorcing my then and still husband. Divorced for 4 of our 24 years.
He told me he knew I felt that way. He just knew.click to expand
Posted by Impulsv
the thing is women think they are protected n normally the guys is the one who loses the most.
Never thought about how he can rack up 200 k n ur responsibility. Or he lost his job for past two years and now u need to
Pay to accommodate the life style he has been used to.
Or he makes better money than you as self contracted but he’ll go after your retirement n benifits
Mmm who has it better then ?
Posted by UndineI'm a believer and share some of your views too. I agree with some of Scorpiogirl30's post as well.
Posted by Scorpiogirl30: "Sorry for your lost but I don’t feel the same why nothing holds a relationship together but God what is meant to be will be but I refused to reduce something so special to a piece of paper nothing is promised but I feel better going through it with someone who has the same values as me just dating will never be enough for me but to each it’s own"
I admire your values, you should definitely find a fellow believer who has the same values as you. For many of us, marriage it just an insurance policy that the one wanting to leave first may have a hard time doing so, especially if they were also the one who brought more money and goods into the relationship.
I've been both married and living together without a certificate. Both relationships lasted long (as long as I wanted) and felt no different quality-wise, except for the fact that I HATED to be referred to as "my wife". It sounded to me like "my dog". I have a name, ffs!