Making me jealous?
This topic was created in the Relationships forum by ScorpGirl83 on Wednesday, January 24, 2007 and has 3 replies.
So things started getting more distant with the Taurus guy I was seeing. He told me that he didn't think we would work out, but then told me the next day that he changed his mind. I guess I really haven't made much of an initiative to keep things going with him but I am nuts about him... I just have a hard time expressing it.
But a few days later, he started telling people that he finally found someone that he really really likes. That night, he found out that I was at the theater the same time he was so he texted me asking what I was doing later. He waited an hour until my movie was over and then we saw a movie together afterwards. Although he was being very flirty with me, half-way through the movie he told me that I couldn't flirt with him anymore cus he had a "girl" which he does joke with me about often. He's made it clear to me that he likes getting me jealous. The last few nights though, his away messages on AIM have been "phone, then bed," but that used to be our "thing," we would always talk on the phone til we would fall asleep. I can't tell if he's done with me or if he's just trying to make me jealous cus no one has seen or heard anything about this other girl and he still checks my MySpace profile every single night first thing (I have a MySpace tracker, not to sounds like a stalker lol).
So can someone please tell me your thoughts? Thank you so much!
But a few days later, he started telling people that he finally found someone that he really really likes. That night, he found out that I was at the theater the same time he was so he texted me asking what I was doing later. He waited an hour until my movie was over and then we saw a movie together afterwards. Although he was being very flirty with me, half-way through the movie he told me that I couldn't flirt with him anymore cus he had a "girl" which he does joke with me about often. He's made it clear to me that he likes getting me jealous. The last few nights though, his away messages on AIM have been "phone, then bed," but that used to be our "thing," we would always talk on the phone til we would fall asleep. I can't tell if he's done with me or if he's just trying to make me jealous cus no one has seen or heard anything about this other girl and he still checks my MySpace profile every single night first thing (I have a MySpace tracker, not to sounds like a stalker lol).
So can someone please tell me your thoughts? Thank you so much!
I should probably add also that he's only 18 and doesn't really have any girlfriend experience.
i agree w/ Mr. Nice - this could be his way of trying to gauge your interest in him. also agree that you shouldn't be roped into playing mind games. if you choose to play, then you can't blame anyone but yourself if things don't turn out as you had hoped. your choices create your reality.
if he likes making you jealous and you don't like it, don't encourage it. he told you he likes your reaction, and by giving him the reaction he wants, he is rewarded and will continue doing it. it's harmless if done in fun, but to make up a girlfriend and telling you not to flirt with him anymore seems to be taking it a bit too far...
if i were in your shoes, i would take what he said at face value. believe that there is another girl in the picture. accept it as fact, and make choices based on that truth, rather than basing your decisions on the hope that this is some phantom girl.
if you choose to walk away, you can do it gracefully by saying, 'whoa, she's a lucky girl. i admire that you are loyal and respectful enough to stop flirting with other girls. hope things work out for you.'
this way you've indicated some interest, while letting him know that you are above playing mind games (if the girl is not real), nor are you the type to interfere with a relationship (if the girl is real).
either way, you keep your dignity, remain true to yourself, and maintain some standards...and sidestep any mind game traps. the real truth will come out sooner or later.
about what he's doing on AIM and MySpace...those are his actions and those are on him, not you...again, making decisions based on what he may or may not be thinking won't always result in the best choices.
good luck, hope you make a decision you can be happy with
if he likes making you jealous and you don't like it, don't encourage it. he told you he likes your reaction, and by giving him the reaction he wants, he is rewarded and will continue doing it. it's harmless if done in fun, but to make up a girlfriend and telling you not to flirt with him anymore seems to be taking it a bit too far...
if i were in your shoes, i would take what he said at face value. believe that there is another girl in the picture. accept it as fact, and make choices based on that truth, rather than basing your decisions on the hope that this is some phantom girl.
if you choose to walk away, you can do it gracefully by saying, 'whoa, she's a lucky girl. i admire that you are loyal and respectful enough to stop flirting with other girls. hope things work out for you.'
this way you've indicated some interest, while letting him know that you are above playing mind games (if the girl is not real), nor are you the type to interfere with a relationship (if the girl is real).
either way, you keep your dignity, remain true to yourself, and maintain some standards...and sidestep any mind game traps. the real truth will come out sooner or later.
about what he's doing on AIM and MySpace...those are his actions and those are on him, not you...again, making decisions based on what he may or may not be thinking won't always result in the best choices.
good luck, hope you make a decision you can be happy with
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