Posted by BllOh wow. Did he ever have children outside of the relationship?
Interesting topic.
I’ve never been married, so I’ll use my mother’s experience married to my sag father instead. He cheated countless times with countless women, from they were first married and for the next 19 years. The first time she found out about the cheating, she honestly stayed because her father had just spent so much money on her wedding, so she felt bad about that and was afraid of disappointing him. The other times, she stayed because of my brother and I.
Her ‘solution’ turned out to be to get revenge - she cheated on him too, and that hurt his pride so bad that he actually stopped cheating! She divorced him a few years later, she had already lost her feelings for him many years earlier.
Posted by GobbyOf course. That was the follow-up
How about asking why he cheated? This often gets swept under the carpet to make the other partner come across as an innocent victim (which is sometimes not the case)...
Posted by sweetpea2977Oh wow I just asked another person was children made outside of the marriage. Times have changed and it depends on the ppl I guess. I know men these days don’t care
I *used* to be married. My ex wasn't a cheater, but an a**hole in other ways.
My father used to be a cheater. My mother tolerated his ways unfortunately. I think my mother stayed because deep down she didn't believe should could raise four children solo. I also believe that she wanted a picture-perfect family, no matter what foolery was going on behind closed doors.
Posted by sweetpea2977Oh wow I just asked another person was children made outside of the marriage. Times have changed and it depends on the ppl I guess. I know men these days don’t care
I *used* to be married. My ex wasn't a cheater, but an a**hole in other ways.
My father used to be a cheater. My mother tolerated his ways unfortunately. I think my mother stayed because deep down she didn't believe should could raise four children solo. I also believe that she wanted a picture-perfect family, no matter what foolery was going on behind closed doors.
Posted by BllPosted by AccountzNever even thought of that tbh, but no, not as far as we know.Posted by BllOh wow. Did he ever have children outside of the relationship?
Interesting topic.
I’ve never been married, so I’ll use my mother’s experience married to my sag father instead. He cheated countless times with countless women, from they were first married and for the next 19 years. The first time she found out about the cheating, she honestly stayed because her father had just spent so much money on her wedding, so she felt bad about that and was afraid of disappointing him. The other times, she stayed because of my brother and I.
Her ‘solution’ turned out to be to get revenge - she cheated on him too, and that hurt his pride so bad that he actually stopped cheating! She divorced him a few years later, she had already lost her feelings for him many years earlier.click to expand
Posted by GobbyNo excuse for lying and breaking your word.
How about asking why he cheated? This often gets swept under the carpet to make the other partner come across as an innocent victim (which is sometimes not the case)...
Posted by GobbyI mean, why care? lol
How about asking why he cheated? This often gets swept under the carpet to make the other partner come across as an innocent victim (which is sometimes not the case)...
Posted by Gobby"Have you ever heard of something called cause and effect?"Posted by SilvuhPosted by GobbyI mean, why care? lol
How about asking why he cheated? This often gets swept under the carpet to make the other partner come across as an innocent victim (which is sometimes not the case)...
You can always just leave instead. I feel like people who end up staying, do so for more practical reasons- like family, finances etc. I never really hear "Well, I finally understood why he/she did it."
I don't think cheating calls for empathy.. Have you ever come across a justifiable reason though?
Have you ever heard of something called cause and effect?click to expand
Posted by GobbyI was trying to get this point across for YEARS!
How about asking why he cheated? This often gets swept under the carpet to make the other partner come across as an innocent victim (which is sometimes not the case)...
Posted by GobbyNot once! And moreso - those who throw stones in most cases cheating themselves but haven’t been caught. Yet.Posted by SilvuhPosted by GobbyI mean, why care? lol
How about asking why he cheated? This often gets swept under the carpet to make the other partner come across as an innocent victim (which is sometimes not the case)...
You can always just leave instead. I feel like people who end up staying, do so for more practical reasons- like family, finances etc. I never really hear "Well, I finally understood why he/she did it."
I don't think cheating calls for empathy.. Have you ever come across a justifiable reason though?
Have you ever heard of something called cause and effect?click to expand
Posted by RooSagicornOf course you broke his heart!
My first marriage I suspected but never knew for sure. I left him for other reasons but I wouldn’t be surprised. It only lasted 2 years. He’s now been with the same person for about 28 years and cheated tons!!! Admitted it to me.. so good decision on my part to leave somehow I’m the one who broke his heart. Whatever.
Posted by LadyNeptuneYou have to move from theory to real world.Posted by GobbyNo excuse for lying and breaking your word.
How about asking why he cheated? This often gets swept under the carpet to make the other partner come across as an innocent victim (which is sometimes not the case)...
Simple enough to open your mouth and say x, y, and z are making me unhappy and I'm lacking this and that from you so imma get it elsewhere.click to expand
Posted by GobbyOf course.Posted by SilvuhPosted by Gobby
How about asking why he cheated? This often gets swept under the carpet to make the other partner come across as an innocent victim (which is sometimes not the case)...
I mean, why care? lol
You can always just leave instead. I feel like people who end up staying, do so for more practical reasons- like family, finances etc. I never really hear "Well, I finally understood why he/she did it."
I don't think cheating calls for empathy.. Have you ever come across a justifiable reason though?
Have you ever heard of something called cause and effect?click to expand