Married women

This topic was created in the Relationships forum by Accountz on Wednesday, May 8, 2019 and has 16 replies.
How many times you’ve been cheated on? Why do U stay? What’s your action to what he did? Or solution
I *used* to be married. My ex wasn't a cheater, but an a**hole in other ways.

My father used to be a cheater. My mother tolerated his ways unfortunately. I think my mother stayed because deep down she didn't believe should could raise four children solo. I also believe that she wanted a picture-perfect family, no matter what foolery was going on behind closed doors.
Wot in tarnation
Posted by Bll

Interesting topic.

I’ve never been married, so I’ll use my mother’s experience married to my sag father instead. He cheated countless times with countless women, from they were first married and for the next 19 years. The first time she found out about the cheating, she honestly stayed because her father had just spent so much money on her wedding, so she felt bad about that and was afraid of disappointing him. The other times, she stayed because of my brother and I.

Her ‘solution’ turned out to be to get revenge - she cheated on him too, and that hurt his pride so bad that he actually stopped cheating! She divorced him a few years later, she had already lost her feelings for him many years earlier.
Oh wow. Did he ever have children outside of the relationship?
Posted by Gobby

How about asking why he cheated? This often gets swept under the carpet to make the other partner come across as an innocent victim (which is sometimes not the case)...

Of course. That was the follow-up
Posted by sweetpea2977

I *used* to be married. My ex wasn't a cheater, but an a**hole in other ways.

My father used to be a cheater. My mother tolerated his ways unfortunately. I think my mother stayed because deep down she didn't believe should could raise four children solo. I also believe that she wanted a picture-perfect family, no matter what foolery was going on behind closed doors.
Oh wow I just asked another person was children made outside of the marriage. Times have changed and it depends on the ppl I guess. I know men these days don’t care
Posted by sweetpea2977

I *used* to be married. My ex wasn't a cheater, but an a**hole in other ways.

My father used to be a cheater. My mother tolerated his ways unfortunately. I think my mother stayed because deep down she didn't believe should could raise four children solo. I also believe that she wanted a picture-perfect family, no matter what foolery was going on behind closed doors.
Oh wow I just asked another person was children made outside of the marriage. Times have changed and it depends on the ppl I guess. I know men these days don’t care
Posted by Bll

Posted by Accountz

Posted by Bll

Interesting topic.

I’ve never been married, so I’ll use my mother’s experience married to my sag father instead. He cheated countless times with countless women, from they were first married and for the next 19 years. The first time she found out about the cheating, she honestly stayed because her father had just spent so much money on her wedding, so she felt bad about that and was afraid of disappointing him. The other times, she stayed because of my brother and I.

Her ‘solution’ turned out to be to get revenge - she cheated on him too, and that hurt his pride so bad that he actually stopped cheating! She divorced him a few years later, she had already lost her feelings for him many years earlier.
Oh wow. Did he ever have children outside of the relationship?
Never even thought of that tbh, but no, not as far as we know.
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Oh ok
Posted by Gobby

How about asking why he cheated? This often gets swept under the carpet to make the other partner come across as an innocent victim (which is sometimes not the case)...

No excuse for lying and breaking your word.

Simple enough to open your mouth and say x, y, and z are making me unhappy and I'm lacking this and that from you so imma get it elsewhere.
Posted by Gobby

How about asking why he cheated? This often gets swept under the carpet to make the other partner come across as an innocent victim (which is sometimes not the case)...

I mean, why care? lol

You can always just leave instead. I feel like people who end up staying, do so for more practical reasons- like family, finances etc. I never really hear "Well, I finally understood why he/she did it."

I don't think cheating calls for empathy.. Have you ever come across a justifiable reason though?

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Posted by Silvuh

Posted by Gobby

How about asking why he cheated? This often gets swept under the carpet to make the other partner come across as an innocent victim (which is sometimes not the case)...

I mean, why care? lol

You can always just leave instead. I feel like people who end up staying, do so for more practical reasons- like family, finances etc. I never really hear "Well, I finally understood why he/she did it."

I don't think cheating calls for empathy.. Have you ever come across a justifiable reason though?



Have you ever heard of something called cause and effect?

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"Have you ever heard of something called cause and effect?"

just by observation, in many cases its true
Posted by Gobby

How about asking why he cheated? This often gets swept under the carpet to make the other partner come across as an innocent victim (which is sometimes not the case)...

I was trying to get this point across for YEARS!

But nobody gets it!

The spouse is cheating is at least 50% fault if another spouse!

Nobody ever get it!

Stupid question ‘why did you stayed’ is asked by people who had never BEEN a neglected SO!

When I TOLD my ex that I am on the verge - he had not even raised the brow. My medal of a saint was earned! His guards were down!

So...later he told me that he had been cheating in our happy years.

However he insisted that if I didn’t know - it means he didn’t cheat.

He said family is sacred for him.

👀👀👀!

Fuck them!

I’ve also met people who were told that from this point there going to be no sex. However they weren’t allowed to stray.

This question is mute point.

Every family is a dark tunnel and riding it everyone’s personal business.
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Posted by Silvuh

Posted by Gobby

How about asking why he cheated? This often gets swept under the carpet to make the other partner come across as an innocent victim (which is sometimes not the case)...

I mean, why care? lol

You can always just leave instead. I feel like people who end up staying, do so for more practical reasons- like family, finances etc. I never really hear "Well, I finally understood why he/she did it."

I don't think cheating calls for empathy.. Have you ever come across a justifiable reason though?



Have you ever heard of something called cause and effect?

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Not once! And moreso - those who throw stones in most cases cheating themselves but haven’t been caught. Yet.
Posted by RooSagicorn

My first marriage I suspected but never knew for sure. I left him for other reasons but I wouldn’t be surprised. It only lasted 2 years. He’s now been with the same person for about 28 years and cheated tons!!! Admitted it to me.. so good decision on my part to leave smile somehow I’m the one who broke his heart. Whatever.
Of course you broke his heart!

And you are the biggest enemy bitch if you are happy after while he is just keeping on screwing and can’t find what is that he is doing and why.

Poor shmuck!
Posted by LadyNeptune

Posted by Gobby

How about asking why he cheated? This often gets swept under the carpet to make the other partner come across as an innocent victim (which is sometimes not the case)...

No excuse for lying and breaking your word.

Simple enough to open your mouth and say x, y, and z are making me unhappy and I'm lacking this and that from you so imma get it elsewhere.
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You have to move from theory to real world.

You have no fucking rights to speak of shit you have no clue about.

But you do! Because it bothers you.

Are you a product of a fucked up family?

Why am I even asking? You are fucked up somehow by somebody at some point. You just wouldn’t admit!

Your determination to stay single apparently comes from deep hurt in a past. But you won’t admit if you were tortured. Would you?

Because you would have to get off your high horse then and join real people in a real world...those with flows! Oh my goodness!
Posted by Gobby

Posted by Silvuh

Posted by Gobby

How about asking why he cheated? This often gets swept under the carpet to make the other partner come across as an innocent victim (which is sometimes not the case)...



I mean, why care? lol

You can always just leave instead. I feel like people who end up staying, do so for more practical reasons- like family, finances etc. I never really hear "Well, I finally understood why he/she did it."

I don't think cheating calls for empathy.. Have you ever come across a justifiable reason though?



Have you ever heard of something called cause and effect?

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Of course.

I'm aware your sarcasm was an attempt to make my point seem obsolete but it stands.

Cheating as a response to betrayal at it's core is quite senseless, immature, and is probably just an act of outright greed.

I don't think a relationship can go too far after either person cheats, but maybe that's just me.

Still waiting for the cause that would make this effect understandable/justified, or otherwise, vilify the person on it's receiving end