Men no longer want to take part in a BOOTY CALL?

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* Feeling vulnerable, that's where. "It's hard to have casual sex without getting emotionally involved," says Ben, who occasionally goes so far in his just-say-no approach as to abandon a girl at a crowded bar when he senses an impending hook-up. "Eventually, one of you is going to get involved. And in my experience, it seems to be me."

* Chemistry might also awaken feelings a man wants to avoid, further deterring him from casual encounters. "Sexual stimulation increases levels of the neurotransmitter dopamine, which is associated with feelings of romantic love," says Helen Fisher of Rutgers University's Center for Human Evolutionary Studies. "And orgasm causes a flood of oxytocin and vasopressin, hormones associated with deep attachment. So a man stands a chance of falling in love or getting attached when he doesn't want to." In other words, according to Fisher, "there's no such thing as casual sex."
Thank-you! This is what I have been saying all along. Men get just as attached via sex.

Unfortunately, most people of a certain age have been in long term relationships and are use to getting sex when they need it, when you have been in a sexually active relationship for 8-10 yrs going cold turkey is really hard. We need sex for our emotional health.

Interesting that some of the men felt used and assumed that because they were having sex early the girl wasn't interested in them beyond a casual fling. I will have to think on that.