that emoticon really does it for me lol
Men who need constant emotional/ego validation...
lol, me too! Cheers to dumping their asses...or...in a strange way, getting dumped. lol! It's those darned fixed signs! *Aquarius*
yea any guy or chick like that isn't really ready to be with someone. if you can't appreciate your own worth, how can you appreciate someone else's.
Posted by iamwhatiam
From multiple women. You know who I'm talking about. That guy who, no matter how awesome you are, will continue to seek emotional validation from multiple, various women because he is insecure and needs an ego stroking. The guy who bounces onto the next woman the minute you dont stroke his ego or tell him what he wants to hear. Do you think this type of man can ever be in a stable, committed relationship— Is there an antidote or should I just call it quits?
Ha..my awesome ass would be saying "see ya" and my awesome ass would be the last thing he sees! 😉
I wouldn't feel sorry for any woman who chooses to stay with a wimp like this...> "mommy syndrome"
Posted by iamwhatiam
From multiple women. You know who I'm talking about. That guy who, no matter how awesome you are, will continue to seek emotional validation from multiple, various women because he is insecure and needs an ego stroking. The guy who bounces onto the next woman the minute you dont stroke his ego or tell him what he wants to hear. Do you think this type of man can ever be in a stable, committed relationship— Is there an antidote or should I just call it quits?
give me his birth date including year and etc if u know it.. and yours
and I can be more specific
Venus and mars in virgo men need constant reassurances. More likely to cheat as well.
Leo sun and moon
Cancerian sun, not sure about moon.
Leo sun and moon
Cancerian sun, not sure about moon.
Posted by aquarius09
Venus and mars in virgo men need constant reassurances. More likely to cheat as well.
Leo sun and moon
Cancerian sun, not sure about moon.
i concur
Posted by tizianiPosted by Chance15
yeah, 'round here we call 'em leos 😱
The shot that was heard around the world!click to expand
good one
Posted by iamwhatiam
From multiple women. You know who I'm talking about. That guy who, no matter how awesome you are, will continue to seek emotional validation from multiple, various women because he is insecure and needs an ego stroking. The guy who bounces onto the next woman the minute you dont stroke his ego or tell him what he wants to hear. Do you think this type of man can ever be in a stable, committed relationship— Is there an antidote or should I just call it quits?
Oh sure =) He'll be stable when he does what women like this finally do:
-Changes his thinking & mentality about where true confidence & self-esteem comes from
-Mans up & changes how he measures masculinity & status in society as a "man."
-Realizes that getting validation from people he considers weak, vulnerable or disposable is NOT the real victory. (Try getting props & validation from a woman who actually isn't weak-minded, or desperate for other desperate men, and THEN you can call yourself "the man.")
-Acknowledges, addresses & fixes whatever internal baggage or demons from his past that started the trend of needing validation from "above the surface" situations/people to begin with
-Grows the hell up & grows a pair of MATURE balls.
-Stops running into women who are also weak-minded in thinking that draining herself to give him constant validation/reassurance will somehow heal/fix/change him. (It's a lot harder for men to get their ish together when they're constantly surrounded by women who not only feed into that bullsh****t, but enable & encourage it too).
Until those things happen, yes you should call it quits! If not, it will only get worse
Btw, I'd call it quits. You aren't there to be his therapist and fix his bs issues. Your job is to complement his life from a relationship standpoint, not fix it.
I also agree. I am a female and the same way. Once in my life I am actually ok with attention from one man. Well its only been a little over a month.. but he gives me a lot of ego boosting, affection & attention. I also told all my mens I was in a relationship. I have never done that. I always keep them around ( not in the physical sense). Some have been around over 12 years. I also find it hard to commit to a man. Im a leo sun, pisces moon, virgo venus, taurus mars and scorpio asc.
Posted by krysrenee7Posted by iamwhatiam
From multiple women. You know who I'm talking about. That guy who, no matter how awesome you are, will continue to seek emotional validation from multiple, various women because he is insecure and needs an ego stroking. The guy who bounces onto the next woman the minute you dont stroke his ego or tell him what he wants to hear. Do you think this type of man can ever be in a stable, committed relationship— Is there an antidote or should I just call it quits?
Oh sure =) He'll be stable when he does what women like this finally do:
-Changes his thinking & mentality about where true confidence & self-esteem comes from
-Mans up & changes how he measures masculinity & status in society as a "man."
-Realizes that getting validation from people he considers weak, vulnerable or disposable is NOT the real victory. (Try getting props & validation from a woman who actually isn't weak-minded, or desperate for other desperate men, and THEN you can call yourself "the man.")
-Acknowledges, addresses & fixes whatever internal baggage or demons from his past that started the trend of needing validation from "above the surface" situations/people to begin with
-Grows the hell up & grows a pair of MATURE balls.
-Stops running into women who are also weak-minded in thinking that draining herself to give him constant validation/reassurance will somehow heal/fix/change him. (It's a lot harder for men to get their ish together when they're constantly surrounded by women who not only feed into that bullsh****t, but enable & encourage it too).
Until those things happen, yes you should call it quits! If not, it will only get worseclick to expand
Excellent summation of how to resolve this shit!
What a crock of shit!
All of us have psychological and emotional issues that need addressing, some just have better means & resources to deal with those while others require more understanding and acceptance from their partner... and why not? What's with the elitist faggotery?
You are not "perfect the way you are", trust me. Whenever there's more than one person involved, what it boils down to is compromising. And one person will always have to compromise more than the other. Means & resources. I also find it insanely hilarous how some of the most opinionated users in this thread are also the ones with the biggest issues.
(Btw, not addressing the OP's specific scenario here, but some of the relationship elitists in this thread.)
All of us have psychological and emotional issues that need addressing, some just have better means & resources to deal with those while others require more understanding and acceptance from their partner... and why not? What's with the elitist faggotery?
You are not "perfect the way you are", trust me. Whenever there's more than one person involved, what it boils down to is compromising. And one person will always have to compromise more than the other. Means & resources. I also find it insanely hilarous how some of the most opinionated users in this thread are also the ones with the biggest issues.
(Btw, not addressing the OP's specific scenario here, but some of the relationship elitists in this thread.)
Posted by enfant_terrible
What a crock of shit!
All of us have psychological and emotional issues that need addressing, some just have better means & resources to deal with those while others require more understanding and acceptance from their partner... and why not? What's with the elitist faggotery? You
(Btw, not addressing the OP's specific scenario here, but some of the relationship elitists in this thread.)
Of course everybody has baggage but everyone isn't obligated to carry it with/for you. That's just life. As the saying goes, "People don't pick their life partners based on what they DO like about them. They pick them based on the bad things they're willing to put up with."
The people who can only handle 5 pounds of baggage shouldn't be made to feel bad for not taking on 75 pounds of another person's baggage. Being imperfect & dumping 75 pounds of baggage onto someone are 2 different things. There's a difference b/w imperfect people vs. toxic people.
People will always be imperfect. But not every imperfect person is toxic. Those who are toxic are flat out of their minds when they expect for others to drink their poison. Nobody is obligated to put up with your crap. No one. The people who have tried unloading huge masses of baggage onto others learned that real quick, which is why they were inspired to go be single & dump all that baggage in the past where they should've left it to begin with.
I'd rather encourage people to try minimizing & unloading their baggage BEFORE they get in a relationship, NOT after. That's only fair. Life is already hard enough as it is for everybody. Friends & partners shouldn't add 60 extra pounds of added weight. If you wouldn't want others to believe you're a walking baggage zone, then you can't judge those who refuse to be that for everybody either.
Life is too short to spend it all trying to fix everybody. Find someone who is the least messed up as possible so that you can end up actually enjoying the freakin' relationship instead of spending 10 years helping them unload tons of baggage. A 10 year relationship filled with 1 or 2 years of unhealed demons is 1 thing. However, a 10 year relationship where there are 8 years of drama & toxicity and only 2 years of happiness is NOT a healthy relationship. And if it's not healthy..............you know the rest
Posted by autumnp75
I also agree. I am a female and the same way. Once in my life I am actually ok with attention from one man. Well its only been a little over a month.. but he gives me a lot of ego boosting, affection & attention. I also told all my mens I was in a relationship. I have never done that. I always keep them around ( not in the physical sense). Some have been around over 12 years. I also find it hard to commit to a man. Im a leo sun, pisces moon, virgo venus, taurus mars and scorpio asc.
So you used to keep a harem of boy toys until you met this guy?
That's good that you finally outgrew that shit.
Posted by krysrenee7Posted by enfant_terrible
What a crock of shit!
All of us have psychological and emotional issues that need addressing, some just have better means & resources to deal with those while others require more understanding and acceptance from their partner... and why not? What's with the elitist faggotery? You
(Btw, not addressing the OP's specific scenario here, but some of the relationship elitists in this thread.)click to expand
Of course everybody has baggage but everyone isn't obligated to carry it with/for you. That's just life. As the saying goes, "People don't pick their life partners based on what they DO like about them. They pick them based on the bad things they're willing to put up with."
The people who can only handle 5 pounds of baggage shouldn't be made to feel bad for not taking on 75 pounds of another person's baggage. Being imperfect & dumping 75 pounds of baggage onto someone are 2 different things. There's a difference b/w imperfect people vs. toxic people.
People will always be imperfect. But not every imperfect person is toxic. Those who are toxic are flat out of their minds when they expect for others to drink their poison. Nobody is obligated to put up with your crap. No one. The people who have tried unloading huge masses of baggage onto others learned that real quick, which is why they were inspired to go be single & dump all that baggage in the past where they should've left it to begin with.
I'd rather encourage people to try minimizing & unloading their baggage BEFORE they get in a relationship, NOT after. That's only fair. Life is already hard enough as it is for everybody. Friends & partners shouldn't add 60 extra pounds of added weight. If you wouldn't want others to believe you're a walking baggage zone, then you can't judge those who refuse to be that for everybody either.
Life is too short to spend it all trying to fix everybody. Find someone who is the least messed up as possible so that you can end up actually enjoying the freakin' relationship instead of spending 10 years helping them unload tons of baggage. A 10 year relationship filled with 1 or 2 years of unhealed demons is 1 thing. However, a 10 year relationship where there are 8 years of drama & toxicity and only 2 years of happiness is NOT a healthy relation
Life is too short to spend it all trying to fix everybody. Find someone who is the least messed up as possible so that you can end up actually enjoying the freakin' relationship instead of spending 10 years helping them unload tons of baggage. A 10 year relationship filled with 1 or 2 years of unhealed demons is 1 thing. However, a 10 year relationship where there are 8 years of drama & toxicity and only 2 years of happiness is NOT a healthy relationship. And if it's not healthy..............you know the rest
Nicely said.
8/10 years in a toxic relationship would destroy a person completely.
8/10 years in a healthy relationship would rejuvenate and help the person age better.
It's all about who we match up with, be it monster or angel.
It is on us to decide that as individuals.
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