Men, women & Height

This topic was created in the Relationships forum by Leo1212 on Wednesday, March 26, 2014 and has 26 replies.
Do you think height still matters in choosing a mate?
I'm looking at this girl and she's 5'11 and I'm 5'10 and wondering if that's an issue if the girl is taller than the men. Especially if you include high heels!
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I have a cute story to give you courage/hope
My mother is really tall 5'11, my dad is 5'7. (hope I converted it well..use metrics lazy mofos)
Growing up, she hated kids mocking her and was determined to find a shorter man so her kids will not be really tall...just a medium height.
Of course she didn't marry him just because he was shorter than her but genuine chemistry beats height/weight/whatever every day of the week...if we're talking attraction.
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Posted by tiziani
I think tall women are very discriminated against in general.


+1
Tall women and short men also.
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I'm 6'2" and big, a woman's height has never been an issue for me. I have dated women of various heights but never taller than me... I don't meet many women taller than I am. My ex wife is 5' flat and 100 lbs, I called her "fun sized". It often looked like she was one of the kids standing near me.
I joke about height and overall size regularly because it is mentioned so frequently to me. Yes, I can reach things on the top shelf and I can pick up a refrigerator, I'm also the first to get wet when it rains. The air is thinner up here too.
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Posted by LadyOfRebirth
I don't think your height difference is that significant. It's probably hardly noticeable that she's taller. And taller women usually look better in heels than short girls. The big question is: Is it an issue to you? That's all that really matters.


That's true. If you make it an issue it will be one. If you don't, chances are it won't be.
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6 feet or better for me smile
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Posted by Ixion120
Generally speaking it isn't an issue and couldn't be an issue because If I had a gripe about how you looked...chances are I won't waste either of our few precious moments to talk to you about it, really what would be the point?
On another note
like LibraSid said I refer to women at about 5'6 and below at a certain weight as "fun-sized" lol...now before anyone gets up in arms...Q-tip (quit taking it personally)and hear me out...yes all women even tall women can be thrown around in a bedroom romp...but some partners are much more maneuverable and than others :p.


Yep and a real small one like 5'0" & 100 lbs, you can twirl like a baton. A girl in high school didn't like me calling her short, half sized, undercooked, etc so she and I agreed on fun size.
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I'm kinda tall for a girl.....5'8" Idk if it bothers most guys or not. Personally I don't care. If they don't like me cuz of my height they can keep it moving!!
For all the haters lol....just remember tall girls usually have nice, long legs Winking
OP, are u two attracted to each other? Have a connection, etc? Bottom line: if u don't care & she doesn't care then don't worry about what anyone else thinks or says smile
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Posted by djbuck1
Many times I have heard women express a preference for the man to be taller. A pop-psyche study years ago put it about that the preference was for the guy to be at least four inches taller.


I would be one of them. I'm 5'5" and my ex hub was the same if not a wee bit shorter. When we would go out I would find myself not wearing heels as often as I wanted to so I wouldn't be taller than him...dumb I know.
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I don't get the height fixation...
Im 5'7, my guy is 5'6. I don't notice much difference.
And I still feel cute and cuddly with him bc I'm only 103 lbs with small bones...
Whereas he's 175 lbs with large bones and very strong and sturdy. Plus he is a hairy Russian. Man enough for me Tongue
plus i don't like heels anyway.
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Posted by MissFisk
I'm under 5 feet. Lately I've been attracting men over 6'0"
I don't even know how they spot me. God knows I'm not within their eye level. Unless, they drop something on the ground and have to bend down to get it.


wow, you're super tiny!!
i notice alot of super tall men like 'em short and cute.
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Posted by LadyOfRebirth
I like couples that are round the same height, it looks a lot more like equals than when there's a big height difference.
With that being said..
I like guys to be significantly taller than me. Which isn't that hard since I'm 5'3Tongue But I'm a bit old fashioned.
My ex was 6'3 and I looked like a kid next to him. That was a bit too much. My current bf is 6' which I find to fit well. Even when I wear heels I'm still a bit shorter. But it's not awkward. I think the shortest I've ever dated was about 5'6, it did bother me tbh because I didn't feel he could protect me as well.


wow you date 'em super tall too. and you're tiny as well. just noticing the trend, pattern, cause i dont normally see short gals with short guys. And wow, 5'6...that's Tom Cruise's height but he doesnt look short at all in the films. ALways looks larger than life. my sisters are also tiny and short, but they didnt go with super tall men, the men they have are about tom cruise's height and taller, but no taller than 5'10 which is good to me. I dont like 'em too tall. the tallest ex i had was 6'1, and the rest are under. but not short of course.
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Posted by LilyTree

While tall men intimidate me because they are physically imposing, it's also why I find them attractive. It creates an air of masculine dominance and protection...I don't know. Plus, I think I'd get away with being bossy because he's bigger than me. And, he could give me piggy back rides. Big Grin

Amen to that! Winking
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I'm short lol like 5'~5'1 .. have dated taller guys short guys all as well -well it's hard for most guys shorter than me.. so no, have not dated guys who were shorter than me..yet! :p- the tallest being 6'3 and the shortest being about 5'2 .. others varied.. but it seems that tall guys tend to come to me.. like 8 out of 10, guys I hang out with are above or at least 6'
..by the way, my personal preference is tall guys lol..
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As a woman that stands about six feet tall (closer to 6'5" or 6'6" with heels on), and we're so not even going to mention my weight, it's more typical than not for me to date shorter people. If height becomes an issue it's only for the other person. I don't really care.
But then again I've never been one to fear the unconventional. And I also accepted early in life that the only way I would find a mate larger than myself would be searching around nuclear reactors.
*shrugs*
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I'm 5'2. There's probably not many guys under my height but having one as a partner would probably be a bit of a downer. I won't lie, the physical side of our relationship would be hurting. The tallest I've dated is 6'3, and I really enjoyed that. The other two are around 5'10 which is underwhelming but not an issue. I'd say 5'7 is the point where I'd start feeling disappointed.
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Posted by Scenic
I'm 5'2. There's probably not many guys under my height but having one as a partner would probably be a bit of a downer. I won't lie, the physical side of our relationship would be hurting. The tallest I've dated is 6'3, and I really enjoyed that. The other two are around 5'10 which is underwhelming but not an issue. I'd say 5'7 is the point where I'd start feeling disappointed.


Scenic, there on wikipedia when you google height for countries.....
there ARE men who are shorter than you and would probably date you Tongue
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I'm 5'7", and I like a guy to be my height or just a little taller. My 6'3" boyfriend was too tall for my liking, but it definitely wasn't a deal breaker.
My husband is 5'8", so I'm taller than he is when I wear platforms. I don't mind and he doesn't, either.
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Posted by Leo1212
Do you think height still matters in choosing a mate?
I'm looking at this girl and she's 5'11 and I'm 5'10 and wondering if that's an issue if the girl is taller than the men. Especially if you include high heels!


It's fair if height is a PREFERENCE.
But do I feel it's rational to shrug someone off all b/c they don't meet your height preference although they are compatible with you in every other way? NO.
I prefer taller guys, but never in life have I pushed away a shorter guy with some actual substance.
Preference & requirement should be 2 different things. I hate it when people blur those lines.
No shade towards those who think their height preference is a requirement, it's just that I thought people were more concerned with what's on the INSIDE more than the outside. The INSIDE is who/what you're gonna have to deal with, confide in, have a relationship with & should love the most
Just my opinion
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We've all heard that height preferences have been directly associated with primal desire.
But I wonder if some of you ever used your common sense to realize that holding onto that isn't actually reality.
Plenty of tall guys are NOT protectors, providers, procreators, more successful, etc.
Plenty of short guys ARE protectors, providers, procreators, more successful, etc.
The same is true for women.
Plenty of women with wide hips are NOT able to have children naturally or at all.
Plenty of women with no hips at all DO have children & sometimes even more than the women who do have wide hips
In some cultures (and especially in the animal kingdom), the more you weigh, the more it sends the primal message that you have been fed, provided for, taken care of, thus leading to you being considered more attractive/desired than those who weigh less. I know plenty of fat chicks who aren't taken care of by anybody!!!
Yet think of how opposite that is for U.S. culture. The more heavy you are, the more undesirable you are in terms of primal desire.
The minute you come across someone who discredited a stereotype is the minute you should be realizing just how ignorant & often wrong stereotypes can be.
Again, there's nothing wrong with staying true to your primal & subconscious desires, but when it comes to folks actually thinking short men are inferior or less than all bc of their height, I think that's taking the primal thing too far.
Don't even get me started on how totally wrong D****ck size stereotypes are!
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Posted by size zero superhero
Let's be real here; although a lot of women like tall men for purely aesthetic reasons...ironically, EXTRA-tall, lanky men are commonly afflicted with horse-face syndrome(Howard Stern. Michael Phelps.)



mmmm i love angular faces, and long lanky men, muscular.... just the way i like 'em -- like my hubby.
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Posted by MissFisk
Posted by lisabethur8
i notice alot of super tall men like 'em short and cute.


I've noticed that, too. Either these guys go for tall women (like 5'8" and up) or really short ones (5'3" and down). Very few in between. LOL Weird.
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lol i dont like 'em too tall though. Yuck. or too short.
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Posted by Scenic
I'm 5'2. There's probably not many guys under my height but having one as a partner would probably be a bit of a downer. I won't lie, the physical side of our relationship would be hurting. The tallest I've dated is 6'3, and I really enjoyed that. The other two are around 5'10 which is underwhelming but not an issue. I'd say 5'7 is the point where I'd start feeling disappointed.


??? 5'10 is underwhelming? At that height for someone 5'2, he'd need to squat down to kiss you.
If I was 5'2, 5'7 would be my upper limit, because I wouldn't want to feel like a little kid needing Santa to put me on his lap so I can kiss him. Tongue
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Posted by MissFisk

I wont lie though, I'd be more than slightly heartbroken if he ends up having a 4" peen.


I don't feel bad saying so now(guy turned out to be a lying sack of shight & a generally bad person)but the tallest guy I've been with came up short in that department...and the 5'8" dude was packing a python. LMAO.
Therefore, I can't help but roll my eyes whenever I hear women/gay men draw conclusions via "diq math" & use height/hands/shoe size as a litmus test.
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lmao!!! @ MissFisk and superstarhero.
i used to love talks like this when i was hanging out with my bff. We'd talk about sizes and penises for the hell of it. Tongue Ahhh women talk and the horror and FEAR of a tiny penis.
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Posted by Scenic
I'm 5'2. There's probably not many guys under my height but having one as a partner would probably be a bit of a downer. I won't lie, the physical side of our relationship would be hurting. The tallest I've dated is 6'3, and I really enjoyed that. The other two are around 5'10 which is underwhelming but not an issue. I'd say 5'7 is the point where I'd start feeling disappointed.


??? 5'10 is underwhelming? At that height for someone 5'2, he'd need to squat down to kiss you.
If I was 5'2, 5'7 would be my upper limit, because I wouldn't want to feel like a little kid needing Santa to put me on his lap so I can kiss him. Tongue
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Nah, only the 6'3 guy was out of my reach. : ) 5'10 sounds tall compared to my height, but standing next to a guy that height, I find that there's not a big difference. Nothing that makes me think 'wow, he's tall!'. I mean, my mother says she's 5'6/7. Standing next to her, I think we're the same height, but we're not. 5'10 is only a few inches taller than her. That height difference would be more noticeable than with my mother, but not by much.
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I like tall guys! But I've dated short guys.
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