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Jan 21, 2013Comments: 1412 · Posts: 11166 · Topics: 154
We used to marry till death do us part.
Today, we marry till love dies.
We used to marry and have sex for the first time.
Today, you marry and stop having sex with others.
You used to have monogamy, one person for life.
Today, monogamy, is one person at a time.
Everybody says - "I'm monogamous in all my relationships."
Implicitly, it all makes sense.
What are your thoughts on this matter ?
Has the changing times truly affected our connections with other as greatly as so ?
What impacts do you think this causes ?
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Oct 21, 2015Comments: 11066 · Posts: 36034 · Topics: 110
Yeah for many of us, we saw first hand what going through a divorce looks like. Nasty.
I’m not into it.
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Sep 03, 2016Comments: 36034 · Posts: 40656 · Topics: 321
Yes as Lisa said, too many temptations ... Easily available sex, *swipe, swipe, swipe* so no need for men to wait, and because lots of women make it so so easy, no need to commit ...
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Aug 20, 2018Comments: 742 · Posts: 1173 · Topics: 14
Yeah marriage and relationships in the past were often made to survive. Still happens in this day and age. But not as many people need to use it for survival so more people marry and get in relationships for love and pleasure or live independently. It's a natural step for a socially progressive world.
Personally I could care less about marriage but relationships are serious business. I want a best friend and individual I can make memories with and better myself alongside. But that may not be ideal for others.
And if we're talking about the modern form of dating...eh not my cup of tea. Can't do internet dating, clubs aren't my scene. I'm old school, need to take my time to know a person. And I agree that there is this instant gratification part of Western culture that we could learn to work on.
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Jan 22, 2016Comments: 1153 · Posts: 4982 · Topics: 13
That's because - the overall life was more stable/secure in the past. Most people from older generations - would get a job and work there for decades or even till pension. Plus, they'd get support at buying a house. Even family relations - used be more tight back then (our parents and grandparents used to put up with a lot more than we'd be whiling to - for the sake of harmony). They were brought up with that mentality. And since those people would marry young or in their 20s - that time of stability would cover a big part of their relationship life. Also, and most importantly... many of those didn't marry for love (as in... romance / romantic feelings). They married for stability. They settled. There were also less distractions back then - since there was no internet. So their life was more... real (anchored in reality / "what you see is what you get").
They didn't get into a relationship for sex - but to start a family together. To have children. And they had this mentality prior to their twenties. While now - there's people in their 30s or beyond - who seek a relationship mainly for sex and company. Not to start a family or to have children together.
Simply put it... we live in a different time/world.