Posted by Nemilicious
I posted this in your thread on the scorp board: go to youtube and search these two dudes: sam vaknin and the spartanlifecoach
Vaknin breaks down what a narcissist is and does in such minute detail in all situations of life.
Thespartanlifecoach gives advice on how to heal from this and has really great input.
Understanding is the first step to recovery.
Posted by NemiliciousPosted by CopperDovePosted by Nemilicious
I posted this in your thread on the scorp board: go to youtube and search these two dudes: sam vaknin and the spartanlifecoach
Vaknin breaks down what a narcissist is and does in such minute detail in all situations of life.
Thespartanlifecoach gives advice on how to heal from this and has really great input.
Understanding is the first step to recovery.
Sam Vaknin's videos are excellent. Quite something to watch because he reminds me of someone who had NPD that I knew. The condescending tone both with voice and writing style (I read one of Vaknin's books) is similar.
If i remember correctly, vaknin has twice been diagnosed with npd and had also done time in jail. He states this in a documentary, maybe i can find it and post it. I agree with you about his tone. And he knows he his accurate. A friend of mine bought the complete manual, he said it was dry and monotone sometimes but the info he gathered was worth the read. Did you find it enlightning? I have only watched his videos so far.click to expand
Posted by Nemilicious
I had no idea how dangerous narcs can be and how deep the damage is done.
Posted by Nemilicious
It is mindboggling at times, but eye opening at the same time when you realize you are not the only person dealing with something you cannot find words for. The eureka moments were plentiful! This is why i enjoy the spartanlifecoach. His approach might be out there, but in true spartan manner you stare your opponent (situation) in the eye and tackle.
Posted by NemiliciousPosted by CopperDovePosted by Nemilicious
I had no idea how dangerous narcs can be and how deep the damage is done.
It can be really bad, yes. The higher their intelligence is, the more so. They can be quite ingenious with how they undermine people close to them.
Yes. Quite devastating. The covert narc even more so. Isolating their partners to gain full control seems to be a common theme with them in general.click to expand
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I had no idea how dangerous narcs can be and how deep the damage is done.
It can be really bad, yes. The higher their intelligence is, the more so. They can be quite ingenious with how they undermine people close to them.
Yes. Quite devastating. The covert narc even more so. Isolating their partners to gain full control seems to be a common theme with them in general.
Yes. The person I knew didn't go the full way with that, but it came close.
Wish i was not on my phone, i would write a bit more otherwise. Interested to hear your thoughts on the spartan if you would like to catch up. I have not experienced this at work as you have but i can imagine it being a nasty situation . they like to abuse power.click to expand
Posted by NemiliciousPosted by CopperDovePosted by Nemilicious
I had no idea how dangerous narcs can be and how deep the damage is done.
It can be really bad, yes. The higher their intelligence is, the more so. They can be quite ingenious with how they undermine people close to them.
Yes. Quite devastating. The covert narc even more so. Isolating their partners to gain full control seems to be a common theme with them in general.click to expand
Posted by NemiliciousPosted by CopperDove
@Nemilicious Great! Good to know about Monday.
Cool, the video you just posted about how he overcame narcisstic abuse is the one I had started to watch about a minute before you posted. Excellent stuff! I'll be watching lots of his videos I'm sure.
I might follow suit and watch some of his latest vids! Have a great weekend!
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Posted by backtokemet
interesting stuff ..
one thing I'll say is I wouldn't want to be in the shoes of someone with NPD or BPD
there was this girl in college that I -suspected- of being BPD with 'avoidant tendencies'
(or in layman terms, a shy drama queen .. I actually prefer this over DSM labels created by so-called mental health experts)
one time, I was sitting next to her and picked up on how she felt inside .. it was like a bottomless pit of despair
her vibe made me so uncomfy I feigned taking a nap to hide my discomfort lol
what I'd like to know is:
what really separates someone with a personality disorder (or cluster of them) from a normal person ?