need help with taurus girl. Help please!!

First and foremost, HAPPY DAY!!

I am a scorpio female and I was in a relationship with a taurus female. I need your help taurus girls! Maybe it will help me understand the situation and make it better for the both of us.

We dated for a couple of months and about 3 weeks ago my taurus girl said she wasnt ready to be in a relationship but still wants to be friends. Heres the deal, she was in an 8 year relationship before me and had only been single for about 6 months when we met. From the beginning I told her that we can take it as slow as she wants, no rush no pressure. But the passion between us was so intense and we had a connection like no other! She was the one that asked me to be her gf and I accepted. Now here is where things get weird.....

After our break up she would still text me every day to see how I was doing. This confused me because I still have feelings for her. So I guess I took it the wrong way. Our conversations would always start good but end up bad. We weren't on the same page. I wanted her back so bad but she didnt. I dont know if it was Mercury being in retrograde but all we would do is argue. Last night we had the worst fight of all. I really upset her. I said I felt like she used me just bc she was lonely and hurt. She got sooo upset that she told me she didnt want to talk to me ever again and blocked me completely. I know I was wrong for saying that.

This hurt me so bad She seemed so different when she was my gf. She was the most loving and caring girl. But as soon as she decided to end it, things took a turn for the worst. She would push me away and I saw a side of her that I never knew was possible. I called her from my job because she blocked my cell. I left her a voicemail apologizing but she hasnt called me back. I sent her an email asking her to please unblock me and to forgive me. I told her I take full responsibility for being disrespectful and I sincerely sorry. She hasnt written back. Should I not give up and continue to apologize? Or should I leave her alone? How can I make this better? I care about her so much, she is an amazing girl and I want the best for her. I really love her. Taurus girls please help!!!!

You get what you deserve.

She needed some space from you, and told you so. But, she still contacted to check on you because she cared.

Instead of being understanding that something was wrong with her .. you badgered her instead, because you're emotionally weak and insecure.

So, she did what any reasonable person would do to someone who is unreasonable = she severed all ties to you.


The mature and respectful thing to do would have been to give her some space and let her work through whatever was bothering her. Like a typical Scorpio, you interfered in her personal space, and you are trying to sneak around and trick her into talking to you by using other methods in hopes you can catch her unawares.


Seriously ... grow some fucking dignity and leave her alone.

@P-Angel ouch. You are right,thank you for your reply. I appreciate your honesty.

Her reaction to everything is not proportionate to what actually happened. All of this venom & anger & complete disregard for you isn't all about what you did, said or really about you at all.

She flipped out when you said that b/c what you said had merit. The truth hurt. A lot of her repressed anger towards her ex came out on you. Her reaction was overblown & tells me that nuh uh, some of that 'blow up' had not much to do with you.

Honey sometimes people really believe & convince themselves (not just you) that they are ready to move on. Problem is, it's all fun & games until you fall for someone new. That's when all of your deepest insecurities come out. That's when all of your baggage resurfaces. Why? B/c it dawns on you that you might have to jump out of 1 more plane without a parachute...and that's scary to someone who just got out of a heartbreaking relationship, who's subconsciously nowhere near ready to make any more jumps any time soon.

Should you have given her space when she asked for it? Well of course. You should always honor someone's wishes, especially if you've said/done something to offend them. However, don't apologize for being human. What you did is what most others do when they feel they've offended or are losing their loved ones. A sense of panic sets in & the immediate instinct is to apologize, super glu the pieces back together really quick, & kiss and make up so that you can get back to the amazing relationship you were in before the fight.

Everything about what you did was completely human. Her being able to completely disconnect so quickly from you speaks volumes & makes me believe that she never was fully connected. Love is so powerful in the 1st place b/c it brings out a level of endurance to be understanding, forgiving & giving in situations most people would've told you to F off in. That's why love is so blind & illogical.

She may have cared about you, but she was never fully connected. Perhaps your initial instinct about her maybe needing more time to heal from the past before getting with you, was correct. She knew it was correct too...that's why your spoken revelation hit a chord.

@krysrenee7 wow thank you so much for your words. What you said made me look at things differently and made me feel so much better. It makes sense to me because she started seeing a therapist a couple of weeks ago to help her move on from her past. That is when she told me she needs to close circles from her past before she can start anything with me. She even told me no physical or sexual contact anymore because her therapist told her she can not have any attachment to anyone right now. I respected her decision with the physical and sexual contact but what threw me off was that she would reach out to me. I guess it gave me hope and I didnt want to give up. I told her I would wait as long as she needs and she said it could take 6 months or 6 years and that I shouldnt put my life on hold for another person. Things got weird after that. One day she would want to know how I was doing but the next she would push me away..


When I told her that I felt as if she used me because she was lonely and hurt her response was that I was disrespectful for saying that and that I had crossed the line. She said that my insecurities are my own enemy and I need to see a therapist because she never gave me a reason to think that I was being used. She said she truly cares about me and that is why she is doing this. I know that no one hurts anyone intentionally, I know that she didnt mean for this to happen. Which is why I feel so regretful for saying those words to her.

I am giving her space. She hasnt reached out to me yet, I'm still blocked. I have accepted the situation and can only look forward from here. I dont have any regrets bc the relationship was an amazing one. I just hope we can have a friendship at least.

Once again, thank you for your response. You have been a big help and I am grateful to the universe for that!

Well of course you are .... that counsel took all responsibility off of you, and placed on her to suggest you did nothing wrong, while she did everything wrong.


Have fun in the bliss of your ignorance.

@P-Angel Not really, I accept full responsibility for my actions. I also took your words to heart and have given her space. I wanted to send her flowers to apologize but I remembered what you said and grew some dignity and decided to give her space instead of flowers.

I also did not say she did anything wrong. I actually said I know she didnt mean to hurt me intentionally. Its life. It happens. Its just the situation that sucks, not her.

I'm not here to complain about what happened between us. Im here to try to make it better. Thank you for your reply because it has helped me as well.

Nothing to add here but thought it was a good post and with interesting points made by P-Angel and K. Sometimes I read some of these posts out of interest and I can relate some of the stuff back to my own situations. Always learning! _??_

I can see where your Taurus is coming from on 1 angle...She's right...If she's not right in the head or if she's not emotionally available, secure or stable enough to love you the right way, then she has no business fooling you or herself into believing that you ever had a fair chance at having a long term, healthy, connected & fulfilling relationship with her. And if that was never likely, she's right, there's no need for you to stay around 'dreaming' or living in 'wishful thinking' that all of us know usually results in disappointment & an extra 10 pounds of rejection, grueling analyzing and a dead end street. People get hurt when they lie to themselves, as you can see.

And unfortunately, again, sometimes people WANT to believe that a new beau will wipe all of their sorrows away & do the cleaning of their past for them, but that's just not how emotions or the process works. And it may not hit the other person until shit has already gotten real & feelings have already been established.

So although I agree that her letting you go romantically is her doing the BOTH of you a favor in the long run, I also understand why you felt used and like you'd just driven a roller coaster that ended up diving into the ground.

You're right...Usually when someone is emotionally available, truly connected to you & truly in love with you, what she did does NOT happen. So to be fair, she liked/loved you to the extent that an emotionally damaged and unavailable person would love someone.

Now that you know she's emotionally unavailable, stop expecting her to love you as if she wasn't emotionally damaged.

Does accepting that suck? Hell yeah. But no matter what, always own how you feel! Never back down from what your own instincts are telling you. She was using you, she just didn't know it. Yes, intent is everything and she obviously didn't mean to hurt you. BUT she did. And she needs to own that.

She may never own it. Unfortunately. And hey, someone as emotionally clouded as she is will probably have a hard time seeing a point of view other than her own right now! She's in safe mode, so space is what's best for her and you.

I know the truth hurts, BUT waiting for a bus that'll never come and/or being in denial hurts a lotttttttt worse & is a pain that will last a loooooot longer. Remember that.