Any insight / experience is welcome of course.
Neediness - how do I get rid of it
Posted by NeshamaPosted by Noaddic
Any insight / experience is welcome of course.
If you are needy you will never be happy. If you are needed you will always be happy.
Meet the needs of others and don't focus on your own needs.click to expand
This is beautiful. Props. And thanks, I'll keep this in mind.
1. Instead of focusing on what you’re not getting, Focus on the positive and make a conscious effort to notice the things that they do do for you.
2. Give space and be confident in your partner.
3. Ask yourself before you do or say something how you would feel if someone was doing what you’re about to do to you. Would you find this needy? Would this turn you off? Would you like this?
I have Scorpio venus and new relationships were always hard for me. Once I felt secure, I would be fine, but the uncertainty of a new relationship was always tough
2. Give space and be confident in your partner.
3. Ask yourself before you do or say something how you would feel if someone was doing what you’re about to do to you. Would you find this needy? Would this turn you off? Would you like this?
I have Scorpio venus and new relationships were always hard for me. Once I felt secure, I would be fine, but the uncertainty of a new relationship was always tough
Neediness in some degrees is normal, people need interaction.
Neediness that instigates negative feelings of abandonment or anxiety, I think comes from a place of resentment for others perception of you...it’s ego disguised as a “nice guy”.
This takes a form of “ownership” over others and wanting to control those around you in order to serve one purpose which is “serving you”.
This kind of neediness can become a life of its own and the more you feed this desire you’re more willing to overlook others needs vs your own.
This all leads to narcissism imo.
Neediness that instigates negative feelings of abandonment or anxiety, I think comes from a place of resentment for others perception of you...it’s ego disguised as a “nice guy”.
This takes a form of “ownership” over others and wanting to control those around you in order to serve one purpose which is “serving you”.
This kind of neediness can become a life of its own and the more you feed this desire you’re more willing to overlook others needs vs your own.
This all leads to narcissism imo.
Find a side piece..
😂 JK.. Don't listen to me.
😂 JK.. Don't listen to me.
Posted by Noaddic
Any insight / experience is welcome of course.
Do you think you are needy? And if so, in what way? I think neediness mostly comes from insecurities which to some degree is normal we all go through. Are you more a giver or taker?
Posted by NeshamaPosted by Noaddic
Any insight / experience is welcome of course.
If you are needy you will never be happy. If you are needed you will always be happy.
Meet the needs of others and don't focus on your own needs.click to expand
Yes! This right here take the focus off your self and put it toward others. This is some of the most self-fullfilling imo.
Posted by NeshamaPosted by Noaddic
Any insight / experience is welcome of course.
If you are needy you will never be happy. If you are needed you will always be happy.
Meet the needs of others and don't focus on your own needs.click to expand
Terrible advice. Being needy could actually be a sign that you are not taking care of your TRUE inner needs. If you recognize them and take care of those, you will not experience "neediness"
Posted by NeshamaPosted by Romz-
Neediness in some degrees is normal, people need interaction.
Neediness that instigates negative feelings of abandonment or anxiety, I think comes from a place of resentment for others perception of you...it’s ego disguised as a “nice guy”.
This takes a form of “ownership” over others and wanting to control those around you in order to serve one purpose which is “serving you”.
This kind of neediness can become a life of its own and the more you feed this desire you’re more willing to overlook others needs vs your own.
This all leads to narcissism imo.
everyone has needs....... that isnt being needy thoughclick to expand
Yeah, I didn’t flower my interpretation of neediness like you did....it’s the reality of what neediness becomes (unchecked).
Read the very beginning again...I think I explained clearly what it becomes.
Posted by BoomShakalakaBoomPosted by NeshamaPosted by Noaddic
Any insight / experience is welcome of course.
If you are needy you will never be happy. If you are needed you will always be happy.
Meet the needs of others and don't focus on your own needs.
Terrible advice. Being needy could actually be a sign that you are not taking care of your TRUE inner needs. If you recognize them and take care of those, you will not experience "neediness"click to expand
This is way better advice imo that the OP...
You have to be self aware and without that self awareness, you’re doing nothing but meeting your basic emotional needs and trading one addiction for another (serve me vs. I’ll serve you instead).
Posted by GemLoverPosted by Yodi
Find a side piece..
😂 JK.. Don't listen to me.
😆 this is hilarious. You are on the right path to being the most liked. Us mutable men like that about women.click to expand
What's the best way to veer from this path you speak of? 😫😌
Posted by NeshamaPosted by Noaddic
Any insight / experience is welcome of course.
If you are needy you will never be happy. If you are needed you will always be happy.
Meet the needs of others and don't focus on your own needs.click to expand
Beautiful 👌
Posted by GemLoverPosted by YodiPosted by GemLoverPosted by Yodi
Find a side piece..
😂 JK.. Don't listen to me.
😆 this is hilarious. You are on the right path to being the most liked. Us mutable men like that about women.
What's the best way to veer from this path you speak of? 😫😌
I don't know. What are you talking about? I'm confused.click to expand
I've done my job then 😂😂
you're not needy until someone else judges you as such
you can assess your needs and see if they need taming
otherwise it's them who are inadequate, not you
solutions:
-fill your own needs yourself
-find someone who can fill your needs better
-find someone supplementary to fill your needs
-other(?)
you can assess your needs and see if they need taming
otherwise it's them who are inadequate, not you
solutions:
-fill your own needs yourself
-find someone who can fill your needs better
-find someone supplementary to fill your needs
-other(?)
Get rid of the "scarcity mindset", and develop an "abundance mindset".
When you scared to lose someone, they become a need.
When you understand most people are expendable and everybody got something different to offer you - you build an abundance.
When you selling something in a room full of people, if one person doesn't wanna buy - you don't hound them down, you don't try to convince them. You take no for an answer and accept that they don't want it, then move on.. Because there are 30 other people to talk to you may have a chance of making a sell.
If you selling that same product in a room with only 3 people.. You might have an scarcity of not making a sell, and be a needy entrepreneur.
Just basically knowing and actually BELIEVING there are other fish in the sea.
Get more friends or men/women in your life, or understand that you can live without someone.
When you scared to lose someone, they become a need.
When you understand most people are expendable and everybody got something different to offer you - you build an abundance.
When you selling something in a room full of people, if one person doesn't wanna buy - you don't hound them down, you don't try to convince them. You take no for an answer and accept that they don't want it, then move on.. Because there are 30 other people to talk to you may have a chance of making a sell.
If you selling that same product in a room with only 3 people.. You might have an scarcity of not making a sell, and be a needy entrepreneur.
Just basically knowing and actually BELIEVING there are other fish in the sea.
Get more friends or men/women in your life, or understand that you can live without someone.
Posted by MoonbutterPosted by Noaddic
Any insight / experience is welcome of course.
Do you think you are needy? And if so, in what way? I think neediness mostly comes from insecurities which to some degree is normal we all go through. Are you more a giver or taker?click to expand
Needy in the way that I get really emotional over a girl I barely know but feel is the right one for me and vice versa.
And I have very deep insecurity, had this almost all my life. I am a giver, but a bit too much of a giver sometimes. Almost martyr-like, sacrificing myself for someone while it's not even necessary. It's weird.
Posted by Notmyrealname
Maybe neediness comes from some predisposed or learnt lack of security or neglect, that either does or does not reflect your current reality. It’s difficult to offer specific solutions to a general problem.
I do know that scorp risings generally have a tendency towards repressing their desires like it’s somehow weak to show that you need what you need from people.
Thank you for your advice. Sounds good.
The part I quoted, is extremely accurate. I am quite surprised actually, never read that before about scorpio risings.
Being a pisces with a capricorn moon (mother not capable of giving love) might contribute to it as well.
Posted by NoaddicPosted by MoonbutterPosted by Noaddic
Any insight / experience is welcome of course.
Do you think you are needy? And if so, in what way? I think neediness mostly comes from insecurities which to some degree is normal we all go through. Are you more a giver or taker?
Needy in the way that I get really emotional over a girl I barely know but feel is the right one for me and vice versa.
And I have very deep insecurity, had this almost all my life. I am a giver, but a bit too much of a giver sometimes. Almost martyr-like, sacrificing myself for someone while it's not even necessary. It's weird.click to expand
Actually, this makes perfect sense considering your astrological placements. I think if you can understand your self better, your motivations and why you feel certain type of way then that may be very eye opening for you 🙂
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