obviously an 8 year age difference is wayway old

This topic was created in the Relationships forum by shishno on Sunday, April 13, 2008 and has 9 replies.
Wow thought I'd never fall for a girl 8 yrs younger then me... (1983)24-17..(1991) Anyway. I did not mean to fall for this girl. It just happened! even tho I knew she was underage. I resisted I had to. I feel bad because I broke her heart. I felt broken inside as well... Yes I agree Love is more important. But love behind bars is just not worth it... God why?? I look like I'm 18 for Christ sake!! ITS JUST AN AGE DIFFRENCE BY 8 YEARS. Oh shit it's the end of the world! Well yea anyways. I told her how Old I was and that it couldn't work out.. I've never felt a strong connection with any other girl like this. Not like I'm old enough to be her dad. I'm just typing what's on my head. I would not tell this to other people or to her in person. Love stinks... The law is stronger then love I guess?. It will even brake 2 people meant to be together? apart. I feel the pain. Also just go out there look at a guy in his early 20's and look at the girls in there late teens? Now look at the girls in there 20's? yea?. Not all older guys are asses or rapist or sex monsters. NO I was actually in love with this girl. Again like I said I.T. J.U.S.T. happened! I didn't plan it I didn't look for it. NO. Cupid strikes when you least expects it.. And damn he hit me with a gargantuan love spear? And by god have mercy on your soul if you ever find yourself in the same situation.. I'm pissed with this ridicules law. Also an 18 year old can go to jail for dating a 16 year old?. If only we were in London?
Ask your self one question.. What would you do if all of a sudden if you have to give up the one you love because everyone said so. Change the law people under 25 can date 16. and 16 and up can date people at 25. That is until they have reach 17 for parents permission and 18 can of course pass the age limit of 25. Most of you would think that is just a horrible Idea. Its not like that age so called ?big? gap could be parents now can it? or have kids that are 16 at 24??? That's what I thought?Yea I could wait till she is 18. but by the time that happens it could be to late.. The reason for everyone's existence is to find there true happiness.. THAT is the reason of life? To search of happiness no matter what it is. Have a nice day. I'm going to cry in my pillow now?
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shishno,
I don't know if you've read Chinese Astrology, but that 4, 8, 12, 16, (multiples of 4) year difference is a powerful pull. Like the western 5 - 9 pull (Aries/Leo, Aquarius/Libra, Capricorn/Taurus). So don't be surprised. My first real "love" was four years younger than me and still haunts me to this day. Your combination is the Boar and the Sheep (chinese) and Scorpio and Cancer (western).
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Shisno,
I feel your pain.I wouldn't want a relationship with someone who is 8yrs younger or older than me until I fell in love with them. Once I fall in love though, I don't care whatever the differences are(except if the other person is too young, in which case I will wait) I will try my best to spend my time with them.But if you are in true love, you will have patience and everything will be alright.
You can ponder on the following answer to 'what is love?' while you wait for her to be old enough. I got it off of here: http://www.love-sessions.com/whatislove.htm

Love is patient, love is kind. It has no envy, nor it boasts itself and it is never proud. It rejoices over the evil and is the truth seeker. Love protects; preserves and hopes for the positive aspect of life. Always stand steadfast in love, not fall into it. It is like the dream of your matter of affection coming true. Love can occur between two or more individuals. It bonds them and connects them in a unified link of trust, intimacy and interdependence. It enhances the relationship and comforts the soul. Love should be experienced and not just felt. The depth of love can not be measured. Look at the relationship between a mother and a child. The mother loves the child unconditionally and it can not be measured at all. A different dimension can be attained between any relationships with the magic of love. Love can be created. You just need to focus on the goodness of the other person. If this can be done easily, then you can also love easily. And remember we all have some positive aspect in us, no matter how bad our deeds maybe. And as God said ?Love all?

I don't want to preach but just remember that if you find true love(not just infatuation) you will be the happiest. Best of luck to you, my friend.
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Actually, there is more after 'God 'love all'... on the website. I just didn't post it.
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Thanks for your support guys. Really do appreciate it. Yea. I've read the Chinese horoscope. Sheep and boar has a connection. When we first made eye contact it was wow this girl is beautiful. And the second time we made eye contact was when I said hello to her and she said hi with a smile that made my heart skip a beat. And every time I see her its like time slows down and what ever that I was doing I had forgot and if I was talking to someone I would mumble and stop talking and forget what I was talking about. We always make eye contact. Non of the other employees know what this. And I wanna keep it that way. I don't want them to label me as a pervert. Usually I'm flirtatious with girls but I have changed I truly want her to know that there is no one but her. I do this but the other girls try to flirt with me at work I talk to them normal but I can tell there trying to flirt since most people can just tell.. I just talk to them normally and this is a first for me. I do not wanna screw things up. I want to let her know that. NO. I am not interested in another girl. One day I would just like to stop her and say. Every time I see you is the best couple seconds of my day. Some times when your near me I cant move and I become speech less. You make me talk but not really know what I'm talking about witch makes me sound stupid. I get lost in your beauty. And All I can think of is. If only I can hold you look into your eye's and get lost forever I'd do it.. You make me want to change and become everything. I don't know how you may take this but I am prepared for the worst. If you feel the same way or not I do not know but I will respect it. In a nut shell. I like you. That's what I would say to her.. Well something like that. And I think. What if she doesn't feel the same way. If its just me that feels this way. I cant fall any deeper for I would not be able to climb back up if things do not go as I had hoped for. I also have a really good way in hiding my feelings so she probably has no idea this is how I truly fell because I don't wanna scare her off. She is the only girl I cant really talk about because of her age and people will make fun of me? But yea It feels a like Romeo + Juliet. Again thanks for your support I just really had to express my true feelings some how. And this is the best way I can think of?
Oh yea! Chinese is indeed a Boar and she is the sheep =)thanks pathfinder! If you must know I'm Cancer sun. Libra moon. Gemini ascendant.
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8 years is a big difference when the girl is 17...there have to be other women that you've found attractive....
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oh, man. Take me back to when I dated a guy with the same age difference. No, I change that I was 17 he was, I dont remember. I could swear that he was (8) years older than me and I lost count. I went to bars with him, I skipped school for him, I did all sorts of crazy crap. Oh, and he would drop me off around the corner from my parents house for months. (they had no clue). Then I dated a guy that was (8) years older than me (we got along soooo well). I went away to the military and both were left in Cali. (8) years is the perfect age difference (according to Chinese astrology (4)years as well). Dont fret. I am way into older guys. When you are 38 and she is 30-who cares. I am head over heels for a guy now that is 10years my senior. who cares.
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At 30 you're right, who cares...at least you're an adult by then..But 17, come on..she's a child...
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" don't know if you've read Chinese Astrology, but that 4, 8, 12, 16, (multiples of 4) year difference is a powerful pull." .....Interesting
PD
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