Online Dating Taboo....

Just some questions & thoughts about the online dating experience...
I have yet tp sign up or ever try but have become more and more curious...
Any experiences anyone care to share? Would you rather join a free sight or one you pay to join? what are some of the perks? Downfalls?
Why choose one site from another? What should I look for on any particular site? Please do tell! Curious scorp girl here!

I tried all kinds of dating sites and I did not find the free ones to be any different (read: worse) than the paid ones.

If anything, I found the paid ones to be annoying because they give you a very small number of matches. also, people join up for free accounts to try it but don't want to pay the money so there are a bunch of people who are non- contactable.

here are the ones I tried:
Okcupid- nice format. I love the questions. I met my boyfriend on there. We were an 85% match according to okcupid, we have been together a year.

Plenty of Fish- I call this one "the man supermarket". Pretty user friendly.Met dozens of nice men. A couple creepers.

Christian Mingle- scary, scary place. did not meet anyone there and found the pics and descriptions to be a little creepy.

Zoosk- fun place. I paid for this one. i met one person on there and I dated him on and off for 6 months.

eharmony- only gives you 3 matches at a time and i found a lot of them to be long-distance. disappointing for the money.

I think of online dating to be the same as a bar. Only i don't go to bars, so I chose to meet people online.

You see someone you like, sometimes they are nice, sometimes they are creepy. Sometimes they are not interested and won't even talk to you. sometimes you hit a home run.

And just like at a bar, some of the people are flakes and some are just looking to get laid.
Some of them will tell you that right off the bat.

Just like at a bar, you need to use your head and remember that the people are strangers to you. also use your gut. If something feels wrong, it probably is.

Unlike at a bar, you will have the opportunity to talk to dozens of people at the same time, and can screen them out easily.

Always meet in a public place. Do not go to any man's house or have them to your house. Don't even tell them where you live. This is just common sense when meeting a stranger for the first time.

more likely to find someone who is serious on a pay site i would think. i have been on plenty of free sites and its the same BS. then again thats par for the course these days, not just online. im on a paid site but dont pay therefore i cant contact anyone 😢 the clientele of women is a little higher than all the other sites i've been on.

i would never bother with sites like plenty of whales

Posted by Metaphysical
more likely to find someone who is serious on a pay site i would think. i have been on plenty of free sites and its the same BS. then again thats par for the course these days, not just online. im on a paid site but dont pay therefore i cant contact anyone 😢 the clientele of women is a little higher than all the other sites i've been on.

i would never bother with sites like plenty of whales

This is exactly the problem with the paid sites. Why are you on the site if you are not going to pay? Seems like a waste of time.

at least it weeds out all the things i dont want, especially since i have "high standards". kinda like going shopping

Yeah but you are not actually meeting anyone because you can't contact them.

Posted by capgirl69

Posted by Metaphysical
more likely to find someone who is serious on a pay site i would think. i have been on plenty of free sites and its the same BS. then again thats par for the course these days, not just online. im on a paid site but dont pay therefore i cant contact anyone 😢 the clientele of women is a little higher than all the other sites i've been on.

i would never bother with sites like plenty of whales

This is exactly the problem with the paid sites. Why are you on the site if you are not going to pay? Seems like a waste of time.

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why should i have to? makes me feel like im ordering a prostitute or something. i would pay for it if i felt like it actually worked. women can contact me off there if they are a member but we know women refuse to initiate contact because a man is "supposed" to.

i joined because there are women who actually want marriage on there.

Posted by capgirl69
Yeah but you are not actually meeting anyone because you can't contact them.

i've never met anyone off free sites either

There are women who actually want marriage everywhere. lol.

I'm not trying to give you a hard time, honest.

Say I'm paying to meet people and I see your profile. You look like a nice guy. But you have not paid for the site, so why should I contact you?

According to your own logic, people are more serious on the paid sites. But if you are not paying, you don't look that serious, know what I mean?

Anyway, I dated online for about 2 years. I did not find that to be true. The one person I met on a paid site was nice, but no better than the ones I met on the free sites.

There are good people everywhere. You just have to look for them.

Exactly, like going shopping. YOU CANNOT SHOP FOR LOVE OR DATES.

Plenty of Whales hahhahhahaha love it!

Even match.com has events now where you can meet face to face.

plenty of women who dont pay for the site who want serious relationships. i dont think "this woman isnt serious because she isnt paying $ 40/month to become a member" when i see her profile.

But you do think that people who use free sites will not be serious.
Even though the people on the paid sites are using it for free.
Faulty logic, that is all I'm saying.

Posted by sunshine222
Exactly, like going shopping. YOU CANNOT SHOP FOR LOVE OR DATES.

Plenty of Whales hahhahhahaha love it!

Even match.com has events now where you can meet face to face.

You can meet anyone on any site face to face. All you have to do is set up a date. You don't need to go to an event, though I am sure that is nice.

Around here they have event dating services where you can go to these events to meet people. You just go to concerts or mixers and everyone there is single.

no, i just doubt any will meet the criteria. this goes for anywhere.....online or offline.

this site is higher quality in general it just happens to be paid site.

Thx! I got a lot from the feedback =) cappy girl....what kinda questions are asked that you think are significant in helping me find my match? How would I stay clear of the "supermarket?!" How can I tell if its the supermarket type...any specific suggestions...looking for all opionions before I actually join one...and which one?

Metap! Why is the one site considered a higher quality site over the other? Any specifics?

Posted by missscorp123
Thx! I got a lot from the feedback =) cappy girl....what kinda questions are asked that you think are significant in helping me find my match? How would I stay clear of the "supermarket?!" How can I tell if its the supermarket type...any specific suggestions...looking for all opionions before I actually join one...and which one?

I actually liked that it was a supermarket. Lol. If that's not your thing then stay off that site.

On okcupid, there are thousands of random questions. It's a great time killer, but what they do is show you how you stack up against potential mates. You can see how the other people answered the questions and you can tell it what answers you would like or accept. Based on this information, the site gives you a percentage of compatibility. I liked it because it was fun and also some of the questions are good ice breakers or conversation starters.

Cappygirl! So you had fun shopping & went hungry! Ha! The one you met you bf that's the fun one rite?! How much does somthing like that put one out a month and you got a bf out of it..yay, success! Worth the money? Any type of guarantees asking to much?! Ha! I am definitely curious about the more quality aka upscale type of site...aside from paying how am I able to determine so?

Posted by missscorp123
Metap! Why is the one site considered a higher quality site over the other? Any specifics?

less fat chicks

Lmao! I trust this is true...but aside from that, what else gives you that feeling? Is it the quality of people? Screening criteria...I guess I'm just totally nervous about going head first with this type of deal..its all so foreign to me still

i dont know really, maybe its maybelline. or maybe i was just born with it.

maybe we should start a DXP dating site 😉

From my experience, you can pick up a lot by just talking to them online...their profiles mostly are full of it, they create what they want to be. I've read where they say they are humorous and yet nothing further makes you laugh whether in their profiles or when talking to them. I found a lot of guys didn't even say much at all, they didn't ask questions or talk about you or them...

And the 2 I did meet looked nothing like their profile pics, one was much older looking and the other was short!!! My gf, met a guy that had facelifts and looked like Mickey Rourke! Nothing like his pic in his profile.

Think if I hadn't cancelled my membership because I thought it was a complete waste of time, I would in hindsight ask to skype them before meeting in person.

Posted by missscorp123
Cappygirl! So you had fun shopping & went hungry! Ha! The one you met you bf that's the fun one rite?! How much does somthing like that put one out a month and you got a bf out of it..yay, success! Worth the money? Any type of guarantees asking to much?! Ha! I am definitely curious about the more quality aka upscale type of site...aside from paying how am I able to determine so?

Absolutely free.

I've done Plenty of Fish and Christian Mingle. I agree with you capgirl about Christian Mingle. There was not very many men and it seemed like when you did finally find one of interest he would want to email on the site back and forth for 2 mo before meeting. I have actually enjoyed plenty of fish and met some nice guys. You just have to be selective. All the men of looked have liked like their pics and their profiles have matched who they said they were...but like I said I am selective. And for the guy calling it plenty of whales I'm not fat...I am actually a nice attractive girl with moral and values that has all the qualities a man wants. I just choose to do a free site after Christian Mingle which was a paid one because I really didn't get anywhere with that one. And I kinda have to a agree with capgirl??_why are you on a paid site and not paying for it??_that is strange. I will say that I have had a few men from POF tell me I should be on OKCupid because I am relationship minded and not just there for hook ups. And my ex boyfriend that I meet of plenty of fish and dated for about 10 mo always told me I had no business being on that site because I was too good of a person for there. The only reason we broke up was because of distance...he lived 2 hrs away and wanted me to move in with him after 9 mo and I was not ready. He was a great guy and great boyfriend! But with what he and other guys said maybe try OKCupid...after hearing capgirl rave about it and following her posts on the Scorp board, with how cute here and her beau are, I'm thinking of go and setting up a profile up! 🙂

Oops I dont know what i did up there put to clarify all the men have looked like their profil pics.

I never tried Plenty of Fish because I don't like the fact that you don't have to "sign up/join" and can go on and look at everyone's profiles. It's too easy for outsiders to be nosey. I'm in a small town and feel like its not everyone's business that I would be on a dating site and what I put on my profile.

Now OKCupid I tried. You do have to sign up to look around. Therefore, I felt more comfortable that if they looked at my profile, they had one too. I got mostly messages from much older or much younger men, but I did e-mail with one nice man for a short while. I never did meet anyone from the site and didn't stay on it long.

I joined Match.com. Liked it except for people have profiles that aren't even active. I think Match does that so it looks like you have a lot of people to choose from. I had luck on that site. Talked to one guy quite a bit, but we never met up and I had two dates. That's where I found my aqua. 🙂

I met my man on Plenty Of Fish... still going strong, didn't muck around on there for too long, we found each other pretty quickly and went offline...
I didn't pay for it and neither did he, we were both pretty skeptical about online dating for some reason but not about each other lol!

CAPGRIL 69 THROW ME UNDER THE BUS FOR A REAL PERSON
WELL I AM A REAL PERSON BUT HARD TO GO OUT WITH BECAUSE OF ABOUT 3,000 MILES ITS A LONG WAY TO GO FOR A DATE.