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Sep 20, 2019Comments: 129 · Posts: 260 · Topics: 10
How would you feel if you were dating someone but found out later on in the relationship that he/she slept with someone else before you were "exclusive"?
I personally would have serious reservations about moving forward with the relationship but my perception may be skewed.
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Feb 23, 2013Comments: 22238 · Posts: 25616 · Topics: 84
You are dating. What’s the big deal? You weren’t exclusive. How can you expect exclusivity when you are in the dating faze, with out having a chat about it.
Edited to add, I understand though cause if I find out about it, they get back burnered. Lol. But I will have the talk about who else they are having sex with. If it’s open, it remains open and goes no where.
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Feb 18, 2019Comments: 9549 · Posts: 12626 · Topics: 250
Wouldn't feel a thing. We weren't exclusive.
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Mar 25, 2016Comments: 235 · Posts: 1112 · Topics: 19
He/she slept with someone before you met. Before your first date. Before your second date. He/she slept with people before you. They had a sexual past.
If a woman cheated on my when we were exclusive, I might be less likely to give the a second chance (not saying I would give them a chance) if she slept with someone when we were dating right before we were exclusive. I guess what I mean is that I would way this against other things.
If your boyfriend slept with someone before you were exclusive and treated you respectfully at all times and gave you no reason to think they were unfaithful currently then really what's the problem.
I don't think it's black or white. It's all relative here.
If was dating a woman for a while and things were moving really well and I met each others' friends, and started talking about the future, but perhaps never had the "exclusive" conversation, and then I found out that she slept with her ex right before she brought up the exclusive conversation, perhaps I might be wary of her maturity or mindset.
Bottom line though, is you're not exclusive, you're technically allowed to see other people, and this includes sleeping with them. I would hope that my significant other wasn't trying to sleep around with everyone while we were dating before exclusivity though. Context is important.
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Oct 21, 2015Comments: 11066 · Posts: 36034 · Topics: 110
I don’t fuck unless sexual exclusivity is on the table anyways. Or I don’t see a repeat there.
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Feb 12, 2020Comments: 710 · Posts: 1324 · Topics: 11
Dating is to relationships what engagement is to marriage. IMO.
I'd probably keep her around for booty calls but keep looking for greener pastures. After all we're "only dating", lol.
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Nov 10, 2015Comments: 0 · Posts: 3254 · Topics: 48
If we aren't exclusive then its none of my business, what you do and its none of your business, what I do.
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Oct 31, 2017Comments: 1490 · Posts: 2835 · Topics: 0
probably be upset and interrogate her/put her through hell for a couple hours (something like those Amber Heard/Johnny Depp tapes), then get over it/forget about it in a week or two if the connection and the sex is good....
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Dec 16, 2013Comments: 129 · Posts: 1170 · Topics: 4
It’s like a ‘don’t ask, don’t tell policy’ in the beginning of dating. I think so many people would be really disappointed to find out how many potential suitors have sex with others early on in the dating phase. Unless they made an agreement with you that the two of you are exclusive, not dating or having sex with others, I usually expect it. This person had lovers and a life before you so I really don’t see what’s the big deal. But I know my opinion is in the minority.
I joined a dating site and get a fair share of responses. Even on that level, I will only communicate with one person at a time. I feel that juggling more would be spreading myself too thin and no one wins. I give them a fair chance by giving my undivided attention. However, once it goes south, the opportunity is lost forever. I make this clear up front.
I take note of those that are online for a couple hours and I can say that almost every man is communicating with numerous women at the same time. If I respond to their message and see that they take their time getting back to me, they get bumped off. My inbox on that site has many who wanted to reignite the conversation but hit the brick wall. I do get a certain satisfaction from shunning them at that point that is probably inducing some bad karma..
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Aug 14, 2017Comments: 19 · Posts: 827 · Topics: 18
Since I am a Scorpio, with a certain degree of self entitlement and ownership mentality, when it comes to dating, this would be a resounding no/flag for me. It would put me off to know someone wasn't as invested as I and , would ultimately lead to the demise of said situationship sadly.
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Jan 10, 2015Comments: 1877 · Posts: 16918 · Topics: 108
I would be in pure outrage. So much I would actually act stupid and pretend I don't know. I would do this long enough to get every last card out of their favor, and leave them with nothing more then being purely the fucked up person in the eyes of the public, and their personal family in general. Then I would cut off all ties while still manipultin their lives in any way possible from a distance for the rest of our lives.
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Sep 03, 2016Comments: 36034 · Posts: 40656 · Topics: 321
I've known women who are so desperate to keep a man, they'll agree to be in any kind of arrangement, even if it's to their own detriment
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