So I met this guy 4 months ago one night when I was out with the girls. The minute we met we were attached at the hips and teasing eachother with our crazy sarcasm and jokes all night and ended the night with a kiss. Almost every night for two weeks we were still attached at the hip and having so much fun. I’m telling you I’ve never felt like this with anyone else I don’t know how to explain it he brings out the best in me and I can be my total self around him. Anyways Unfortunatley after the two weeks he did something a little shady and went back with an ex( long story) I thought he was an ass and didn’t speak to him for 4 months.
So then came a couple weeks ago. I felt like I needed closure with him. they ended up breaking up not long after getting together. So anyways I finally got my stubborn butt to text him and just tell him hi and that I forgave him. We had a great conversation that ended that night totally innocent.
Things still didn’t feel like closure I can’t get the man out of my head and I knew he missed me I swear I could feel him think about me. So a couple days ago. We were texting and he finally came out and said “I would really love to explain things in person what I did was wrong but I still think you deserve an explanation. I’ve missed you and I think about you a lot but I figured I totally blew it”
So I invited him over the next night and we talked and talked and talked like we never spent time apart. We finally talked about what had happened and I did realize I did misunderstood some of it and yes he was wrong too. But it made more sense. And then I explained how painful it was that he did that and he said I’m so sorry I’m so glad your telling me this in person bc I can really see it and how badly it hurt you. So we ended the night on a good note. No touching kissing nothing!
After he left I felt horrible not knowing if we were going to start talking again or not was that the last time I see him? So the next day I was actually feeling sad not knowing if I should text him or not and I almost felt he felt the same wayso I didn’t I woke up the next morning with a text from him from the night before “did you have a good day?” Him and I are always kind of both afraid if eachother is interested or not and both don’t want to be too pushy that’s just who we are. So after that text I got that morning I sent him one back and e texted through out the day and night and he texted me good night that night.
So then the next day came around I didn’t hear anything from him and I have no idea if he’s trying to be nice or if he’s feeling the same way I am and just compleltey not sure where eachother are and what we want to do. I didn’t hear from him at all that day and still haven’t today....
What do you guys think? Do you think he’s just not interested? Feels unsure like me? Not worth it?
I tell ya this guy would not be my first pick for looks but Deffinatley not my last but our chemistry and connection is unreal. I’ve never felt a bond or connection like I do with him and I thought that the very same day. I know he’s supposed to be in my life one way or another. He makes me feel like I want to be my best self without feeling weird and the kisses..... woah 😍 it’s like nothing ever before.
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Oct 21, 2015Comments: 11066 · Posts: 36034 · Topics: 110
Ewwww no.
Your second choice. He circled back around cause it didn’t work out with the chick he really wanted. Don’t let yourself forget that.
Never take a dude back who makes you anything but first choice.
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Aug 16, 2011Comments: 3 · Posts: 7849 · Topics: 52
He’s not that interested. Why did you forgive him for something he didn’t ask to be forgiven for?
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Aug 16, 2011Comments: 3 · Posts: 7849 · Topics: 52
The title is misleading since you were never together and if the connection is so strong and mutual why did he disappear to get back with his ex? You must ask yourself these questions.
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Jun 20, 2014Comments: 1 · Posts: 3847 · Topics: 1
You may have an Eros/Psyche connection that is strong.
Be aware that just because you feel a connection it does not mean he feels the same. Careful of wearing rose tinted glasses.
I think he feels something for you. He made the effort to explain how things were a few months ago. That may have been some kind of guilt or just his way of dealing with things.
Unresolved issues with ex partners who are still in the picture is a problem. Is she still around? What happened here? That's what I'd focus on. Plus, I'd think about what you want, what you're ready for, what you can or cannot offer right now. Is he looking for the same as you? If he's come out of a relationship then he may not be in a position to begin another one even if he thinks he is. People tend to jump from one to another. You might want to spend time just being friends and getting to know each other. Proceed with caution.
What's your sign and his sign?
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Jun 20, 2014Comments: 1 · Posts: 3847 · Topics: 1
My opinion on this, and I also read this out and asked my Taurus fella for his view, is that he's keeping you on the back burner.
If he liked you enough and if he was in a position to be with you then he would just say that for sure.
But he hasn't. Instead, he's come out with some waffle about not hurting you again etc.
It doesn't mean he doesn't like you or never did but that he's got some issues going on right now, which is pretty much what he said right there.
I'm not denying your connection to him. Sometimes you meet people who may not be to your usual taste but there's intensity there which is hard to explain. However, it is still subjective. It could still be your Eros/Psyche connecting with his Eros/Psyche. That can be powerful stuff!
It is no different to me and you sitting and eating dinner. I say I absolutely love cauliflower, it's the best yet you cannot stand the stuff. I cannot believe you don't like cauliflower! Perhaps it's not the best example but from a practical and logical point of view I don't see this going anywhere with this guy. You're welcome to hang around and wait for him but while you're waiting for this guy who isn't available, you're missing all the other great guys who ARE available and who may also offer you a great connection, and quite possibly, a great relationship.
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Aug 20, 2018Comments: 3863 · Posts: 2108 · Topics: 3
carry on with your life and date others