Premature ejaculation

A couple just celebrated their 7th anniversary together. They seemed like a very solid couple to me, however she confessed to me that she has considered leaving him on other occasions. The issue is his premature ejaculation. She says it has been there since the beginning of the relationship, and it has gotten worse with time because he wouldn't even try to get intimate with her fearing it would happen again.

At the moment he is undergoing treatment, and she says there seems to be some slight improvement. But I could still feel her frustration when she talked about specially when she compared it to her previous relationships, which made me wonder about this:

Would you spend a life time with your partner even if he suffered from premature ejaculation?

::: shakes head :::



A relationship isn't suppose to be about sex .... people are so confused.

I'm sure your friend will enjoy this suffering her whole life long ... and might even develop some sexual karma because of it.

Are you talking about yourself ??

He can't ejaculate prematurely if his cockring is cutting off the blood supply ... in fact, he wouldn't be able to ejaculate at all under these conditions.


But, don't do that .. no, instead just make the relationship about sex and leave him over it.

Posted by P-Angel
Are you talking about yourself ??

LOL, no I'm not talking about myself, this is a real friend going through a serious situation.

They should have worked on those exercises a long time ago. Don't even need a cock ring. Google them.

And I could do it but only if he is willing to work on it and figure out other ways to satisfy me too.

Wow that's some serious dedication right there. She should have forced the issue a long time ago, so by now they both can at least have tried to improve on this aspect of the relationship. I guess from his perspective he would be either too embarrassed to talk about it and get help, or selfish and only attempt to improve if she became increasingly more vocal about it. Ladies you have to be vocal we can't read your thoughts, subtle body language yes at times. But 7 years? He might wanna try tantra sex techniques which can focus on the mental aspect of sex, it can't hurt at this point. There's always oral fixation focus, toys and sex treats. Cock rings might help a lil, but I'm thinking it's more mental.

She knew she couldn't handle a man who couldn't "hang" a long time ago. And if she couldn't handle that, she should've done them BOTH a favor, left him THEN & spared him.

No sex is not everything, BUT it is important. And people have a right to feel that certain things are more important than others. People also have a right to react to situations where some of the puzzle pieces are missing. And bad sex is def. a missing puzzle piece. Just like good sex can keep a relationship alive, bad sex can be PART of (keyword) the reason it may fail.

If you're gonna overlook their premature ejaculation b/c of "love" in the beginning, it's not fair to give your partner the impression that you can handle that if you know deep down that in 10 years, you're just gonna leave them or knock them for the very same thing.

Her leaving him now would be the same as her punishing him all b/c SHE decided to put up with it/stay with him. It's NOT his fault that she stayed. Nothing has changed on his part, only she has. And if she can't handle it, she shouldn't been more honest with herself BEFORE all these years passed.

So would I spend a life time with my partner even if he couldn't hang? I would if I made the conscious decision 10 years ago that I'd put up with it. However, if I knew that I couldn't handle it, there wouldn't have even been a relationship to begin with.

Posted by janettam
i want to slap this chick in her face.
can you believe telling people
i got a divorce because he cums quickly. ahahahah
shake my head big time.

Well think about it. There are alot of different elements that go into sex. Sex isn't just the physical touching of bodies. It involves affection, non verbal & verbal communication, romance, intimacy, etc....all the things that when added up together, CAN make or break a relationship.

Sex itself (or lack thereof) maybe shouldn't be the reason for a breakup, BUT if sex is lacking, there's a chance that OTHER things are also following behind & lacking too, thus when you add all of those other factors up, the relationship becomes vulnerable since alot of important factors are missing

would she also leave him if he had a different disablity that made him unable to perform? You can be intimate without a cock in you. Although I must admit that I couldnt be in a relationship with someone who didnt want to be intimate with me, but the reason he does not want to be intimate with her is because she has given him a complex over the issue. Im sure the pressure of knowing he needs to keep it up to keep the relationship together definately is not helping the situation!