1 or 2 people waiting on something/someone else better to come along. Agree, neutral or disagree?
Relationships are nothing more than...
I wouldn't dare say I disagree as a whole b/c the high cheating/adultery rates alone won that battle a long time ago.
I also wouldn't dare fully disagree b/c a lot of people are so torn up & broken up over a break up UNTIL they meet someone much better. Women are great at this lol A guy dumps her--> She acts like the world is coming to an end--->She convinces herself & him that love will never be the same again...and THEN--->A guy that she perceives to be "much better" comes along--->And the next thing you know it, she's all on the next guy's balls like the ex never existed lol
Then again, I can't completely agree either b/c there are some people who are content with who/what they have even if they constantly see better temptations all around them every day (at the office, when they go out, etc.)
I think that's why monogamy is so hard. People go into relationships with a false assumption that love/commitment means that you'll never feel emotionally, sexually or psyically attracted to someone else OR that you won't ever see better. So when people find themselves in tempting situations, they are surprised & feel guilty that they are attracted to someone else, & from there, they can't handle it. It's not b/c they don't have the willpower or discipline to stop themselves; it's b/c they went into the relationship with unrealistic expectations on SELF to begin with.
There will always be someone better looking or better acting than you. There is no such thing "There's only 1 person for you." The truth is, there are many different people who could tickle your fancy in ways that your partner both can AND can't. The key to being faithful & sticking it out though is to be content with your choice while knowing that there are other better choices out there, but not always focusing on the grass possibly being greener b/c you'll constantly be searching and being in & out of relationships FOREVER lol
I also wouldn't dare fully disagree b/c a lot of people are so torn up & broken up over a break up UNTIL they meet someone much better. Women are great at this lol A guy dumps her--> She acts like the world is coming to an end--->She convinces herself & him that love will never be the same again...and THEN--->A guy that she perceives to be "much better" comes along--->And the next thing you know it, she's all on the next guy's balls like the ex never existed lol
Then again, I can't completely agree either b/c there are some people who are content with who/what they have even if they constantly see better temptations all around them every day (at the office, when they go out, etc.)
I think that's why monogamy is so hard. People go into relationships with a false assumption that love/commitment means that you'll never feel emotionally, sexually or psyically attracted to someone else OR that you won't ever see better. So when people find themselves in tempting situations, they are surprised & feel guilty that they are attracted to someone else, & from there, they can't handle it. It's not b/c they don't have the willpower or discipline to stop themselves; it's b/c they went into the relationship with unrealistic expectations on SELF to begin with.
There will always be someone better looking or better acting than you. There is no such thing "There's only 1 person for you." The truth is, there are many different people who could tickle your fancy in ways that your partner both can AND can't. The key to being faithful & sticking it out though is to be content with your choice while knowing that there are other better choices out there, but not always focusing on the grass possibly being greener b/c you'll constantly be searching and being in & out of relationships FOREVER lol
Posted by tiziani
Monogamy isn't hard for me. When I love a woman, I love her. That's about all there is to it for me personally. Maybe I'm too old and jaded, or maybe worse yet still young and naive. I don't have "fear of missing out". My decisions are mine to live up to.
Me neither. I never measured how worth it my husband was based on how many other men weren't good enough for me lol I know that there are other men who'd be just as good for me as my husband.
But it doesn't matter b/c my husband is who I choose
If you spend your whole life constantly searching for what's better, sure you might find 1,000 "betters" but you'll never actually have stability. At some point, you have to find contentment in things & trust that even though you may technically be "missing out," that at least you didn't miss out on the person you already have!!!
My husband is so good to me! I know there are other men out there who look better, dress better, have more money, or have bigger slingers than him lol but it doesn't matter b/c I choose him! Sometimes you just have to choose!
Posted by tiziani
I set my mind to finding what's best for me. The woman that is the most attractive to me is in a league of her own.
So what happens when a woman whose better looking walks by or approaches you?!!! Then what?!
There will always be someone better looking! Nothing wrong with that though. It is what it is.
There will always be someone much better looking, much more fun, much more compatible with you, much more blah blah blah...You have to prepare yourself for the "Then what?" lonnnnnng before you commit so that you'll be prepared for when that moment happens
Posted by krysrenee7
1 or 2 people waiting on something/someone else better to come along. Agree, neutral or disagree?
You mean "users"..
No, I'm not a USER. Can smell them a mile away and see women do this all the time. Weak and desperate imo.
Posted by tw1nk1e
Why the fuck would you do that?
Lame, tbh. I only want to be with someone I'm head over heels about, other wise it's not getting serious.
Just b/c you're head over heels for someone doesn't mean that you won't be attracted to others.
The attraction to someone else doesn't even have to be just physical. It can be sexual, emotional or just 1 of those things when there's just something about that person. Happens all the time
I don't think the people who know they can find better are "users" necessarily. I think it's always healthy to yes both think the world of your partner, BUT also remembering that if things don't work out that there are others out there that could treat you right too
I get more nervous for the women who think there is only 1 man for them. Yes, you can be content with what you have it while you have it, but some relationships don't last & the women who believe that they can't get/do any better usually end up settling, just like the people who are never content with what they have usually end up straying
See what I'm saying?! I think there's a happy medium somewhere
Posted by krysrenee7
Just b/c you're head over heels for someone doesn't mean that you won't be attracted to others.
The attraction to someone else doesn't even have to be just physical. It can be sexual, emotional or just 1 of those things when there's just something about that person. Happens all the time
I don't think the people who know they can find better are "users" necessarily. I think it's always healthy to yes both think the world of your partner, BUT also remembering that if things don't work out that there are others out there that could treat you right too
I get more nervous for the women who think there is only 1 man for them. Yes, you can be content with what you have it while you have it, but some relationships don't last & the women who believe that they can't get/do any better usually end up settling, just like the people who are never content with what they have usually end up straying
See what I'm saying?! I think there's a happy medium somewhere
I see you completely change the theme here. Ok.. so you are talking about those who SETTLE? Yea..just as bad as the users. They desperately use or need to ride on the wings of others to get through. Weak and insecure.
Posted by LetltBPosted by krysrenee7
Just b/c you're head over heels for someone doesn't mean that you won't be attracted to others.
The attraction to someone else doesn't even have to be just physical. It can be sexual, emotional or just 1 of those things when there's just something about that person. Happens all the time
I see you completely change the theme here. Ok.. so you are talking about those who SETTLE? Yea..just as bad as the users. They desperately use or need to ride on the wings of others to get through. Weak and insecure.click to expand
Well not necessarily. I was responding to others who changed the theme.
Yes, I do agree that settling is wrong, BUT to some extent doesn't settling mean that we are choosing to be content with something even if it's not the best thing for us? If that's the definition, then doesn't that mean that we're all settling simply b/c we're choosing to be content with what we have, EVEN IF there may be someone better out there for us?!
Doesn't mean that we actually want what else is out there. I'm speaking from a technical-definition kinda philosophy.
Being too content breeds settling persay things go south in the relationship. Never being content at all breeds the "Grass is greener" mentality, which could cause your great relationship/what you have, to go south.
Posted by krysrenee7
1 or 2 people waiting on something/someone else better to come along. Agree, neutral or disagree?
Place holders!
More people do this than people realize. Which accounts for some weird behavior later down the road. I was on the bus and overheard a cell phone conversation a woman was having. She said she was going to date this guy until she met the guy she really wanted. I hate these types, especially the great actors who are so aggressive about the relationship then out of no where poof; MIA. It's worse if children are involved.
It's not for me, but I have considered doing this just for companionship.
Well too it's not that all people who are "waiting for something better" necessarily go into a relationship with that intention
Some people sub-consciously wait for something better. They don't necessarily say, "Oh I'll just settle for him/her. They will do for now."
It's just kind of like that feeling like you're missing out on something. That feeling that is in the back of your mind. Even if your partner is great to you, some people still have that feeling like there is still something missing.
A lot of people would rather be in a relationship than be single. Any time you're with someone for the main intention of NOT being single (lol) means that you fall under the category of being committed until something better comes along. Again, sometimes that mentality is sub-conscious, but nonetheless, still there
Some people sub-consciously wait for something better. They don't necessarily say, "Oh I'll just settle for him/her. They will do for now."
It's just kind of like that feeling like you're missing out on something. That feeling that is in the back of your mind. Even if your partner is great to you, some people still have that feeling like there is still something missing.
A lot of people would rather be in a relationship than be single. Any time you're with someone for the main intention of NOT being single (lol) means that you fall under the category of being committed until something better comes along. Again, sometimes that mentality is sub-conscious, but nonetheless, still there
Posted by krysrenee7
Yes, I do agree that settling is wrong, BUT to some extent doesn't settling mean that we are choosing to be content with something even if it's not the best thing for us? If that's the definition, then doesn't that mean that we're all settling simply b/c we're choosing to be content with what we have, EVEN IF there may be someone better out there for us?!
Doesn't mean that we actually want what else is out there. I'm speaking from a technical-definition kinda philosophy.
I suppose if one is low on self esteem, lazy, or lacks emotion or the will to be happy would survive this, because anyone else better wouldn't want them anyway right?..and the one they do choose to "settle" with who share the same characteristics would make it just ok and content of course...Technically speaking that is.
Posted by krysrenee7
A lot of people would rather be in a relationship than be single. Any time you're with someone for the main intention of NOT being single (lol) means that you fall under the category of being committed until something better comes along. Again, sometimes that mentality is sub-conscious, but nonetheless, still there
^^^I would ask all those who do this WHY—??
"because I don't want to be single" IS NOT AN ANSWER.
LIKE I ALWAYS SAY IF YOU CAN'T LOVE THE ONE YOU LOVE
LOVE THE ONE YOUR WITH.
LOVE THE ONE YOUR WITH.
Posted by james tate
LIKE I ALWAYS SAY IF YOU CAN'T LOVE THE ONE YOU LOVE
LOVE THE ONE YOUR WITH.
Great song too..
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