Reluctant to give the same advice?

"They're an ex for a reason" is a common saying when you think of non-married couples. That seems to be the rehearsed advice whenever someone comes here or to their friends asking if it's wise to get back with their ex.

But what about those who divorce & then get remarried again to the SAME person again?

Idk, I'm a little more supportive of married folks getting back together since 'till death do us part' is something many people look forward to when getting married in the 1st place. Sometimes married people get it wrong, prematurely separate & then come back together too.

And no, I'm not talking about marriages that ended b/c of abuse, cheating or any other deal breakers. Of course those couples should separate & never look back (or should they?). Let's say they broke up b/c 1 of them wasn't truly ready, or 1 of them wasn't a good communicator, money issues, etc...ya know, stuff like this that unfortunately (or maybe fortunately) tears couples apart too.

I find it interesting that as a society, 2 different couples could be going through the same kind of hell, but yet we tell the couple who's not married to separate & the married couple to stay and take it. "Til death do us part' is the key, but so is NOT doing whatever happened that made the married couple separate in the 1st place lol

When you think about all the hell married folks go through that unmarried couples go through too, are you 1 of those people that thinks more people should stay married OR that half of those who are married should be divorced, when you consider the bullshit they put up with?

after 7 years each couple should be sent to the south pole. or north?

when they come back they go to church to extend their marriage. If they like to. of course.

Posted by capricornmoon
Welcome to the world of group think. Nobody thinks for themselves anymore, just tired cliches and cheesy advice. People don't want to let their minds roam abstractly. People love to be apart of what is deemed popular, normal, etc. at the risk of loosing their complete identity. Married couples sometimes get together because of family pressure, whatever the reason, at least let it be for your own reasons and not somebody else's

or they get nostalgic.
or they fear the future.
or they fear all the damaged people waiting to date them.
or they see a magic rope tied to their both feet.
or they realise no matter who comes next, he'll have his own flaws too. so why dream?
or or or.
you never know.

Interesting lol

The main difference I see is the degree of commitment. If they (plan to)remarry, who are we to come with reasons against it? Don't they know better?

If they didn't go through marriage / divorce, there is always the suspicion that one of them felt lonely, unloved and under-appreciated and therefore returns to the non-committal relationship temporarily...for the wrong reasons.

For example, my Aqua ex came back into my life after 10 months of complete loss of contact. He said he loved me, thought about me every day, never dated anyone else since we split, regrets what happened, wants to come back with me and ....move in with me! I suspect he just wants a cheaper landlord 😛