Respect

Posted by livelovelife
my mans single friends are going to vegas and asked him to go. i told him that i wasnt comfortable with him going with all his single buddies, because they want to go to strip clubs, clubs and party. we are both christian and i dont think thats where a man in a relationship needs to be... he says that he wants to go and i just need to trust him. this is where the problem lies, outta respect, i think he should listen to my feelings about this, it will put a damper in our relationship if he decides to go against my wishes... if it were switched and he didnt want me to go, i wouldnt... what do yu guys think? we have been together two years.

Posted by BikerCh1ck

Posted by tiziani
I'd basically do the best I can to re-enact every single Ocean's Eleven film and the sequel. The music would be playing in my head, and I'd probably even buy the official soundtrack to annoy everyone in the road trip over there so that it's in their heads to. And buy some nice suits. That's me sorted, whether single or in a relationship.

So you are telling me that when the super hottie with the DD boobs, the sexy dress that reveals quite a lot, the bum that looks like the best porn you ever watched... and you after couple of drinks .. she comes and rubs herself on your nice suit and whispers on your ear that you can take her in any position you like... when NOONE can find out about that... or even worse when your single buddies are around and watch and won't say anything..
You are just going to turn around and say... SORRY SWEETY!! I CAN'T DO YOU!! I am soooooooo taken!
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really????????

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Posted by tiziani
Hahaha, in fairness I've yet to actually go to a strip club. So I can't speak from experience. Although my rapsheet when it comes to sexcapades... it's surprising it doesn't have strip club on there.

But I think you're kind of being patronizing to strippers at the same time. They're professionals. You have to ask yourself why would a stripper ever say that to me? I'm just part of her day job. I think if both sides are going to go to the sex circuit it's important to know the only way you're going to enjoy yourself is by not assuming anything other than what's clear stated. In most strip clubs the rules are pretty clear "look but don't touch".
If the OP is not comfortable or fearful of her man putting himself in a situation where he's been visually stimulated, sure, I agree she should be able to voice her feelings with him and have them heard. He should pay her that respect...

.....but it's still Vegas. And you don't want to be the reason your husband couldn't hang out in Vegas with the boys.

Posted by BikerCh1ck
@tiziani...
We both know that in Vegas there are not only the strippers that are hot. There are also lots of hot women that they are looking for something casual.
It is no coincidence that the biggest pick up artists started experimenting in Vegas .. including Mystery and Neil Strauss
I have read lots of stories .. because I used to be into pua. I was studying it because I wanted to be an fpua.
I personally wouldn't mind any of my partners being visually stimulated. I wouldn't even mind going to a strip club with him and we would both watch women stripping.
But I wouldn't trust him to go on his own to Vegas with his mates ( single or not). Especially if he was my husband.
The temptation is great.
Only the fact that it crossed his mind that this was acceptable it would be an indicator for me that he just doesn't want to have eyes for me anymore.
I just wouldn't want to be one more of those statistics of marriages that one or two partners cheat.

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Posted by everevolvingepithet
He'll be the ridicule of his friends and peers if you don't let him go, lll.

If SHE won't let him go .. YES.
But it can be HIM realizing that if he goes then he makes his wife feeling uncomfortable.

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