Revisiting the old

Just had a phone call from my mother's old next door neighbour, asking me out to coffee.

We have history, he use to live there with his wife until they split and they had to sell the house in the settlement. He and I went out a couple of times after that and yes, had sex...good sex.. but he wanted to jump straight into another relationship and I said I wouldn't ever live with anyone again... I met someone else and so did he. I popped in to see him to tell him that I was wanting to see where it went with this other guy and he was relieved because he wanted to tell me he had started to see someone else and she was going to move in with him...

Fast forward, 3 years later...I, in fact ended up living with someone for a year and split and he also split with his (not sure how long ago) Anyway today he goes to my mother's place to ask for my phone numbers so he can call me. One thing I liked, this guy rings to talk. He doesn't just drop texts as an easy way out. He has a bit of the old school mentality and takes you out rather than todays easy way technology. I really admire this.

I don't have any real questions but I am wondering and a little excited as it sinks in at what it will be like..whether we will just continue with the friendship or more comes from it because we might be in that different place now and more open possibilities..

One thing for sure, my mother was so excited, more than me lol. She tried ringing me three times before I got his call to tell me how Good looking he is 🙂

Now all I want to know is what his star sign is... I'm hoping either Libra or Pisces 🙂

So he's a Cap...

CAPRICORN - The Passionate Lover (December 22 to January 19)
Love to bust. Nice. Sassy. Intelligent. Sexy. Grouchy at times and annoying to some. Lazy and love to take it easy, but when they find a job or something they like to do they put their all into it. Proud, understanding and sweet. Irresistible. Loves being in long relationships. Great talker. Always gets what he or she wants. Cool. Loves to win against other signs in sports, especially Gemini's. Likes to cook but would rather go out
To eat at good restaurants. Extremely fun. Loves to joke. Smart.


Never been out with a Cap...any advice...because he knows what he wants and he is going for it..lunch on the water Friday.

So I closed the revolving door last night...don't think I will be hearing from him again. He didn't get what he wanted and at first said he liked that I didn't give in and thought it was a challenge?? WTF? Then before I left he said, well I'm not going to text or call you, I'll leave it up to you. So I said, Goodbye and left.

He did text this morning to make sure I got home alright and to say he had a sore head...bruised ego I imagine too...

I'm not punishing him....I'm not looking to be a FWB with any man.

He said the ball is in my court and I choose not to remain in contact.

What intrigues me is what he said as he was trying so hard to get in... This more for how the male mind works...

Because I didn't allow him to have his way and he was trying very hard and pulling all the stops

I like it... (me refusing to have sex and hold out) You're a challenge...

^^^^ this is what a guy thinks when you don't give it up instantly as is so common this day and age.

Not that I'm interested in him, But I was definitely interested in where his big head was at when his little head wasn't getting it 😛

Are you sure his whole intention was sexual?

Maybe you sent some wrong signals to him .... I can only speculate here, based off of what you've posted, but, it sounds to me as if perhaps, he wasn't understanding.


When you two first hooked up (years ago) ... you were much more eager to do the dirty with him, without him putting in effort to court you. So, when the two of you parted ways, you never established in his mind as being a lady .. just someone who would fuck him.

So, naturally, this is his lasting impression of you.


Now, as you try to meet up with him, he still has this impression of you. So, when you refuse him now, naturally he is going to see you as playing difficult with him, and now he must work harder to get your panties off.

That is the natural mindset a man would have under these circumstances.


So, I would think it depends on how you presented yourself at this moment. If you think you could like him for who he is (minus this episode that was a mistake) .. then perhaps if you talked to him in ways to present yourself as a lady with morals, then he'd get a different impression of you.

Because as of right now, his impression of you is an easy piece .... since you two parted ways years ago without you ever establishing yourself as otherwise.

If he's nice, otherwise ... then he might be worth the effort.

Yes that is true, he did say why not, it's not like we haven't been there before. That was the sole purpose of his argument and I said, I'm not ready to go there with anyone. There was alcohol involved but at the end of the day he was gentlemanly enough to respect my No.

His intention on the night was sexual most definitely, his long term intention may not have been...he is a rebounder. The one piece of advice that he said he should have listen to was me telling him to enjoy finding out who he is in life before diving into another relationship. He went from a 7 year marriage to a 4 year relationship in a month...somehow I was in between?? Memory fades and things don't add up because I thought we were on for about a month and definitely not while with the wife? Now he's been apart for 2 months (probably thinks that's enough time lol)


I only see a friendship there and will probably pick that up again later on. It was there in the beginning and still there the other day. lots of fun to be around or hang out with. Crazy loose fun 🙂

I'm really not ready to step straight back into another relationship especially with someone that I don't have an instant physical attraction to, last man was like that and although I ended up falling for him there wasn't enough glue to keep it together on both sides.

I want chemistry again! I'm also starting to enjoy being single again, I have noticed within myself that I like myself better single than partnered, more free and easy. My Libra Venus will take over when someone really interested steps up 🙂