Should I contact him? Or leave it for good?
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I've known this guy a couple months or so now. At the start he was very interested, he was basically initiating most contact. I was not very forthcoming myself however, not on purpose but it's just at the start when I'm getting to know someone I'm careful. He even said he would go on holiday with me.
Anyway after a while he got a bit annoyed with me I think due to the lack of phone calls on my end. He said he refuses to be a texting friend and I think he wanted to end our contact. I told him it's not like that and tried.to make more effort. As things go we kept ending up missing each other's calls, he missed mine, I missed his. He then resorted to just messaging me every now and then. Following this he suddenly just stopped contact again for five days, I had to break the silence. He was very enthusiastic though and I think he was glad I contacted him. But he did say he's surprised I did since he hasn't been able to make the usual effort since he was busy I told him that's life so it's cool. Given how forthcoming he was before and how he put up with me I was cool with it.
The last I heard from him he told me to give him a ring when I was free during the night. Unfortunately I came back home late and just fell asleep. I did relay the though after in a message. He said it was fine and not to worry. That was five days nearly six days ago now.
What should I do? Should I initiate again? Or is this simply not meant to be? I know I havnt done as much as I could have and he did try really hard with me before. But I do like him and I would give him a chance now.
I just don't know if he's just not bothered anymore?
P.s he is a cop and works really long hours.
Anyway after a while he got a bit annoyed with me I think due to the lack of phone calls on my end. He said he refuses to be a texting friend and I think he wanted to end our contact. I told him it's not like that and tried.to make more effort. As things go we kept ending up missing each other's calls, he missed mine, I missed his. He then resorted to just messaging me every now and then. Following this he suddenly just stopped contact again for five days, I had to break the silence. He was very enthusiastic though and I think he was glad I contacted him. But he did say he's surprised I did since he hasn't been able to make the usual effort since he was busy I told him that's life so it's cool. Given how forthcoming he was before and how he put up with me I was cool with it.
The last I heard from him he told me to give him a ring when I was free during the night. Unfortunately I came back home late and just fell asleep. I did relay the though after in a message. He said it was fine and not to worry. That was five days nearly six days ago now.
What should I do? Should I initiate again? Or is this simply not meant to be? I know I havnt done as much as I could have and he did try really hard with me before. But I do like him and I would give him a chance now.
I just don't know if he's just not bothered anymore?
P.s he is a cop and works really long hours.
From what I read, he showed active interest in the start and made conscious effort to communicate with you. However, it seems you really didn't due to whatever reason. Being busy or hell you just might not be that huge of a phone person. That's not a bad thing in itself.
But if you aren't, but you expect him to be the one to initiate without little effort to do so yourself, that is hypocritical. Sounds to me he already expressed to you that your lack of reciprocated communication was an issue. And most people won't keep chasing someone that doesn't put effort in. This applies to men just as much as it does with women.
I see women all the time complain about men that don't initiate contact. How they put value in who calls first. Even your own threads has this undertone to it. The difference is, is he expressed that he wanted more and your lack of reciprocated communication irritated him. So now he is wanting you to put effort into chasing him.
So if you like him then text him. If not, then he goes on his merry way.
But if you aren't, but you expect him to be the one to initiate without little effort to do so yourself, that is hypocritical. Sounds to me he already expressed to you that your lack of reciprocated communication was an issue. And most people won't keep chasing someone that doesn't put effort in. This applies to men just as much as it does with women.
I see women all the time complain about men that don't initiate contact. How they put value in who calls first. Even your own threads has this undertone to it. The difference is, is he expressed that he wanted more and your lack of reciprocated communication irritated him. So now he is wanting you to put effort into chasing him.
So if you like him then text him. If not, then he goes on his merry way.
Posted by but_didyoudie
It sounds like you guys just need to get on the same page... i also think he's a little bit stuck up for always waiting for you to reach out to him.... but i also think that's a good thingthat way nobody gets rejected. Although, he might reject you and that is probably the worse thing that can happen.
2b fair he has initiated contact whether by phone calls or messaging before. The last piece of contact was him telling me to let him know if I ws awake in the night so he could call me. But I just came home that night and fell asleep I texted that to him saying sorry i fell asleep. He mesaged back with "it's fine, don't worry lol". And that was now six days ago. According to my friend who read all the exchanges including that she said it should have been upto me to then do something. I just told her how can I respond to it's fine, don't worry. To me that's like it's.cool end of conversation
Posted by nikkistar
From what I read, he showed active interest in the start and made conscious effort to communicate with you. However, it seems you really didn't due to whatever reason. Being busy or hell you just might not be that huge of a phone person. That's not a bad thing in itself.
But if you aren't, but you expect him to be the one to initiate without little effort to do so yourself, that is hypocritical. Sounds to me he already expressed to you that your lack of reciprocated communication was an issue. And most people won't keep chasing someone that doesn't put effort in. This applies to men just as much as it does with women.
I see women all the time complain about men that don't initiate contact. How they put value in who calls first. Even your own threads has this undertone to it. The difference is, is he expressed that he wanted more and your lack of reciprocated communication irritated him. So now he is wanting you to out effort into chasing him.
So if you like him then text him. If not, then he goes on his merry way.
Basically the last time we spoke i initiated contact nd he was apparently surprised I'm still wanting to speak to him. I asked why and he said it's because he's been busy and hasn't been able to put in much effort. But for me the reason I did is because I acknowledge how much effort he put in prior to that. But lo and behold another six days has gone with nothing.from him which is the only reason I'm considering if I should contact him now. But we will see lol. I guess he has put in a lot more effort than me overall and if it was the other way around I probably would have blocked the person a much longer time back.
I've got a great idea: To text him this every time :"Give me a ring, please!"
In this way: 1) You pay attention to him, but put the ball into his court; 2) Create a sense of urgency and mystery; 3) Condition him to propose to you after 6 months or so
In this way: 1) You pay attention to him, but put the ball into his court; 2) Create a sense of urgency and mystery; 3) Condition him to propose to you after 6 months or so
Posted by Lacey90
I guess he has put in a lot more effort than me overall and if it was the other way around I probably would have blocked the person a much longer time back.
Glad to see you recognize this with yourself as well. Most people don't, or disregard that they should only expect something if they, themselves, give the same in kindness.
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Posted by Lacey90Let things flow naturally. Contact him when you feel like it.
I've known this guy a couple months or so now. At the start he was very interested, he was basically initiating most contact. I was not very forthcoming myself however, not on purpose but it's just at the start when I'm getting to know someone I'm careful. He even said he would go on holiday with me.
Anyway after a while he got a bit annoyed with me I think due to the lack of phone calls on my end. He said he refuses to be a texting friend and I think he wanted to end our contact. I told him it's not like that and tried.to make more effort. As things go we kept ending up missing each other's calls, he missed mine, I missed his. He then resorted to just messaging me every now and then. Following this he suddenly just stopped contact again for five days, I had to break the silence. He was very enthusiastic though and I think he was glad I contacted him. But he did say he's surprised I did since he hasn't been able to make the usual effort since he was busy I told him that's life so it's cool. Given how forthcoming he was before and how he put up with me I was cool with it.
The last I heard from him he told me to give him a ring when I was free during the night. Unfortunately I came back home late and just fell asleep. I did relay the though after in a message. He said it was fine and not to worry. That was five days nearly six days ago now.
What should I do? Should I initiate again? Or is this simply not meant to be? I know I havnt done as much as I could have and he did try really hard with me before. But I do like him and I would give him a chance now.
I just don't know if he's just not bothered anymore?
P.s he is a cop and works really long hours.
Not when pressured or when you have analyzed it strategically (i.e., counting days and who called last) or for fairness (i.e., it's my turn).
It looks to me like he thinks you are not that interested in him so I would call him next time you are free and meet as soon as possible
He asked you to call him. Why wait 5-6 days.
He has a stressful job, doubt he’s looking for more game play in his relationship. Some aren’t attracted to the head fuck.
Just call!
He has a stressful job, doubt he’s looking for more game play in his relationship. Some aren’t attracted to the head fuck.
Just call!
Posted by but_didyoudiePosted by Lacey90Posted by but_didyoudie
It sounds like you guys just need to get on the same page... i also think he's a little bit stuck up for always waiting for you to reach out to him.... but i also think that's a good thing
2b fair he has initiated contact whether by phone calls or messaging before. The last piece of contact was him telling me to let him know if I ws awake in the night so he could call me. But I just came home that night and fell asleep I texted that to him saying sorry i fell asleep. He mesaged back with "it's fine, don't worry lol". And that was now six days ago. According to my friend who read all the exchanges including that she said it should have been upto me to then do something. I just told her how can I respond to it's fine, don't worry. To me that's like it's.cool end of conversation
well i think it was your turn to text him if he was the last one... so now you're gonna have to go the extra mile... with an apology or explanation... just don't overdue it... short and sweet.click to expand
all this time I was thinking it was his turn lol. But from seeing what other people have said it was probably up to me to say something after that exchange
Posted by LadyNeptune
He asked you to call him. Why wait 5-6 days.
He has a stressful job, doubt he’s looking for more game play in his relationship. Some aren’t attracted to the head fuck.
Just call!
so true. About his job. At the beginning he used to be quite blunt and rude lol which is why i was unsure about him. Bt he did mention he does not have time to pussy foot around. But I just thought well great way of making me feel comfortable lol
Posted by VenusAquariusPosted by Lacey90
I've known this guy a couple months or so now. At the start he was very interested, he was basically initiating most contact. I was not very forthcoming myself however, not on purpose but it's just at the start when I'm getting to know someone I'm careful. He even said he would go on holiday with me.
Anyway after a while he got a bit annoyed with me I think due to the lack of phone calls on my end. He said he refuses to be a texting friend and I think he wanted to end our contact. I told him it's not like that and tried.to make more effort. As things go we kept ending up missing each other's calls, he missed mine, I missed his. He then resorted to just messaging me every now and then. Following this he suddenly just stopped contact again for five days, I had to break the silence. He was very enthusiastic though and I think he was glad I contacted him. But he did say he's surprised I did since he hasn't been able to make the usual effort since he was busy I told him that's life so it's cool. Given how forthcoming he was before and how he put up with me I was cool with it.
The last I heard from him he told me to give him a ring when I was free during the night. Unfortunately I came back home late and just fell asleep. I did relay the though after in a message. He said it was fine and not to worry. That was five days nearly six days ago now.
What should I do? Should I initiate again? Or is this simply not meant to be? I know I havnt done as much as I could have and he did try really hard with me before. But I do like him and I would give him a chance now.
I just don't know if he's just not bothered anymore?
P.s he is a cop and works really long hours.
Let things flow naturally. Contact him when you feel like it.
Not when pressured or when you have analyzed it strategically (i.e., counting days and who called last) or for fairness (i.e., it's my turn).click to expand
I know what u mean but I've probably been watching those videos on how women should behave with men during the early dating stages lol. But I do feel like he also does the same, in terms of contact. He will see who contacted who last. Becsuse if tht wasn't the case he would have said something again. But maybe he was just waiting for me this whole time
Posted by Undine
I've got a great idea: To text him this every time :"Give me a ring, please!"
In this way: 1) You pay attention to him, but put the ball into his court; 2) Create a sense of urgency and mystery; 3) Condition him to propose to you after 6 months or so
lool. May actually do this. I did the lyric prank on him lol and that actually got him to call me and ask if everything was ok with me and that he's worried lol. Well six days ago now it was. 😅 oh and he was also like "I'm here, not going anywhere" in response to the prank aswell
Posted by nikkistarPosted by Lacey90
I guess he has put in a lot more effort than me overall and if it was the other way around I probably would have blocked the person a much longer time back.
Glad to see you recognize this with yourself as well. Most people don't, or disregard that they should only expect something if they, themselves, give the same in kindness.click to expand
thank you. Oh I always recognise where I may have gone wrong in a relationship or during dating. Usually the other party doesn't though. From previous experiences. Its because I recognise where I went wrong that i am willing to put in the effort now. But I just wanted to know from others perspectives if its worth it and if he even cares anymore
He’s already told you that he doesn’t want to be texting friends. So call or text to schedule a meet up. Get the ball rolling.
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Posted by Lacey90Posted by VenusAquariusPosted by Lacey90
I've known this guy a couple months or so now. At the start he was very interested, he was basically initiating most contact. I was not very forthcoming myself however, not on purpose but it's just at the start when I'm getting to know someone I'm careful. He even said he would go on holiday with me.
Anyway after a while he got a bit annoyed with me I think due to the lack of phone calls on my end. He said he refuses to be a texting friend and I think he wanted to end our contact. I told him it's not like that and tried.to make more effort. As things go we kept ending up missing each other's calls, he missed mine, I missed his. He then resorted to just messaging me every now and then. Following this he suddenly just stopped contact again for five days, I had to break the silence. He was very enthusiastic though and I think he was glad I contacted him. But he did say he's surprised I did since he hasn't been able to make the usual effort since he was busy I told him that's life so it's cool. Given how forthcoming he was before and how he put up with me I was cool with it.
The last I heard from him he told me to give him a ring when I was free during the night. Unfortunately I came back home late and just fell asleep. I did relay the though after in a message. He said it was fine and not to worry. That was five days nearly six days ago now.
What should I do? Should I initiate again? Or is this simply not meant to be? I know I havnt done as much as I could have and he did try really hard with me before. But I do like him and I would give him a chance now.
I just don't know if he's just not bothered anymore?
P.s he is a cop and works really long hours.
Let things flow naturally. Contact him when you feel like it.
Not when pressured or when you have analyzed it strategically (i.e., counting days and who called last) or for fairness (i.e., it's my turn).
I know what u mean but I've probably been watching those videos on how women should behave with men during the early dating stages lol. But I do feel like he also does the same, in terms of contact. He will see who contacted who last. Becsuse if tht wasn't the case he would have said something again. But maybe he was just waiting for me this whole timeclick to expand
Maybe you took it too far.
And, If he's doing it too, it's for a little reciprocity.
As you stated:"I know I havnt done as much as I could have and he did try really hard with me before."
You 'bout to tire the ole boy out. He might be exasperated.
Posted by saggurl88
He’s already told you that he doesn’t want to be texting friends. So call or text to schedule a meet up. Get the ball rolling.
I guess so. But then it's literally been seven days of silence. Imagine he's now getting to know someone else
Posted by VenusAquariusPosted by Lacey90Posted by VenusAquariusPosted by Lacey90
I've known this guy a couple months or so now. At the start he was very interested, he was basically initiating most contact. I was not very forthcoming myself however, not on purpose but it's just at the start when I'm getting to know someone I'm careful. He even said he would go on holiday with me.
Anyway after a while he got a bit annoyed with me I think due to the lack of phone calls on my end. He said he refuses to be a texting friend and I think he wanted to end our contact. I told him it's not like that and tried.to make more effort. As things go we kept ending up missing each other's calls, he missed mine, I missed his. He then resorted to just messaging me every now and then. Following this he suddenly just stopped contact again for five days, I had to break the silence. He was very enthusiastic though and I think he was glad I contacted him. But he did say he's surprised I did since he hasn't been able to make the usual effort since he was busy I told him that's life so it's cool. Given how forthcoming he was before and how he put up with me I was cool with it.
The last I heard from him he told me to give him a ring when I was free during the night. Unfortunately I came back home late and just fell asleep. I did relay the though after in a message. He said it was fine and not to worry. That was five days nearly six days ago now.
What should I do? Should I initiate again? Or is this simply not meant to be? I know I havnt done as much as I could have and he did try really hard with me before. But I do like him and I would give him a chance now.
I just don't know if he's just not bothered anymore?
P.s he is a cop and works really long hours.
Let things flow naturally. Contact him when you feel like it.
Not when pressured or when you have analyzed it strategically (i.e., counting days and who called last) or for fairness (i.e., it's my turn).
I know what u mean but I've probably been watching those videos on how women should behave with men during the early dating stages lol. But I do feel like he also does the same, in terms of contact. He will see who contacted who last. Becsuse if tht wasn't the case he would have said something again. But maybe he was just waiting for me this whole time
Maybe you took it too far.
And, If he's doing it too, it's for a little reciprocity.
As you stated:"I know I havnt done as much as I could have and he did try really hard with me before."
You 'bout to tire the ole boy out. He might be exasperated.click to expand
lool. But then i think a guy should work to get a girls attention, these days they get so lazy and don't do anything so what if for once it's the other way around lol. But Yeh maybe I pushed him away too much
Posted by emeraldgem
Ugh! This thing about *whose turn is it now*.......really? Meet me in the schoolyard and we'll duke it out.
i know but seems like he waits for me.to contact him too. Like he clearly is doing now. Otherwise seven days no messaging or calling. I'm sure he's thinkibg that he was the last to text me and tht it in actual fact is my turn
Posted by Lacey90I don't see if you said what sign either one of you were. But if he is a mutable sign, then you can still contact him. Usually Cardinal or fixed signs get annoyed with this behavior and will write you off.Posted by saggurl88
He’s already told you that he doesn’t want to be texting friends. So call or text to schedule a meet up. Get the ball rolling.
I guess so. But then it's literally been seven days of silence. Imagine he's now getting to know someone elseclick to expand
Make up a story about how something tragic happened and you were trying to handle that first but it's all back to normal now and ask if you can try again.
You didn't seem very interested in the first place though, so he will expect you to try harder, and you barely put in effort the first go round, so were you even really interested? Are you just bored now that he gave up?
Posted by saggurl88Posted by Lacey90Posted by saggurl88
He’s already told you that he doesn’t want to be texting friends. So call or text to schedule a meet up. Get the ball rolling.
I guess so. But then it's literally been seven days of silence. Imagine he's now getting to know someone else
I don't see if you said what sign either one of you were. But if he is a mutable sign, then you can still contact him. Usually Cardinal or fixed signs get annoyed with this behavior and will write you off.
Make up a story about how something tragic happened and you were trying to handle that first but it's all back to normal now and ask if you can try again.
You didn't seem very interested in the first place though, so he will expect you to try harder, and you barely put in effort the first go round, so were you even really interested? Are you just bored now that he gave up?click to expand
I'm a virgo with a Scorpio moon. And he doesn't want to tell me his bday something to do with his job I guess. Being a cop. He just told me it's in November but didn't tell me the date.
No I was interested but I was unsure after he made some rude comments. Multiple actually. I was just like I want an easy life not a mean person lol. Previous to this about a year ago i knew a guy who I concluded was a narcissist and the stuff he did was the worst. So u can imagine i don't want to be in a scenario like tht again. I am kind of bored without him if im honest lol. Even though there are other guys I'm also getting to know. I don't know if he's actually already moved on or if he's just waiting on me to message well it has been a week so 😳
Posted by Lacey90Well if he's a Sag or a Scorpio, neither sign will mind. Get in contact with him and be serious this time and quit wasting his time lol He may just be blunt, but if he was rude, step up and say something. Both of these signs will respect you more for it. And both of these signs tend to say rude stuff without really knowing. A week is nothing, as long as you make contact and actually step up and plan a date. if it's a Sag he will probably say yes, since he's been trying already. If he's a Scorpio he will probably keep in contact but will give you a little run around first, make you work a littlePosted by saggurl88Posted by Lacey90Posted by saggurl88
He’s already told you that he doesn’t want to be texting friends. So call or text to schedule a meet up. Get the ball rolling.
I guess so. But then it's literally been seven days of silence. Imagine he's now getting to know someone else
I don't see if you said what sign either one of you were. But if he is a mutable sign, then you can still contact him. Usually Cardinal or fixed signs get annoyed with this behavior and will write you off.
Make up a story about how something tragic happened and you were trying to handle that first but it's all back to normal now and ask if you can try again.
You didn't seem very interested in the first place though, so he will expect you to try harder, and you barely put in effort the first go round, so were you even really interested? Are you just bored now that he gave up?
I'm a virgo with a Scorpio moon. And he doesn't want to tell me his bday something to do with his job I guess. Being a cop. He just told me it's in November but didn't tell me the date.
No I was interested but I was unsure after he made some rude comments. Multiple actually. I was just like I want an easy life not a mean person lol. Previous to this about a year ago i knew a guy who I concluded was a narcissist and the stuff he did was the worst. So u can imagine i don't want to be in a scenario like tht again. I am kind of bored without him if im honest lol. Even though there are other guys I'm also getting to know. I don't know if he's actually already moved on or if he's just waiting on me to message well it has been a week so 😳click to expand
Posted by saggurl88Well I'll let u decide if It was rude. One example was I told him to call me a shortened version of my full name, basically a nickname and I told him all my friends call me tht. I just said it in to b friendly and he comes out with I don't know u like that to call u by that. I was thinkiing really how rude. He's meant to be trying to impress me not disrespect me lol. Anyway I ended up blocking him for a few weeks and he was constantly calling and messaging asking why I did that so I came back a few weeks later out of the blue and he asked me again why I did tht I told him why and he's like I don't have time for your pettiness. 😳 so I was like basically I have to be like assaulted or something for u to take me seriously 😐.He was like people are getting killed out out here and this is what you're talking about. Thts just one example. Another example was I was suggesting him to go to a festival..And he made a sarky comment like great idea Not. I was like seriously I was trying to be nice😳Posted by Lacey90Posted by saggurl88Posted by Lacey90Posted by saggurl88
He’s already told you that he doesn’t want to be texting friends. So call or text to schedule a meet up. Get the ball rolling.
I guess so. But then it's literally been seven days of silence. Imagine he's now getting to know someone else
I don't see if you said what sign either one of you were. But if he is a mutable sign, then you can still contact him. Usually Cardinal or fixed signs get annoyed with this behavior and will write you off.
Make up a story about how something tragic happened and you were trying to handle that first but it's all back to normal now and ask if you can try again.
You didn't seem very interested in the first place though, so he will expect you to try harder, and you barely put in effort the first go round, so were you even really interested? Are you just bored now that he gave up?
I'm a virgo with a Scorpio moon. And he doesn't want to tell me his bday something to do with his job I guess. Being a cop. He just told me it's in November but didn't tell me the date.
No I was interested but I was unsure after he made some rude comments. Multiple actually. I was just like I want an easy life not a mean person lol. Previous to this about a year ago i knew a guy who I concluded was a narcissist and the stuff he did was the worst. So u can imagine i don't want to be in a scenario like tht again. I am kind of bored without him if im honest lol. Even though there are other guys I'm also getting to know. I don't know if he's actually already moved on or if he's just waiting on me to message well it has been a week so 😳
Well if he's a Sag or a Scorpio, neither sign will mind. Get in contact with him and be serious this time and quit wasting his time lol He may just be blunt, but if he was rude, step up and say something. Both of these signs will respect you more for it. And both of these signs tend to say rude stuff without really knowing. A week is nothing, as long as you make contact and actually step up and plan a date. if it's a Sag he will probably say yes, since he's been trying already. If he's a Scorpio he will probably keep in contact but will give you a little run around first, make you work a littleclick to expand
The latter scenario sounds more like him the Scorpio lol. I once said shall we meet he said i have to talk to u properly on the phone first.and I was just like wow no guy has ever been so lengthy in terms of wanting to meet or have had conditions like him
Posted by Lacey90Um, it doesn't sound like he is too interested but yes he sounds like a Scorpio lol Why are you trying again? It seems like you were trying to meet and he wasn't. Who needs to talk to someone properly on the phone first? He would've been cut. Now I see why you weren't that interested.Posted by saggurl88Posted by Lacey90Posted by saggurl88Posted by Lacey90Posted by saggurl88
He’s already told you that he doesn’t want to be texting friends. So call or text to schedule a meet up. Get the ball rolling.
I guess so. But then it's literally been seven days of silence. Imagine he's now getting to know someone else
I don't see if you said what sign either one of you were. But if he is a mutable sign, then you can still contact him. Usually Cardinal or fixed signs get annoyed with this behavior and will write you off.
Make up a story about how something tragic happened and you were trying to handle that first but it's all back to normal now and ask if you can try again.
You didn't seem very interested in the first place though, so he will expect you to try harder, and you barely put in effort the first go round, so were you even really interested? Are you just bored now that he gave up?
I'm a virgo with a Scorpio moon. And he doesn't want to tell me his bday something to do with his job I guess. Being a cop. He just told me it's in November but didn't tell me the date.
No I was interested but I was unsure after he made some rude comments. Multiple actually. I was just like I want an easy life not a mean person lol. Previous to this about a year ago i knew a guy who I concluded was a narcissist and the stuff he did was the worst. So u can imagine i don't want to be in a scenario like tht again. I am kind of bored without him if im honest lol. Even though there are other guys I'm also getting to know. I don't know if he's actually already moved on or if he's just waiting on me to message well it has been a week so 😳
Well if he's a Sag or a Scorpio, neither sign will mind. Get in contact with him and be serious this time and quit wasting his time lol He may just be blunt, but if he was rude, step up and say something. Both of these signs will respect you more for it. And both of these signs tend to say rude stuff without really knowing. A week is nothing, as long as you make contact and actually step up and plan a date. if it's a Sag he will probably say yes, since he's been trying already. If he's a Scorpio he will probably keep in contact but will give you a little run around first, make you work a little
Well I'll let u decide if It was rude. One example was I told him to call me a shortened version of my full name, basically a nickname and I told him all my friends call me tht. I just said it in to b friendly and he comes out with I don't know u like that to call u by that. I was thinkiing really how rude. He's meant to be trying to impress me not disrespect me lol. Anyway I ended up blocking him for a few weeks and he was constantly calling and messaging asking why I did that so I came back a few weeks later out of the blue and he asked me again why I did tht I told him why and he's like I don't have time for your pettiness. 😳 so I was like basically I have to be like assaulted or something for u to take me seriously 😐.He was like people are getting killed out out here and this is what you're talking about. Thts just one example. Another example was I was suggesting him to go to a festival..And he made a sarky comment like great idea Not. I was like seriously I was trying to be nice😳
The latter scenario sounds more like him the Scorpio lol. I once said shall we meet he said i have to talk to u properly on the phone first.and I was just like wow no guy has ever been so lengthy in terms of wanting to meet or have had conditions like himclick to expand
Posted by saggurl88Posted by Lacey90Posted by saggurl88Posted by Lacey90Posted by saggurl88Posted by Lacey90Posted by saggurl88
He’s already told you that he doesn’t want to be texting friends. So call or text to schedule a meet up. Get the ball rolling.
I guess so. But then it's literally been seven days of silence. Imagine he's now getting to know someone else
I don't see if you said what sign either one of you were. But if he is a mutable sign, then you can still contact him. Usually Cardinal or fixed signs get annoyed with this behavior and will write you off.
Make up a story about how something tragic happened and you were trying to handle that first but it's all back to normal now and ask if you can try again.
You didn't seem very interested in the first place though, so he will expect you to try harder, and you barely put in effort the first go round, so were you even really interested? Are you just bored now that he gave up?
I'm a virgo with a Scorpio moon. And he doesn't want to tell me his bday something to do with his job I guess. Being a cop. He just told me it's in November but didn't tell me the date.
No I was interested but I was unsure after he made some rude comments. Multiple actually. I was just like I want an easy life not a mean person lol. Previous to this about a year ago i knew a guy who I concluded was a narcissist and the stuff he did was the worst. So u can imagine i don't want to be in a scenario like tht again. I am kind of bored without him if im honest lol. Even though there are other guys I'm also getting to know. I don't know if he's actually already moved on or if he's just waiting on me to message well it has been a week so 😳
Well if he's a Sag or a Scorpio, neither sign will mind. Get in contact with him and be serious this time and quit wasting his time lol He may just be blunt, but if he was rude, step up and say something. Both of these signs will respect you more for it. And both of these signs tend to say rude stuff without really knowing. A week is nothing, as long as you make contact and actually step up and plan a date. if it's a Sag he will probably say yes, since he's been trying already. If he's a Scorpio he will probably keep in contact but will give you a little run around first, make you work a little
Well I'll let u decide if It was rude. One example was I told him to call me a shortened version of my full name, basically a nickname and I told him all my friends call me tht. I just said it in to b friendly and he comes out with I don't know u like that to call u by that. I was thinkiing really how rude. He's meant to be trying to impress me not disrespect me lol. Anyway I ended up blocking him for a few weeks and he was constantly calling and messaging asking why I did that so I came back a few weeks later out of the blue and he asked me again why I did tht I told him why and he's like I don't have time for your pettiness. 😳 so I was like basically I have to be like assaulted or something for u to take me seriously 😐.He was like people are getting killed out out here and this is what you're talking about. Thts just one example. Another example was I was suggesting him to go to a festival..And he made a sarky comment like great idea Not. I was like seriously I was trying to be nice😳
The latter scenario sounds more like him the Scorpio lol. I once said shall we meet he said i have to talk to u properly on the phone first.and I was just like wow no guy has ever been so lengthy in terms of wanting to meet or have had conditions like him
Um, it doesn't sound like he is too interested but yes he sounds like a Scorpio lol Why are you trying again? It seems like you were trying to meet and he wasn't. Who needs to talk to someone properly on the phone first? He would've been cut. Now I see why you weren't that interested.click to expand
I don't know I don't think it's that. Hes just very very Like untrusting negative and suspicious. I think I was like have u had some bad experiences when it comes.to women or something and he hit back with what a weird thing to say 😂. Like he became very sensitive. But anyway he does tell me stuff but he told me because of his job he keeps some things private aswell so I was like o......k.
Posted by emeraldgemGreat. And I've got a scorpio moon lol
@Lacye90 - "Hes just very very Like untrusting negative and suspicious"
Yep - Scorpio!
Update: So I did decide to break the silence guys.
After 9 days I messaged saying hello (name)
And then he said hello you ok u must be on your lunch break or something to which I replied haha yes something like that...then I said are u ok..then he went into a paragraph of what hes doing and issues with his car and how hes been so exhausted lately.
I was thinking wow hes actually giving me so much info by text hes not nrmally like this. Since he always would rather say he wants to speak on the phone instead.
Then i was telling him he needs a holiday if he's exhausted
He then goes are you going to organise one *smirk face*
I then messaged saying I will if you pay for it lol ..then i said I'm kidding...
He then replied with lol bye (to the if he pays for it comment) ..then he asked have u planned a holiday? Ignoring the idea of me n him going away but now asking about friends. To which I said I did but I changed my mind.
He said what changed your mind I told him I just didn't want to go with the group I was going to go with. He then asked what's wrong with them and I was like they have too many issues and I just don't gel with them. To which he said he knows what I mean since he went away with his friends on holiday and says they didn't get on with one another and now they don't talk.
So to continue i asked what happened. This was continuing onto the next day. To which he replied "long story". And I was trying to continue the convo with him and I said "make it shorter and go on" with smiley faces. As to encourage him to open up. Because usually he doesn't want to much. But then he just ignores my message. 🤨 and that whole day i could see was online and offline plenty of.times. sometimes a good half n hour or whatever. And there I was just waiting for a response
So at first he seemed all friendly then he went cold. Tht was just over a day now.
Someone told me to just call him but in my over analysing mind I'm just like after me initiating contact after 8 days he could have at least carried on a little bit longer or changed the topic of conversation. And since I can see he's online for ages speaking to others in thinking should I even bother calling.
Obviously I initiated contact and put the effort in only because prior to that if u guys read the beginning he was making the effort and wanting me to call him and I knew I wasn't putting in that effort to call and get to know him. But I don't want to go and start pursuing him now when I don't know if he even cares anymore
After 9 days I messaged saying hello (name)
And then he said hello you ok u must be on your lunch break or something to which I replied haha yes something like that...then I said are u ok..then he went into a paragraph of what hes doing and issues with his car and how hes been so exhausted lately.
I was thinking wow hes actually giving me so much info by text hes not nrmally like this. Since he always would rather say he wants to speak on the phone instead.
Then i was telling him he needs a holiday if he's exhausted
He then goes are you going to organise one *smirk face*
I then messaged saying I will if you pay for it lol ..then i said I'm kidding...
He then replied with lol bye (to the if he pays for it comment) ..then he asked have u planned a holiday? Ignoring the idea of me n him going away but now asking about friends. To which I said I did but I changed my mind.
He said what changed your mind I told him I just didn't want to go with the group I was going to go with. He then asked what's wrong with them and I was like they have too many issues and I just don't gel with them. To which he said he knows what I mean since he went away with his friends on holiday and says they didn't get on with one another and now they don't talk.
So to continue i asked what happened. This was continuing onto the next day. To which he replied "long story". And I was trying to continue the convo with him and I said "make it shorter and go on" with smiley faces. As to encourage him to open up. Because usually he doesn't want to much. But then he just ignores my message. 🤨 and that whole day i could see was online and offline plenty of.times. sometimes a good half n hour or whatever. And there I was just waiting for a response
So at first he seemed all friendly then he went cold. Tht was just over a day now.
Someone told me to just call him but in my over analysing mind I'm just like after me initiating contact after 8 days he could have at least carried on a little bit longer or changed the topic of conversation. And since I can see he's online for ages speaking to others in thinking should I even bother calling.
Obviously I initiated contact and put the effort in only because prior to that if u guys read the beginning he was making the effort and wanting me to call him and I knew I wasn't putting in that effort to call and get to know him. But I don't want to go and start pursuing him now when I don't know if he even cares anymore
When someone tells you that it’s a long story you don’t tell them to make it shorter but to tell it to you because you have time and interest to listen to it. I suggest you text him and tell him you want to hear it in person, he’s obv not a big texter
Posted by Lacey90Getting comfortable is the death of romance.Posted by LadyNeptune
He asked you to call him. Why wait 5-6 days.
He has a stressful job, doubt he’s looking for more game play in his relationship. Some aren’t attracted to the head fuck.
Just call!
so true. About his job. At the beginning he used to be quite blunt and rude lol which is why i was unsure about him. Bt he did mention he does not have time to pussy foot around. But I just thought well great way of making me feel comfortable lolclick to expand
So did you call yet?
Posted by Biboroon
When someone tells you that it’s a long story you don’t tell them to make it shorter but to tell it to you because you have time and interest to listen to it. I suggest you text him and tell him you want to hear it in person, he’s obv not a big texter
i see what you're saying but I just took it as he can't b bothered to chat so he just said "long story". And when I see him online after that the whole day i think o..k then. So he's big on texting other people lol but with me it either has to be a phonecall or nothing I guess. Sigh. Relationships are so hard. I dunno when I saw him online constantly I just thought why should I then go and call him aswell.
Posted by emeraldgem
Maybe give it one last go. See if this behavior is how it is or just an anomaly. I always give the benefit of the doubt once (maybe twice if the sex is excellent, lol) before I give it up.
loooool at the sex. 😂😂
Well tht don't relate to us we just having a online thing for the time being. From my perspective I do see that he worked hard to keep In contact with me before and he called me lots of times without a return. I know I am hard work. Which is actually why even after the 9 day no contact I thought I'll give him a nudge by message. But Yeh I was thinking I'll try to show I'm still interested and see what he does with it. Well 2bh I thought it was quite clear I was with the initiating messages. But may be he needs more. Or maybe he should go and YouTube the video about signs an introvert likes you lol. That is so me. One of the signs was they really don't like calling or messaging so if they take their time to do either it's a sign lol.
Posted by Phantom_Dangus
You pushed too hard and ended up prying into something he didn't want to go into.
he literally does that with me. He will ask question after question after question but if I do it he gets all sensitive aboutt it lol. Sometimes I wonder why he was dying all this time to speak to me on the phone because he barely opens up to me and I definitely take even longer to open up lol so what would we even talk about 😂😂
Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by Lacey90Posted by LadyNeptune
He asked you to call him. Why wait 5-6 days.
He has a stressful job, doubt he’s looking for more game play in his relationship. Some aren’t attracted to the head fuck.
Just call!
so true. About his job. At the beginning he used to be quite blunt and rude lol which is why i was unsure about him. Bt he did mention he does not have time to pussy foot around. But I just thought well great way of making me feel comfortable lol
Getting comfortable is the death of romance.
So did you call yet?click to expand
I've heard of that but what does it mean lool. I didn't call yet I know I'm terrible. But since neither of us had contact for nine days I thought let me see how he is with me when I do contact him. I mean he was responsive but Then ended it abruptly when I tried to continue the conversation by as king what happened on his holiday.
Posted by dilettante
ok hmmm
1. it reads to me that you are the one playing games, testing, manipulating whatever you wanna call it. he expresses he doesnt feel comf calling you by a nickname so you block him. then he calls you out on your petty shit & your reaction is to think “he’s supposed to impress ME” & get all dramatic (ex: “am i only supposed to contact him when i get assaulted?” - what the hell kinda extreme reaction is this?).
2. telling someone “you mustve had some bad experiences with women” is a rude ass thing to say. it suggests that he is performing negatively.
3. he sounds like a sag to me. maybe w/ scorpio bits.
to be honest i domt think im playing games. This is just how I am naturally. Also I think he was the petty one for making a big deal out of the nickname thing not me. At that stage in time he should be impressing me though and by saying he doesn't feel comfortable calling me by a nickname isn't going to make me feel any better.
Perhaps it was a bit rude of me to say that but the way he is acting all defensive and paranoid I just thought I'd say it..So sorry.
See I have no idea even when his birthday is since he didn't even want to tell me lol
Posted by HeartofIcePosted by Lacey90Posted by emeraldgem
Maybe give it one last go. See if this behavior is how it is or just an anomaly. I always give the benefit of the doubt once (maybe twice if the sex is excellent, lol) before I give it up.
loooool at the sex. 😂😂
Well tht don't relate to us we just having a online thing for the time being. From my perspective I do see that he worked hard to keep In contact with me before and he called me lots of times without a return. I know I am hard work. Which is actually why even after the 9 day no contact I thought I'll give him a nudge by message. But Yeh I was thinking I'll try to show I'm still interested and see what he does with it. Well 2bh I thought it was quite clear I was with the initiating messages. But may be he needs more. Or maybe he should go and YouTube the video about signs an introvert likes you lol. That is so me. One of the signs was they really don't like calling or messaging so if they take their time to do either it's a sign lol.
Hold up, y'all haven't met up IRL yet?click to expand
no not yet. I was alright with meeting up and so was he at one point. But then when I did the blocking and I came back he was more cautious about it and was like I will only meet you after we speak on the phone. Which has barely happened either but only due to me being lazy with calling.
Posted by dilettantePosted by HeartofIcePosted by Lacey90Posted by emeraldgem
Maybe give it one last go. See if this behavior is how it is or just an anomaly. I always give the benefit of the doubt once (maybe twice if the sex is excellent, lol) before I give it up.
loooool at the sex. 😂😂
Well tht don't relate to us we just having a online thing for the time being. From my perspective I do see that he worked hard to keep In contact with me before and he called me lots of times without a return. I know I am hard work. Which is actually why even after the 9 day no contact I thought I'll give him a nudge by message. But Yeh I was thinking I'll try to show I'm still interested and see what he does with it. Well 2bh I thought it was quite clear I was with the initiating messages. But may be he needs more. Or maybe he should go and YouTube the video about signs an introvert likes you lol. That is so me. One of the signs was they really don't like calling or messaging so if they take their time to do either it's a sign lol.
Hold up, y'all haven't met up IRL yet?
oh shit... have they not even met yet??
hmmmmm 🤔click to expand
unfortunately not lol he just has a couple of my photos to look at lol and vice versa
Posted by dilettantePosted by Lacey90Posted by dilettante
ok hmmm
1. it reads to me that you are the one playing games, testing, manipulating whatever you wanna call it. he expresses he doesnt feel comf calling you by a nickname so you block him. then he calls you out on your petty shit & your reaction is to think “he’s supposed to impress ME” & get all dramatic (ex: “am i only supposed to contact him when i get assaulted?” - what the hell kinda extreme reaction is this?).
2. telling someone “you mustve had some bad experiences with women” is a rude ass thing to say. it suggests that he is performing negatively.
3. he sounds like a sag to me. maybe w/ scorpio bits.
to be honest i domt think im playing games. This is just how I am naturally. Also I think he was the petty one for making a big deal out of the nickname thing not me. At that stage in time he should be impressing me though and by saying he doesn't feel comfortable calling me by a nickname isn't going to make me feel any better.
Perhaps it was a bit rude of me to say that but the way he is acting all defensive and paranoid I just thought I'd say it..So sorry.
See I have no idea even when his birthday is since he didn't even want to tell me lol
telling you he’s not comfortable calling you by your nickname is not petty. he’s just telling you he isnt comfortable w/ it. you took it personally & it set an emotional domino effect.
& why does anyone have to impress you? shouldnt him being himself be enough? & what do you do to impress him?
so far, i just see you taking things personally & blocking him.click to expand
well may b to you I shouldn't have taken it personally but I did. I mean this guy is meant to be a romantic interest/potential partner and he comes out with that concourse I will takeit like that , sorry to say. And then when I come back after s month and tell him why he called me petty which doesn't really help the situation. Don't mean necessarily impress me but be neutral at least not say insulting things all the time.
But you know what you're right I havnt put my best foot forward with him
Posted by emeraldgem
Wow - you do know that even when you have GREAT texts, GREAT phone chemistry but haven't met yet - it may all go *poof* the second you lay eyes on each other? I would NEVER, EVER invest any emotion whatsoever in someone I hadn't met. Curiosity, yes, anticipation, yes - real emotion? Hell no!
I know. You're right of course. And this doesn't usually happen to me as In especially if I have not met them lol. Weird may be he reminds me of a previous long term connection I had with a guy. It's kind of annoying. He doesn't help when he sends lovely dovey texts. Well he used to more than he does now saying he misses me etc etc. But obviously i dnnt say stuff like tht usually becsuse st the end of the day I don't want to give away too much at the start. Andhang on a sec are u saying he's not going to find me attractive lol 😂
Posted by dilettantePosted by HeartofIcePosted by dilettantePosted by HeartofIcePosted by Lacey90Posted by emeraldgem
Maybe give it one last go. See if this behavior is how it is or just an anomaly. I always give the benefit of the doubt once (maybe twice if the sex is excellent, lol) before I give it up.
loooool at the sex. 😂😂
Well tht don't relate to us we just having a online thing for the time being. From my perspective I do see that he worked hard to keep In contact with me before and he called me lots of times without a return. I know I am hard work. Which is actually why even after the 9 day no contact I thought I'll give him a nudge by message. But Yeh I was thinking I'll try to show I'm still interested and see what he does with it. Well 2bh I thought it was quite clear I was with the initiating messages. But may be he needs more. Or maybe he should go and YouTube the video about signs an introvert likes you lol. That is so me. One of the signs was they really don't like calling or messaging so if they take their time to do either it's a sign lol.
Hold up, y'all haven't met up IRL yet?
oh shit... have they not even met yet??
hmmmmm 🤔
Yeah, OP mentioned that it was "just an online thing" and she never said in any of her posts that they ever met online. IMO if they haven't met IRL yet then there isn't really much of a protocol either of them have to follow besides being courteous.
agreed.
it sounds like too much drama for not even having spoken on the phone.click to expand
you're right. It's my infp personality taking over.
Posted by HeartofIcePosted by emeraldgem
Wow - you do know that even when you have GREAT texts, GREAT phone chemistry but haven't met yet - it may all go *poof* the second you lay eyes on each other? I would NEVER, EVER invest any emotion whatsoever in someone I hadn't met. Curiosity, yes, anticipation, yes - real emotion? Hell no!
Lol try saying that to a Watery person.
You're right, but Watery people aren't instinctually logical with this kind of shit. 😂💀click to expand
I'm definitely watery lol. Scorpio moon I have
Posted by HeartofIcePosted by dilettantePosted by HeartofIcePosted by dilettantePosted by HeartofIcePosted by Lacey90Posted by emeraldgem
Maybe give it one last go. See if this behavior is how it is or just an anomaly. I always give the benefit of the doubt once (maybe twice if the sex is excellent, lol) before I give it up.
loooool at the sex. 😂😂
Well tht don't relate to us we just having a online thing for the time being. From my perspective I do see that he worked hard to keep In contact with me before and he called me lots of times without a return. I know I am hard work. Which is actually why even after the 9 day no contact I thought I'll give him a nudge by message. But Yeh I was thinking I'll try to show I'm still interested and see what he does with it. Well 2bh I thought it was quite clear I was with the initiating messages. But may be he needs more. Or maybe he should go and YouTube the video about signs an introvert likes you lol. That is so me. One of the signs was they really don't like calling or messaging so if they take their time to do either it's a sign lol.
Hold up, y'all haven't met up IRL yet?
oh shit... have they not even met yet??
hmmmmm 🤔
Yeah, OP mentioned that it was "just an online thing" and she never said in any of her posts that they ever met online. IMO if they haven't met IRL yet then there isn't really much of a protocol either of them have to follow besides being courteous.
agreed.
it sounds like too much drama for not even having spoken on the phone.
Yeah, and even if they have spoken on the phone I still wouldn't really take much to heart until they actually meet up. Maybe if they do end up talking on the phone then yeah, things might start to get a little more serious but not by much. No one ever knows how they actually vibe with other people unless they meet up IRL and hang out and do stuff together.click to expand
I know that's the thing. I know all this but I just got so caught up in him recently I know it's terrible. But over the last year I said to myself this isn't going to happen and it has
Posted by HeartofIcePosted by Lacey90Posted by HeartofIcePosted by Lacey90Posted by emeraldgem
Maybe give it one last go. See if this behavior is how it is or just an anomaly. I always give the benefit of the doubt once (maybe twice if the sex is excellent, lol) before I give it up.
loooool at the sex. 😂😂
Well tht don't relate to us we just having a online thing for the time being. From my perspective I do see that he worked hard to keep In contact with me before and he called me lots of times without a return. I know I am hard work. Which is actually why even after the 9 day no contact I thought I'll give him a nudge by message. But Yeh I was thinking I'll try to show I'm still interested and see what he does with it. Well 2bh I thought it was quite clear I was with the initiating messages. But may be he needs more. Or maybe he should go and YouTube the video about signs an introvert likes you lol. That is so me. One of the signs was they really don't like calling or messaging so if they take their time to do either it's a sign lol.
Hold up, y'all haven't met up IRL yet?
no not yet. I was alright with meeting up and so was he at one point. But then when I did the blocking and I came back he was more cautious about it and was like I will only meet you after we speak on the phone. Which has barely happened either but only due to me being lazy with calling.
Blocking was a hasty and unnecessarily offensive move.
I would try to be more careful with how you interact with him from this point on so that he feels less discouraged and so that y'all can actually meet up and see what the vibe really is like between you two... Until then, it's just fantasies.
I should repeat that last sentence to myself lmao but anyway.click to expand
Yeh when I blocked.him I don't think he was happy. He messaged me and called me like everyday for a number of days. Didn't even know he did all that till I unblocked.him from my phone. Since the calls didn't come through. And obviously when I did finally message him i did get a little bit of attitude from him. At first he was like "can I help you"
Posted by HeartofIcePosted by Lacey90Posted by HeartofIcePosted by Lacey90Posted by HeartofIcePosted by Lacey90Posted by emeraldgem
Maybe give it one last go. See if this behavior is how it is or just an anomaly. I always give the benefit of the doubt once (maybe twice if the sex is excellent, lol) before I give it up.
loooool at the sex. 😂😂
Well tht don't relate to us we just having a online thing for the time being. From my perspective I do see that he worked hard to keep In contact with me before and he called me lots of times without a return. I know I am hard work. Which is actually why even after the 9 day no contact I thought I'll give him a nudge by message. But Yeh I was thinking I'll try to show I'm still interested and see what he does with it. Well 2bh I thought it was quite clear I was with the initiating messages. But may be he needs more. Or maybe he should go and YouTube the video about signs an introvert likes you lol. That is so me. One of the signs was they really don't like calling or messaging so if they take their time to do either it's a sign lol.
Hold up, y'all haven't met up IRL yet?
no not yet. I was alright with meeting up and so was he at one point. But then when I did the blocking and I came back he was more cautious about it and was like I will only meet you after we speak on the phone. Which has barely happened either but only due to me being lazy with calling.
Blocking was a hasty and unnecessarily offensive move.
I would try to be more careful with how you interact with him from this point on so that he feels less discouraged and so that y'all can actually meet up and see what the vibe really is like between you two... Until then, it's just fantasies.
I should repeat that last sentence to myself lmao but anyway.
Yeh when I blocked.him I don't think he was happy. He messaged me and called me like everyday for a number of days. Didn't even know he did all that till I unblocked.him from my phone. Since the calls didn't come through. And obviously when I did finally message him i did get a little bit of attitude from him. At first he was like "can I help you"
Yeah that was... Not the best move on your part, haha. I did something similar and actually sent a long ass paragraph of a message to the guy bitching at him for not treating me "the way I deserved to be treated" and "leading me on" and whatever and we hadn't even met at that point so he was upset that I did that and called me out for being ridiculous which was true. 🤭click to expand
Loool what starsign are you?
So you get me because you've been there too lol nice to know you understand lol.😂 so what happened with the guy lol?
I think with this guy he was putting effort into me and whispering sweet nothings lol 😂 and just generally being affectionate even if it's via messaging. And I think if he hadn't had done all that it would have had less of an impact maybe. Whereas with me im very slow to open up so I don't say sweet stuff because I know it will sound stupid when I havnt even seen the guy in person lol. But at the same time I do imagine how good it could be when he says all the stuff he says. Is he just being fake though. It's so weird. Because he can switch like that. At one point he did and was like I refuse to be your textingg buddy I can't be in contact with u anymore to which I replied he's not just my texting FRIEND lol and managed to turn it around. Although now it's gone back to being stale again lol
Posted by HeartofIcePosted by Lacey90Posted by HeartofIcePosted by Lacey90Posted by HeartofIcePosted by Lacey90Posted by HeartofIcePosted by Lacey90Posted by emeraldgem
Maybe give it one last go. See if this behavior is how it is or just an anomaly. I always give the benefit of the doubt once (maybe twice if the sex is excellent, lol) before I give it up.
loooool at the sex. 😂😂
Well tht don't relate to us we just having a online thing for the time being. From my perspective I do see that he worked hard to keep In contact with me before and he called me lots of times without a return. I know I am hard work. Which is actually why even after the 9 day no contact I thought I'll give him a nudge by message. But Yeh I was thinking I'll try to show I'm still interested and see what he does with it. Well 2bh I thought it was quite clear I was with the initiating messages. But may be he needs more. Or maybe he should go and YouTube the video about signs an introvert likes you lol. That is so me. One of the signs was they really don't like calling or messaging so if they take their time to do either it's a sign lol.
Hold up, y'all haven't met up IRL yet?
no not yet. I was alright with meeting up and so was he at one point. But then when I did the blocking and I came back he was more cautious about it and was like I will only meet you after we speak on the phone. Which has barely happened either but only due to me being lazy with calling.
Blocking was a hasty and unnecessarily offensive move.
I would try to be more careful with how you interact with him from this point on so that he feels less discouraged and so that y'all can actually meet up and see what the vibe really is like between you two... Until then, it's just fantasies.
I should repeat that last sentence to myself lmao but anyway.
Yeh when I blocked.him I don't think he was happy. He messaged me and called me like everyday for a number of days. Didn't even know he did all that till I unblocked.him from my phone. Since the calls didn't come through. And obviously when I did finally message him i did get a little bit of attitude from him. At first he was like "can I help you"
Yeah that was... Not the best move on your part, haha. I did something similar and actually sent a long ass paragraph of a message to the guy bitching at him for not treating me "the way I deserved to be treated" and "leading me on" and whatever and we hadn't even met at that point so he was upset that I did that and called me out for being ridiculous which was true. 🤭
Loool what starsign are you?
So you get me because you've been there too lol nice to know you understand lol.😂 so what happened with the guy lol?
I think with this guy he was putting effort into me and whispering sweet nothings lol 😂 and just generally being affectionate even if it's via messaging. And I think if he hadn't had done all that it would have had less of an impact maybe. Whereas with me im very slow to open up so I don't say sweet stuff because I know it will sound stupid when I havnt even seen the guy in person lol. But at the same time I do imagine how good it could be when he says all the stuff he says. Is he just being fake though. It's so weird. Because he can switch like that. At one point he did and was like I refuse to be your textingg buddy I can't be in contact with u anymore to which I replied he's not just my texting FRIEND lol and managed to turn it around. Although now it's gone back to being stale again lol
I'm a Leo but I have a Water Moon and Water Rising.
As for the guy, we've been talking for a while and slowly getting to know each other, just via the internet, though. Both of us have expressed interest in meeting up IRL but we've had pretty demanding schedules and are going through emotionally exhausting stuff so we're not pushing for it to happen anytime soon.
As for your situation, I mean yes, people are allowed to flatter each other over the internet, lol... what matters is how you take it when you receive the flattery. Yes, it may mean something to you, but I would try not to take it too seriously since the only things you guys are basing your flattery off of are messages and pictures, not real-life interactions, which are what really indicate the type of relationship you guys have. I have a big tendency to take literally every little thing seriously when I'm interested in a guy but 1) that just doesn't make sense especially if you guys haven't met up IRL yet and 2) that's just not healthy for you and you could get easily carried away either positively or negatively when those little details might not actually take much significance if any at all in how you guys really vibe with each other. But that doesn't mean that his flattery is insincere. Yes, it's based on online interactions and pictures and whatnot, but that doesn't make it fake.
When he told you he couldn't "just" be your texting buddy and that he "couldn't" be in contact with you anymore what had happened before and after he said that?click to expand
no i totally get that. You probably don't want too much on your plate by starting something with the guy. Basically before he told me he couldn't be just my texting buddy he kinda warned me saying he put a time limit on me to have a phone call. And I sort of was thinking ye whatever. Kind of taking things for granted. And yeh I didn't call him and he suddenly just stopped messaging n all of tht. I ended up messaging him myself after five days no contact lol and was like what happened to you? Which is when he said it was nothing personal but he refuses to be my texting buddy. And I then said you're not and I wanted to meet up etc. And he said it's a bit ironic on the day i want to cut u off you suddenly show interest in seeing me. But Yeh we sort of got over that a bit then I actually ended up calling him but he didnt pick up n then he called me n i didnt pick up again lol. So it kind of.went around like that..n then we.resorted to texting
And omg why is he online right now at 2:30am in the middle of the night. I swear stuff like that annoys me lol when I see him online knowing he hasn't carried on talking to me 🤔🤨 he's probably talking to some other girl isn't he 😭😢😪 I just can't b bothered if that is the case seriously. Like f off then kinda thing. I know I'm assuming but what guy talks to other guys in the middle of the night lol. And then there's me thinking about when I'm gonna call him and start this up again.
I just don't get it. Only yesterday when he texted me he made the comment about me organising a holiday
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Maybe give it one last go. See if this behavior is how it is or just an anomaly. I always give the benefit of the doubt once (maybe twice if the sex is excellent, lol) before I give it up.
loooool at the sex. 😂😂
Well tht don't relate to us we just having a online thing for the time being. From my perspective I do see that he worked hard to keep In contact with me before and he called me lots of times without a return. I know I am hard work. Which is actually why even after the 9 day no contact I thought I'll give him a nudge by message. But Yeh I was thinking I'll try to show I'm still interested and see what he does with it. Well 2bh I thought it was quite clear I was with the initiating messages. But may be he needs more. Or maybe he should go and YouTube the video about signs an introvert likes you lol. That is so me. One of the signs was they really don't like calling or messaging so if they take their time to do either it's a sign lol.
Hold up, y'all haven't met up IRL yet?
no not yet. I was alright with meeting up and so was he at one point. But then when I did the blocking and I came back he was more cautious about it and was like I will only meet you after we speak on the phone. Which has barely happened either but only due to me being lazy with calling.
Blocking was a hasty and unnecessarily offensive move.
I would try to be more careful with how you interact with him from this point on so that he feels less discouraged and so that y'all can actually meet up and see what the vibe really is like between you two... Until then, it's just fantasies.
I should repeat that last sentence to myself lmao but anyway.
Yeh when I blocked.him I don't think he was happy. He messaged me and called me like everyday for a number of days. Didn't even know he did all that till I unblocked.him from my phone. Since the calls didn't come through. And obviously when I did finally message him i did get a little bit of attitude from him. At first he was like "can I help you"
Yeah that was... Not the best move on your part, haha. I did something similar and actually sent a long ass paragraph of a message to the guy bitching at him for not treating me "the way I deserved to be treated" and "leading me on" and whatever and we hadn't even met at that point so he was upset that I did that and called me out for being ridiculous which was true. 🤭
Loool what starsign are you?
So you get me because you've been there too lol nice to know you understand lol.😂 so what happened with the guy lol?
I think with this guy he was putting effort into me and whispering sweet nothings lol 😂 and just generally being affectionate even if it's via messaging. And I think if he hadn't had done all that it would have had less of an impact maybe. Whereas with me im very slow to open up so I don't say sweet stuff because I know it will sound stupid when I havnt even seen the guy in person lol. But at the same time I do imagine how good it could be when he says all the stuff he says. Is he just being fake though. It's so weird. Because he can switch like that. At one point he did and was like I refuse to be your textingg buddy I can't be in contact with u anymore to which I replied he's not just my texting FRIEND lol and managed to turn it around. Although now it's gone back to being stale again lol
I'm a Leo but I have a Water Moon and Water Rising.
As for the guy, we've been talking for a while and slowly getting to know each other, just via the internet, though. Both of us have expressed interest in meeting up IRL but we've had pretty demanding schedules and are going through emotionally exhausting stuff so we're not pushing for it to happen anytime soon.
As for your situation, I mean yes, people are allowed to flatter each other over the internet, lol... what matters is how you take it when you receive the flattery. Yes, it may mean something to you, but I would try not to take it too seriously since the only things you guys are basing your flattery off of are messages and pictures, not real-life interactions, which are what really indicate the type of relationship you guys have. I have a big tendency to take literally every little thing seriously when I'm interested in a guy but 1) that just doesn't make sense especially if you guys haven't met up IRL yet and 2) that's just not healthy for you and you could get easily carried away either positively or negatively when those little details might not actually take much significance if any at all in how you guys really vibe with each other. But that doesn't mean that his flattery is insincere. Yes, it's based on online interactions and pictures and whatnot, but that doesn't make it fake.
When he told you he couldn't "just" be your texting buddy and that he "couldn't" be in contact with you anymore what had happened before and after he said that?
no i totally get that. You probably don't want too much on your plate by starting something with the guy. Basically before he told me he couldn't be just my texting buddy he kinda warned me saying he put a time limit on me to have a phone call. And I sort of was thinking ye whatever. Kind of taking things for granted. And yeh I didn't call him and he suddenly just stopped messaging n all of tht. I ended up messaging him myself after five days no contact lol and was like what happened to you? Which is when he said it was nothing personal but he refuses to be my texting buddy. And I then said you're not and I wanted to meet up etc. And he said it's a bit ironic on the day i want to cut u off you suddenly show interest in seeing me. But Yeh we sort of got over that a bit then I actually ended up calling him but he didnt pick up n then he called me n i didnt pick up again lol. So it kind of.went around like that..n then we.resorted to texting
And omg why is he online right now at 2:30am in the middle of the night. I swear stuff like that annoys me lol when I see him online knowing he hasn't carried on talking to me 🤔🤨 he's probably talking to some other girl isn't he 😭😢😪 I just can't b bothered if that is the case seriously. Like f off then kinda thing. I know I'm assuming but what guy talks to other guys in the middle of the night lol. And then there's me thinking about when I'm gonna call him and start this up again.
I just don't get it. Only yesterday when he texted me he made the comment about me organising a holiday
Okay first of all, even if he is talking to another girl, y'all haven't even met IRL yet so he doesn't have any commitment obligations with you. Also, what did he mean by putting a time limit on your phone call? And he probably expected you to call him since he told you he didn't want to just text you... But you didn't call him so that's why he stopped messaging you. He didn't think you were that interested in him. Is there a reason why you didn't pick up the phone when he called you?
Try not to jump to conclusions about why he's online at any time of the day and not talking to you. I would hope that he talks to other people too lol. I get that you're thinking he might be talking to other girls and I get that that annoys you, but you guys haven't even met up yet so that's not something you should be getting overly reactive about.click to expand
I know we aren't committed lol. That much I know but I sure as hell ain't going to be interested in someone who is now talking to someone else. Hypothetically if that was the case I will just say goodbye then, block him and not come back. That really ain't my style . So it's not like omg he's talking to someone else he shouldn't he's my boyfriend lol it's nothing like that it's more like I ain't playing these dating games. N if he doesn't see my worth then I'm out of the picture for good. So I may go call him see how he responds and if he starts to put his interest in me again. If not I'm done. I'm really not the chasing type
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Maybe give it one last go. See if this behavior is how it is or just an anomaly. I always give the benefit of the doubt once (maybe twice if the sex is excellent, lol) before I give it up.
loooool at the sex. 😂😂
Well tht don't relate to us we just having a online thing for the time being. From my perspective I do see that he worked hard to keep In contact with me before and he called me lots of times without a return. I know I am hard work. Which is actually why even after the 9 day no contact I thought I'll give him a nudge by message. But Yeh I was thinking I'll try to show I'm still interested and see what he does with it. Well 2bh I thought it was quite clear I was with the initiating messages. But may be he needs more. Or maybe he should go and YouTube the video about signs an introvert likes you lol. That is so me. One of the signs was they really don't like calling or messaging so if they take their time to do either it's a sign lol.
Hold up, y'all haven't met up IRL yet?
no not yet. I was alright with meeting up and so was he at one point. But then when I did the blocking and I came back he was more cautious about it and was like I will only meet you after we speak on the phone. Which has barely happened either but only due to me being lazy with calling.
Blocking was a hasty and unnecessarily offensive move.
I would try to be more careful with how you interact with him from this point on so that he feels less discouraged and so that y'all can actually meet up and see what the vibe really is like between you two... Until then, it's just fantasies.
I should repeat that last sentence to myself lmao but anyway.
Yeh when I blocked.him I don't think he was happy. He messaged me and called me like everyday for a number of days. Didn't even know he did all that till I unblocked.him from my phone. Since the calls didn't come through. And obviously when I did finally message him i did get a little bit of attitude from him. At first he was like "can I help you"
Yeah that was... Not the best move on your part, haha. I did something similar and actually sent a long ass paragraph of a message to the guy bitching at him for not treating me "the way I deserved to be treated" and "leading me on" and whatever and we hadn't even met at that point so he was upset that I did that and called me out for being ridiculous which was true. 🤭
Loool what starsign are you?
So you get me because you've been there too lol nice to know you understand lol.😂 so what happened with the guy lol?
I think with this guy he was putting effort into me and whispering sweet nothings lol 😂 and just generally being affectionate even if it's via messaging. And I think if he hadn't had done all that it would have had less of an impact maybe. Whereas with me im very slow to open up so I don't say sweet stuff because I know it will sound stupid when I havnt even seen the guy in person lol. But at the same time I do imagine how good it could be when he says all the stuff he says. Is he just being fake though. It's so weird. Because he can switch like that. At one point he did and was like I refuse to be your textingg buddy I can't be in contact with u anymore to which I replied he's not just my texting FRIEND lol and managed to turn it around. Although now it's gone back to being stale again lol
I'm a Leo but I have a Water Moon and Water Rising.
As for the guy, we've been talking for a while and slowly getting to know each other, just via the internet, though. Both of us have expressed interest in meeting up IRL but we've had pretty demanding schedules and are going through emotionally exhausting stuff so we're not pushing for it to happen anytime soon.
As for your situation, I mean yes, people are allowed to flatter each other over the internet, lol... what matters is how you take it when you receive the flattery. Yes, it may mean something to you, but I would try not to take it too seriously since the only things you guys are basing your flattery off of are messages and pictures, not real-life interactions, which are what really indicate the type of relationship you guys have. I have a big tendency to take literally every little thing seriously when I'm interested in a guy but 1) that just doesn't make sense especially if you guys haven't met up IRL yet and 2) that's just not healthy for you and you could get easily carried away either positively or negatively when those little details might not actually take much significance if any at all in how you guys really vibe with each other. But that doesn't mean that his flattery is insincere. Yes, it's based on online interactions and pictures and whatnot, but that doesn't make it fake.
When he told you he couldn't "just" be your texting buddy and that he "couldn't" be in contact with you anymore what had happened before and after he said that?
no i totally get that. You probably don't want too much on your plate by starting something with the guy. Basically before he told me he couldn't be just my texting buddy he kinda warned me saying he put a time limit on me to have a phone call. And I sort of was thinking ye whatever. Kind of taking things for granted. And yeh I didn't call him and he suddenly just stopped messaging n all of tht. I ended up messaging him myself after five days no contact lol and was like what happened to you? Which is when he said it was nothing personal but he refuses to be my texting buddy. And I then said you're not and I wanted to meet up etc. And he said it's a bit ironic on the day i want to cut u off you suddenly show interest in seeing me. But Yeh we sort of got over that a bit then I actually ended up calling him but he didnt pick up n then he called me n i didnt pick up again lol. So it kind of.went around like that..n then we.resorted to texting
And omg why is he online right now at 2:30am in the middle of the night. I swear stuff like that annoys me lol when I see him online knowing he hasn't carried on talking to me 🤔🤨 he's probably talking to some other girl isn't he 😭😢😪 I just can't b bothered if that is the case seriously. Like f off then kinda thing. I know I'm assuming but what guy talks to other guys in the middle of the night lol. And then there's me thinking about when I'm gonna call him and start this up again.
I just don't get it. Only yesterday when he texted me he made the comment about me organising a holiday
Okay first of all, even if he is talking to another girl, y'all haven't even met IRL yet so he doesn't have any commitment obligations with you. Also, what did he mean by putting a time limit on your phone call? And he probably expected you to call him since he told you he didn't want to just text you... But you didn't call him so that's why he stopped messaging you. He didn't think you were that interested in him. Is there a reason why you didn't pick up the phone when he called you?
Try not to jump to conclusions about why he's online at any time of the day and not talking to you. I would hope that he talks to other people too lol. I get that you're thinking he might be talking to other girls and I get that that annoys you, but you guys haven't even met up yet so that's not something you should be getting overly reactive about.click to expand
back in the days I used to be always talking to one person at a time, juggling multiple men like how men juggle multiple women was really not my thing. Till of course I grew up I learnt how these guys are, and decided to keep more options for myself.
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Maybe give it one last go. See if this behavior is how it is or just an anomaly. I always give the benefit of the doubt once (maybe twice if the sex is excellent, lol) before I give it up.
loooool at the sex. 😂😂
Well tht don't relate to us we just having a online thing for the time being. From my perspective I do see that he worked hard to keep In contact with me before and he called me lots of times without a return. I know I am hard work. Which is actually why even after the 9 day no contact I thought I'll give him a nudge by message. But Yeh I was thinking I'll try to show I'm still interested and see what he does with it. Well 2bh I thought it was quite clear I was with the initiating messages. But may be he needs more. Or maybe he should go and YouTube the video about signs an introvert likes you lol. That is so me. One of the signs was they really don't like calling or messaging so if they take their time to do either it's a sign lol.
Hold up, y'all haven't met up IRL yet?
no not yet. I was alright with meeting up and so was he at one point. But then when I did the blocking and I came back he was more cautious about it and was like I will only meet you after we speak on the phone. Which has barely happened either but only due to me being lazy with calling.
Blocking was a hasty and unnecessarily offensive move.
I would try to be more careful with how you interact with him from this point on so that he feels less discouraged and so that y'all can actually meet up and see what the vibe really is like between you two... Until then, it's just fantasies.
I should repeat that last sentence to myself lmao but anyway.
Yeh when I blocked.him I don't think he was happy. He messaged me and called me like everyday for a number of days. Didn't even know he did all that till I unblocked.him from my phone. Since the calls didn't come through. And obviously when I did finally message him i did get a little bit of attitude from him. At first he was like "can I help you"
Yeah that was... Not the best move on your part, haha. I did something similar and actually sent a long ass paragraph of a message to the guy bitching at him for not treating me "the way I deserved to be treated" and "leading me on" and whatever and we hadn't even met at that point so he was upset that I did that and called me out for being ridiculous which was true. 🤭
Loool what starsign are you?
So you get me because you've been there too lol nice to know you understand lol.😂 so what happened with the guy lol?
I think with this guy he was putting effort into me and whispering sweet nothings lol 😂 and just generally being affectionate even if it's via messaging. And I think if he hadn't had done all that it would have had less of an impact maybe. Whereas with me im very slow to open up so I don't say sweet stuff because I know it will sound stupid when I havnt even seen the guy in person lol. But at the same time I do imagine how good it could be when he says all the stuff he says. Is he just being fake though. It's so weird. Because he can switch like that. At one point he did and was like I refuse to be your textingg buddy I can't be in contact with u anymore to which I replied he's not just my texting FRIEND lol and managed to turn it around. Although now it's gone back to being stale again lol
I'm a Leo but I have a Water Moon and Water Rising.
As for the guy, we've been talking for a while and slowly getting to know each other, just via the internet, though. Both of us have expressed interest in meeting up IRL but we've had pretty demanding schedules and are going through emotionally exhausting stuff so we're not pushing for it to happen anytime soon.
As for your situation, I mean yes, people are allowed to flatter each other over the internet, lol... what matters is how you take it when you receive the flattery. Yes, it may mean something to you, but I would try not to take it too seriously since the only things you guys are basing your flattery off of are messages and pictures, not real-life interactions, which are what really indicate the type of relationship you guys have. I have a big tendency to take literally every little thing seriously when I'm interested in a guy but 1) that just doesn't make sense especially if you guys haven't met up IRL yet and 2) that's just not healthy for you and you could get easily carried away either positively or negatively when those little details might not actually take much significance if any at all in how you guys really vibe with each other. But that doesn't mean that his flattery is insincere. Yes, it's based on online interactions and pictures and whatnot, but that doesn't make it fake.
When he told you he couldn't "just" be your texting buddy and that he "couldn't" be in contact with you anymore what had happened before and after he said that?
no i totally get that. You probably don't want too much on your plate by starting something with the guy. Basically before he told me he couldn't be just my texting buddy he kinda warned me saying he put a time limit on me to have a phone call. And I sort of was thinking ye whatever. Kind of taking things for granted. And yeh I didn't call him and he suddenly just stopped messaging n all of tht. I ended up messaging him myself after five days no contact lol and was like what happened to you? Which is when he said it was nothing personal but he refuses to be my texting buddy. And I then said you're not and I wanted to meet up etc. And he said it's a bit ironic on the day i want to cut u off you suddenly show interest in seeing me. But Yeh we sort of got over that a bit then I actually ended up calling him but he didnt pick up n then he called me n i didnt pick up again lol. So it kind of.went around like that..n then we.resorted to texting
And omg why is he online right now at 2:30am in the middle of the night. I swear stuff like that annoys me lol when I see him online knowing he hasn't carried on talking to me 🤔🤨 he's probably talking to some other girl isn't he 😭😢😪 I just can't b bothered if that is the case seriously. Like f off then kinda thing. I know I'm assuming but what guy talks to other guys in the middle of the night lol. And then there's me thinking about when I'm gonna call him and start this up again.
I just don't get it. Only yesterday when he texted me he made the comment about me organising a holiday
Okay first of all, even if he is talking to another girl, y'all haven't even met IRL yet so he doesn't have any commitment obligations with you. Also, what did he mean by putting a time limit on your phone call? And he probably expected you to call him since he told you he didn't want to just text you... But you didn't call him so that's why he stopped messaging you. He didn't think you were that interested in him. Is there a reason why you didn't pick up the phone when he called you?
Try not to jump to conclusions about why he's online at any time of the day and not talking to you. I would hope that he talks to other people too lol. I get that you're thinking he might be talking to other girls and I get that that annoys you, but you guys haven't even met up yet so that's not something you should be getting overly reactive about.
I know we aren't committed lol. That much I know but I sure as hell ain't going to be interested in someone who is now talking to someone else. Hypothetically if that was the case I will just say goodbye then, block him and not come back. That really ain't my style . So it's not like omg he's talking to someone else he shouldn't he's my boyfriend lol it's nothing like that it's more like I ain't playing these dating games. N if he doesn't see my worth then I'm out of the picture for good. So I may go call him see how he responds and if he starts to put his interest in me again. If not I'm done. I'm really not the chasing type
How old are you guys? What are your astro placements? What's his Sun?click to expand
HES 27 I'm 26. Hes so secretive about his birthday he didn't want to tell me the date. Which is kind of annoying. He said he will be 28 in November. I'm virgo sun, virgo rising and Scorpio moon. I also got placements in Capricorn and Sagittarius Aries aswell I think but kind of forgot what in
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Maybe give it one last go. See if this behavior is how it is or just an anomaly. I always give the benefit of the doubt once (maybe twice if the sex is excellent, lol) before I give it up.
loooool at the sex. 😂😂
Well tht don't relate to us we just having a online thing for the time being. From my perspective I do see that he worked hard to keep In contact with me before and he called me lots of times without a return. I know I am hard work. Which is actually why even after the 9 day no contact I thought I'll give him a nudge by message. But Yeh I was thinking I'll try to show I'm still interested and see what he does with it. Well 2bh I thought it was quite clear I was with the initiating messages. But may be he needs more. Or maybe he should go and YouTube the video about signs an introvert likes you lol. That is so me. One of the signs was they really don't like calling or messaging so if they take their time to do either it's a sign lol.
Hold up, y'all haven't met up IRL yet?
no not yet. I was alright with meeting up and so was he at one point. But then when I did the blocking and I came back he was more cautious about it and was like I will only meet you after we speak on the phone. Which has barely happened either but only due to me being lazy with calling.
Blocking was a hasty and unnecessarily offensive move.
I would try to be more careful with how you interact with him from this point on so that he feels less discouraged and so that y'all can actually meet up and see what the vibe really is like between you two... Until then, it's just fantasies.
I should repeat that last sentence to myself lmao but anyway.
Yeh when I blocked.him I don't think he was happy. He messaged me and called me like everyday for a number of days. Didn't even know he did all that till I unblocked.him from my phone. Since the calls didn't come through. And obviously when I did finally message him i did get a little bit of attitude from him. At first he was like "can I help you"
Yeah that was... Not the best move on your part, haha. I did something similar and actually sent a long ass paragraph of a message to the guy bitching at him for not treating me "the way I deserved to be treated" and "leading me on" and whatever and we hadn't even met at that point so he was upset that I did that and called me out for being ridiculous which was true. 🤭
Loool what starsign are you?
So you get me because you've been there too lol nice to know you understand lol.😂 so what happened with the guy lol?
I think with this guy he was putting effort into me and whispering sweet nothings lol 😂 and just generally being affectionate even if it's via messaging. And I think if he hadn't had done all that it would have had less of an impact maybe. Whereas with me im very slow to open up so I don't say sweet stuff because I know it will sound stupid when I havnt even seen the guy in person lol. But at the same time I do imagine how good it could be when he says all the stuff he says. Is he just being fake though. It's so weird. Because he can switch like that. At one point he did and was like I refuse to be your textingg buddy I can't be in contact with u anymore to which I replied he's not just my texting FRIEND lol and managed to turn it around. Although now it's gone back to being stale again lol
I'm a Leo but I have a Water Moon and Water Rising.
As for the guy, we've been talking for a while and slowly getting to know each other, just via the internet, though. Both of us have expressed interest in meeting up IRL but we've had pretty demanding schedules and are going through emotionally exhausting stuff so we're not pushing for it to happen anytime soon.
As for your situation, I mean yes, people are allowed to flatter each other over the internet, lol... what matters is how you take it when you receive the flattery. Yes, it may mean something to you, but I would try not to take it too seriously since the only things you guys are basing your flattery off of are messages and pictures, not real-life interactions, which are what really indicate the type of relationship you guys have. I have a big tendency to take literally every little thing seriously when I'm interested in a guy but 1) that just doesn't make sense especially if you guys haven't met up IRL yet and 2) that's just not healthy for you and you could get easily carried away either positively or negatively when those little details might not actually take much significance if any at all in how you guys really vibe with each other. But that doesn't mean that his flattery is insincere. Yes, it's based on online interactions and pictures and whatnot, but that doesn't make it fake.
When he told you he couldn't "just" be your texting buddy and that he "couldn't" be in contact with you anymore what had happened before and after he said that?
no i totally get that. You probably don't want too much on your plate by starting something with the guy. Basically before he told me he couldn't be just my texting buddy he kinda warned me saying he put a time limit on me to have a phone call. And I sort of was thinking ye whatever. Kind of taking things for granted. And yeh I didn't call him and he suddenly just stopped messaging n all of tht. I ended up messaging him myself after five days no contact lol and was like what happened to you? Which is when he said it was nothing personal but he refuses to be my texting buddy. And I then said you're not and I wanted to meet up etc. And he said it's a bit ironic on the day i want to cut u off you suddenly show interest in seeing me. But Yeh we sort of got over that a bit then I actually ended up calling him but he didnt pick up n then he called me n i didnt pick up again lol. So it kind of.went around like that..n then we.resorted to texting
And omg why is he online right now at 2:30am in the middle of the night. I swear stuff like that annoys me lol when I see him online knowing he hasn't carried on talking to me 🤔🤨 he's probably talking to some other girl isn't he 😭😢😪 I just can't b bothered if that is the case seriously. Like f off then kinda thing. I know I'm assuming but what guy talks to other guys in the middle of the night lol. And then there's me thinking about when I'm gonna call him and start this up again.
I just don't get it. Only yesterday when he texted me he made the comment about me organising a holiday
Okay first of all, even if he is talking to another girl, y'all haven't even met IRL yet so he doesn't have any commitment obligations with you. Also, what did he mean by putting a time limit on your phone call? And he probably expected you to call him since he told you he didn't want to just text you... But you didn't call him so that's why he stopped messaging you. He didn't think you were that interested in him. Is there a reason why you didn't pick up the phone when he called you?
Try not to jump to conclusions about why he's online at any time of the day and not talking to you. I would hope that he talks to other people too lol. I get that you're thinking he might be talking to other girls and I get that that annoys you, but you guys haven't even met up yet so that's not something you should be getting overly reactive about.
back in the days I used to be always talking to one person at a time, juggling multiple men like how men juggle multiple women was really not my thing. Till of course I grew up I learnt how these guys are, and decided to keep more options for myself.
So you want multiple options for yourself but you won't allow guys you're interested in to have multiple options for themselves...?click to expand
no most can I'm not bothered. But with this one I dunno 😂 he can but just I won't b in his life.
God lord. Too much work. If I was him, I’d be long gone.
This is the most convoluted thread ever.
First OP flakes a bunch with this guy. Then sits there and waits as more days pass before contacting him. Then makes a faux paus by accidentally looking like a gold digger with her "if you pay" joke.
All simultaneously putting more value into herself and demanding certain behavior from a guy who she hasnt met and has put minimal effort into. But still subconsciously exhibiting the belief that her value should be categorically exaggerated to a disproportionate high value for the situation at hand.
In none of the events leading up to this current update, have you shown anything that can be seen as adding value for him to want to even contemplate even meeting you or continuing anything with you. So to get annoyed at the very thought of him communicating with other women while you sat waiting for him to talk for 9 days and stalked his coming and goings online, is delusional entitlement.
First OP flakes a bunch with this guy. Then sits there and waits as more days pass before contacting him. Then makes a faux paus by accidentally looking like a gold digger with her "if you pay" joke.
All simultaneously putting more value into herself and demanding certain behavior from a guy who she hasnt met and has put minimal effort into. But still subconsciously exhibiting the belief that her value should be categorically exaggerated to a disproportionate high value for the situation at hand.
In none of the events leading up to this current update, have you shown anything that can be seen as adding value for him to want to even contemplate even meeting you or continuing anything with you. So to get annoyed at the very thought of him communicating with other women while you sat waiting for him to talk for 9 days and stalked his coming and goings online, is delusional entitlement.
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