Posted by LadyNeptuneYeah he's telling me to keep it.
Keep it all
Posted by LalasReturnOk good. Presents are (should be) gifts you give without expectation. Only time you should return a gift is if it’s a family heirloom jewelry or engagement ring within a few months of getting it and the breakup happens.Posted by LadyNeptune
Keep it all
Yeah he's telling me to keep it.click to expand
Posted by Generous_LibraYep,my first love. He cheated on me.Posted by LalasReturn
I have a few tops of his that I'd borrowed. I should give them back.
But what about his presents?
Should I give them back too?
What do you do in such situations ?
Bear in mind that I can't do something too petty because our families are close.
Is that the gemini you posted about a few months ago?click to expand
Posted by seraphAn issue ? Huh i'm just asking a question lol.
They’re gifts. Keep them and have done with this problem. It’s worse that you’re even making an issue out of it.
Posted by Black-Mamba
If is his clothes I’d burn it and laugh wickedly
Or just gift it to next guy...what the quality like?
If it’s gifts for me I’d use it till I tire of it than donate it
Posted by MesquiteYou're right, i hadn't thought of it that way.
No, especially if returning them is going to raise a fuss in the families.
Posted by ItsSupes2hahahah
Send the gifts to me 😂😂
Posted by Generous_LibraYeah.Posted by LalasReturnPosted by Generous_LibraPosted by LalasReturn
I have a few tops of his that I'd borrowed. I should give them back.
But what about his presents?
Should I give them back too?
What do you do in such situations ?
Bear in mind that I can't do something too petty because our families are close.
Is that the gemini you posted about a few months ago?
Yep,my first love. He cheated on me.
Well he emotionally cheated on me anyway. That was enough to end it.
Wow this is awful, so sorry to hear.click to expand
Posted by NemDeuxWhat is (I don't get it). 🤨Posted by neves
Give them to homeless people - or leave them in one of those charity boxes (clothing donation box). Even if your families or close - if things ended cause he cheated on you - that's just fair (your family shouldn't have any saying - in what you do with your clothes). No point in holding on to stuff that can remind you of him.
Ohhh but that precisely is the point ....click to expand
Posted by LalasReturnPosted by Generous_LibraPosted by LalasReturnPosted by Generous_LibraPosted by LalasReturn
I have a few tops of his that I'd borrowed. I should give them back.
But what about his presents?
Should I give them back too?
What do you do in such situations ?
Bear in mind that I can't do something too petty because our families are close.
Is that the gemini you posted about a few months ago?
Yep,my first love. He cheated on me.
Well he emotionally cheated on me anyway. That was enough to end it.
Wow this is awful, so sorry to hear.
Yeah.
I asked to meet up.
I had something important to tell him.
He was like "maybe I think i'll be busy."
At 10pm of the day he was "supposed to be busy" he posts an instastory with a blonde girl.
I'm like wtf is that?
He told me it was his ex from high school.
Boom.
That was it for me.click to expand
Posted by NemDeuxPosted by nevesPosted by NemDeuxPosted by neves
Give them to homeless people - or leave them in one of those charity boxes (clothing donation box). Even if your families or close - if things ended cause he cheated on you - that's just fair (your family shouldn't have any saying - in what you do with your clothes). No point in holding on to stuff that can remind you of him.
Ohhh but that precisely is the point ....
What is (I don't get it). 🤨
Being reminded ....click to expand
Posted by NemDeuxPosted by LalasReturnPosted by seraph
They’re gifts. Keep them and have done with this problem. It’s worse that you’re even making an issue out of it.
An issue ? Huh i'm just asking a question lol.
It's also quite unnerving to have reminders of him everywhere.
You said you can't do anything too petty to avoid family fights ....
Put everything in a box and chuck it away or put it in the attic, cellar, or in the last cupboard in the corner of wherever you live. Give it to a friend to hold on to while you process your emotions ....
Is he asking for it back? No. Looks like he does'nt give a shit.
Often these trinkets become a reason to reach out and get a reaction.
As long as they are not life important documents (even then they can be re-issued) bury it.
It's a pitiful sight to see a scorp like this.click to expand
Posted by NemDeuxWhatPosted by nevesPosted by NemDeuxPosted by nevesPosted by NemDeuxPosted by neves
Give them to homeless people - or leave them in one of those charity boxes (clothing donation box). Even if your families or close - if things ended cause he cheated on you - that's just fair (your family shouldn't have any saying - in what you do with your clothes). No point in holding on to stuff that can remind you of him.
Ohhh but that precisely is the point ....
What is (I don't get it). 🤨
Being reminded ....
Is she an emotional masochist (finds pleasure in self-harm and such)? If so - then to each their own. My answer beats the purpose then (that was meant to help with healing her wounds and moving on, tho... if emotional pain is her gain - it's a bad answer).
You'll find many Scorpios with masochistic tendencies ....even if everything is perfectly fine, they will cause drama to "feel" or test some behaviour of their person of interest/desire. Very imsecure.click to expand
Posted by NemDeuxPosted by nevesPosted by NemDeuxPosted by nevesPosted by NemDeuxPosted by neves
Give them to homeless people - or leave them in one of those charity boxes (clothing donation box). Even if your families or close - if things ended cause he cheated on you - that's just fair (your family shouldn't have any saying - in what you do with your clothes). No point in holding on to stuff that can remind you of him.
Ohhh but that precisely is the point ....
What is (I don't get it). 🤨
Being reminded ....
Is she an emotional masochist (finds pleasure in self-harm and such)? If so - then to each their own. My answer beats the purpose then (that was meant to help with healing her wounds and moving on, tho... if emotional pain is her gain - it's a bad answer).
You'll find many Scorpios with masochistic tendencies ....even if everything is perfectly fine, they will cause drama to "feel" or test some behaviour of their person of interest/desire. Very imsecure.click to expand
Posted by NemDeuxPosted by LalasReturnPosted by NemDeuxPosted by LalasReturnPosted by seraph
They’re gifts. Keep them and have done with this problem. It’s worse that you’re even making an issue out of it.
An issue ? Huh i'm just asking a question lol.
It's also quite unnerving to have reminders of him everywhere.
You said you can't do anything too petty to avoid family fights ....
Put everything in a box and chuck it away or put it in the attic, cellar, or in the last cupboard in the corner of wherever you live. Give it to a friend to hold on to while you process your emotions ....
Is he asking for it back? No. Looks like he does'nt give a shit.
Often these trinkets become a reason to reach out and get a reaction.
As long as they are not life important documents (even then they can be re-issued) bury it.
It's a pitiful sight to see a scorp like this.
You're not listening.
We've practically grown up together around the same families. Our parents knew each other closely waaaaay before we were even born.
There's no "reaching out".
Our parents talk to each other on a regular basis.
They went out for dinner the other day. Then our Godparents went out with our parents all together with the kids of our godparents that we both have known since their birth. If we had both gone to that lunch, we'd have seen each other. We're going to see each other and be around each other. Even more so now because his godfather who is the husband of my godmother is dying.
Stop trying to give me lessons or lecture me when you're clearly not listening. Wtf. And I certainly didn't ask for your pity either.
He doesn't want it back. He told me it's because he gave them to me for me to have and it's not right to take back gifts.
He doesn't not give a shit. That's impossible.
We love each other. Deeply he just is a typical boy who likes the attention from other women. I need him to be a MAN now. The playing around was ok when we were younger. Now not so much.
His parents are giving him a hard time about it.
My parents too.
Our Godparents. The teenage kids.
So much shi.t that I have to tell them to cut it out and give him a break.
My question was simple.
I didn't ask you to go on a tangent and give me life lessons. Okay thanks.
A) you never wrote about your families ties to this extent until now whilst addressing me ..
B) it does not matter how far back your fams go
C) you are clearly grasping for straws and making excuses ...
D) for delusionclick to expand
Posted by seraph👆
They’re gifts. Keep them and have done with this problem. It’s worse that you’re even making an issue out of it.
Posted by NemDeuxYou're acting like an internet bully.Posted by LalasReturnPosted by NemDeuxPosted by nevesPosted by NemDeuxPosted by nevesPosted by NemDeuxPosted by neves
Give them to homeless people - or leave them in one of those charity boxes (clothing donation box). Even if your families or close - if things ended cause he cheated on you - that's just fair (your family shouldn't have any saying - in what you do with your clothes). No point in holding on to stuff that can remind you of him.
Ohhh but that precisely is the point ....
What is (I don't get it). 🤨
Being reminded ....
Is she an emotional masochist (finds pleasure in self-harm and such)? If so - then to each their own. My answer beats the purpose then (that was meant to help with healing her wounds and moving on, tho... if emotional pain is her gain - it's a bad answer).
You'll find many Scorpios with masochistic tendencies ....even if everything is perfectly fine, they will cause drama to "feel" or test some behaviour of their person of interest/desire. Very imsecure.
What
The
F.u.ck
Are
You
Talking
About ?!
Why are you f.u.cking assuming things about a relationship you know very very little about?
Would you please be quiet?
You are making a mountain out of a molehill ....
Whats really rubbing you?
BS scorp tactics.click to expand
Posted by NemDeuxPosted by LalasReturnPosted by NemDeuxPosted by LalasReturnPosted by NemDeuxPosted by LalasReturnPosted by seraph
They’re gifts. Keep them and have done with this problem. It’s worse that you’re even making an issue out of it.
An issue ? Huh i'm just asking a question lol.
It's also quite unnerving to have reminders of him everywhere.
You said you can't do anything too petty to avoid family fights ....
Put everything in a box and chuck it away or put it in the attic, cellar, or in the last cupboard in the corner of wherever you live. Give it to a friend to hold on to while you process your emotions ....
Is he asking for it back? No. Looks like he does'nt give a shit.
Often these trinkets become a reason to reach out and get a reaction.
As long as they are not life important documents (even then they can be re-issued) bury it.
It's a pitiful sight to see a scorp like this.
You're not listening.
We've practically grown up together around the same families. Our parents knew each other closely waaaaay before we were even born.
There's no "reaching out".
Our parents talk to each other on a regular basis.
They went out for dinner the other day. Then our Godparents went out with our parents all together with the kids of our godparents that we both have known since their birth. If we had both gone to that lunch, we'd have seen each other. We're going to see each other and be around each other. Even more so now because his godfather who is the husband of my godmother is dying.
Stop trying to give me lessons or lecture me when you're clearly not listening. Wtf. And I certainly didn't ask for your pity either.
He doesn't want it back. He told me it's because he gave them to me for me to have and it's not right to take back gifts.
He doesn't not give a shit. That's impossible.
We love each other. Deeply he just is a typical boy who likes the attention from other women. I need him to be a MAN now. The playing around was ok when we were younger. Now not so much.
His parents are giving him a hard time about it.
My parents too.
Our Godparents. The teenage kids.
So much shi.t that I have to tell them to cut it out and give him a break.
My question was simple.
I didn't ask you to go on a tangent and give me life lessons. Okay thanks.
A) you never wrote about your families ties to this extent until now whilst addressing me ..
B) it does not matter how far back your fams go
C) you are clearly grasping for straws and making excuses ...
D) for delusion
I actually did.
I'm not grasping for anything. Why would I even go into detail with idiots like you trying to make mountains out of molehills?
I'm not talking about my abusive ex Scorp bf here.
Lol.
Delusion?
You're gaslighting because you're making stuff up then saying I'm crazy for telling you what you're saying is not representative of the truth.
Yet you have 0 facts to back up what you're saying because you don't know me and clearly haven't read the posts where I talk about our family ties.
You're making yourself look like a bully here and it's not a good look.
I'm disappointed. I didn't think you were one of THOSE dxpers
Stay on topic, if you can.
You addressed everything else and beyond except the part where I mentioned getting rid of the items or putting them away or giving it to a friend to hold om to.
This is the topic, right?click to expand
Posted by NemDeuxPosted by LalasReturnPosted by NemDeuxPosted by LalasReturnPosted by NemDeuxPosted by LalasReturnPosted by NemDeuxPosted by LalasReturnPosted by seraph
They’re gifts. Keep them and have done with this problem. It’s worse that you’re even making an issue out of it.
An issue ? Huh i'm just asking a question lol.
It's also quite unnerving to have reminders of him everywhere.
You said you can't do anything too petty to avoid family fights ....
Put everything in a box and chuck it away or put it in the attic, cellar, or in the last cupboard in the corner of wherever you live. Give it to a friend to hold on to while you process your emotions ....
Is he asking for it back? No. Looks like he does'nt give a shit.
Often these trinkets become a reason to reach out and get a reaction.
As long as they are not life important documents (even then they can be re-issued) bury it.
It's a pitiful sight to see a scorp like this.
You're not listening.
We've practically grown up together around the same families. Our parents knew each other closely waaaaay before we were even born.
There's no "reaching out".
Our parents talk to each other on a regular basis.
They went out for dinner the other day. Then our Godparents went out with our parents all together with the kids of our godparents that we both have known since their birth. If we had both gone to that lunch, we'd have seen each other. We're going to see each other and be around each other. Even more so now because his godfather who is the husband of my godmother is dying.
Stop trying to give me lessons or lecture me when you're clearly not listening. Wtf. And I certainly didn't ask for your pity either.
He doesn't want it back. He told me it's because he gave them to me for me to have and it's not right to take back gifts.
He doesn't not give a shit. That's impossible.
We love each other. Deeply he just is a typical boy who likes the attention from other women. I need him to be a MAN now. The playing around was ok when we were younger. Now not so much.
His parents are giving him a hard time about it.
My parents too.
Our Godparents. The teenage kids.
So much shi.t that I have to tell them to cut it out and give him a break.
My question was simple.
I didn't ask you to go on a tangent and give me life lessons. Okay thanks.
A) you never wrote about your families ties to this extent until now whilst addressing me ..
B) it does not matter how far back your fams go
C) you are clearly grasping for straws and making excuses ...
D) for delusion
I actually did.
I'm not grasping for anything. Why would I even go into detail with idiots like you trying to make mountains out of molehills?
I'm not talking about my abusive ex Scorp bf here.
Lol.
Delusion?
You're gaslighting because you're making stuff up then saying I'm crazy for telling you what you're saying is not representative of the truth.
Yet you have 0 facts to back up what you're saying because you don't know me and clearly haven't read the posts where I talk about our family ties.
You're making yourself look like a bully here and it's not a good look.
I'm disappointed. I didn't think you were one of THOSE dxpers
Stay on topic, if you can.
You addressed everything else and beyond except the part where I mentioned getting rid of the items or putting them away or giving it to a friend to hold om to.
This is the topic, right?
Loool so now you're telling me to stay on topic.
Are you high on drugs?
You must be on something.
You're the first person to have gone on about how I am using excuses to reach out and blah blah blah. You said I'm pityful.
Then you responded to clueless comments and said I'm a masochist.
Yeah thats sooooo on topic.
These are items one should give back:
Family heir looms
Very expensive engagement ring
Anything (lawfully) in his name
Pets (debatable)
Everything else: clothes, perfumes, bday presents etc ...can be chucked.
You are pitiful, I stand by that.click to expand
Posted by nevesThis forum bully was trying to say that I'm in a twisted was trying to hold on to his presence in some way and that I'm trying to get attention for I dunno what reasons...his or her comments were not constructive in anyway shape or form.Posted by NemDeuxPosted by neves
Give them to homeless people - or leave them in one of those charity boxes (clothing donation box). Even if your families or close - if things ended cause he cheated on you - that's just fair (your family shouldn't have any saying - in what you do with your clothes). No point in holding on to stuff that can remind you of him.
Ohhh but that precisely is the point ....
What is (I don't get it). 🤨click to expand
Posted by nevesI'm not an emotional masochist no. 🙄Posted by NemDeuxPosted by nevesPosted by NemDeuxPosted by neves
Give them to homeless people - or leave them in one of those charity boxes (clothing donation box). Even if your families or close - if things ended cause he cheated on you - that's just fair (your family shouldn't have any saying - in what you do with your clothes). No point in holding on to stuff that can remind you of him.
Ohhh but that precisely is the point ....
What is (I don't get it). 🤨
Being reminded ....
Is she an emotional masochist (finds pleasure in self-harm and such)? If so - then to each their own. My answer beats the purpose then (that was meant to help with healing her wounds and moving on, tho... if emotional pain is her gain - it's a bad answer).click to expand
Posted by LalasReturnYou'll probably feel better when you've passed them on....hanging onto them only serves to keep the energy of the person around. It's freeing to to do so.Posted by nevesPosted by NemDeuxPosted by nevesPosted by NemDeuxPosted by neves
Give them to homeless people - or leave them in one of those charity boxes (clothing donation box). Even if your families or close - if things ended cause he cheated on you - that's just fair (your family shouldn't have any saying - in what you do with your clothes). No point in holding on to stuff that can remind you of him.
Ohhh but that precisely is the point ....
What is (I don't get it). 🤨
Being reminded ....
Is she an emotional masochist (finds pleasure in self-harm and such)? If so - then to each their own. My answer beats the purpose then (that was meant to help with healing her wounds and moving on, tho... if emotional pain is her gain - it's a bad answer).
I'm not an emotional masochist no. 🙄
Seriously ridiculous.
So because everyone knows I was once in an abusive relationship, people (NemDeux only) want to label me an emotional masochist. 🙄
As I said in my previous response. I'm not. I was simply looking for like right protocol answers.
If I had been, I would have stayed in that relationship, red flag and all.
Here in france, donating to Goodwill isn't as automatic as it seems to be in the US. I don't even know how you do it here. It's not a widespread pratique.
You guys have special bin bags for that you lucky buggars.
But I'll do that for all of the presents.
The expensive ones I think I'll give to my parents to give to his dad.click to expand
Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by LalasReturnPosted by nevesPosted by NemDeuxPosted by nevesPosted by NemDeuxPosted by neves
Give them to homeless people - or leave them in one of those charity boxes (clothing donation box). Even if your families or close - if things ended cause he cheated on you - that's just fair (your family shouldn't have any saying - in what you do with your clothes). No point in holding on to stuff that can remind you of him.
Ohhh but that precisely is the point ....
What is (I don't get it). 🤨
Being reminded ....
Is she an emotional masochist (finds pleasure in self-harm and such)? If so - then to each their own. My answer beats the purpose then (that was meant to help with healing her wounds and moving on, tho... if emotional pain is her gain - it's a bad answer).
I'm not an emotional masochist no. 🙄
Seriously ridiculous.
So because everyone knows I was once in an abusive relationship, people (NemDeux only) want to label me an emotional masochist. 🙄
As I said in my previous response. I'm not. I was simply looking for like right protocol answers.
If I had been, I would have stayed in that relationship, red flag and all.
Here in france, donating to Goodwill isn't as automatic as it seems to be in the US. I don't even know how you do it here. It's not a widespread pratique.
You guys have special bin bags for that you lucky buggars.
But I'll do that for all of the presents.
The expensive ones I think I'll give to my parents to give to his dad.
You'll probably feel better when you've passed them on....hanging onto them only serves to keep the energy of the person around. It's freeing to to do so.
Good to see you back LaLa
(((❤️)))click to expand
Posted by LalasReturnPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by LalasReturnPosted by nevesPosted by NemDeuxPosted by nevesPosted by NemDeuxPosted by neves
Give them to homeless people - or leave them in one of those charity boxes (clothing donation box). Even if your families or close - if things ended cause he cheated on you - that's just fair (your family shouldn't have any saying - in what you do with your clothes). No point in holding on to stuff that can remind you of him.
Ohhh but that precisely is the point ....
What is (I don't get it). 🤨
Being reminded ....
Is she an emotional masochist (finds pleasure in self-harm and such)? If so - then to each their own. My answer beats the purpose then (that was meant to help with healing her wounds and moving on, tho... if emotional pain is her gain - it's a bad answer).
I'm not an emotional masochist no. 🙄
Seriously ridiculous.
So because everyone knows I was once in an abusive relationship, people (NemDeux only) want to label me an emotional masochist. 🙄
As I said in my previous response. I'm not. I was simply looking for like right protocol answers.
If I had been, I would have stayed in that relationship, red flag and all.
Here in france, donating to Goodwill isn't as automatic as it seems to be in the US. I don't even know how you do it here. It's not a widespread pratique.
You guys have special bin bags for that you lucky buggars.
But I'll do that for all of the presents.
The expensive ones I think I'll give to my parents to give to his dad.
You'll probably feel better when you've passed them on....hanging onto them only serves to keep the energy of the person around. It's freeing to to do so.
Good to see you back LaLa
(((❤️)))
Thank you.
It's great to see a person who understands.
Holding on to objects with negative energy in your own home is unhealthy.
In my opinion and for me anyway. Others can do as they please or whatever suits them. 😊
Lool I was just about to redelete my account. You caught me at the right time.
Every time I post something it's as if people use the 20% info I give them, to judge 100% of me.
It's not nice. This forum is supposed to be for mutual support and understanding and compassion.
But thank goodness most of the posts here are actually constructive. 🥰
So thank you for being so sweet.
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Posted by MissKrabsWould be lovely wouldn't it.
I can only imagine a homeless person getting a perfume or whatever those presents are lol
Posted by MyStarsShineHahahah that's cute.Posted by LalasReturnPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by LalasReturnPosted by nevesPosted by NemDeuxPosted by nevesPosted by NemDeuxPosted by neves
Give them to homeless people - or leave them in one of those charity boxes (clothing donation box). Even if your families or close - if things ended cause he cheated on you - that's just fair (your family shouldn't have any saying - in what you do with your clothes). No point in holding on to stuff that can remind you of him.
Ohhh but that precisely is the point ....
What is (I don't get it). 🤨
Being reminded ....
Is she an emotional masochist (finds pleasure in self-harm and such)? If so - then to each their own. My answer beats the purpose then (that was meant to help with healing her wounds and moving on, tho... if emotional pain is her gain - it's a bad answer).
I'm not an emotional masochist no. 🙄
Seriously ridiculous.
So because everyone knows I was once in an abusive relationship, people (NemDeux only) want to label me an emotional masochist. 🙄
As I said in my previous response. I'm not. I was simply looking for like right protocol answers.
If I had been, I would have stayed in that relationship, red flag and all.
Here in france, donating to Goodwill isn't as automatic as it seems to be in the US. I don't even know how you do it here. It's not a widespread pratique.
You guys have special bin bags for that you lucky buggars.
But I'll do that for all of the presents.
The expensive ones I think I'll give to my parents to give to his dad.
You'll probably feel better when you've passed them on....hanging onto them only serves to keep the energy of the person around. It's freeing to to do so.
Good to see you back LaLa
(((❤️)))
Thank you.
It's great to see a person who understands.
Holding on to objects with negative energy in your own home is unhealthy.
In my opinion and for me anyway. Others can do as they please or whatever suits them. 😊
Lool I was just about to redelete my account. You caught me at the right time.
Every time I post something it's as if people use the 20% info I give them, to judge 100% of me.
It's not nice. This forum is supposed to be for mutual support and understanding and compassion.
But thank goodness most of the posts here are actually constructive. 🥰
So thank you for being so sweet.
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I get you and you're welcome Lala....I was so bad at letting go of anything that I'd even hang onto a chewing gum wrapper a lover had given me haha...so damn sentimental!
I'm getting better now and was able to donate the gifts my last partner gave me and i felt it was the right thing to do as I know everything has energy attached to it...
Stay....don't delete!xx ❤️❤️❤️
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Posted by MissKrabsAaah leave it. They're involved in everything. We're African/Latin European.Posted by LalasReturnPosted by MissKrabs
I can only imagine a homeless person getting a perfume or whatever those presents are lol
Would be lovely wouldn't it.![]()
I'll give away the cheaper clothing. The expensive stuff I'll give to my parents to give to his.
My mama said that I shouldn't give away those and that it would be rude and she reassured me to tell me that his parents know the story and would understand and they won't hurt him by like waving it in his face.
I hope not .
Because I was told that at the dinner last week my exes dad told my parents they were giving my ex a hard time for messing up.
He doesn't need that. He already has mental problems and is dealing with guilt and the breakup.
What are they trying to do ? Get him back into the mental hospital?!
😠
Your parents are too involved in this. Yours and his.click to expand
Posted by LalasReturnGlad I'm not the only one 😘Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by LalasReturnPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by LalasReturnPosted by nevesPosted by NemDeuxPosted by nevesPosted by NemDeuxPosted by neves
Give them to homeless people - or leave them in one of those charity boxes (clothing donation box). Even if your families or close - if things ended cause he cheated on you - that's just fair (your family shouldn't have any saying - in what you do with your clothes). No point in holding on to stuff that can remind you of him.
Ohhh but that precisely is the point ....
What is (I don't get it). 🤨
Being reminded ....
Is she an emotional masochist (finds pleasure in self-harm and such)? If so - then to each their own. My answer beats the purpose then (that was meant to help with healing her wounds and moving on, tho... if emotional pain is her gain - it's a bad answer).
I'm not an emotional masochist no. 🙄
Seriously ridiculous.
So because everyone knows I was once in an abusive relationship, people (NemDeux only) want to label me an emotional masochist. 🙄
As I said in my previous response. I'm not. I was simply looking for like right protocol answers.
If I had been, I would have stayed in that relationship, red flag and all.
Here in france, donating to Goodwill isn't as automatic as it seems to be in the US. I don't even know how you do it here. It's not a widespread pratique.
You guys have special bin bags for that you lucky buggars.
But I'll do that for all of the presents.
The expensive ones I think I'll give to my parents to give to his dad.
You'll probably feel better when you've passed them on....hanging onto them only serves to keep the energy of the person around. It's freeing to to do so.
Good to see you back LaLa
(((❤️)))
Thank you.
It's great to see a person who understands.
Holding on to objects with negative energy in your own home is unhealthy.
In my opinion and for me anyway. Others can do as they please or whatever suits them. 😊
Lool I was just about to redelete my account. You caught me at the right time.
Every time I post something it's as if people use the 20% info I give them, to judge 100% of me.
It's not nice. This forum is supposed to be for mutual support and understanding and compassion.
But thank goodness most of the posts here are actually constructive. 🥰
So thank you for being so sweet.
♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️
I get you and you're welcome Lala....I was so bad at letting go of anything that I'd even hang onto a chewing gum wrapper a lover had given me haha...so damn sentimental!
I'm getting better now and was able to donate the gifts my last partner gave me and i felt it was the right thing to do as I know everything has energy attached to it...
Stay....don't delete!xx ❤️❤️❤️
Hahahah that's cute.
I still have the lunch receipt of my primary school crush. 😂😂😂😂
I glued it to my diary.
Hahaha.
Yeah thats good. Well done. Must not have been easy.
The memories are enough.
😘😘😘click to expand
Posted by MyStarsShineWhat is it with these Scorpio dominant men 😱👀Posted by LalasReturnPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by LalasReturnPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by LalasReturnPosted by nevesPosted by NemDeuxPosted by nevesPosted by NemDeuxPosted by neves
Give them to homeless people - or leave them in one of those charity boxes (clothing donation box). Even if your families or close - if things ended cause he cheated on you - that's just fair (your family shouldn't have any saying - in what you do with your clothes). No point in holding on to stuff that can remind you of him.
Ohhh but that precisely is the point ....
What is (I don't get it). 🤨
Being reminded ....
Is she an emotional masochist (finds pleasure in self-harm and such)? If so - then to each their own. My answer beats the purpose then (that was meant to help with healing her wounds and moving on, tho... if emotional pain is her gain - it's a bad answer).
I'm not an emotional masochist no. 🙄
Seriously ridiculous.
So because everyone knows I was once in an abusive relationship, people (NemDeux only) want to label me an emotional masochist. 🙄
As I said in my previous response. I'm not. I was simply looking for like right protocol answers.
If I had been, I would have stayed in that relationship, red flag and all.
Here in france, donating to Goodwill isn't as automatic as it seems to be in the US. I don't even know how you do it here. It's not a widespread pratique.
You guys have special bin bags for that you lucky buggars.
But I'll do that for all of the presents.
The expensive ones I think I'll give to my parents to give to his dad.
You'll probably feel better when you've passed them on....hanging onto them only serves to keep the energy of the person around. It's freeing to to do so.
Good to see you back LaLa
(((❤️)))
Thank you.
It's great to see a person who understands.
Holding on to objects with negative energy in your own home is unhealthy.
In my opinion and for me anyway. Others can do as they please or whatever suits them. 😊
Lool I was just about to redelete my account. You caught me at the right time.
Every time I post something it's as if people use the 20% info I give them, to judge 100% of me.
It's not nice. This forum is supposed to be for mutual support and understanding and compassion.
But thank goodness most of the posts here are actually constructive. 🥰
So thank you for being so sweet.
♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️
I get you and you're welcome Lala....I was so bad at letting go of anything that I'd even hang onto a chewing gum wrapper a lover had given me haha...so damn sentimental!
I'm getting better now and was able to donate the gifts my last partner gave me and i felt it was the right thing to do as I know everything has energy attached to it...
Stay....don't delete!xx ❤️❤️❤️
Hahahah that's cute.
I still have the lunch receipt of my primary school crush. 😂😂😂😂
I glued it to my diary.
Hahaha.
Yeah thats good. Well done. Must not have been easy.
The memories are enough.
😘😘😘
Glad I'm not the only one 😘
Very dificult, he was Scorpio dominant....sexy Aries sun and Venus 🔥
But yes, memories are plenty enough
😘😘😘click to expand
Posted by LalasReturnToo damn sexy 😳🔥🔥🔥Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by LalasReturnPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by LalasReturnPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by LalasReturnPosted by nevesPosted by NemDeuxPosted by nevesPosted by NemDeuxPosted by neves
Give them to homeless people - or leave them in one of those charity boxes (clothing donation box). Even if your families or close - if things ended cause he cheated on you - that's just fair (your family shouldn't have any saying - in what you do with your clothes). No point in holding on to stuff that can remind you of him.
Ohhh but that precisely is the point ....
What is (I don't get it). 🤨
Being reminded ....
Is she an emotional masochist (finds pleasure in self-harm and such)? If so - then to each their own. My answer beats the purpose then (that was meant to help with healing her wounds and moving on, tho... if emotional pain is her gain - it's a bad answer).
I'm not an emotional masochist no. 🙄
Seriously ridiculous.
So because everyone knows I was once in an abusive relationship, people (NemDeux only) want to label me an emotional masochist. 🙄
As I said in my previous response. I'm not. I was simply looking for like right protocol answers.
If I had been, I would have stayed in that relationship, red flag and all.
Here in france, donating to Goodwill isn't as automatic as it seems to be in the US. I don't even know how you do it here. It's not a widespread pratique.
You guys have special bin bags for that you lucky buggars.
But I'll do that for all of the presents.
The expensive ones I think I'll give to my parents to give to his dad.
You'll probably feel better when you've passed them on....hanging onto them only serves to keep the energy of the person around. It's freeing to to do so.
Good to see you back LaLa
(((❤️)))
Thank you.
It's great to see a person who understands.
Holding on to objects with negative energy in your own home is unhealthy.
In my opinion and for me anyway. Others can do as they please or whatever suits them. 😊
Lool I was just about to redelete my account. You caught me at the right time.
Every time I post something it's as if people use the 20% info I give them, to judge 100% of me.
It's not nice. This forum is supposed to be for mutual support and understanding and compassion.
But thank goodness most of the posts here are actually constructive. 🥰
So thank you for being so sweet.
♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️
I get you and you're welcome Lala....I was so bad at letting go of anything that I'd even hang onto a chewing gum wrapper a lover had given me haha...so damn sentimental!
I'm getting better now and was able to donate the gifts my last partner gave me and i felt it was the right thing to do as I know everything has energy attached to it...
Stay....don't delete!xx ❤️❤️❤️
Hahahah that's cute.
I still have the lunch receipt of my primary school crush. 😂😂😂😂
I glued it to my diary.
Hahaha.
Yeah thats good. Well done. Must not have been easy.
The memories are enough.
😘😘😘
Glad I'm not the only one 😘
Very dificult, he was Scorpio dominant....sexy Aries sun and Venus 🔥
But yes, memories are plenty enough
😘😘😘
What is it with these Scorpio dominant men 😱👀click to expand
Posted by MissKrabsPosted by LalasReturnPosted by MissKrabsPosted by LalasReturnPosted by MissKrabs
I can only imagine a homeless person getting a perfume or whatever those presents are lol
Would be lovely wouldn't it.![]()
I'll give away the cheaper clothing. The expensive stuff I'll give to my parents to give to his.
My mama said that I shouldn't give away those and that it would be rude and she reassured me to tell me that his parents know the story and would understand and they won't hurt him by like waving it in his face.
I hope not .
Because I was told that at the dinner last week my exes dad told my parents they were giving my ex a hard time for messing up.
He doesn't need that. He already has mental problems and is dealing with guilt and the breakup.
What are they trying to do ? Get him back into the mental hospital?!
😠
Your parents are too involved in this. Yours and his.
Aaah leave it. They're involved in everything. We're African/Latin European.
😂😂
It's a cultural thing.
We're fine with it. And used to it as they've known each other and been close since before we were born.
I just don't want them making him feel worse than he already feels. It's unnecessary. He's mentally fragile.
Then don't do anything. Just pack those stuff and put them away for now. Give someone to keep it for you until you figure out the whole thing.click to expand
Posted by AmourrOff topic but where is your profile pic from ?
Donate the clothes
Burn the pictures
Sell the jewelry
And throw everything else 🗑
Posted by SleepyquantroPretty perfect tbh.Posted by LittleStarPosted by SleepyquantroPosted by LittleStar
The only time I gave things back is when the object was physical reminder of that person that I don’t want to have. I honestly have only done this once with the ex who hit me when I broke up with him because I felt bad energy.
I do really regret it sometimes though because they were really nice leather gloves with charms and I’ve never found anything as good since. 😂 but I definitely wanted a clean break so I dropped stuff off at his door.
He followed me around and harassed me until he left the country. Terrifying.
What was his sign 🌿👀🌿
Gemini with Capricorn Moon and Cancer Venus. 🤐
What was he like, in the relationship, before u broke up with him ?click to expand
Posted by AmourrPosted by LalasReturnPosted by Amourr
Donate the clothes
Burn the pictures
Sell the jewelry
And throw everything else 🗑
Off topic but where is your profile pic from ?
I find it really cute for some reason
Oh thank you, it's a selfie I took the other day. 🤪
Jk, I really don't remember, I think I found it on instagram or something.click to expand
Posted by DonnaLibraHahaha f'ing female badass.
I give nothing back nor ask for anything back. Anything left over after I leave can rot for all I care. I wouldn't even attempt to go over there and get it back.
Posted by LittleStarPosted by SleepyquantroPosted by LittleStarPosted by SleepyquantroPosted by LittleStar
The only time I gave things back is when the object was physical reminder of that person that I don’t want to have. I honestly have only done this once with the ex who hit me when I broke up with him because I felt bad energy.
I do really regret it sometimes though because they were really nice leather gloves with charms and I’ve never found anything as good since. 😂 but I definitely wanted a clean break so I dropped stuff off at his door.
He followed me around and harassed me until he left the country. Terrifying.
What was his sign 🌿👀🌿
Gemini with Capricorn Moon and Cancer Venus. 🤐
What was he like, in the relationship, before u broke up with him ?
An asshole.
He was super rich and thought he could use whatever that meant to have people do what he wanted.
He took me to Seattle for New Year’s Eve and got pissed when I wouldn’t have sex with him after he spent so much money on me.
I had told him before I left that I literally had a couple hundred dollars and could only pay for a little bit of the trip but he said it was fine. I was a student at the time and because of my daughter I literally had no money outside of paying for myself when I hung out with friends.
He had expectations for that of course.
It was a completely miserable trip and I broke up with him as soon as we got back and I wasn’t dependent on him.
He was pretty funny and was more of a joker/playboy/cool as a cucumber type when he was just a friend and I was pretty lonely at that point of time and we did have some chemistry but he was too much of a controlling jerk. I’m also 90% sure he cheated on me when he went back to Korea.
We had mutual friends between all of us and they couldn’t really believe how horrible he was because he was so good at hiding it. I finally showed them the literally thousand of text messages after we broke up where he was calling me a bitch and then immediately begging me to come back and then calling me a bitch again.
I didn’t have a relationship with anyone else for several years after him because I was pretty annoyed by the whole thing. I honestly got pretty scared by him when he was showing up at my door all the time. I started going back to my parents on the weekends.
I think with Gemini if you don’t have a ton of Gemini - which he didn’t He was Pisces Rising/Cancer Merc Cancer Venus/Capricorn Mars/Capricorn Moon then I think the Gemini kind of adapts to whatever else is in the chart. I think you have to have quite a bit of it or you have to know them less intimately.
Like I said quite charming from a casual standpoint.click to expand
Posted by LittleStarHow odd.Posted by LalasReturnPosted by LittleStarPosted by SleepyquantroPosted by LittleStarPosted by SleepyquantroPosted by LittleStar
The only time I gave things back is when the object was physical reminder of that person that I don’t want to have. I honestly have only done this once with the ex who hit me when I broke up with him because I felt bad energy.
I do really regret it sometimes though because they were really nice leather gloves with charms and I’ve never found anything as good since. 😂 but I definitely wanted a clean break so I dropped stuff off at his door.
He followed me around and harassed me until he left the country. Terrifying.
What was his sign 🌿👀🌿
Gemini with Capricorn Moon and Cancer Venus. 🤐
What was he like, in the relationship, before u broke up with him ?
An asshole.
He was super rich and thought he could use whatever that meant to have people do what he wanted.
He took me to Seattle for New Year’s Eve and got pissed when I wouldn’t have sex with him after he spent so much money on me.
I had told him before I left that I literally had a couple hundred dollars and could only pay for a little bit of the trip but he said it was fine. I was a student at the time and because of my daughter I literally had no money outside of paying for myself when I hung out with friends.
He had expectations for that of course.
It was a completely miserable trip and I broke up with him as soon as we got back and I wasn’t dependent on him.
He was pretty funny and was more of a joker/playboy/cool as a cucumber type when he was just a friend and I was pretty lonely at that point of time and we did have some chemistry but he was too much of a controlling jerk. I’m also 90% sure he cheated on me when he went back to Korea.
We had mutual friends between all of us and they couldn’t really believe how horrible he was because he was so good at hiding it. I finally showed them the literally thousand of text messages after we broke up where he was calling me a bitch and then immediately begging me to come back and then calling me a bitch again.
I didn’t have a relationship with anyone else for several years after him because I was pretty annoyed by the whole thing. I honestly got pretty scared by him when he was showing up at my door all the time. I started going back to my parents on the weekends.
I think with Gemini if you don’t have a ton of Gemini - which he didn’t He was Pisces Rising/Cancer Merc Cancer Venus/Capricorn Mars/Capricorn Moon then I think the Gemini kind of adapts to whatever else is in the chart. I think you have to have quite a bit of it or you have to know them less intimately.
Like I said quite charming from a casual standpoint.
Wow.
I'm so sorry you had to go through that.
Asshole isn't even a strong enough word to describe all that.
To think that he's now probably doing the same thing to someone else.
He sounds extremely immature.
Oh he’s married to someone now. I feel sorry for her.click to expand
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