Social statuses in relationships
This topic was created in the Relationships forum by SassyKiwi on Sunday, February 23, 2020 and has 14 replies.
I think people subconsciously and ideally want to be with someone of a similar social status as them or higher. The elder generations were kind of hell-bent on it. I see the newer generations ignore it but pick back up on it as they get older. Where do y'all stand?
social status in what way, like similar jobs? similar neighborhoods (which sort of relates to jobs). I'm finding that as I get older it's harder to hang out with people with really different values than I have, whereas in my late teens and early 20s all i cared about was how much fun i'd have
I never really cared for social status ... more so the person and their own goals and standards and if they align with mine. But working in ritzy towns I can see how this is a major factor.
Honestly though , those who want to put in the effort to be great regardless of their status should not be overlooked
Honestly though , those who want to put in the effort to be great regardless of their status should not be overlooked
In theory yes. But some social status like education, career, finances fluctuate. So choosing or eliminating someone on the basis of their bank account is short sided.
But similarities such as culture, religion, etc may be important to many.
But similarities such as culture, religion, etc may be important to many.
I think in the united states we're still fortunate that for the most part we're all middle class more, or less...so social status isnt that big a deal. Though I've met some who've tried to create their own social status as though they grew up knowing different types of vintage _______ (fill in the blank with wines, foods, etc), these are folks i actively try to avoid, to their chagrin
when you meet a guy who keeps taking your lunch money, you'll understand
Posted by virgoOPPPI’ll understand that he is hungry too and if I can afford it I will bring enough to feed two
when you meet a guy who keeps taking your lunch money, you'll understand
I don’t care for social status as much as I want someone self-made who is on the same level as me financially and is financially responsible. I don’t want his debts and vice versa.
I don’t care how much schooling they did as that doesn’t make you smart. I do want someone who is aware, informed and knowledgeable and that doesn’t equal to schooling.
I don’t care how much schooling they did as that doesn’t make you smart. I do want someone who is aware, informed and knowledgeable and that doesn’t equal to schooling.
Posted by akituPosted by Phantum
In theory, it doesn't matter. In practice, values follow class more than I would have guessed.
If anyone but you had said this I’d probably argue immediately but I think it’s prob safe to assume you’re not being bougie all of a sudden and mean something more specific?click to expand
I took it as her meaning the type of personal values a person holds can give them class than just something typical like financial status giving a person class?
Posted by aquarius09
I don’t care for social status as much as I want someone self-made who is on the same level as me financially and is financially responsible. I don’t want his debts and vice versa.
I don’t care how much schooling they did as that doesn’t make you smart. I do want someone who is aware, informed and knowledgeable and that doesn’t equal to schooling.
Ending up with someone who is self-made was so important to me. I actually have a personal story around this. So my father is very self-established and well known in the communities we affiliate with. My in-laws themselves don’t really have a significant social status but have relatives who do (doctors, professors, etc). I really liked my husband on the basis he worked hard to get where he is today not relying on his parents to fund him. But literally at my wedding, I had some family friends on my side who were pretty well off judging my husband in a rude manner based on how low they viewed his parents. They expected me to be married to some rich daddy's son. Little did they know my husband and I make combined six figures while in our 20s (but we did not bother correcting them). And the irony of it all is one of the wealthy ladies has a daughter around my age that is married to a guy who lives with them that they financially support...so she had some balls talking trash at my wedding.
Guys with rich daddys are some of the worst category of people ever.
Well in theory I don’t care, in practice different social status doesn’t work too great. It doesn’t have to be that way.. I just don’t want to have to take care of them. Can you be a real partner please?
Posted by tiziani
I’m serious Sassy. A like doesn’t even begin to cover it.
I’ve drawn out maps from Italy to Turkey, I’ll estimate the size of the dating pool available to me as I go there. And then stop dating at 37% of the pool size. The optimal stopping point.
There lies Princess Jasmine.
In reality I’ll do something stupid like fall in love only 1% of the way through the journey.
I BELIEBE YOU TIZ! I think you can do it! Woo and leeb charm that Arabian princess who is emotionally distraught and wants to rebel against her rich daddy!
Posted by 7thHousePosted by SassyKiwi
I think people subconsciously and ideally want to be with someone of a similar social status as them or higher. The elder generations were kind of hell-bent on it. I see the newer generations ignore it but pick back up on it as they get older. Where do y'all stand?
I have a friend who is so into this. The guys that she would date has to be from a "rich family" meaning.... Parents with money. Will inherit a business etc. But the guy himself has not actually made a name for himself.
I on the other hand, prefers a guy who has the same level of intellect. I was never interested in social status nor was it my basis of whether I'd date someone or not.click to expand
Honestly when it comes to people like your friend, the guy in question with the rich family deserves a girl like her cos he so dumb and unmotivated in life that he can’t even vet a golddigger correctly
Yes I care about status money career hobbies.
I'm trying to get involved with the best of the best.
Not these lame dusty people who accept anything.
I'm trying to get involved with the best of the best.
Not these lame dusty people who accept anything.
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