Someone truly into you?

This topic was created in the Relationships forum by colors on Wednesday, January 13, 2021 and has 23 replies.
Have you ever met someone that was/is truly into you in terms of romantic relationships? I can't say, because even if they were, they did not pursue anything. So maybe not. Initially it feels like someone is into you, they are different, but same story repeats after a while. After making you open up, give them attention, they move on. These have not even turned into relationships or anything. It's like they are only interested in getting on your mind, nothing more.
Posted by CoffeeAndCream

Yes.


Shrugs.


Was it no from your side?
Posted by cake

I can confidently say NO to your question.

Truly into me means my mind, body and soul 💁


Yes, like they would not leave you, unless you were not into them.
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Have you ever met someone that was/is truly into you in terms of romantic relationships? I can't say, because even if they were, they did not pursue anything. So maybe not. Initially it feels like someone is into you, they are different, but same story repeats after a while. After making you open up, give them attention, they move on. These have not even turned into relationships or anything. It's like they are only interested in getting on your mind, nothing more.


This is generational and it seems to be on par with what's going on right now.
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One relationship coach on youtube said unavailable men only enjoy the initial excitement of new love and then move on to find that with the next girl and then the next Straight Face
Posted by PowerLunch

I have a concierge to filter my admirers in the lobby


But do you move on from your admirers?
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Posted by PowerLunch

I have a concierge to filter my admirers in the lobby


But do you move on from your admirers?


No they stay in the admirer zone
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Don't know why that zone sounds like a cage. But that's on them I guess if they stay there Big Grin
They enjoyed everything they did for me, and they did whatever i wanted, was really into me.

Had 2 girls like that so far. Def a quality of a good long term partner.
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Posted by colors

Have you ever met someone that was/is truly into you in terms of romantic relationships? I can't say, because even if they were, they did not pursue anything. So maybe not. Initially it feels like someone is into you, they are different, but same story repeats after a while. After making you open up, give them attention, they move on. These have not even turned into relationships or anything. It's like they are only interested in getting on your mind, nothing more.


Don't give up hope, love isn't easy to find, you got to kiss lots of frogs.
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What makes me mad sometimes is when I am fine with being single someone comes along, sweet talks and then leaves? Like why? I was doing fine.
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I have a concierge to filter my admirers in the lobby


But do you move on from your admirers?


No they stay in the admirer zone


Don't know why that zone sounds like a cage. But that's on them I guess if they stay there Big Grin


If you are a girl there is at least 1 dweeb willing to carry around your camera equipment

Minimum 1 dweeb per girl
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But it's like the moment you let them carry your camera equipment, their interest is gone Big Grin I think they just wanted to win
Posted by MadTwins80

Nova O'Leary

Sent me a valentines card every year without fail

I never showed any interest whatsoever

Sorry Nova


Is this a real person? That reminds me, I used to reach out to some people even when they never made an effort to stay connected. Now I don't. Nothing is unconditional.
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I have a concierge to filter my admirers in the lobby


But do you move on from your admirers?


No they stay in the admirer zone


Don't know why that zone sounds like a cage. But that's on them I guess if they stay there Big Grin


If you are a girl there is at least 1 dweeb willing to carry around your camera equipment

Minimum 1 dweeb per girl


But it's like the moment you let them carry your camera equipment, their interest is gone Big Grin I think they just wanted to win


No no you got it all wrong

Home runs are not made by reaching 1st base
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For me camera equipment is just getting me to talk more Big Grin They want to ask questions or know you think about them, that is all it is for them.
Posted by LithiK

They enjoyed everything they did for me, and they did whatever i wanted, was really into me.

Had 2 girls like that so far. Def a quality of a good long term partner.


But you were not into them?
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Posted by MadTwins80

Nova O'Leary

Sent me a valentines card every year without fail

I never showed any interest whatsoever

Sorry Nova


Is this a real person? That reminds me, I used to reach out to some people even when they never made an effort to stay connected. Now I don't. Nothing is unconditional.


Yes, from high school. She made it so obv and was always really hopeful and nice and kind to me like always and I never paid her the slightest bit of attention..
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Do you regret not giving her attention? I mean I get it if you are not into someone.
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Posted by LithiK

They enjoyed everything they did for me, and they did whatever i wanted, was really into me.

Had 2 girls like that so far. Def a quality of a good long term partner.


But you were not into them?
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if i wasn't into them i wouldn't even date them.
I’ve had plenty in my younger years but it always seemed phony. Couldn’t tell if they were just in lust or if they were pursuing me because they sincerely liked me for me and not just because of my cute face and big booty. So I pretty much turned them all down.

Current relationship, we were both really into each other right away and the feelings are still going strong.
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Posted by PowerLunch

I have a concierge to filter my admirers in the lobby


But do you move on from your admirers?


No they stay in the admirer zone


Don't know why that zone sounds like a cage. But that's on them I guess if they stay there Big Grin


If you are a girl there is at least 1 dweeb willing to carry around your camera equipment

Minimum 1 dweeb per girl


But it's like the moment you let them carry your camera equipment, their interest is gone Big Grin I think they just wanted to win


No no you got it all wrong

Home runs are not made by reaching 1st base


For me camera equipment is just getting me to talk more Big Grin They want to ask questions or know you think about them, that is all it is for them.


I get what you mean

Ego boost

Do you know how to play coquette

Give vague short answers

Then turn it around in them

Talk about how many dweebs you have waiting in the wings

But you can’t be too obvious with it otherwise you will just sound insecure

Ask them

What have you done for me lately
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I agree with this. I have recently been feeling anxious anytime I shared more about myself with someone who I liked a bit, even if it was they who asked. I am like well now they have got some information out of me, so now their interest will slowly fade. Big Grin Or maybe they acted less interested afterwards. How do men play these mind games? Guess as you mentioned give vague answers. Let it take them years to find out more. smile
Posted by peachy06

Yes. Years ago, but I don't know his sign. He wouldn't stop looking for me everywhere even though he knew I was into someone else. Wouldn't stop asking me to dance with him at a party, even though I told him multiple times that I didn't want to. We were friends, I didn't like him back, but I didn't want our friendship to end so I felt stuck. I didn't know what to do.

And because he told his sister he was in love with me, she kept pushing it too, telling me he's a good guy, he trulyl cares about me yada yada. Because of her we actually made a deal, I told him I would accept one dance if he'd leave me alone afterwards. We agreed. But that night I was actually trying to hide at the party, until he found me, wouldn't stop bothering me.

To make it short, we tried to dance, but at the end I just couldn't. It's not my thing to dance like this. So I just ran away (yes literally). I left the party and went back to my dorm. Worst night of my life tbh, I didn't even want to go there.


I guess in this case since you were not into him maybe not accepting to dance would have been better? It can get tricky if you are friends as you don't want to hurt them but can't change how you feel.
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I have a concierge to filter my admirers in the lobby


But do you move on from your admirers?


No they stay in the admirer zone


Don't know why that zone sounds like a cage. But that's on them I guess if they stay there Big Grin


If you are a girl there is at least 1 dweeb willing to carry around your camera equipment

Minimum 1 dweeb per girl


But it's like the moment you let them carry your camera equipment, their interest is gone Big Grin I think they just wanted to win


No no you got it all wrong

Home runs are not made by reaching 1st base


For me camera equipment is just getting me to talk more Big Grin They want to ask questions or know you think about them, that is all it is for them.


I get what you mean

Ego boost

Do you know how to play coquette

Give vague short answers

Then turn it around in them

Talk about how many dweebs you have waiting in the wings

But you can’t be too obvious with it otherwise you will just sound insecure

Ask them

What have you done for me lately


I agree with this. I have recently been feeling anxious anytime I shared more about myself with someone who I liked a bit, even if it was they who asked. I am like well now they have got some information out of me, so now their interest will slowly fade. Big Grin Or maybe they acted less interested afterwards. How do men play these mind games? Guess as you mentioned give vague answers. Let it take them years to find out more. smile


6 months

Try 6 months

If you are 16 then yes years
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haha then I guess 6 months. I am going to start thinking of this like a project so I don't get too invested emotionally.
Isn’t that usually a person you call boyfriend/girlfriend?
Posted by saggurl88

Isn’t that usually a person you call boyfriend/girlfriend?


Not sure if you can say they are truly into you, what if you breakup soon?
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Posted by PowerLunch

I have a concierge to filter my admirers in the lobby


But do you move on from your admirers?


No they stay in the admirer zone


Don't know why that zone sounds like a cage. But that's on them I guess if they stay there Big Grin


If you are a girl there is at least 1 dweeb willing to carry around your camera equipment

Minimum 1 dweeb per girl


But it's like the moment you let them carry your camera equipment, their interest is gone Big Grin I think they just wanted to win


No no you got it all wrong

Home runs are not made by reaching 1st base


For me camera equipment is just getting me to talk more Big Grin They want to ask questions or know you think about them, that is all it is for them.


I get what you mean

Ego boost

Do you know how to play coquette

Give vague short answers

Then turn it around in them

Talk about how many dweebs you have waiting in the wings

But you can’t be too obvious with it otherwise you will just sound insecure

Ask them

What have you done for me lately


I agree with this. I have recently been feeling anxious anytime I shared more about myself with someone who I liked a bit, even if it was they who asked. I am like well now they have got some information out of me, so now their interest will slowly fade. Big Grin Or maybe they acted less interested afterwards. How do men play these mind games? Guess as you mentioned give vague answers. Let it take them years to find out more. smile


6 months

Try 6 months

If you are 16 then yes years


haha then I guess 6 months. I am going to start thinking of this like a project so I don't get too invested emotionally.


It's good to be more selfish I think as in don't go out of your way to reveal about yourself. Go with your own feelings and don't worry about theirs lol . There's time for that later. If you're giving too much too soon I don't think it benefits you
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I find that if I am not into someone it is easy for me to not answer them, it's when someone builds up that interest level in me and then starts asking questions I find it hard. But once their curiosity is satisfied, now they don't feel the need to talk as much. So does that mean I don't share much even when they ask? Maybe
Posted by PowerLunch

I have a concierge to filter my admirers in the lobby
Your fault for drinking that beer so seductive like 😂

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