Spinoff: How Long Do You Wait Before Introducing Your S/O to Your Children?

This topic was created in the Relationships forum by TaurusFlower22 on Saturday, May 26, 2018 and has 19 replies.
Posted by exsqueezeme
7 years 8 months 1 week 2 days 9 hours and 45 seconds
Perfect timing. 👌🏾
I'll come back here when I have one.
When they are 18. I’ve watched too much Steve wilkos
Lol! So, here's my dilemma. I'm meeting up with Mr Cap at a festival in a place I've never been. My sis and my children are also going. So, I'm a single mom. Like, no local fam, ex husband is not in their lives...so they're always with me! ❤

I mean, do I just casually say, "this is my friend ...". Or do I just not meet up with him at all? We're not anything right now. No commitment, just getting to know each other better.

He has a little son who will likely be with him, btw.
Minimum of 6 months for me.

I don't allow just anyone into my son's life. To meet him is a privilege.
Maybe I can leave the girls with my sis for a little while after they fall asleep. Didn't want to meet up w/ him at night, but that might be best. I just don't really like the idea of them meeting him yet.

I mean, we have known of each other for years, as we have the same circle of friends. But, just now getting to know each other.
No commitment ?

I wouldn't
Posted by DeleterNerd
When I was a kid, there was an aqua dude who had a huge thing for my mother and he'd buy me all kinds of stuff. I was 100% on his side lol.


😂
Posted by MyStarsShine
No commitment ?
I wouldn't
No commitment...yet. Taking things very slowly. But he told me in the beginning he wants to court me. So, that's what he's doing.

So...I guess there is a commitment. Lol

Still, not going to happen yet. It's too soon, and they get attached.
Posted by TaurusFlower22
Posted by MyStarsShine
No commitment ?

I wouldn't


No commitment...yet. Taking things very slowly. But he told me in the beginning he wants to court me. So, that's what he's doing.
So...I guess there is a commitment. Lol
Still, not going to happen yet. It's too soon, and they get attached. click to expand
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Yes ma'am

Is that Shana the singer lady? 😍
Posted by MyStarsShine
Posted by TaurusFlower22
Posted by MyStarsShine
No commitment ?

I wouldn't



No commitment...yet. Taking things very slowly. But he told me in the beginning he wants to court me. So, that's what he's doing.
So...I guess there is a commitment. Lol
Still, not going to happen yet. It's too soon, and they get attached. click to expand


Yes ma'am
Is that Shana the singer lady? 😍 click to expand
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Who's that?
Posted by TaurusFlower22
Posted by MyStarsShine
Posted by TaurusFlower22
Posted by MyStarsShine
No commitment ?

I wouldn't



No commitment...yet. Taking things very slowly. But he told me in the beginning he wants to court me. So, that's what he's doing.
So...I guess there is a commitment. Lol
Still, not going to happen yet. It's too soon, and they get attached. click to expand



Yes ma'am

Is that Shana the singer lady? 😍 click to expand


Who's that? click to expand
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You mean in my profile pic?

That's me. Lol
Posted by TaurusFlower22
Posted by MyStarsShine
Posted by TaurusFlower22
Posted by MyStarsShine
No commitment ?

I wouldn't



No commitment...yet. Taking things very slowly. But he told me in the beginning he wants to court me. So, that's what he's doing.
So...I guess there is a commitment. Lol
Still, not going to happen yet. It's too soon, and they get attached. click to expand



Yes ma'am

Is that Shana the singer lady? 😍 click to expand


Who's that? click to expand
click to expand
Someone else I think? smile
Posted by MyStarsShine
Posted by TaurusFlower22
Posted by MyStarsShine
Posted by TaurusFlower22
Posted by MyStarsShine
No commitment ?

I wouldn't



No commitment...yet. Taking things very slowly. But he told me in the beginning he wants to court me. So, that's what he's doing.
So...I guess there is a commitment. Lol
Still, not going to happen yet. It's too soon, and they get attached. click to expand



Yes ma'am

Is that Shana the singer lady? 😍 click to expand



Who's that? click to expand


Someone else I think? click to expand
click to expand
Oh, I see what you mean now. No, this is my 1st account. I've never had any other name here.
Posted by TaurusFlower22
Posted by MyStarsShine
Posted by TaurusFlower22
Posted by MyStarsShine
Posted by TaurusFlower22
Posted by MyStarsShine
No commitment ?

I wouldn't



No commitment...yet. Taking things very slowly. But he told me in the beginning he wants to court me. So, that's what he's doing.
So...I guess there is a commitment. Lol
Still, not going to happen yet. It's too soon, and they get attached. click to expand



Yes ma'am

Is that Shana the singer lady? 😍 click to expand



Who's that? click to expand



Someone else I think? click to expand


Oh, I see what you mean now. No, this is my 1st account. I've never had any other name here. click to expand
click to expand
Okay.....welcome! 😊
Posted by MyStarsShine
Posted by TaurusFlower22
Posted by MyStarsShine
Posted by TaurusFlower22
Posted by MyStarsShine
Posted by TaurusFlower22
Posted by MyStarsShine
No commitment ?

I wouldn't



No commitment...yet. Taking things very slowly. But he told me in the beginning he wants to court me. So, that's what he's doing.
So...I guess there is a commitment. Lol
Still, not going to happen yet. It's too soon, and they get attached. click to expand



Yes ma'am

Is that Shana the singer lady? 😍 click to expand



Who's that? click to expand



Someone else I think? click to expand



Oh, I see what you mean now. No, this is my 1st account. I've never had any other name here. click to expand


Okay.....welcome! 😊 click to expand
click to expand


Thank you!
Posted by RooSagicorn
How old are your kids?
Well my kids have met a couple of guys that picked me up for a date. But, they were older at the time - teenagers. But in terms of being in their lives, hasn’t happened since I left my ex. I have not wanted to not disrupt their lives with a new persons opinions Feeling like after kids are gone is the best time for getting really serious with someone. Whether that’s true or not, idk.
You could always introduce as just a friend or not at all.. would be my feeling.
They're 6 and 4.
Posted by greylatern
If your friend zoning first, after they relax and drop the mask and your ok with what you see. All adults are models for children. As well as the relationship you display in front of them. Kids are sponges on many levels. We learn by mimicry. If you would not be ok with your kid dating or acting like that person when they grow up don't date them.
Pure romantic, after the friends and family test. Be sure you ask thier honest opinion and ask WHY.

But it takes some people forever to drop the mask. Take their father for example. We were together for years (together for 6, married for 4), and I was pregnant with our youngest before he dropped the mask. There's no way to really gauge when that will happen.

But, yes I do agree. I'm very selective for that reason you stated. Their dad was a dud, which is why I divorced him. Definitely don't want them to see me with another dud, and then they end up mimicking that behavior.

But yeah, we're still in the very beginning.