Struggling

Profile picture of LilithTaurus
LilithTaurus
@LilithTaurus
7 Years

Comments: 0 · Posts: 41 · Topics: 2
I’ve been single most of my life and am convinced that I am gonna be forever. Lots of people tell me I’m attractive, funny, smart, independent and the full package. Yet I can’t find a committed relationship. I attract guys who just want to fuck me, ones I have zero chemistry with or men who are already taken and I have zero interest in either of those types. I’ve started convincing myself that there is no point in liking anyone cos they won’t like me or it won’t last. I want to accept my situation, but want to find a way to ease the loneliness that I feel. I just want to know from anyone in a similar situation, does it get easier? How do you distract yourself? Especially when nearly everyone you know is settling down.
Profile picture of LilithTaurus
LilithTaurus
@LilithTaurus
7 Years

Comments: 0 · Posts: 41 · Topics: 2
Posted by LethalFantasia

It comes when you least expect it.

The more you look for/want/are desperate for ~lahvvvvv, the less likely it is to come.

I feel like when you're content, focusing on other things in life and not "looking" for it, it's almost like you send out psychic signals to the universe and suddenly it starts coming



That’s the thing. Someone comes along when I start to feel more comfortable being single but it always goes wrong. Either they ghost me, turn out to be psycho or don’t want anything serious. Then when it ends I have to start all over again. So I’m in this weird place of being scared to attract someone in case I get hurt or let down and having to do all the work to heal again when it ends but also not wanting to be by myself forever.

Profile picture of Onimusha01
Onimusha01
@Onimusha01
6 Years500+ Posts

Comments: 3 · Posts: 522 · Topics: 23
Posted by LethalFantasia

It comes when you least expect it.

The more you look for/want/are desperate for ~lahvvvvv, the less likely it is to come.

I feel like when you're content, focusing on other things in life and not "looking" for it, it's almost like you send out psychic signals to the universe and suddenly it starts coming.


Doesnt work, Ive been focusing on eveything else, I read, I build up a biz, I went out, and girl...when you realized you coming back home again, alone... sometimes it just hits... but this year I heard that my next partner will be picked directly from my spirit guides.... ( im so bad at picking partners this is how bad it got lol)
Profile picture of jeane
jeane
@jeane
11 Years5,000+ Posts

Comments: 22 · Posts: 8048 · Topics: 36
Posted by LilithTaurus

Posted by jeane

how old are you?

I’m 28
click to expand



hmm, does it get easier?

i have to admit my mid 30's were tough. i saw people around me settling down, having children, i was still renting and taking public transport with only temporary work to pay my bills. life was grim. certainly your late 20's are hard when you are feeling the way you do.

my best advice is that your life can change in an instant.

all you can do is focus on that which you can control. how important is it to you to be in a relationship? what are you doing to make that happen? are you meeting men? giving out your number? going on dates?

a friend of mine once told me she approached getting married like a job. her goal was to get married and have a family so she was always on the look out for the right person. she gave her number to as many available men as possible. she was going out on dates nearly every night of the week. she went to speed dating events. within a year she had found a person she liked. within 2 years she was married with a child.

needless to say she kissed a lot of frogs but i suppose she got there in the end.

decide what your main goal is and make active and consistent steps towards it.