Texting ... Lol

This topic was created in the Relationships forum by Tinxy on Sunday, November 1, 2015 and has 25 replies.

I hate it fucking annoys me endlessly

Idk what to make of texting behaviours especially if it's texting with a guy ...

Opinions please what's acceptable what's not in terms of response time etc

Yes I'm fucking clueless I'm not into 3 day rule shit
Texting can be the demise of a relationship- too much miscommunication can happen.

Don't get me wrong i can text all day.. been told this before. Big Grin . drives others crazy at times. But never about serious stuff.
Posted by justagirl
Texting can be the demise of a relationship- too much miscommunication can happen.

Don't get me wrong i can text all day.. been told this before. Big Grin . drives others crazy at times. But never about serious stuff.

Should I just be upfront and honest
"Hey Aqua I'm fucking sick of the endless texting back and fourth if you want Anna talk fucking phone me or fuck off ?!"

Will that do
Posted by Tinxy
Posted by justagirl
Texting can be the demise of a relationship- too much miscommunication can happen.

Don't get me wrong i can text all day.. been told this before. Big Grin . drives others crazy at times. But never about serious stuff.

Should I just be upfront and honest
"Hey Aqua I'm fucking sick of the endless texting back and fourth if you want Anna talk fucking phone me or fuck off ?!"

Will that do
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this the Aqua you have posted about?

LOL He may look at the phone and go WTF , or he may laugh his ass off. Is it trival stuff y'all are texting about? If so then maybe not so much like that lol If it's serious stuff then yes, i would suggest a phone call.

But more along the lines of " hey i dont want any misunderstandings, can we chat via phone instead of text? "

If it's trival stuff.. just be like "hey i prefer to actuallly use my phone to TALK - dickwad Tongue ( use whatever term of enderment you wish )

hahah
Posted by Huldra
Texting, Instagram... is there something in existence, that doesn't make you rant on here?

Chocolate

I'd never rant about that

Big Grin
I think texting is fine as long as it's an actual conversation. I can text with someone for weeks, even months before realizing that we haven't had a phone convo in a long time. I tend to initiate phone calls though, because it's easier to dial someone up from my phone book than it is to text them. However, if they return the contact via text, then it's fine with me. Texting gets sketchy when I notice certain patterns like a guy alwasys has his phone out when we're together, but he can't answer my text messages when we're not together. HUGE red flag. Or the opposite in that I never see a guy on his phone, but when we're not together he's texting me non stop or only phone calls during the day, but restricted to texting at night. Texting makes it so much easier for people to diversify their romantic interests, but when you think about it, cheating was invented and people found ways to cheat without getting caught way before text messaging was invented. I don't take things personal as a rule, so I tend not to add emotional inflection to text messages. I barely add emotive inflection when I'm talking to people face to face. I laugh when people openly display irritation. Lol...I take their irritation into consideration, but I don't take it personal.
I'm usually the last person to realize that someone actually doesn't like me. I'm like, "oh snap...I didn't realize it.", but the crazy part is that the same people who don't like me end up changing their minds ANYWAYS...so it's like...eff it. People change their minds and opinions allllll of the time. So, I'm less stuck on mode of communication than I am consistency or lack of consistency.
Posted by Koniucha
I agree that it can be maddening. I have no idea about the rules. If I like you, I will respond right away.

I think like most things these days, you and your friend or significant other decide on the rules. I text back immediately as a rule, because if I don't, I might forget to respond. Lol ha ha ha Its only on rare occasions or when I'm trying to make a point that I purposely allow time to lapse before texting a person back. Most of the time, I don't really want or need for them to notice...I'm doing it because I'M in a particular mood. I get over stuff quick, so it's actually better if they don't notice or point out that I didn't respond right away.

Yes, I'm that person who withholds communication, my time, etc to make a point and then I'm like, "what in the heck am I doing???" And I resume normal behavior. I'm kind of weird like that. Lol
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Posted by Huldra
Texting, Instagram... is there something in existence, that doesn't make you rant on here?

Chocolate

I'd never rant about that

Big Grin
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coffee...

Laughing
Posted by RainDancer
My views on textng are....

... I pretend like I never read my texts. Dead serious. No iPhone, no one can see of I read them or not.

I ensure someone will call me. It's my MO.


I always come off wrong in text messaging.

You can change your setting on an iPhone so the other person does not know if you read their message.
Posted by Tinxy
Posted by justagirl
Texting can be the demise of a relationship- too much miscommunication can happen.

Don't get me wrong i can text all day.. been told this before. Big Grin . drives others crazy at times. But never about serious stuff.

Should I just be upfront and honest
"Hey Aqua I'm fucking sick of the endless texting back and fourth if you want Anna talk fucking phone me or fuck off ?!"

Will that do
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That is literally me. I'm an Aqua who can't do texting at all anymore unlike how I was able to back in middle school (passing 10,000 messages per month lol). Except I also dread talking on the phone. If you want to speak to me, I prefer face to face or instant messengers like Skype or Facebook.
I just text whenever I feel like it. I mean, within the first day you would find out the other's texting style - whether they respond quickly or take their time. If I want to text a person, I do. If they don't respond for a day or two and I'm interested in talking to them - still gunna send a text. At that point I might just flat out ask why they're taking a while to respond - if that's just their style, if they're busy, if they're not interested, or if they're playing by some silly dating rule. Then in the future, I would have a better idea of what to expect and the possible reasonings behind it.
I've found that saying whatever is on my mind is really helpful on any platform. I don't 'wonder', I find out.
Posted by PhoenixRising
Posted by RainDancer
My views on textng are....

... I pretend like I never read my texts. Dead serious. No iPhone, no one can see of I read them or not.

I ensure someone will call me. It's my MO.


I always come off wrong in text messaging.

You can change your setting on an iPhone so the other person does not know if you read their message.

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HOW? LOL
I am not a texter, I would rather meet the person or just call. I'm notorious for never texting back. This Libra guy I went out with is a serial texter. I cannot with him.
Posted by Velocity
Posted by Tinxy
Posted by justagirl
Texting can be the demise of a relationship- too much miscommunication can happen.

Don't get me wrong i can text all day.. been told this before. Big Grin . drives others crazy at times. But never about serious stuff.

Should I just be upfront and honest
"Hey Aqua I'm fucking sick of the endless texting back and fourth if you want Anna talk fucking phone me or fuck off ?!"

Will that do

That is literally me. I'm an Aqua who can't do texting at all anymore unlike how I was able to back in middle school (passing 10,000 messages per month lol). Except I also dread talking on the phone. If you want to speak to me, I prefer face to face or instant messengers like Skype or Facebook.
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I mostly use my phone to be on facebook or here! I text co workers usually about work stuff and one of them is a chatter box. lol she keeps goggn and going. i finally figured otu she has to have the last word so if i dont repsonde she stops lol

@Tiz, 2 and half months?? i coudln't do it.. i spend to much surfing shit during down time. Was it hard at first?
Posted by justagirl
Posted by Velocity
Posted by Tinxy
Should I just be upfront and honest
"Hey Aqua I'm fucking sick of the endless texting back and fourth if you want Anna talk fucking phone me or fuck off ?!"

Will that do

That is literally me. I'm an Aqua who can't do texting at all anymore unlike how I was able to back in middle school (passing 10,000 messages per month lol). Except I also dread talking on the phone. If you want to speak to me, I prefer face to face or instant messengers like Skype or Facebook.

I mostly use my phone to be on facebook or here! I text co workers usually about work stuff and one of them is a chatter box. lol she keeps goggn and going. i finally figured otu she has to have the last word so if i dont repsonde she stops lol

@Tiz, 2 and half months?? i coudln't do it.. i spend to much surfing shit during down time. Was it hard at first?
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Aww people like that are cute but annoying haha, they're probably the awkward type that don't want to be rude and end a conversation first. I always have my phone with me so technically texting is the best way to reach me, I'll use it to discuss meet ups or just anything important, aside from that if it's to converse, it has to have some kind of purpose and you best be prepared for paragraphs because I don't do small talk. Besides there's also apps like Kik, WhatsApp, and GroupMe to deal with *flops* I'm too introvert for the digital age.
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Should I just be upfront and honest
"Hey Aqua I'm fucking sick of the endless texting back and fourth if you want Anna talk fucking phone me or fuck off ?!"

Will that do

That is literally me. I'm an Aqua who can't do texting at all anymore unlike how I was able to back in middle school (passing 10,000 messages per month lol). Except I also dread talking on the phone. If you want to speak to me, I prefer face to face or instant messengers like Skype or Facebook.

I mostly use my phone to be on facebook or here! I text co workers usually about work stuff and one of them is a chatter box. lol she keeps goggn and going. i finally figured otu she has to have the last word so if i dont repsonde she stops lol

@Tiz, 2 and half months?? i coudln't do it.. i spend to much surfing shit during down time. Was it hard at first?

Aww people like that are cute but annoying haha, they're probably the awkward type that don't want to be rude and end a conversation first. I always have my phone with me so technically texting is the best way to reach me, I'll use it to discuss meet ups or just anything important, aside from that if it's to converse, it has to have some kind of purpose and you best be prepared for paragraphs because I don't do small talk. Besides there's also apps like Kik, WhatsApp, and GroupMe to deal with *flops* I'm too introvert for the digital age.
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LOL same...

won't touch those apps you listed.. okay i "tried" kik and was like this is just moble skype as a dating site.. the random chat invites i got was horrid. Deleted that app from my phone.
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Posted by Tinxy
Posted by justagirl
Texting can be the demise of a relationship- too much miscommunication can happen.

Don't get me wrong i can text all day.. been told this before. Big Grin . drives others crazy at times. But never about serious stuff.

Should I just be upfront and honest
"Hey Aqua I'm fucking sick of the endless texting back and fourth if you want Anna talk fucking phone me or fuck off ?!"

Will that do

That is literally me. I'm an Aqua who can't do texting at all anymore unlike how I was able to back in middle school (passing 10,000 messages per month lol). Except I also dread talking on the phone. If you want to speak to me, I prefer face to face or instant messengers like Skype or Facebook.

I mostly use my phone to be on facebook or here! I text co workers usually about work stuff and one of them is a chatter box. lol she keeps goggn and going. i finally figured otu she has to have the last word so if i dont repsonde she stops lol

@Tiz, 2 and half months?? i coudln't do it.. i spend to much surfing shit during down time. Was it hard at first?

Not so much because at first I was avoiding calls so I had an incentive. And then it just becomes habit.

I'm sure I'll need it again at some point but I've been more productive without a mobile so far (I realise this doesn't apply to everyone in every line of work though).
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Leeb disappearing act !! Kidddddddddin or am i? Tongue

I am not afraid to admit i am addicted to my phone for the internet... like now i need to head to the vets and i will still be surfing DXP Tongue
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Posted by PhoenixRising
Posted by RainDancer
My views on textng are....

... I pretend like I never read my texts. Dead serious. No iPhone, no one can see of I read them or not.

I ensure someone will call me. It's my MO.


I always come off wrong in text messaging.

You can change your setting on an iPhone so the other person does not know if you read their message.


HOW? LOL
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Settings >Messages > turn on iMessage and activate. You will then see an option to "Send Read Recipts". Turn that off.
Thanks smile
Posted by Koniucha
For me, the whole thing is just so complicated.

Like, if he is texting me non stop, is that good or bad? No idea.

What if its slows down, is he over me?

Ay dios mio!

THIS. If the texting slows down or there's a longer period of time between messages does it mean he doesn't really give a shit? Honestly not very good at reading in to these things!
Posted by Scenic
I just text whenever I feel like it. I mean, within the first day you would find out the other's texting style - whether they respond quickly or take their time. If I want to text a person, I do. If they don't respond for a day or two and I'm interested in talking to them - still gunna send a text. At that point I might just flat out ask why they're taking a while to respond - if that's just their style, if they're busy, if they're not interested, or if they're playing by some silly dating rule. Then in the future, I would have a better idea of what to expect and the possible reasonings behind it.
I've found that saying whatever is on my mind is really helpful on any platform. I don't 'wonder', I find out.

That's interesting you would say that. Im getting mixed signals from a fish via texting at the moment and really don't know what to make of it!
I hate it. I hate it so much that I had it removed from my phone. It has destroyed the art of picking up the phone to hear someone's voice. By me removing it, I've enjoyed talking to everyone again who is important to me.
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Posted by Scenic
I just text whenever I feel like it. I mean, within the first day you would find out the other's texting style - whether they respond quickly or take their time. If I want to text a person, I do. If they don't respond for a day or two and I'm interested in talking to them - still gunna send a text. At that point I might just flat out ask why they're taking a while to respond - if that's just their style, if they're busy, if they're not interested, or if they're playing by some silly dating rule. Then in the future, I would have a better idea of what to expect and the possible reasonings behind it.
I've found that saying whatever is on my mind is really helpful on any platform. I don't 'wonder', I find out.

That's interesting you would say that. Im getting mixed signals from a fish via texting at the moment and really don't know what to make of it!
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Yeah, I've seen quite a few posts from those being confused about Pisces texts. I would just ask. I can personally be really lazy with texts and get easily distracted. Not sure if that's a Pisces trait or not, though.
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Posted by Scenic
I just text whenever I feel like it. I mean, within the first day you would find out the other's texting style - whether they respond quickly or take their time. If I want to text a person, I do. If they don't respond for a day or two and I'm interested in talking to them - still gunna send a text. At that point I might just flat out ask why they're taking a while to respond - if that's just their style, if they're busy, if they're not interested, or if they're playing by some silly dating rule. Then in the future, I would have a better idea of what to expect and the possible reasonings behind it.
I've found that saying whatever is on my mind is really helpful on any platform. I don't 'wonder', I find out.

That's interesting you would say that. Im getting mixed signals from a fish via texting at the moment and really don't know what to make of it!

Yeah, I've seen quite a few posts from those being confused about Pisces texts. I would just ask. I can personally be really lazy with texts and get easily distracted. Not sure if that's a Pisces trait or not, though.
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Well I've had a few instances where I haven't really responded straight away or taken a while to get back to him because I've been busy. But I did send him a message saying this and making it clear that it's not disinterest and it's due to my schedule and I do try to get back to him as soon as I have a moment. He responded with something similar being understanding and saying he's quite busy too explaining his schedule. But sometimes I'll go days without a message from him and I get worried that he's just not interested and I'm not getting the hint maybe