The best way to BREAK UP with someone?
This topic was created in the Relationships forum by krysrenee7 on Monday, November 15, 2010 and has 21 replies.
What is the best way to break up with someone?
1. In person, face to face?
2. Over the phone/internet? (email, text, voicemail, etc.)
3. Stop contacting them altogether in hopes that they'll get the point eventually?
4. Having a friend/family member do it for you?
5. Purposely doing all the WRONG things so they'll break up with you 1st?
They say that you're supposed to break up with someone face to face & that you're supposed to keep the convo as light as possible. They say you're NOT supposed to get too deep into why the relationship is over; you're supposed to state 1 or 2 of the reasons why you're done with the relationship and/or word things in a way so that the other person doesn't have time to manipulate you and/or change your mind. You're supposed to break up with them in an environment that allows you to freely walk away/escape without a confrontation or chance for them to wheel you back in/make you feel like crap
I'm just curious, what are some of the ways you guys have broken up with someone or been dumped?
HA! I heard there was a "break up" service that people pay to have someone break up with their partners! You pay a certain fee & from there, an employee calls your partner & breaks up with your partner for you!
1. In person, face to face?
2. Over the phone/internet? (email, text, voicemail, etc.)
3. Stop contacting them altogether in hopes that they'll get the point eventually?
4. Having a friend/family member do it for you?
5. Purposely doing all the WRONG things so they'll break up with you 1st?
They say that you're supposed to break up with someone face to face & that you're supposed to keep the convo as light as possible. They say you're NOT supposed to get too deep into why the relationship is over; you're supposed to state 1 or 2 of the reasons why you're done with the relationship and/or word things in a way so that the other person doesn't have time to manipulate you and/or change your mind. You're supposed to break up with them in an environment that allows you to freely walk away/escape without a confrontation or chance for them to wheel you back in/make you feel like crap
I'm just curious, what are some of the ways you guys have broken up with someone or been dumped?
HA! I heard there was a "break up" service that people pay to have someone break up with their partners! You pay a certain fee & from there, an employee calls your partner & breaks up with your partner for you!
Ummm, I've done it by text message before and by note :/
Nah, that's not the best way to breakup with someone but it worked, that's all that counts.
I don't even think there's a 'good' way to do it unless both parties want to.
Nah, that's not the best way to breakup with someone but it worked, that's all that counts.
I don't even think there's a 'good' way to do it unless both parties want to.
I don't know about the best way.
But I do think the worst way to break up with someone is to state his/her or even your own shortcomings while doing so.
But I do think the worst way to break up with someone is to state his/her or even your own shortcomings while doing so.
Actually no. Thats the worst way to break up (safely).
The worst way to break up is murder.
The worst way to break up is murder.
If I had a penny for every 'Its over!!!' text I got (or sent), I could retire.
Texting seems to be more of an angry reflex breakup method...not the real deal.
Texting seems to be more of an angry reflex breakup method...not the real deal.
Posted by cappysweetie
Ummm, I've done it by text message before and by note :/
Nah, that's not the best way to breakup with someone but it worked, that's all that counts.
I don't even think there's a 'good' way to do it unless both parties want to.
Good grief, are you kidding me?
You broke up with a human being over a text message?
One can only imagine what Valentine's Day must be like at your place.
Sheesh, lady.
Posted by Shadows
If I had a penny for every 'Its over!!!' text I got (or sent), I could retire.
Texting seems to be more of an angry reflex breakup method...not the real deal.
It's OVER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
LMAO! WOO HOO!
That's like that post-it note break up on Sex and the City.
I agree. Face to face is the best policy. Well unless that person has been abusive to you and/or if they pose as a threat to you. Hey, some people can't take getting dumped/rejection---you've gotta be careful how you break someone's heart/break up with them; some people SNAP!
The only reason I think breaking up with someone via email or text is bad is b/c the other person almost ALWAYS responds and/or wants to hear more. The same goes for asking someone out for the 1st time. You want to hear that person's voice, see that person's face, hear the tone in their voice & observe their body language. And all of those things are hard to hear/see over text message/email. It takes the sincerity out of it.
BUT, I do think it depends on WHY the break up is happening too. For some people, seeing their soon to be ex face to face is too painful for them. And someone who was already passive and/or passive-aggressive anyways, it shouldn't be surprising that they'd break up with someone in such a passive way.
Plus, there's always the idiots who break up with someone for no valid reason. The whole "Break up to make up" thing is very OLD! If a couple keeps breaking up & getting back together every 2 days, they should spare eachother on the face to face stuff b/c they aren't really doing their partners any favors and/or truly saying "I'm done this time for good," if they're breaking up with someone w/o really being content in their decision to do so!
I think you should list 1 or 2 reasons for the breakup; ya know, give the BIG picture. Never get into too much detail and/or have a long azs breakup speech. I think break ups should be short & sweet and to the point. If you keep going on & on and/or insult that person while breaking up with them (especially if your intent is to hurt them), it'll turn into a huge argument and/or war of words vs. an actual break up.
The only reason I think breaking up with someone via email or text is bad is b/c the other person almost ALWAYS responds and/or wants to hear more. The same goes for asking someone out for the 1st time. You want to hear that person's voice, see that person's face, hear the tone in their voice & observe their body language. And all of those things are hard to hear/see over text message/email. It takes the sincerity out of it.
BUT, I do think it depends on WHY the break up is happening too. For some people, seeing their soon to be ex face to face is too painful for them. And someone who was already passive and/or passive-aggressive anyways, it shouldn't be surprising that they'd break up with someone in such a passive way.
Plus, there's always the idiots who break up with someone for no valid reason. The whole "Break up to make up" thing is very OLD! If a couple keeps breaking up & getting back together every 2 days, they should spare eachother on the face to face stuff b/c they aren't really doing their partners any favors and/or truly saying "I'm done this time for good," if they're breaking up with someone w/o really being content in their decision to do so!
I think you should list 1 or 2 reasons for the breakup; ya know, give the BIG picture. Never get into too much detail and/or have a long azs breakup speech. I think break ups should be short & sweet and to the point. If you keep going on & on and/or insult that person while breaking up with them (especially if your intent is to hurt them), it'll turn into a huge argument and/or war of words vs. an actual break up.
2 nights ago, I saw a girl give this guy the rejection hotline number. I don't think he knew it was the rejection hotline number but we all know what number he was giving him. Weird thing is, all he did was ask for her number! If she didn't want to talk to him, she could've said, "No thanks" or "I'm not interested." But instead, she choose to go about things in a way that would completely crush that guy's ego when he finally got home & called her. Had he been a jerk to her/disrespected her, I would've thought it was hilarious of her to give him the wrong number. BUT he wasn't. He was completely respectful & approached her with manners. I bet that girl probably breaks up with people using the rejection hotline too. Smh smh
Posted by Pesca2
"The best way to BREAK UP with someone?"
is there a BEST way to do something like this?
Well breaking up is def. not an easy thing, BUT like anything else there are right/wrong ways to go about breaking up with someone. Atleast in ways that will produce the LEAST amount of drama, heartache and/or problems.
Posted by ScubafishPosted by cappysweetie
Ummm, I've done it by text message before and by note :/
Nah, that's not the best way to breakup with someone but it worked, that's all that counts.
I don't even think there's a 'good' way to do it unless both parties want to.
Good grief, are you kidding me?
You broke up with a human being over a text message?
One can only imagine what Valentine's Day must be like at your place.
Sheesh, lady.click to expand
blah blah blah
Cappysweetie is just an asshole, in general.
The best way is to just wonder off and never come back. There is no face-to-face because then an arguement will ensue, or crying, or begging, or some sort of drama.
You all say this like it would just happen, and the other person would take it openly and with maturity, and it would be civil with no tension ... yeah, right. If it were that easy to just do it, then you might as well text it because if there is no reaction from the other person, then the relationship didn't mean much.
In reality, when you break up with someone .. it's like pushing the person down a set of stairs. They are devastated, and if you are standing there in person then you are going to get wrapped up in whatever hysteria is hitting them.
also, you remember a person as you last saw them ... for this reason, a person should never want to die at home, to wither away and suffere .. because that is how you will remember them.
Same thing here ... if you break up with them in person, then you will be remembered as an insensitive asshole.
Just severe the string, right smack dabb in the middle of them thinking all is fine ... the'll not know what's going on and will be confused ... but, they will also always remember you according to how you were at last encounter ... so make sure last encounter was wonderful.
The best way is to just wonder off and never come back. There is no face-to-face because then an arguement will ensue, or crying, or begging, or some sort of drama.
You all say this like it would just happen, and the other person would take it openly and with maturity, and it would be civil with no tension ... yeah, right. If it were that easy to just do it, then you might as well text it because if there is no reaction from the other person, then the relationship didn't mean much.
In reality, when you break up with someone .. it's like pushing the person down a set of stairs. They are devastated, and if you are standing there in person then you are going to get wrapped up in whatever hysteria is hitting them.
also, you remember a person as you last saw them ... for this reason, a person should never want to die at home, to wither away and suffere .. because that is how you will remember them.
Same thing here ... if you break up with them in person, then you will be remembered as an insensitive asshole.
Just severe the string, right smack dabb in the middle of them thinking all is fine ... the'll not know what's going on and will be confused ... but, they will also always remember you according to how you were at last encounter ... so make sure last encounter was wonderful.
Just leave the county
suddenly.
After 7 years or so
even a Taurus will
get the point.
suddenly.
After 7 years or so
even a Taurus will
get the point.
Posted by QLIbraMale
i 've experienced breakup after sex with my exgirlfriend. lol i felt violated like damn now i know how some of my ex's felt when i did that to the. Karmas a B1atch lol.
O....k.....
Posted by P-Angel
Cappysweetie is just an asshole, in general.
And that's EXACTLY why you love me soooooooooooooooooooooo much, you funky little fish you ^_^.
I bet your asshole is bigger than mine
Directly. If someone keeps hurting you, no good. You can only eat so much warm and brown before the levels are high enough to do that. And I must be honest and say it would take an awful lot to get me to that point. I'm stubborn and want things to work. But yeh, being lonely WITH someone is far worse than being lonely without. Time to move it along.
P-Angel is my new stalker ^_^. Lovely ... well, I guess she isn't new really ... she's done it before, than stopped, now she's stalking me again.
I will add her as Stalker #6
6 stalkers now, oh dear ..... it wouldn't be so bad if I didn't know who they all were hahahahahaha
I will add her as Stalker #6
6 stalkers now, oh dear ..... it wouldn't be so bad if I didn't know who they all were hahahahahaha
Posted by ianthepisces
you will only be remembered as an ass if thats what you are...
be respectful and they will remember that, not you being an ass..
OMG I don't believe it .... you're back.
Posted by CappyLuv30
There is no BEST way because the whole situation is not really the BEST anyway but it has to be done.
Face to face would be the way I'd do it and have done it, imho.
See I've tried Face-To-Face and it doesn't work for me :/ I'm not sure why but it seems like I make the situation worse, way worse.
Only my experience
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