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The One Thing Women Always Get Wrong About Men
Thank you, makes perfect sense
This makes perfect sense.
I never consider a guy until he makes it clear and that is probably why I have never had this relationship problems.
If you like me show it. Simple. If you don’t show it then I wouldn’t waste my time because I know you don’t like me enough.
Guys are really not that complicated. Either they want you or not.
I never consider a guy until he makes it clear and that is probably why I have never had this relationship problems.
If you like me show it. Simple. If you don’t show it then I wouldn’t waste my time because I know you don’t like me enough.
Guys are really not that complicated. Either they want you or not.
Posted by JuliietteYes. It’s works for me too 😄 If I like a guy I flirt, to welcome him. But he will have to win me over. And go for itPosted by pisceswoman123
This makes perfect sense.
I never consider a guy until he makes it clear and that is probably why I have never had this relationship problems.
If you like me show it. Simple. If you don’t show it then I wouldn’t waste my time because I know you don’t like me enough.
Guys are really not that complicated. Either they want you or not.
but we also have to be clear and show signs. women pick men not the other way. we are the hunters in a way. i think. well it worked for me 😆
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Posted by Neno2Yes, it’s goes both ways. It should be pretty clear 😄Posted by jeaneSame title but use what man always get wrong about women😃
The One Thing Women Always Get Wrong About Men
By Sabrina Alexis
I’m going to share a story because I find stories to be the best way to illustrate a point.
Years ago, I met a guy who I thought was absolutely perfect for me. Actually, I had heard about him before I even met him through mutual friends, and just a quick description of him was enough to let me know that he was the man for me!
Eventually, the stars aligned and we met in person, and he was exactly how I imagined he would be. Now how often does a fantasy match reality so perfectly?
Not only that, the chemistry was explosive. The conversation flowed, the body language signals all checked, and our faces were almost pained from smiling so wide. I’m a relationship expert, I write about men for a living, I know what a guy “in like” looks like and this was it!
After we parted from that magical first meeting, I floated home on a cloud. At last, the wait is over, dating is over, I found the guy for me! Never mind the fact that he didn’t ask for my number or mention getting in touch with me, I was sure that he liked me, and that something magical was brewing.
But it didn’t …
Hmm, that’s strange. Maybe he thought I didn’t like him? Or maybe it’s because I was getting shy and flustered and maybe I just wasn’t giving enough green light signals. Or maybe he’s afraid of being rejected; I know that’s a real fear for most men! And I mean, that would be so embarrassing for him because we have so many mutual friends … so maybe he’s just waiting until he knows for sure that I’m interested. Yes! That has to be it. The next time I see him, I will make sure my signals are clear and obvious.
About a month or two later, we crossed paths at a friend’s birthday party. Never mind the fact that every time I looked over at him he was heavily flirting with a different girl; I knew that I was different. I mean, I’m so good at reading situations, that’s what I do for a living! I can’t be wrong about this.
Eventually, he swam my way through the sea of people and again, explosive chemistry, flirty banter, outstretched smiles, this time he even gave me a high five that lingered way too long, so does that count as him holding my hand??
Yes, this was happening, it was, I feel it. But it didn’t.
OK, now I’m so confused. This doesn’t make any sense. Why isn’t he asking me out? It must be because he doesn’t want to make things weird, that he wants to be sure this will work out before he dives in. Oh! I know! Maybe he senses that I’m “the one” and that’s really scary for a guy … so he’s just processing what’s going on.
I spent many more months in the grips of intense confusions. How do I crack his code? How do I get a relationship to happen? This is all so confusing!
Now, whenever I would get stuck in an area concerning my love life it was doubly hard because I am a relationship expert by trade, it’s what I do and I’m good at it. But when faced with a problem I couldn’t solve, well then I really felt like an idiot and a fraud!
I knew what I would tell a reader this situation, but my own sound advice just didn’t seem to apply here. It just feels different.
OK, long story short, a little while later I brought a friend of mine to a party that he also attended. He took one look at her and that was it. They engaged in heavy flirting, he immediately got her information, and he called and asked her on a date soon after. I literally felt like I had been knocked sideways. The next day I couldn’t even walk straight, my whole world felt like it was tilted.
And this is what women always get wrong about men.
We think they’re so confusing. We think it doesn’t make any sense. We think they play games and send mixed messages. We don’t understand why.
But really, we do. The problem is we don’t want to admit the truth that’s staring us in the face. We don’t want to admit that a guy we like may not like us back, so we invent this whole narrative about how he really does like us, and about all these menacing obstacles are getting in the way of making true love bloom.
Men Aren’t Complicated
I know it sounds shocking, I know it doesn’t feel like this can possibly be true, but it is! And once you really internalize this fact, your dating life will dramatically change. You can relax and stop stressing and making yourself crazy.
When it comes to men, the most obvious explanation is usually the correct one. Feelings aren’t facts. Just because something feels a certain way doesn’t mean that’s the reality.
You can’t interpret situations when you have a bias toward a certain outcome. This is main reason why I was so good at breaking down other people’s relationship issues but always got tripped up when it came to my own love life. It’s the reason most of us can solve our friend’s relationship issues with no problem, but remain utterly befuddled when it comes to our own lives.
Here is the straight up truth: Men aren’t complicated, woman complicate them.
I’m not blaming the woman, but I will say we put ourselves through so much unnecessary grief just because we don’t want to accept that men are actually fairly simple and straightforward creatures.
But How Does He Feel About Me?
By far the most common questions I get are variations of figuring out how a guy feels …
“He texts me from time to time, but we never actually hang out…”
“He’s really flirty when we see each other, and said I’m the coolest girl he knows, so why isn’t he asking me out?”
“We’ve been seeing each other for months, but he won’t make it official….”
“He always watches my Instagram and Snapchat stories, and he likes my pictures! What does that mean—?”
It means he is kind of interested in you, but doesn’t want a relationship with you.
Guys don’t play games, they don’t try to hide interest, they don’t speak in code, and they aren’t trying to confuse you. Why is it so confusing? Again, because we don’t want to accept the truth and we all want to think we’re the exception.
What women always get wrong about men is thinking they’re evil or complicated or commitment-phobes or players. But most of the time this just isn’t the case.
Men usually show you exactly who they are. They may not necessarily come right out and say the words, but you’ll always see the truth when you can honestly look for it. And if a man does ever come right out and tell you he doesn’t want to be in a relationship, believe him. Again, this isn’t him performing some voodoo trap on you and trying to get you to like him more or prove your worth by showing what an amazing girlfriend you would be.
If a guy isn’t making it obvious to you that he likes you, it’s because he doesn’t like you that much. If he isn’t committing to you, it’s because he doesn’t want to. If he’s treating you like a booty call, it’s because he doesn’t want a relationship that goes any deeper than that.
Don’t delude yourself or adopt a man-hating attitude. See a situation for what it is, and accept that men just aren’t that complicated.
And in case you’re wondering, it didn’t work out between that guy and my friend and she was utterly devastated (and ok fine, I was slightly smugly satisfied). He and I ended up becoming really close friends and through our friendship I realized that we would have made a terrible couple! These days he’s married, I’m married, and my friend is married, so all’s well that ends well!
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*If a guy isn’t making it obvious to you that he likes you, it’s because he doesn’t like you that much*
Not always
I met a guy at my place of work...he was aloof around me...pleasant but definitely not showing signs of coming onto me
He was very shy
We ended up getting married and having a son together ... we are now best friends
He told me the minute he laid eyes on me, he knew I was the one for him, but he was terrified to approach me
Things aren't always as they seem
Not always
I met a guy at my place of work...he was aloof around me...pleasant but definitely not showing signs of coming onto me
He was very shy
We ended up getting married and having a son together ... we are now best friends
He told me the minute he laid eyes on me, he knew I was the one for him, but he was terrified to approach me
Things aren't always as they seem
Posted by JuliietteThat because you, woman THINK you 2 have a chemistry and he is feeling the same - it doesn’t mean he does! You as a woman creating this dream relashionships in your head when for him - he is nice, friendly and talkative to other women and you isn’t an exclusion. It’s all IN YOIR HEAD!
ok, the woman has a thing for a guy and her friend hooks up with him? what am i missing here?
Posted by JuliietteI can see how some men are naturally charming and what women don’t get is that he is charming in general! Not just with ME! But...we taking it too close to the heart and mind!Posted by GemitatiPosted by JuliietteThat because you, woman THINK you 2 have a chemistry and he is feeling the same - it doesn’t mean he does! You as a woman creating this dream relashionships in your head when for him - he is nice, friendly and talkative to other women and you isn’t an exclusion. It’s all IN YOIR HEAD!
ok, the woman has a thing for a guy and her friend hooks up with him? what am i missing here?
ohh ok. but anyway i wouldn't hook up with someone when my gf has a thing for him.
then again if i do understand he doesn't really like me, i wouldn't have the issue.
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NOW what I want to ask smart author of the article who writes about men for living is - how about he actually taken your number, had a date with you, later told you he loves you and dissapeared?
This is majority of posts here...is there an explanation for THAT? How not complicated THIS simple men behavior can be explained?
Can’t wait and know that this question will not be answered!
Posted by JuliietteHow did your Scorp went retarded? Tell!Posted by GemitatiPosted by JuliietteI can see how some men are naturally charming and what women don’t get is that he is charming in general! Not just with ME! But...we taking it too close to the heart and mind!Posted by GemitatiPosted by JuliietteThat because you, woman THINK you 2 have a chemistry and he is feeling the same - it doesn’t mean he does! You as a woman creating this dream relashionships in your head when for him - he is nice, friendly and talkative to other women and you isn’t an exclusion. It’s all IN YOIR HEAD!
ok, the woman has a thing for a guy and her friend hooks up with him? what am i missing here?
ohh ok. but anyway i wouldn't hook up with someone when my gf has a thing for him.
then again if i do understand he doesn't really like me, i wouldn't have the issue.
NOW what I want to ask smart author of the article who writes about men for living is - how about he actually taken your number, had a date with you, later told you he loves you and dissapeared?
This is majority of posts here...is there an explanation for THAT? How not complicated THIS simple men behavior can be explained?
Can’t wait and know that this question will not be answered!
dear idk. had zero issues with them except with the scorp lol who went fully retard when i left him.
did i tell you that lover of my mom was a scorpio? i'm not really sure but i think he is. LOL geminis and scorp who would guess that.
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And yes your mom and lover as Gem and Scorp is fully understandable...this pairing had been discussed forever! And it’s quite unique and can work magically!
Posted by SeleukosIf he didn’t like her except as a friend - they would have a drink, then maybe even have sex and he would leave her because he did NOT like her enough to BE with her! And she would be hurt even more...unless he is unskilled bad lover!
This whole story could have played out completly different if the women would just have approached him saying:
"I like you. Lets have a drink."
But yeah, lets turn it all around to get another justification for being passive.
Posted by JuliietteLol! So your fathers drinking doesn’t prevent him from being able? What a stallion!!!Posted by GemitatiPosted by JuliietteHow did your Scorp went retarded? Tell!Posted by GemitatiPosted by JuliietteI can see how some men are naturally charming and what women don’t get is that he is charming in general! Not just with ME! But...we taking it too close to the heart and mind!Posted by GemitatiPosted by JuliietteThat because you, woman THINK you 2 have a chemistry and he is feeling the same - it doesn’t mean he does! You as a woman creating this dream relashionships in your head when for him - he is nice, friendly and talkative to other women and you isn’t an exclusion. It’s all IN YOIR HEAD!
ok, the woman has a thing for a guy and her friend hooks up with him? what am i missing here?
ohh ok. but anyway i wouldn't hook up with someone when my gf has a thing for him.
then again if i do understand he doesn't really like me, i wouldn't have the issue.
NOW what I want to ask smart author of the article who writes about men for living is - how about he actually taken your number, had a date with you, later told you he loves you and dissapeared?
This is majority of posts here...is there an explanation for THAT? How not complicated THIS simple men behavior can be explained?
Can’t wait and know that this question will not be answered!
dear idk. had zero issues with them except with the scorp lol who went fully retard when i left him.
did i tell you that lover of my mom was a scorpio? i'm not really sure but i think he is. LOL geminis and scorp who would guess that.
And yes your mom and lover as Gem and Scorp is fully understandable...this pairing had been discussed forever! And it’s quite unique and can work magically!
you don't want to know. i'll just say i had to call the police and threat to sue him. after fucking 8 years he stalks me a bit.
anyway my mom and him 15 fucking years. maybe they are still together, idk, and i don't ask. but my father has gf too LOL. my age. LOL more beautiful than me.
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Why is moms Scorpio blackmailed her?
To leave your father?
Posted by Juliiettelol who are they?Posted by GemitatiPosted by JuliietteLol! So your fathers drinking doesn’t prevent him from being able? What a stallion!!!Posted by GemitatiPosted by JuliietteHow did your Scorp went retarded? Tell!Posted by GemitatiPosted by JuliietteI can see how some men are naturally charming and what women don’t get is that he is charming in general! Not just with ME! But...we taking it too close to the heart and mind!Posted by GemitatiPosted by JuliietteThat because you, woman THINK you 2 have a chemistry and he is feeling the same - it doesn’t mean he does! You as a woman creating this dream relashionships in your head when for him - he is nice, friendly and talkative to other women and you isn’t an exclusion. It’s all IN YOIR HEAD!
ok, the woman has a thing for a guy and her friend hooks up with him? what am i missing here?
ohh ok. but anyway i wouldn't hook up with someone when my gf has a thing for him.
then again if i do understand he doesn't really like me, i wouldn't have the issue.
NOW what I want to ask smart author of the article who writes about men for living is - how about he actually taken your number, had a date with you, later told you he loves you and dissapeared?
This is majority of posts here...is there an explanation for THAT? How not complicated THIS simple men behavior can be explained?
Can’t wait and know that this question will not be answered!
dear idk. had zero issues with them except with the scorp lol who went fully retard when i left him.
did i tell you that lover of my mom was a scorpio? i'm not really sure but i think he is. LOL geminis and scorp who would guess that.
And yes your mom and lover as Gem and Scorp is fully understandable...this pairing had been discussed forever! And it’s quite unique and can work magically!
you don't want to know. i'll just say i had to call the police and threat to sue him. after fucking 8 years he stalks me a bit.
anyway my mom and him 15 fucking years. maybe they are still together, idk, and i don't ask. but my father has gf too LOL. my age. LOL more beautiful than me.
Why is moms Scorpio blackmailed her?
To leave your father?
no. 1 year ago he opened a pub, sort of. he is 67. he would wake up at 6am, go there, come home to have a launch and quick nap for 1h, go there and stay until 2am. and wake up at 6am. i would die!!! true story! and he takes care of his prostate i mean he was telling me about it and i was like ok, just fucking stop LOL
you don't wanna know. they had a video on vhs.
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And yes I know! I had a business...and if it wasn’t for a Scorp - I would be out of there first year! He kept me going...
But waking up at 6? For a bar? I think he does it so he can run up to his child bride...
Posted by SeleukosMen naturally know to ask out those they like enough...Posted by GemitatiOr he just never had the idea to ask her out although he liked her.Posted by SeleukosIf he didn’t like her except as a friend - they would have a drink, then maybe even have sex and he would leave her because he did NOT like her enough to BE with her! And she would be hurt even more...unless he is unskilled bad lover!
This whole story could have played out completly different if the women would just have approached him saying:
"I like you. Lets have a drink."
But yeah, lets turn it all around to get another justification for being passive.
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Posted by SeleukosThey do. Except it’s still against traditional...whoever says what...it’s uncommon! Specially if she likes him and he isn’t coming forward. Setting for failure.Posted by GemitatiAnd women don't?Posted by SeleukosMen naturally know to ask out those they like enough...Posted by GemitatiOr he just never had the idea to ask her out although he liked her.Posted by SeleukosIf he didn’t like her except as a friend - they would have a drink, then maybe even have sex and he would leave her because he did NOT like her enough to BE with her! And she would be hurt even more...unless he is unskilled bad lover!
This whole story could have played out completly different if the women would just have approached him saying:
"I like you. Lets have a drink."
But yeah, lets turn it all around to get another justification for being passive.
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Posted by JuliietteWhat a guy! 😂Posted by GemitatiPosted by Juliiettelol who are they?Posted by GemitatiPosted by JuliietteLol! So your fathers drinking doesn’t prevent him from being able? What a stallion!!!Posted by GemitatiPosted by JuliietteHow did your Scorp went retarded? Tell!Posted by GemitatiPosted by JuliietteI can see how some men are naturally charming and what women don’t get is that he is charming in general! Not just with ME! But...we taking it too close to the heart and mind!Posted by GemitatiPosted by JuliietteThat because you, woman THINK you 2 have a chemistry and he is feeling the same - it doesn’t mean he does! You as a woman creating this dream relashionships in your head when for him - he is nice, friendly and talkative to other women and you isn’t an exclusion. It’s all IN YOIR HEAD!
ok, the woman has a thing for a guy and her friend hooks up with him? what am i missing here?
ohh ok. but anyway i wouldn't hook up with someone when my gf has a thing for him.
then again if i do understand he doesn't really like me, i wouldn't have the issue.
NOW what I want to ask smart author of the article who writes about men for living is - how about he actually taken your number, had a date with you, later told you he loves you and dissapeared?
This is majority of posts here...is there an explanation for THAT? How not complicated THIS simple men behavior can be explained?
Can’t wait and know that this question will not be answered!
dear idk. had zero issues with them except with the scorp lol who went fully retard when i left him.
did i tell you that lover of my mom was a scorpio? i'm not really sure but i think he is. LOL geminis and scorp who would guess that.
And yes your mom and lover as Gem and Scorp is fully understandable...this pairing had been discussed forever! And it’s quite unique and can work magically!
you don't want to know. i'll just say i had to call the police and threat to sue him. after fucking 8 years he stalks me a bit.
anyway my mom and him 15 fucking years. maybe they are still together, idk, and i don't ask. but my father has gf too LOL. my age. LOL more beautiful than me.
Why is moms Scorpio blackmailed her?
To leave your father?
no. 1 year ago he opened a pub, sort of. he is 67. he would wake up at 6am, go there, come home to have a launch and quick nap for 1h, go there and stay until 2am. and wake up at 6am. i would die!!! true story! and he takes care of his prostate i mean he was telling me about it and i was like ok, just fucking stop LOL
you don't wanna know. they had a video on vhs.
And yes I know! I had a business...and if it wasn’t for a Scorp - I would be out of there first year! He kept me going...
But waking up at 6? For a bar? I think he does it so he can run up to his child bride...
they - my mother gemini and a scorp. he threatened to show my father if she leaves him.
he is one of those guys who loves morning coffee and he had customers who would stay all night until morning. helikes night life so he wanted to have both in one pub. but probably was with his gf also.
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So why does he care if your mom leaves him? Seems self sufficient man...
Posted by Neno2I wouldn’t dare to 😄Posted by pisceswoman123Are u teaching me🤔Posted by Neno2Yes, it’s goes both ways. It should be pretty clear 😄Posted by jeaneSame title but use what man always get wrong about women😃
The One Thing Women Always Get Wrong About Men
By Sabrina Alexis
I’m going to share a story because I find stories to be the best way to illustrate a point.
Years ago, I met a guy who I thought was absolutely perfect for me. Actually, I had heard about him before I even met him through mutual friends, and just a quick description of him was enough to let me know that he was the man for me!
Eventually, the stars aligned and we met in person, and he was exactly how I imagined he would be. Now how often does a fantasy match reality so perfectly?
Not only that, the chemistry was explosive. The conversation flowed, the body language signals all checked, and our faces were almost pained from smiling so wide. I’m a relationship expert, I write about men for a living, I know what a guy “in like” looks like and this was it!
After we parted from that magical first meeting, I floated home on a cloud. At last, the wait is over, dating is over, I found the guy for me! Never mind the fact that he didn’t ask for my number or mention getting in touch with me, I was sure that he liked me, and that something magical was brewing.
But it didn’t …
Hmm, that’s strange. Maybe he thought I didn’t like him? Or maybe it’s because I was getting shy and flustered and maybe I just wasn’t giving enough green light signals. Or maybe he’s afraid of being rejected; I know that’s a real fear for most men! And I mean, that would be so embarrassing for him because we have so many mutual friends … so maybe he’s just waiting until he knows for sure that I’m interested. Yes! That has to be it. The next time I see him, I will make sure my signals are clear and obvious.
About a month or two later, we crossed paths at a friend’s birthday party. Never mind the fact that every time I looked over at him he was heavily flirting with a different girl; I knew that I was different. I mean, I’m so good at reading situations, that’s what I do for a living! I can’t be wrong about this.
Eventually, he swam my way through the sea of people and again, explosive chemistry, flirty banter, outstretched smiles, this time he even gave me a high five that lingered way too long, so does that count as him holding my hand??
Yes, this was happening, it was, I feel it. But it didn’t.
OK, now I’m so confused. This doesn’t make any sense. Why isn’t he asking me out? It must be because he doesn’t want to make things weird, that he wants to be sure this will work out before he dives in. Oh! I know! Maybe he senses that I’m “the one” and that’s really scary for a guy … so he’s just processing what’s going on.
I spent many more months in the grips of intense confusions. How do I crack his code? How do I get a relationship to happen? This is all so confusing!
Now, whenever I would get stuck in an area concerning my love life it was doubly hard because I am a relationship expert by trade, it’s what I do and I’m good at it. But when faced with a problem I couldn’t solve, well then I really felt like an idiot and a fraud!
I knew what I would tell a reader this situation, but my own sound advice just didn’t seem to apply here. It just feels different.
OK, long story short, a little while later I brought a friend of mine to a party that he also attended. He took one look at her and that was it. They engaged in heavy flirting, he immediately got her information, and he called and asked her on a date soon after. I literally felt like I had been knocked sideways. The next day I couldn’t even walk straight, my whole world felt like it was tilted.
And this is what women always get wrong about men.
We think they’re so confusing. We think it doesn’t make any sense. We think they play games and send mixed messages. We don’t understand why.
But really, we do. The problem is we don’t want to admit the truth that’s staring us in the face. We don’t want to admit that a guy we like may not like us back, so we invent this whole narrative about how he really does like us, and about all these menacing obstacles are getting in the way of making true love bloom.
Men Aren’t Complicated
I know it sounds shocking, I know it doesn’t feel like this can possibly be true, but it is! And once you really internalize this fact, your dating life will dramatically change. You can relax and stop stressing and making yourself crazy.
When it comes to men, the most obvious explanation is usually the correct one. Feelings aren’t facts. Just because something feels a certain way doesn’t mean that’s the reality.
You can’t interpret situations when you have a bias toward a certain outcome. This is main reason why I was so good at breaking down other people’s relationship issues but always got tripped up when it came to my own love life. It’s the reason most of us can solve our friend’s relationship issues with no problem, but remain utterly befuddled when it comes to our own lives.
Here is the straight up truth: Men aren’t complicated, woman complicate them.
I’m not blaming the woman, but I will say we put ourselves through so much unnecessary grief just because we don’t want to accept that men are actually fairly simple and straightforward creatures.
But How Does He Feel About Me?
By far the most common questions I get are variations of figuring out how a guy feels …
“He texts me from time to time, but we never actually hang out…”
“He’s really flirty when we see each other, and said I’m the coolest girl he knows, so why isn’t he asking me out?”
“We’ve been seeing each other for months, but he won’t make it official….”
“He always watches my Instagram and Snapchat stories, and he likes my pictures! What does that mean—?”
It means he is kind of interested in you, but doesn’t want a relationship with you.
Guys don’t play games, they don’t try to hide interest, they don’t speak in code, and they aren’t trying to confuse you. Why is it so confusing? Again, because we don’t want to accept the truth and we all want to think we’re the exception.
What women always get wrong about men is thinking they’re evil or complicated or commitment-phobes or players. But most of the time this just isn’t the case.
Men usually show you exactly who they are. They may not necessarily come right out and say the words, but you’ll always see the truth when you can honestly look for it. And if a man does ever come right out and tell you he doesn’t want to be in a relationship, believe him. Again, this isn’t him performing some voodoo trap on you and trying to get you to like him more or prove your worth by showing what an amazing girlfriend you would be.
If a guy isn’t making it obvious to you that he likes you, it’s because he doesn’t like you that much. If he isn’t committing to you, it’s because he doesn’t want to. If he’s treating you like a booty call, it’s because he doesn’t want a relationship that goes any deeper than that.
Don’t delude yourself or adopt a man-hating attitude. See a situation for what it is, and accept that men just aren’t that complicated.
And in case you’re wondering, it didn’t work out between that guy and my friend and she was utterly devastated (and ok fine, I was slightly smugly satisfied). He and I ended up becoming really close friends and through our friendship I realized that we would have made a terrible couple! These days he’s married, I’m married, and my friend is married, so all’s well that ends well!
https://thoughtcatalog.com/sabrina-alexis/2018/01/the-one-thing-women-always-get-wrong-about-men
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Posted by Neno2Posted by pisceswoman123I wonder how u look like🤔Posted by Neno2I wouldn’t dare to 😄Posted by pisceswoman123Are u teaching me🤔Posted by Neno2Yes, it’s goes both ways. It should be pretty clear 😄Posted by jeaneSame title but use what man always get wrong about women😃
The One Thing Women Always Get Wrong About Men
By Sabrina Alexis
I’m going to share a story because I find stories to be the best way to illustrate a point.
Years ago, I met a guy who I thought was absolutely perfect for me. Actually, I had heard about him before I even met him through mutual friends, and just a quick description of him was enough to let me know that he was the man for me!
Eventually, the stars aligned and we met in person, and he was exactly how I imagined he would be. Now how often does a fantasy match reality so perfectly?
Not only that, the chemistry was explosive. The conversation flowed, the body language signals all checked, and our faces were almost pained from smiling so wide. I’m a relationship expert, I write about men for a living, I know what a guy “in like” looks like and this was it!
After we parted from that magical first meeting, I floated home on a cloud. At last, the wait is over, dating is over, I found the guy for me! Never mind the fact that he didn’t ask for my number or mention getting in touch with me, I was sure that he liked me, and that something magical was brewing.
But it didn’t …
Hmm, that’s strange. Maybe he thought I didn’t like him? Or maybe it’s because I was getting shy and flustered and maybe I just wasn’t giving enough green light signals. Or maybe he’s afraid of being rejected; I know that’s a real fear for most men! And I mean, that would be so embarrassing for him because we have so many mutual friends … so maybe he’s just waiting until he knows for sure that I’m interested. Yes! That has to be it. The next time I see him, I will make sure my signals are clear and obvious.
About a month or two later, we crossed paths at a friend’s birthday party. Never mind the fact that every time I looked over at him he was heavily flirting with a different girl; I knew that I was different. I mean, I’m so good at reading situations, that’s what I do for a living! I can’t be wrong about this.
Eventually, he swam my way through the sea of people and again, explosive chemistry, flirty banter, outstretched smiles, this time he even gave me a high five that lingered way too long, so does that count as him holding my hand??
Yes, this was happening, it was, I feel it. But it didn’t.
OK, now I’m so confused. This doesn’t make any sense. Why isn’t he asking me out? It must be because he doesn’t want to make things weird, that he wants to be sure this will work out before he dives in. Oh! I know! Maybe he senses that I’m “the one” and that’s really scary for a guy … so he’s just processing what’s going on.
I spent many more months in the grips of intense confusions. How do I crack his code? How do I get a relationship to happen? This is all so confusing!
Now, whenever I would get stuck in an area concerning my love life it was doubly hard because I am a relationship expert by trade, it’s what I do and I’m good at it. But when faced with a problem I couldn’t solve, well then I really felt like an idiot and a fraud!
I knew what I would tell a reader this situation, but my own sound advice just didn’t seem to apply here. It just feels different.
OK, long story short, a little while later I brought a friend of mine to a party that he also attended. He took one look at her and that was it. They engaged in heavy flirting, he immediately got her information, and he called and asked her on a date soon after. I literally felt like I had been knocked sideways. The next day I couldn’t even walk straight, my whole world felt like it was tilted.
And this is what women always get wrong about men.
We think they’re so confusing. We think it doesn’t make any sense. We think they play games and send mixed messages. We don’t understand why.
But really, we do. The problem is we don’t want to admit the truth that’s staring us in the face. We don’t want to admit that a guy we like may not like us back, so we invent this whole narrative about how he really does like us, and about all these menacing obstacles are getting in the way of making true love bloom.
Men Aren’t Complicated
I know it sounds shocking, I know it doesn’t feel like this can possibly be true, but it is! And once you really internalize this fact, your dating life will dramatically change. You can relax and stop stressing and making yourself crazy.
When it comes to men, the most obvious explanation is usually the correct one. Feelings aren’t facts. Just because something feels a certain way doesn’t mean that’s the reality.
You can’t interpret situations when you have a bias toward a certain outcome. This is main reason why I was so good at breaking down other people’s relationship issues but always got tripped up when it came to my own love life. It’s the reason most of us can solve our friend’s relationship issues with no problem, but remain utterly befuddled when it comes to our own lives.
Here is the straight up truth: Men aren’t complicated, woman complicate them.
I’m not blaming the woman, but I will say we put ourselves through so much unnecessary grief just because we don’t want to accept that men are actually fairly simple and straightforward creatures.
But How Does He Feel About Me?
By far the most common questions I get are variations of figuring out how a guy feels …
“He texts me from time to time, but we never actually hang out…”
“He’s really flirty when we see each other, and said I’m the coolest girl he knows, so why isn’t he asking me out?”
“We’ve been seeing each other for months, but he won’t make it official….”
“He always watches my Instagram and Snapchat stories, and he likes my pictures! What does that mean—?”
It means he is kind of interested in you, but doesn’t want a relationship with you.
Guys don’t play games, they don’t try to hide interest, they don’t speak in code, and they aren’t trying to confuse you. Why is it so confusing? Again, because we don’t want to accept the truth and we all want to think we’re the exception.
What women always get wrong about men is thinking they’re evil or complicated or commitment-phobes or players. But most of the time this just isn’t the case.
Men usually show you exactly who they are. They may not necessarily come right out and say the words, but you’ll always see the truth when you can honestly look for it. And if a man does ever come right out and tell you he doesn’t want to be in a relationship, believe him. Again, this isn’t him performing some voodoo trap on you and trying to get you to like him more or prove your worth by showing what an amazing girlfriend you would be.
If a guy isn’t making it obvious to you that he likes you, it’s because he doesn’t like you that much. If he isn’t committing to you, it’s because he doesn’t want to. If he’s treating you like a booty call, it’s because he doesn’t want a relationship that goes any deeper than that.
Don’t delude yourself or adopt a man-hating attitude. See a situation for what it is, and accept that men just aren’t that complicated.
And in case you’re wondering, it didn’t work out between that guy and my friend and she was utterly devastated (and ok fine, I was slightly smugly satisfied). He and I ended up becoming really close friends and through our friendship I realized that we would have made a terrible couple! These days he’s married, I’m married, and my friend is married, so all’s well that ends well!
https://thoughtcatalog.com/sabrina-alexis/2018/01/the-one-thing-women-always-get-wrong-about-men
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😂 Why would you say that?
Posted by Neno2Posted by pisceswoman123Announce your face to the dxo world 🙄Posted by Neno2Posted by pisceswoman123I wonder how u look like🤔Posted by Neno2I wouldn’t dare to 😄Posted by pisceswoman123Are u teaching me🤔Posted by Neno2Yes, it’s goes both ways. It should be pretty clear 😄Posted by jeaneSame title but use what man always get wrong about women😃
The One Thing Women Always Get Wrong About Men
By Sabrina Alexis
I’m going to share a story because I find stories to be the best way to illustrate a point.
Years ago, I met a guy who I thought was absolutely perfect for me. Actually, I had heard about him before I even met him through mutual friends, and just a quick description of him was enough to let me know that he was the man for me!
Eventually, the stars aligned and we met in person, and he was exactly how I imagined he would be. Now how often does a fantasy match reality so perfectly?
Not only that, the chemistry was explosive. The conversation flowed, the body language signals all checked, and our faces were almost pained from smiling so wide. I’m a relationship expert, I write about men for a living, I know what a guy “in like” looks like and this was it!
After we parted from that magical first meeting, I floated home on a cloud. At last, the wait is over, dating is over, I found the guy for me! Never mind the fact that he didn’t ask for my number or mention getting in touch with me, I was sure that he liked me, and that something magical was brewing.
But it didn’t …
Hmm, that’s strange. Maybe he thought I didn’t like him? Or maybe it’s because I was getting shy and flustered and maybe I just wasn’t giving enough green light signals. Or maybe he’s afraid of being rejected; I know that’s a real fear for most men! And I mean, that would be so embarrassing for him because we have so many mutual friends … so maybe he’s just waiting until he knows for sure that I’m interested. Yes! That has to be it. The next time I see him, I will make sure my signals are clear and obvious.
About a month or two later, we crossed paths at a friend’s birthday party. Never mind the fact that every time I looked over at him he was heavily flirting with a different girl; I knew that I was different. I mean, I’m so good at reading situations, that’s what I do for a living! I can’t be wrong about this.
Eventually, he swam my way through the sea of people and again, explosive chemistry, flirty banter, outstretched smiles, this time he even gave me a high five that lingered way too long, so does that count as him holding my hand??
Yes, this was happening, it was, I feel it. But it didn’t.
OK, now I’m so confused. This doesn’t make any sense. Why isn’t he asking me out? It must be because he doesn’t want to make things weird, that he wants to be sure this will work out before he dives in. Oh! I know! Maybe he senses that I’m “the one” and that’s really scary for a guy … so he’s just processing what’s going on.
I spent many more months in the grips of intense confusions. How do I crack his code? How do I get a relationship to happen? This is all so confusing!
Now, whenever I would get stuck in an area concerning my love life it was doubly hard because I am a relationship expert by trade, it’s what I do and I’m good at it. But when faced with a problem I couldn’t solve, well then I really felt like an idiot and a fraud!
I knew what I would tell a reader this situation, but my own sound advice just didn’t seem to apply here. It just feels different.
OK, long story short, a little while later I brought a friend of mine to a party that he also attended. He took one look at her and that was it. They engaged in heavy flirting, he immediately got her information, and he called and asked her on a date soon after. I literally felt like I had been knocked sideways. The next day I couldn’t even walk straight, my whole world felt like it was tilted.
And this is what women always get wrong about men.
We think they’re so confusing. We think it doesn’t make any sense. We think they play games and send mixed messages. We don’t understand why.
But really, we do. The problem is we don’t want to admit the truth that’s staring us in the face. We don’t want to admit that a guy we like may not like us back, so we invent this whole narrative about how he really does like us, and about all these menacing obstacles are getting in the way of making true love bloom.
Men Aren’t Complicated
I know it sounds shocking, I know it doesn’t feel like this can possibly be true, but it is! And once you really internalize this fact, your dating life will dramatically change. You can relax and stop stressing and making yourself crazy.
When it comes to men, the most obvious explanation is usually the correct one. Feelings aren’t facts. Just because something feels a certain way doesn’t mean that’s the reality.
You can’t interpret situations when you have a bias toward a certain outcome. This is main reason why I was so good at breaking down other people’s relationship issues but always got tripped up when it came to my own love life. It’s the reason most of us can solve our friend’s relationship issues with no problem, but remain utterly befuddled when it comes to our own lives.
Here is the straight up truth: Men aren’t complicated, woman complicate them.
I’m not blaming the woman, but I will say we put ourselves through so much unnecessary grief just because we don’t want to accept that men are actually fairly simple and straightforward creatures.
But How Does He Feel About Me?
By far the most common questions I get are variations of figuring out how a guy feels …
“He texts me from time to time, but we never actually hang out…”
“He’s really flirty when we see each other, and said I’m the coolest girl he knows, so why isn’t he asking me out?”
“We’ve been seeing each other for months, but he won’t make it official….”
“He always watches my Instagram and Snapchat stories, and he likes my pictures! What does that mean—?”
It means he is kind of interested in you, but doesn’t want a relationship with you.
Guys don’t play games, they don’t try to hide interest, they don’t speak in code, and they aren’t trying to confuse you. Why is it so confusing? Again, because we don’t want to accept the truth and we all want to think we’re the exception.
What women always get wrong about men is thinking they’re evil or complicated or commitment-phobes or players. But most of the time this just isn’t the case.
Men usually show you exactly who they are. They may not necessarily come right out and say the words, but you’ll always see the truth when you can honestly look for it. And if a man does ever come right out and tell you he doesn’t want to be in a relationship, believe him. Again, this isn’t him performing some voodoo trap on you and trying to get you to like him more or prove your worth by showing what an amazing girlfriend you would be.
If a guy isn’t making it obvious to you that he likes you, it’s because he doesn’t like you that much. If he isn’t committing to you, it’s because he doesn’t want to. If he’s treating you like a booty call, it’s because he doesn’t want a relationship that goes any deeper than that.
Don’t delude yourself or adopt a man-hating attitude. See a situation for what it is, and accept that men just aren’t that complicated.
And in case you’re wondering, it didn’t work out between that guy and my friend and she was utterly devastated (and ok fine, I was slightly smugly satisfied). He and I ended up becoming really close friends and through our friendship I realized that we would have made a terrible couple! These days he’s married, I’m married, and my friend is married, so all’s well that ends well!
https://thoughtcatalog.com/sabrina-alexis/2018/01/the-one-thing-women-always-get-wrong-about-men
😂 Why would you say that?
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I can’t. 😄 I don’t want anyone seeing me here 😂
Posted by Juliiette😂 I like to see other people. But I don’t want anyone to recognize me. That wouldn’t be good at allPosted by pisceswoman123Posted by Neno2Posted by pisceswoman123Announce your face to the dxo world 🙄Posted by Neno2Posted by pisceswoman123I wonder how u look like🤔Posted by Neno2I wouldn’t dare to 😄Posted by pisceswoman123Are u teaching me🤔Posted by Neno2Yes, it’s goes both ways. It should be pretty clear 😄Posted by jeaneSame title but use what man always get wrong about women😃
The One Thing Women Always Get Wrong About Men
By Sabrina Alexis
I’m going to share a story because I find stories to be the best way to illustrate a point.
Years ago, I met a guy who I thought was absolutely perfect for me. Actually, I had heard about him before I even met him through mutual friends, and just a quick description of him was enough to let me know that he was the man for me!
Eventually, the stars aligned and we met in person, and he was exactly how I imagined he would be. Now how often does a fantasy match reality so perfectly?
Not only that, the chemistry was explosive. The conversation flowed, the body language signals all checked, and our faces were almost pained from smiling so wide. I’m a relationship expert, I write about men for a living, I know what a guy “in like” looks like and this was it!
After we parted from that magical first meeting, I floated home on a cloud. At last, the wait is over, dating is over, I found the guy for me! Never mind the fact that he didn’t ask for my number or mention getting in touch with me, I was sure that he liked me, and that something magical was brewing.
But it didn’t …
Hmm, that’s strange. Maybe he thought I didn’t like him? Or maybe it’s because I was getting shy and flustered and maybe I just wasn’t giving enough green light signals. Or maybe he’s afraid of being rejected; I know that’s a real fear for most men! And I mean, that would be so embarrassing for him because we have so many mutual friends … so maybe he’s just waiting until he knows for sure that I’m interested. Yes! That has to be it. The next time I see him, I will make sure my signals are clear and obvious.
About a month or two later, we crossed paths at a friend’s birthday party. Never mind the fact that every time I looked over at him he was heavily flirting with a different girl; I knew that I was different. I mean, I’m so good at reading situations, that’s what I do for a living! I can’t be wrong about this.
Eventually, he swam my way through the sea of people and again, explosive chemistry, flirty banter, outstretched smiles, this time he even gave me a high five that lingered way too long, so does that count as him holding my hand??
Yes, this was happening, it was, I feel it. But it didn’t.
OK, now I’m so confused. This doesn’t make any sense. Why isn’t he asking me out? It must be because he doesn’t want to make things weird, that he wants to be sure this will work out before he dives in. Oh! I know! Maybe he senses that I’m “the one” and that’s really scary for a guy … so he’s just processing what’s going on.
I spent many more months in the grips of intense confusions. How do I crack his code? How do I get a relationship to happen? This is all so confusing!
Now, whenever I would get stuck in an area concerning my love life it was doubly hard because I am a relationship expert by trade, it’s what I do and I’m good at it. But when faced with a problem I couldn’t solve, well then I really felt like an idiot and a fraud!
I knew what I would tell a reader this situation, but my own sound advice just didn’t seem to apply here. It just feels different.
OK, long story short, a little while later I brought a friend of mine to a party that he also attended. He took one look at her and that was it. They engaged in heavy flirting, he immediately got her information, and he called and asked her on a date soon after. I literally felt like I had been knocked sideways. The next day I couldn’t even walk straight, my whole world felt like it was tilted.
And this is what women always get wrong about men.
We think they’re so confusing. We think it doesn’t make any sense. We think they play games and send mixed messages. We don’t understand why.
But really, we do. The problem is we don’t want to admit the truth that’s staring us in the face. We don’t want to admit that a guy we like may not like us back, so we invent this whole narrative about how he really does like us, and about all these menacing obstacles are getting in the way of making true love bloom.
Men Aren’t Complicated
I know it sounds shocking, I know it doesn’t feel like this can possibly be true, but it is! And once you really internalize this fact, your dating life will dramatically change. You can relax and stop stressing and making yourself crazy.
When it comes to men, the most obvious explanation is usually the correct one. Feelings aren’t facts. Just because something feels a certain way doesn’t mean that’s the reality.
You can’t interpret situations when you have a bias toward a certain outcome. This is main reason why I was so good at breaking down other people’s relationship issues but always got tripped up when it came to my own love life. It’s the reason most of us can solve our friend’s relationship issues with no problem, but remain utterly befuddled when it comes to our own lives.
Here is the straight up truth: Men aren’t complicated, woman complicate them.
I’m not blaming the woman, but I will say we put ourselves through so much unnecessary grief just because we don’t want to accept that men are actually fairly simple and straightforward creatures.
But How Does He Feel About Me?
By far the most common questions I get are variations of figuring out how a guy feels …
“He texts me from time to time, but we never actually hang out…”
“He’s really flirty when we see each other, and said I’m the coolest girl he knows, so why isn’t he asking me out?”
“We’ve been seeing each other for months, but he won’t make it official….”
“He always watches my Instagram and Snapchat stories, and he likes my pictures! What does that mean—?”
It means he is kind of interested in you, but doesn’t want a relationship with you.
Guys don’t play games, they don’t try to hide interest, they don’t speak in code, and they aren’t trying to confuse you. Why is it so confusing? Again, because we don’t want to accept the truth and we all want to think we’re the exception.
What women always get wrong about men is thinking they’re evil or complicated or commitment-phobes or players. But most of the time this just isn’t the case.
Men usually show you exactly who they are. They may not necessarily come right out and say the words, but you’ll always see the truth when you can honestly look for it. And if a man does ever come right out and tell you he doesn’t want to be in a relationship, believe him. Again, this isn’t him performing some voodoo trap on you and trying to get you to like him more or prove your worth by showing what an amazing girlfriend you would be.
If a guy isn’t making it obvious to you that he likes you, it’s because he doesn’t like you that much. If he isn’t committing to you, it’s because he doesn’t want to. If he’s treating you like a booty call, it’s because he doesn’t want a relationship that goes any deeper than that.
Don’t delude yourself or adopt a man-hating attitude. See a situation for what it is, and accept that men just aren’t that complicated.
And in case you’re wondering, it didn’t work out between that guy and my friend and she was utterly devastated (and ok fine, I was slightly smugly satisfied). He and I ended up becoming really close friends and through our friendship I realized that we would have made a terrible couple! These days he’s married, I’m married, and my friend is married, so all’s well that ends well!
https://thoughtcatalog.com/sabrina-alexis/2018/01/the-one-thing-women-always-get-wrong-about-men
😂 Why would you say that?
I can’t. 😄 I don’t want anyone seeing me here 😂
and why would you. you have a right for privacy. though neno is hot js 😆
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Yes the one thing women always get wrong about men........
They can't tell the difference between a man wh0re and a man.
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Posted by JuliietteLet’s just say that being here wouldn’t be good for my image 😅Posted by pisceswoman123Posted by Juliiette😂 I like to see other people. But I don’t want anyone to recognize me. That wouldn’t be good at allPosted by pisceswoman123Posted by Neno2Posted by pisceswoman123Announce your face to the dxo world 🙄Posted by Neno2Posted by pisceswoman123I wonder how u look like🤔Posted by Neno2I wouldn’t dare to 😄Posted by pisceswoman123Are u teaching me🤔Posted by Neno2Yes, it’s goes both ways. It should be pretty clear 😄Posted by jeaneSame title but use what man always get wrong about women😃
The One Thing Women Always Get Wrong About Men
By Sabrina Alexis
I’m going to share a story because I find stories to be the best way to illustrate a point.
Years ago, I met a guy who I thought was absolutely perfect for me. Actually, I had heard about him before I even met him through mutual friends, and just a quick description of him was enough to let me know that he was the man for me!
Eventually, the stars aligned and we met in person, and he was exactly how I imagined he would be. Now how often does a fantasy match reality so perfectly?
Not only that, the chemistry was explosive. The conversation flowed, the body language signals all checked, and our faces were almost pained from smiling so wide. I’m a relationship expert, I write about men for a living, I know what a guy “in like” looks like and this was it!
After we parted from that magical first meeting, I floated home on a cloud. At last, the wait is over, dating is over, I found the guy for me! Never mind the fact that he didn’t ask for my number or mention getting in touch with me, I was sure that he liked me, and that something magical was brewing.
But it didn’t …
Hmm, that’s strange. Maybe he thought I didn’t like him? Or maybe it’s because I was getting shy and flustered and maybe I just wasn’t giving enough green light signals. Or maybe he’s afraid of being rejected; I know that’s a real fear for most men! And I mean, that would be so embarrassing for him because we have so many mutual friends … so maybe he’s just waiting until he knows for sure that I’m interested. Yes! That has to be it. The next time I see him, I will make sure my signals are clear and obvious.
About a month or two later, we crossed paths at a friend’s birthday party. Never mind the fact that every time I looked over at him he was heavily flirting with a different girl; I knew that I was different. I mean, I’m so good at reading situations, that’s what I do for a living! I can’t be wrong about this.
Eventually, he swam my way through the sea of people and again, explosive chemistry, flirty banter, outstretched smiles, this time he even gave me a high five that lingered way too long, so does that count as him holding my hand??
Yes, this was happening, it was, I feel it. But it didn’t.
OK, now I’m so confused. This doesn’t make any sense. Why isn’t he asking me out? It must be because he doesn’t want to make things weird, that he wants to be sure this will work out before he dives in. Oh! I know! Maybe he senses that I’m “the one” and that’s really scary for a guy … so he’s just processing what’s going on.
I spent many more months in the grips of intense confusions. How do I crack his code? How do I get a relationship to happen? This is all so confusing!
Now, whenever I would get stuck in an area concerning my love life it was doubly hard because I am a relationship expert by trade, it’s what I do and I’m good at it. But when faced with a problem I couldn’t solve, well then I really felt like an idiot and a fraud!
I knew what I would tell a reader this situation, but my own sound advice just didn’t seem to apply here. It just feels different.
OK, long story short, a little while later I brought a friend of mine to a party that he also attended. He took one look at her and that was it. They engaged in heavy flirting, he immediately got her information, and he called and asked her on a date soon after. I literally felt like I had been knocked sideways. The next day I couldn’t even walk straight, my whole world felt like it was tilted.
And this is what women always get wrong about men.
We think they’re so confusing. We think it doesn’t make any sense. We think they play games and send mixed messages. We don’t understand why.
But really, we do. The problem is we don’t want to admit the truth that’s staring us in the face. We don’t want to admit that a guy we like may not like us back, so we invent this whole narrative about how he really does like us, and about all these menacing obstacles are getting in the way of making true love bloom.
Men Aren’t Complicated
I know it sounds shocking, I know it doesn’t feel like this can possibly be true, but it is! And once you really internalize this fact, your dating life will dramatically change. You can relax and stop stressing and making yourself crazy.
When it comes to men, the most obvious explanation is usually the correct one. Feelings aren’t facts. Just because something feels a certain way doesn’t mean that’s the reality.
You can’t interpret situations when you have a bias toward a certain outcome. This is main reason why I was so good at breaking down other people’s relationship issues but always got tripped up when it came to my own love life. It’s the reason most of us can solve our friend’s relationship issues with no problem, but remain utterly befuddled when it comes to our own lives.
Here is the straight up truth: Men aren’t complicated, woman complicate them.
I’m not blaming the woman, but I will say we put ourselves through so much unnecessary grief just because we don’t want to accept that men are actually fairly simple and straightforward creatures.
But How Does He Feel About Me?
By far the most common questions I get are variations of figuring out how a guy feels …
“He texts me from time to time, but we never actually hang out…”
“He’s really flirty when we see each other, and said I’m the coolest girl he knows, so why isn’t he asking me out?”
“We’ve been seeing each other for months, but he won’t make it official….”
“He always watches my Instagram and Snapchat stories, and he likes my pictures! What does that mean—?”
It means he is kind of interested in you, but doesn’t want a relationship with you.
Guys don’t play games, they don’t try to hide interest, they don’t speak in code, and they aren’t trying to confuse you. Why is it so confusing? Again, because we don’t want to accept the truth and we all want to think we’re the exception.
What women always get wrong about men is thinking they’re evil or complicated or commitment-phobes or players. But most of the time this just isn’t the case.
Men usually show you exactly who they are. They may not necessarily come right out and say the words, but you’ll always see the truth when you can honestly look for it. And if a man does ever come right out and tell you he doesn’t want to be in a relationship, believe him. Again, this isn’t him performing some voodoo trap on you and trying to get you to like him more or prove your worth by showing what an amazing girlfriend you would be.
If a guy isn’t making it obvious to you that he likes you, it’s because he doesn’t like you that much. If he isn’t committing to you, it’s because he doesn’t want to. If he’s treating you like a booty call, it’s because he doesn’t want a relationship that goes any deeper than that.
Don’t delude yourself or adopt a man-hating attitude. See a situation for what it is, and accept that men just aren’t that complicated.
And in case you’re wondering, it didn’t work out between that guy and my friend and she was utterly devastated (and ok fine, I was slightly smugly satisfied). He and I ended up becoming really close friends and through our friendship I realized that we would have made a terrible couple! These days he’s married, I’m married, and my friend is married, so all’s well that ends well!
https://thoughtcatalog.com/sabrina-alexis/2018/01/the-one-thing-women-always-get-wrong-about-men
😂 Why would you say that?
I can’t. 😄 I don’t want anyone seeing me here 😂
and why would you. you have a right for privacy. though neno is hot js 😆
ofc
you are a celebrity? jk if you are cool. 😆
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Posted by SeleukosOh! He sounds like a winner!Posted by GemitatiOr he just never had the idea to ask her out although he liked her.Posted by SeleukosIf he didn’t like her except as a friend - they would have a drink, then maybe even have sex and he would leave her because he did NOT like her enough to BE with her! And she would be hurt even more...unless he is unskilled bad lover!
This whole story could have played out completly different if the women would just have approached him saying:
"I like you. Lets have a drink."
But yeah, lets turn it all around to get another justification for being passive.
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Posted by JuliietteSounds like my marriage except he doesn’t have a bar and don’t do a shit!!!Posted by GemitatiPosted by JuliietteWhat a guy! 😂Posted by GemitatiPosted by Juliiettelol who are they?Posted by GemitatiPosted by JuliietteLol! So your fathers drinking doesn’t prevent him from being able? What a stallion!!!Posted by GemitatiPosted by JuliietteHow did your Scorp went retarded? Tell!Posted by GemitatiPosted by JuliietteI can see how some men are naturally charming and what women don’t get is that he is charming in general! Not just with ME! But...we taking it too close to the heart and mind!Posted by GemitatiPosted by JuliietteThat because you, woman THINK you 2 have a chemistry and he is feeling the same - it doesn’t mean he does! You as a woman creating this dream relashionships in your head when for him - he is nice, friendly and talkative to other women and you isn’t an exclusion. It’s all IN YOIR HEAD!
ok, the woman has a thing for a guy and her friend hooks up with him? what am i missing here?
ohh ok. but anyway i wouldn't hook up with someone when my gf has a thing for him.
then again if i do understand he doesn't really like me, i wouldn't have the issue.
NOW what I want to ask smart author of the article who writes about men for living is - how about he actually taken your number, had a date with you, later told you he loves you and dissapeared?
This is majority of posts here...is there an explanation for THAT? How not complicated THIS simple men behavior can be explained?
Can’t wait and know that this question will not be answered!
dear idk. had zero issues with them except with the scorp lol who went fully retard when i left him.
did i tell you that lover of my mom was a scorpio? i'm not really sure but i think he is. LOL geminis and scorp who would guess that.
And yes your mom and lover as Gem and Scorp is fully understandable...this pairing had been discussed forever! And it’s quite unique and can work magically!
you don't want to know. i'll just say i had to call the police and threat to sue him. after fucking 8 years he stalks me a bit.
anyway my mom and him 15 fucking years. maybe they are still together, idk, and i don't ask. but my father has gf too LOL. my age. LOL more beautiful than me.
Why is moms Scorpio blackmailed her?
To leave your father?
no. 1 year ago he opened a pub, sort of. he is 67. he would wake up at 6am, go there, come home to have a launch and quick nap for 1h, go there and stay until 2am. and wake up at 6am. i would die!!! true story! and he takes care of his prostate i mean he was telling me about it and i was like ok, just fucking stop LOL
you don't wanna know. they had a video on vhs.
And yes I know! I had a business...and if it wasn’t for a Scorp - I would be out of there first year! He kept me going...
But waking up at 6? For a bar? I think he does it so he can run up to his child bride...
they - my mother gemini and a scorp. he threatened to show my father if she leaves him.
he is one of those guys who loves morning coffee and he had customers who would stay all night until morning. helikes night life so he wanted to have both in one pub. but probably was with his gf also.
So why does he care if your mom leaves him? Seems self sufficient man...
he doesn't know how to make tea. he is unable to get his birth certificate without her. he gets panic attacks when waiting in line for administration. and her as a gemini gets the job done before anyone since everyone loves her, she is very practical and charming. so codependent rl though i think she is the one who doesn't need him but feel obligated to take care of him.
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Lmao
Need to tattoo this entire post then maybe it’ll stick.
Posted by JuliiettePosted by pisceswoman123Posted by JuliietteLet’s just say that being here wouldn’t be good for my image 😅Posted by pisceswoman123Posted by Juliiette😂 I like to see other people. But I don’t want anyone to recognize me. That wouldn’t be good at allPosted by pisceswoman123Posted by Neno2Posted by pisceswoman123Announce your face to the dxo world 🙄Posted by Neno2Posted by pisceswoman123I wonder how u look like🤔Posted by Neno2I wouldn’t dare to 😄Posted by pisceswoman123Are u teaching me🤔Posted by Neno2Yes, it’s goes both ways. It should be pretty clear 😄Posted by jeaneSame title but use what man always get wrong about women😃
The One Thing Women Always Get Wrong About Men
By Sabrina Alexis
I’m going to share a story because I find stories to be the best way to illustrate a point.
Years ago, I met a guy who I thought was absolutely perfect for me. Actually, I had heard about him before I even met him through mutual friends, and just a quick description of him was enough to let me know that he was the man for me!
Eventually, the stars aligned and we met in person, and he was exactly how I imagined he would be. Now how often does a fantasy match reality so perfectly?
Not only that, the chemistry was explosive. The conversation flowed, the body language signals all checked, and our faces were almost pained from smiling so wide. I’m a relationship expert, I write about men for a living, I know what a guy “in like” looks like and this was it!
After we parted from that magical first meeting, I floated home on a cloud. At last, the wait is over, dating is over, I found the guy for me! Never mind the fact that he didn’t ask for my number or mention getting in touch with me, I was sure that he liked me, and that something magical was brewing.
But it didn’t …
Hmm, that’s strange. Maybe he thought I didn’t like him? Or maybe it’s because I was getting shy and flustered and maybe I just wasn’t giving enough green light signals. Or maybe he’s afraid of being rejected; I know that’s a real fear for most men! And I mean, that would be so embarrassing for him because we have so many mutual friends … so maybe he’s just waiting until he knows for sure that I’m interested. Yes! That has to be it. The next time I see him, I will make sure my signals are clear and obvious.
About a month or two later, we crossed paths at a friend’s birthday party. Never mind the fact that every time I looked over at him he was heavily flirting with a different girl; I knew that I was different. I mean, I’m so good at reading situations, that’s what I do for a living! I can’t be wrong about this.
Eventually, he swam my way through the sea of people and again, explosive chemistry, flirty banter, outstretched smiles, this time he even gave me a high five that lingered way too long, so does that count as him holding my hand??
Yes, this was happening, it was, I feel it. But it didn’t.
OK, now I’m so confused. This doesn’t make any sense. Why isn’t he asking me out? It must be because he doesn’t want to make things weird, that he wants to be sure this will work out before he dives in. Oh! I know! Maybe he senses that I’m “the one” and that’s really scary for a guy … so he’s just processing what’s going on.
I spent many more months in the grips of intense confusions. How do I crack his code? How do I get a relationship to happen? This is all so confusing!
Now, whenever I would get stuck in an area concerning my love life it was doubly hard because I am a relationship expert by trade, it’s what I do and I’m good at it. But when faced with a problem I couldn’t solve, well then I really felt like an idiot and a fraud!
I knew what I would tell a reader this situation, but my own sound advice just didn’t seem to apply here. It just feels different.
OK, long story short, a little while later I brought a friend of mine to a party that he also attended. He took one look at her and that was it. They engaged in heavy flirting, he immediately got her information, and he called and asked her on a date soon after. I literally felt like I had been knocked sideways. The next day I couldn’t even walk straight, my whole world felt like it was tilted.
And this is what women always get wrong about men.
We think they’re so confusing. We think it doesn’t make any sense. We think they play games and send mixed messages. We don’t understand why.
But really, we do. The problem is we don’t want to admit the truth that’s staring us in the face. We don’t want to admit that a guy we like may not like us back, so we invent this whole narrative about how he really does like us, and about all these menacing obstacles are getting in the way of making true love bloom.
Men Aren’t Complicated
I know it sounds shocking, I know it doesn’t feel like this can possibly be true, but it is! And once you really internalize this fact, your dating life will dramatically change. You can relax and stop stressing and making yourself crazy.
When it comes to men, the most obvious explanation is usually the correct one. Feelings aren’t facts. Just because something feels a certain way doesn’t mean that’s the reality.
You can’t interpret situations when you have a bias toward a certain outcome. This is main reason why I was so good at breaking down other people’s relationship issues but always got tripped up when it came to my own love life. It’s the reason most of us can solve our friend’s relationship issues with no problem, but remain utterly befuddled when it comes to our own lives.
Here is the straight up truth: Men aren’t complicated, woman complicate them.
I’m not blaming the woman, but I will say we put ourselves through so much unnecessary grief just because we don’t want to accept that men are actually fairly simple and straightforward creatures.
But How Does He Feel About Me?
By far the most common questions I get are variations of figuring out how a guy feels …
“He texts me from time to time, but we never actually hang out…”
“He’s really flirty when we see each other, and said I’m the coolest girl he knows, so why isn’t he asking me out?”
“We’ve been seeing each other for months, but he won’t make it official….”
“He always watches my Instagram and Snapchat stories, and he likes my pictures! What does that mean—?”
It means he is kind of interested in you, but doesn’t want a relationship with you.
Guys don’t play games, they don’t try to hide interest, they don’t speak in code, and they aren’t trying to confuse you. Why is it so confusing? Again, because we don’t want to accept the truth and we all want to think we’re the exception.
What women always get wrong about men is thinking they’re evil or complicated or commitment-phobes or players. But most of the time this just isn’t the case.
Men usually show you exactly who they are. They may not necessarily come right out and say the words, but you’ll always see the truth when you can honestly look for it. And if a man does ever come right out and tell you he doesn’t want to be in a relationship, believe him. Again, this isn’t him performing some voodoo trap on you and trying to get you to like him more or prove your worth by showing what an amazing girlfriend you would be.
If a guy isn’t making it obvious to you that he likes you, it’s because he doesn’t like you that much. If he isn’t committing to you, it’s because he doesn’t want to. If he’s treating you like a booty call, it’s because he doesn’t want a relationship that goes any deeper than that.
Don’t delude yourself or adopt a man-hating attitude. See a situation for what it is, and accept that men just aren’t that complicated.
And in case you’re wondering, it didn’t work out between that guy and my friend and she was utterly devastated (and ok fine, I was slightly smugly satisfied). He and I ended up becoming really close friends and through our friendship I realized that we would have made a terrible couple! These days he’s married, I’m married, and my friend is married, so all’s well that ends well!
https://thoughtcatalog.com/sabrina-alexis/2018/01/the-one-thing-women-always-get-wrong-about-men
😂 Why would you say that?
I can’t. 😄 I don’t want anyone seeing me here 😂
and why would you. you have a right for privacy. though neno is hot js 😆
ofc
you are a celebrity? jk if you are cool. 😆
LOL if you are not maria carry, britney, jenifer etc, i probably like you. 😆
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😂😂😂 Then I am safe
Posted by ManInTheMoonWell you fuckers don’t want to share about yourselves so this is what we have to resort to.
Something something about men
By: Some Lady
Posted by Neno2Posted by pisceswoman123Hmm🤔Posted by Neno2Posted by pisceswoman123Announce your face to the dxo world 🙄Posted by Neno2Posted by pisceswoman123I wonder how u look like🤔Posted by Neno2I wouldn’t dare to 😄Posted by pisceswoman123Are u teaching me🤔Posted by Neno2Yes, it’s goes both ways. It should be pretty clear 😄Posted by jeaneSame title but use what man always get wrong about women😃
The One Thing Women Always Get Wrong About Men
By Sabrina Alexis
I’m going to share a story because I find stories to be the best way to illustrate a point.
Years ago, I met a guy who I thought was absolutely perfect for me. Actually, I had heard about him before I even met him through mutual friends, and just a quick description of him was enough to let me know that he was the man for me!
Eventually, the stars aligned and we met in person, and he was exactly how I imagined he would be. Now how often does a fantasy match reality so perfectly?
Not only that, the chemistry was explosive. The conversation flowed, the body language signals all checked, and our faces were almost pained from smiling so wide. I’m a relationship expert, I write about men for a living, I know what a guy “in like” looks like and this was it!
After we parted from that magical first meeting, I floated home on a cloud. At last, the wait is over, dating is over, I found the guy for me! Never mind the fact that he didn’t ask for my number or mention getting in touch with me, I was sure that he liked me, and that something magical was brewing.
But it didn’t …
Hmm, that’s strange. Maybe he thought I didn’t like him? Or maybe it’s because I was getting shy and flustered and maybe I just wasn’t giving enough green light signals. Or maybe he’s afraid of being rejected; I know that’s a real fear for most men! And I mean, that would be so embarrassing for him because we have so many mutual friends … so maybe he’s just waiting until he knows for sure that I’m interested. Yes! That has to be it. The next time I see him, I will make sure my signals are clear and obvious.
About a month or two later, we crossed paths at a friend’s birthday party. Never mind the fact that every time I looked over at him he was heavily flirting with a different girl; I knew that I was different. I mean, I’m so good at reading situations, that’s what I do for a living! I can’t be wrong about this.
Eventually, he swam my way through the sea of people and again, explosive chemistry, flirty banter, outstretched smiles, this time he even gave me a high five that lingered way too long, so does that count as him holding my hand??
Yes, this was happening, it was, I feel it. But it didn’t.
OK, now I’m so confused. This doesn’t make any sense. Why isn’t he asking me out? It must be because he doesn’t want to make things weird, that he wants to be sure this will work out before he dives in. Oh! I know! Maybe he senses that I’m “the one” and that’s really scary for a guy … so he’s just processing what’s going on.
I spent many more months in the grips of intense confusions. How do I crack his code? How do I get a relationship to happen? This is all so confusing!
Now, whenever I would get stuck in an area concerning my love life it was doubly hard because I am a relationship expert by trade, it’s what I do and I’m good at it. But when faced with a problem I couldn’t solve, well then I really felt like an idiot and a fraud!
I knew what I would tell a reader this situation, but my own sound advice just didn’t seem to apply here. It just feels different.
OK, long story short, a little while later I brought a friend of mine to a party that he also attended. He took one look at her and that was it. They engaged in heavy flirting, he immediately got her information, and he called and asked her on a date soon after. I literally felt like I had been knocked sideways. The next day I couldn’t even walk straight, my whole world felt like it was tilted.
And this is what women always get wrong about men.
We think they’re so confusing. We think it doesn’t make any sense. We think they play games and send mixed messages. We don’t understand why.
But really, we do. The problem is we don’t want to admit the truth that’s staring us in the face. We don’t want to admit that a guy we like may not like us back, so we invent this whole narrative about how he really does like us, and about all these menacing obstacles are getting in the way of making true love bloom.
Men Aren’t Complicated
I know it sounds shocking, I know it doesn’t feel like this can possibly be true, but it is! And once you really internalize this fact, your dating life will dramatically change. You can relax and stop stressing and making yourself crazy.
When it comes to men, the most obvious explanation is usually the correct one. Feelings aren’t facts. Just because something feels a certain way doesn’t mean that’s the reality.
You can’t interpret situations when you have a bias toward a certain outcome. This is main reason why I was so good at breaking down other people’s relationship issues but always got tripped up when it came to my own love life. It’s the reason most of us can solve our friend’s relationship issues with no problem, but remain utterly befuddled when it comes to our own lives.
Here is the straight up truth: Men aren’t complicated, woman complicate them.
I’m not blaming the woman, but I will say we put ourselves through so much unnecessary grief just because we don’t want to accept that men are actually fairly simple and straightforward creatures.
But How Does He Feel About Me?
By far the most common questions I get are variations of figuring out how a guy feels …
“He texts me from time to time, but we never actually hang out…”
“He’s really flirty when we see each other, and said I’m the coolest girl he knows, so why isn’t he asking me out?”
“We’ve been seeing each other for months, but he won’t make it official….”
“He always watches my Instagram and Snapchat stories, and he likes my pictures! What does that mean—?”
It means he is kind of interested in you, but doesn’t want a relationship with you.
Guys don’t play games, they don’t try to hide interest, they don’t speak in code, and they aren’t trying to confuse you. Why is it so confusing? Again, because we don’t want to accept the truth and we all want to think we’re the exception.
What women always get wrong about men is thinking they’re evil or complicated or commitment-phobes or players. But most of the time this just isn’t the case.
Men usually show you exactly who they are. They may not necessarily come right out and say the words, but you’ll always see the truth when you can honestly look for it. And if a man does ever come right out and tell you he doesn’t want to be in a relationship, believe him. Again, this isn’t him performing some voodoo trap on you and trying to get you to like him more or prove your worth by showing what an amazing girlfriend you would be.
If a guy isn’t making it obvious to you that he likes you, it’s because he doesn’t like you that much. If he isn’t committing to you, it’s because he doesn’t want to. If he’s treating you like a booty call, it’s because he doesn’t want a relationship that goes any deeper than that.
Don’t delude yourself or adopt a man-hating attitude. See a situation for what it is, and accept that men just aren’t that complicated.
And in case you’re wondering, it didn’t work out between that guy and my friend and she was utterly devastated (and ok fine, I was slightly smugly satisfied). He and I ended up becoming really close friends and through our friendship I realized that we would have made a terrible couple! These days he’s married, I’m married, and my friend is married, so all’s well that ends well!
https://thoughtcatalog.com/sabrina-alexis/2018/01/the-one-thing-women-always-get-wrong-about-men
😂 Why would you say that?
I can’t. 😄 I don’t want anyone seeing me here 😂
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😂 You can’t.
Blond, petite and very feminine. Good enough? 😄
Posted by stillstillwaterPosted by ManInTheMoonWell you fuckers don’t want to share about yourselves so this is what we have to resort to.
Something something about men
By: Some Lady
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I guess the faster I make my move, the less I actually care for her. It's just sexual.
The more I wait until I make any move yet still care, the more I like her. It's that simple cause I have to figure out whether I like her or not.
The more I wait until I make any move yet still care, the more I like her. It's that simple cause I have to figure out whether I like her or not.
Posted by kreolThat's why I think making a fast move doesn't mean anythingPosted by TheSagIt's a battle between your head (down there) and your heart. Sometimes it's better to withhold sex for a while, while you figure it out, am I really feeling her or is it just my dick lol
I guess the faster I make my move, the less I actually care for her. It's just sexual.
The more I wait until I make any move yet still care, the more I like her. It's that simple cause I have to figure out whether I like her or not.
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Posted by Sooner_or_LaterPosted by jeaneSpot on article. I've definitely been there. In the past - this has happened a few times. I've never regretted dating any of the men that I've dated, or had relationships with. They were learning experiences.
The One Thing Women Always Get Wrong About Men
By Sabrina Alexis
I’m going to share a story because I find stories to be the best way to illustrate a point.
Years ago, I met a guy who I thought was absolutely perfect for me. Actually, I had heard about him before I even met him through mutual friends, and just a quick description of him was enough to let me know that he was the man for me!
Eventually, the stars aligned and we met in person, and he was exactly how I imagined he would be. Now how often does a fantasy match reality so perfectly?
Not only that, the chemistry was explosive. The conversation flowed, the body language signals all checked, and our faces were almost pained from smiling so wide. I’m a relationship expert, I write about men for a living, I know what a guy “in like” looks like and this was it!
After we parted from that magical first meeting, I floated home on a cloud. At last, the wait is over, dating is over, I found the guy for me! Never mind the fact that he didn’t ask for my number or mention getting in touch with me, I was sure that he liked me, and that something magical was brewing.
But it didn’t …
Hmm, that’s strange. Maybe he thought I didn’t like him? Or maybe it’s because I was getting shy and flustered and maybe I just wasn’t giving enough green light signals. Or maybe he’s afraid of being rejected; I know that’s a real fear for most men! And I mean, that would be so embarrassing for him because we have so many mutual friends … so maybe he’s just waiting until he knows for sure that I’m interested. Yes! That has to be it. The next time I see him, I will make sure my signals are clear and obvious.
About a month or two later, we crossed paths at a friend’s birthday party. Never mind the fact that every time I looked over at him he was heavily flirting with a different girl; I knew that I was different. I mean, I’m so good at reading situations, that’s what I do for a living! I can’t be wrong about this.
Eventually, he swam my way through the sea of people and again, explosive chemistry, flirty banter, outstretched smiles, this time he even gave me a high five that lingered way too long, so does that count as him holding my hand??
Yes, this was happening, it was, I feel it. But it didn’t.
OK, now I’m so confused. This doesn’t make any sense. Why isn’t he asking me out? It must be because he doesn’t want to make things weird, that he wants to be sure this will work out before he dives in. Oh! I know! Maybe he senses that I’m “the one” and that’s really scary for a guy … so he’s just processing what’s going on.
I spent many more months in the grips of intense confusions. How do I crack his code? How do I get a relationship to happen? This is all so confusing!
Now, whenever I would get stuck in an area concerning my love life it was doubly hard because I am a relationship expert by trade, it’s what I do and I’m good at it. But when faced with a problem I couldn’t solve, well then I really felt like an idiot and a fraud!
I knew what I would tell a reader this situation, but my own sound advice just didn’t seem to apply here. It just feels different.
OK, long story short, a little while later I brought a friend of mine to a party that he also attended. He took one look at her and that was it. They engaged in heavy flirting, he immediately got her information, and he called and asked her on a date soon after. I literally felt like I had been knocked sideways. The next day I couldn’t even walk straight, my whole world felt like it was tilted.
And this is what women always get wrong about men.
We think they’re so confusing. We think it doesn’t make any sense. We think they play games and send mixed messages. We don’t understand why.
But really, we do. The problem is we don’t want to admit the truth that’s staring us in the face. We don’t want to admit that a guy we like may not like us back, so we invent this whole narrative about how he really does like us, and about all these menacing obstacles are getting in the way of making true love bloom.
Men Aren’t Complicated
I know it sounds shocking, I know it doesn’t feel like this can possibly be true, but it is! And once you really internalize this fact, your dating life will dramatically change. You can relax and stop stressing and making yourself crazy.
When it comes to men, the most obvious explanation is usually the correct one. Feelings aren’t facts. Just because something feels a certain way doesn’t mean that’s the reality.
You can’t interpret situations when you have a bias toward a certain outcome. This is main reason why I was so good at breaking down other people’s relationship issues but always got tripped up when it came to my own love life. It’s the reason most of us can solve our friend’s relationship issues with no problem, but remain utterly befuddled when it comes to our own lives.
Here is the straight up truth: Men aren’t complicated, woman complicate them.
I’m not blaming the woman, but I will say we put ourselves through so much unnecessary grief just because we don’t want to accept that men are actually fairly simple and straightforward creatures.
But How Does He Feel About Me?
By far the most common questions I get are variations of figuring out how a guy feels …
“He texts me from time to time, but we never actually hang out…”
“He’s really flirty when we see each other, and said I’m the coolest girl he knows, so why isn’t he asking me out?”
“We’ve been seeing each other for months, but he won’t make it official….”
“He always watches my Instagram and Snapchat stories, and he likes my pictures! What does that mean—?”
It means he is kind of interested in you, but doesn’t want a relationship with you.
Guys don’t play games, they don’t try to hide interest, they don’t speak in code, and they aren’t trying to confuse you. Why is it so confusing? Again, because we don’t want to accept the truth and we all want to think we’re the exception.
What women always get wrong about men is thinking they’re evil or complicated or commitment-phobes or players. But most of the time this just isn’t the case.
Men usually show you exactly who they are. They may not necessarily come right out and say the words, but you’ll always see the truth when you can honestly look for it. And if a man does ever come right out and tell you he doesn’t want to be in a relationship, believe him. Again, this isn’t him performing some voodoo trap on you and trying to get you to like him more or prove your worth by showing what an amazing girlfriend you would be.
If a guy isn’t making it obvious to you that he likes you, it’s because he doesn’t like you that much. If he isn’t committing to you, it’s because he doesn’t want to. If he’s treating you like a booty call, it’s because he doesn’t want a relationship that goes any deeper than that.
Don’t delude yourself or adopt a man-hating attitude. See a situation for what it is, and accept that men just aren’t that complicated.
And in case you’re wondering, it didn’t work out between that guy and my friend and she was utterly devastated (and ok fine, I was slightly smugly satisfied). He and I ended up becoming really close friends and through our friendship I realized that we would have made a terrible couple! These days he’s married, I’m married, and my friend is married, so all’s well that ends well!
https://thoughtcatalog.com/sabrina-alexis/2018/01/the-one-thing-women-always-get-wrong-about-men
I'd have to say: "The problem is we don’t want to admit the truth that’s staring us in the face. We don’t want to admit that a guy we like may not like us back, so we invent this whole narrative about how he really does like us, and about all these menacing obstacles are getting in the way of making true love bloom."
^That. That's one of the truest things I've read all day. It's the denial. We don't want to admit to ourselves that someone may not like us the way we like them. Then the fantasies and stories in our heads are created to deflect the denial.
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i've seen a few threads here which reflect her experience. i thought it might be a conversation starter and it has! pleased as punch 🙂
Maybe it has to have something with overconfidence ?
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We are both married and have children of our own.
I know this Vigro guy a few years ago and recently related to some i
I was with someone for 7years. I cooked I cleaned . I was very sexual. I worked had a good job . I did everything I possibly could to make him happy, but he was so messed up to me and nothing was good enough for him he left me.... Well one year later I me
...about break ups. Like straight in a face!
You aren’t good in bed
I don’t love you anymore
You are fat and I can’t get used to it
I found someone else
Would that make relashionships world a better place and people being happier dealing with bei
I have a friend who cannot get out of a toxic relationship with a drug addict who is very selfish and a professional liar. I have sympathy for his girlfriend in some regards. She lost her mom and her child on the same day and started using ha
And how does it play into the dynamics of your relationship?
I'm a serial dater, It's hard. especially at my age.
There are a lot of things that go on... I will explain them a little.
1) not getting attached (the woman). Hardest part.... keeping the other person from getting too attached. You tell them "hey w
I was out on another date tonight. (side note from: @caramelizedcoffee she was a black girl from Zambia)
anyway.... I told her I would pick her up from her place and we could ride to restaurant together (I'm totally out of places I know I like I can t
It seems like Christmas is the time to get dumped - at least this is the second time in a row that it's happening to me. Last year it literally happened on Christmas Eve, when my boyfriend of some 3 months told me he just wasn't ready for a relationship a
Hey guys,
If you may remember a post I made not that long ago asking for advice on asking my crush/best friend out and telling her my feelings. I am here with the prophesied answer.
She rejected me.
She waited the week to figure out how to let m
I’ve never heard of this.
Article says 5% of the population experiencing limerence.
I am trying to evaluate myself.
Although it can be difficult to objectively evaluate the signs of limerence when you’re in this altered state, Tennov identified the
.....for anyone who thinks differently, this is grounding to read ....
“People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that's what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back,
So my ex broke up with me in early October saying she was just exhausted from all the arguing. She tried to get back with me a week later and I told her no. I admit I messed up and sent her a lot of messages the next and the days that followed after I rej
Just say it...
Doesn’t matter if it’s dxp member or your neighbor m.
The HOW matters...
Lets have new ideas. Especially we have gay almost turning back to a women...
It’s not mandatory. If you don’t have dick of vagina - just have milk and cookie
who has sex the first time drunk and is ok with it?
The CAP has been blowing up my phone for last few days asking to spend time with me. Last night, she got off work early because it was slow and asked me to come and drink with her and her friends.
My ex decided to divorce me on end of April. And dated another girl which leave 2 hours from us on early May.
He has blocked me on his fb and whatsapp so that I didn't found out about his new fling. But I found out anyway. And i messaged her about us
If your partner asked you to see a sex therapist because they thought your mental out look on sex was affecting your physical and that you had issues with intimacy overall would you go?
Why it why not?
Is this something men are able to admit or woul
By Sabrina Alexis
I’m going to share a story because I find stories to be the best way to illustrate a point.
Years ago, I met a guy who I thought was absolutely perfect for me. Actually, I had heard about him before I even met him through mutual friends, and just a quick description of him was enough to let me know that he was the man for me!
Eventually, the stars aligned and we met in person, and he was exactly how I imagined he would be. Now how often does a fantasy match reality so perfectly?
Not only that, the chemistry was explosive. The conversation flowed, the body language signals all checked, and our faces were almost pained from smiling so wide. I’m a relationship expert, I write about men for a living, I know what a guy “in like” looks like and this was it!
After we parted from that magical first meeting, I floated home on a cloud. At last, the wait is over, dating is over, I found the guy for me! Never mind the fact that he didn’t ask for my number or mention getting in touch with me, I was sure that he liked me, and that something magical was brewing.
But it didn’t …
Hmm, that’s strange. Maybe he thought I didn’t like him? Or maybe it’s because I was getting shy and flustered and maybe I just wasn’t giving enough green light signals. Or maybe he’s afraid of being rejected; I know that’s a real fear for most men! And I mean, that would be so embarrassing for him because we have so many mutual friends … so maybe he’s just waiting until he knows for sure that I’m interested. Yes! That has to be it. The next time I see him, I will make sure my signals are clear and obvious.
About a month or two later, we crossed paths at a friend’s birthday party. Never mind the fact that every time I looked over at him he was heavily flirting with a different girl; I knew that I was different. I mean, I’m so good at reading situations, that’s what I do for a living! I can’t be wrong about this.
Eventually, he swam my way through the sea of people and again, explosive chemistry, flirty banter, outstretched smiles, this time he even gave me a high five that lingered way too long, so does that count as him holding my hand??
Yes, this was happening, it was, I feel it. But it didn’t.
OK, now I’m so confused. This doesn’t make any sense. Why isn’t he asking me out? It must be because he doesn’t want to make things weird, that he wants to be sure this will work out before he dives in. Oh! I know! Maybe he senses that I’m “the one” and that’s really scary for a guy … so he’s just processing what’s going on.
I spent many more months in the grips of intense confusions. How do I crack his code? How do I get a relationship to happen? This is all so confusing!
Now, whenever I would get stuck in an area concerning my love life it was doubly hard because I am a relationship expert by trade, it’s what I do and I’m good at it. But when faced with a problem I couldn’t solve, well then I really felt like an idiot and a fraud!
I knew what I would tell a reader this situation, but my own sound advice just didn’t seem to apply here. It just feels different.
OK, long story short, a little while later I brought a friend of mine to a party that he also attended. He took one look at her and that was it. They engaged in heavy flirting, he immediately got her information, and he called and asked her on a date soon after. I literally felt like I had been knocked sideways. The next day I couldn’t even walk straight, my whole world felt like it was tilted.
And this is what women always get wrong about men.
We think they’re so confusing. We think it doesn’t make any sense. We think they play games and send mixed messages. We don’t understand why.
But really, we do. The problem is we don’t want to admit the truth that’s staring us in the face. We don’t want to admit that a guy we like may not like us back, so we invent this whole narrative about how he really does like us, and about all these menacing obstacles are getting in the way of making true love bloom.
Men Aren’t Complicated
I know it sounds shocking, I know it doesn’t feel like this can possibly be true, but it is! And once you really internalize this fact, your dating life will dramatically change. You can relax and stop stressing and making yourself crazy.
When it comes to men, the most obvious explanation is usually the correct one. Feelings aren’t facts. Just because something feels a certain way doesn’t mean that’s the reality.
You can’t interpret situations when you have a bias toward a certain outcome. This is main reason why I was so good at breaking down other people’s relationship issues but always got tripped up when it came to my own love life. It’s the reason most of us can solve our friend’s relationship issues with no problem, but remain utterly befuddled when it comes to our own lives.
Here is the straight up truth: Men aren’t complicated, woman complicate them.
I’m not blaming the woman, but I will say we put ourselves through so much unnecessary grief just because we don’t want to accept that men are actually fairly simple and straightforward creatures.
But How Does He Feel About Me?
By far the most common questions I get are variations of figuring out how a guy feels …
“He texts me from time to time, but we never actually hang out…”
“He’s really flirty when we see each other, and said I’m the coolest girl he knows, so why isn’t he asking me out?”
“We’ve been seeing each other for months, but he won’t make it official….”
“He always watches my Instagram and Snapchat stories, and he likes my pictures! What does that mean—?”
It means he is kind of interested in you, but doesn’t want a relationship with you.
Guys don’t play games, they don’t try to hide interest, they don’t speak in code, and they aren’t trying to confuse you. Why is it so confusing? Again, because we don’t want to accept the truth and we all want to think we’re the exception.
What women always get wrong about men is thinking they’re evil or complicated or commitment-phobes or players. But most of the time this just isn’t the case.
Men usually show you exactly who they are. They may not necessarily come right out and say the words, but you’ll always see the truth when you can honestly look for it. And if a man does ever come right out and tell you he doesn’t want to be in a relationship, believe him. Again, this isn’t him performing some voodoo trap on you and trying to get you to like him more or prove your worth by showing what an amazing girlfriend you would be.
If a guy isn’t making it obvious to you that he likes you, it’s because he doesn’t like you that much. If he isn’t committing to you, it’s because he doesn’t want to. If he’s treating you like a booty call, it’s because he doesn’t want a relationship that goes any deeper than that.
Don’t delude yourself or adopt a man-hating attitude. See a situation for what it is, and accept that men just aren’t that complicated.
And in case you’re wondering, it didn’t work out between that guy and my friend and she was utterly devastated (and ok fine, I was slightly smugly satisfied). He and I ended up becoming really close friends and through our friendship I realized that we would have made a terrible couple! These days he’s married, I’m married, and my friend is married, so all’s well that ends well!
https://thoughtcatalog.com/sabrina-alexis/2018/01/the-one-thing-women-always-get-wrong-about-men