The only thing we haven't done is sex! Why is this

I've currently been seeing this guy for almost 3 months, we're both in our mid twenties. We've gone on dates and kissed and I've even slept over at his place before. Basically the only thing we HAVEN'T done is have sex. He hasn't even tried. Is he seeing another girl on the side? Is this his way of trying to form a serious relationship? I'm so confused!! Please help!!

Lmao I was naked on his bed. I'm sure he would've initiated something no??

Haven't had the opportunity to see him in person since Friday.

How would I go about asking him? I had planned to just be upfront about it and ask him if he was seeing other girls besides me. Maybe that's not the best approach??

Thank you. Hopefully I can see him this week and have the lady balls to ask him! Haha

he's nervous i guess
are you her first girl? or did he ever bang previous girls?

my suggestion ... dont wait
rape him 😉

HE MAY BE GAY JUST
USING YOU AS A FRONT

That would be incredibly unfotunate. I really hope not.

He could be a demisexual like me. Though demisexuality comes in different shades it is clear to us that the level of connection it takes for sexual desire to be inspired is dependent largely on how close the relationship is rather than the initial attraction. This is not an active restraining of sexual desire.


Not saying that I'm sure he is one but its another possibility.

Maybe he's just a gentleman 😉

I know, they're hard to find these days, but they do exist... Although, I do equate them to the elusiveness of Unicorns 🙂

(djbuck is a Unicorn)

Posted by Amandus
He could be a demisexual like me. Though demisexuality comes in different shades it is clear to us that the level of connection it takes for sexual desire to be inspired is dependent largely on how close the relationship is rather than the initial attraction. This is not an active restraining of sexual desire.

Jase, that's called being a gentleman and comes with maturity 🙂
(or old age and little blue pills 😛)

But, we have always admired you for your mature sense of self and respect for women!

MAUBE SHE SHOULD WAIT TILL HE IS ALMOST ASLEEP AND START GIVING HIM HEAD THAT MIGHT GET HIM GOING.

Maturity which someone lacks... :/

(luv him anyway 😛)

Lmao we were both naked!! Ready to go and nothing hahahaha

Posted by Lolacadsha

I was naked on his bed. I'm sure he would've initiated something no??

Posted by Lolacadsha

Haven't had the opportunity to see him in person since Friday.

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You had the opportunity when you were naked next to him, but, failed to utilize it .... what happens on Friday is irrelevant, the moment is past.

Instead of asking why he didn't do anything ..... you should be asking yourself why you didn't.

Unless it's common practice for you to strip naked in front of men, and you'll take whichever one seizes the opportunity .... because that's what is sounds like.

You just lay there naked, and expect someone else to do the work for you .... if you wanted the man, then YOU would have taken control of the situation.

He probably realized that you're a lazy fuck, and changed his mind.

^^^^^^lmao

Posted by P-Angel

Posted by Lolacadsha

I was naked on his bed. I'm sure he would've initiated something no??

Posted by Lolacadsha

Haven't had the opportunity to see him in person since Friday.

You had the opportunity when you were naked next to him, but, failed to utilize it .... what happens on Friday is irrelevant, the moment is past.

Instead of asking why he didn't do anything ..... you should be asking yourself why you didn't.

Unless it's common practice for you to strip naked in front of men, and you'll take whichever one seizes the opportunity .... because that's what is sounds like.

You just lay there naked, and expect someone else to do the work for you .... if you wanted the man, then YOU would have taken control of the situation.

He probably realized that you're a lazy fuck, and changed his mind.

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Wow. You are incredibly rude. No I am not a lazy fuck thank you very much. And I am not some skank. I did try taking control of the situation but he wouldn't put it in if that's what you wanted to hear. We did everything else and it was hot but we didn't actually have intercourse and I set this chat up trying to see what other people's opinions were. Now I'm not going to rape the guy! I actually like him. Now, if you're going to continue being rude please feel free to leave. I don't need anyone offending me on here. You don't know me so I would appreciate it if you didn't switch between calling me a tree trunk and a skank. I'm here for advice. Not for insults.

Posted by Lolacadsha

Wow. You are incredibly rude. No I am not a lazy fuck thank you very much.

And you are incredibly manipulative .... you had him naked in his bed, and then come in here to act na??ve and confused.


and yes, you are a lazy fuck ... considering you just laid there, waiting to be serviced .. thank you very much

It was most likely due to your daddy calling you a Princess, which ultimately gave you entitlement issues ...... you think all you have to do is stand there, and he's suppose to work for it.

I feel sorry for you. You clearly just want to pick a fight. I am neither manipulative nor do I believe that the world owes me anything. I came for people's advice. Not for some old bitter lady to come and pretend she knows me and attempt to offend me. I truly hope you find happiness in your life because you are clearly miserable to try and bring me down in order to make yourself feel slightly better about yourself and whatever problems you may be having. Have a nice life and may you finally find peace and happiness.

Posted by kalin
I would think its because he really likes you and wants to make it work.
I had two bfs in the past, told me they were NOT ready to have sex with me, even though we were already "official"... one of the guys would just get up and leave in the middle of the night because he got horny. Both of them make me wait for a whole month!! A whole month!! after we were already telling the world we were bf and gf, sleeping in the same bed most nights, seeing each other every single day!!

oh wow. and they just brought up that they weren't ready themselves or did you ask them about it? That's really good though that they respected you that much to wait to have sex. I hope that's it, because I really like this guy!

awww that's really sweet.
that could also be it. I just don't really understand guys haha they're so hot and cold.
my problem would be bringing it up in a subtle manner. I'm very upfront and I believe that if you like me or dont or if you lose interest or whatever then I'd rather be told and I do the same thing, If I like someone or lose interest in them I tell them straight up. Need to learn how to be a bit more subtle lol oops

Posted by djbuck1
...unless you haven't discussed 'protection' and he is afraid of getting you pregnant)...

this^^

did anyone have condoms?

Posted by Lolacadsha
I've currently been seeing this guy for almost 3 months, we're both in our mid twenties. We've gone on dates and kissed and I've even slept over at his place before. Basically the only thing we HAVEN'T done is have sex. He hasn't even tried. Is he seeing another girl on the side? Is this his way of trying to form a serious relationship? I'm so confused!! Please help!!

See, this is the moment when most women mess up

Stop trying to go throught he process of draining yourself & over-analyzing something when you'd probably be much better off just asking!!

Of course it could be that he won't have sex with you for the reasons (bad) you're thinking, BUT it could also be for other reasons too like...

...He's not that into you
...He's got a girlfriend/wife (some men feel they are not technically cheating unless they have sex...Maybe he won't let himself cross the line b/c he promised himself not to let things get to a certain point)
...He's gay lol
...He used to a male whore & decided to try to slow things down & change how he goes about dating this go round, thus he's testing himself to see how long he can go without it b/c he doesn't want sex to ruin things or be the only thing he likes about you
...He's celibate (You'd be surprised at how many men are)
...He's getting sex on the side from other girls he doesn't like or care about but b/c he likes you he doesn't wanna take the risk of sex b/w you two, changing things.
...He only sees you as a friend. A great friend. The kind of friend you know you might lose if sex gets involved. Or the kind of friend you don't want getting attached (since women always get attached after sex) b/c you have no plans on taking it further

We can sit here & "Guess" all day. It could be anything! Just ask! You may be surprised! He may be 100% honest with you & it may not be as bad as you thought

Or it could be that he's got the smallest peen in the world! lol

honestly what the problem most likely is is hes scared and questioning himself, which in turn is making you do the same fucking thing

lol P Angel most likely is right. I've had a couple of experiences where the woman was naked or near naked and just laying there, no verbal, no action no nothing, idk maybe they were nervous but it pissed me off a little bit and it made me not want to have sex anymore (I did though, ima man).

Its either that or his dick is little

or he's a virgin

Posted by kalin

I had two bfs in the past, told me they were NOT ready to have sex with me, even though we were already "official"... one of the guys would just get up and leave in the middle of the night because he got horny. Both of them make me wait for a whole month!! A whole month!! after we were already telling the world we were bf and gf, sleeping in the same bed most nights, seeing each other every single day!!

Only in America.

*smh*

Posted by lildol
Maybe he's just a gentleman 😉

Riiight.... takes a gentleman to make a girl feel sexually undesirable and unwanted while SHE'S LYING NAKED NEXT TO HIM IN THE BED!

This is why guys get friendzoned.

I couldn't imagine lying naked in a bed with a man I was in a relationship with and wanted to have sex with and not hopping on him! How did you manage to get naked in the first place?

Posted by james tate
HE MAY BE GAY JUST
USING YOU AS A FRONT

JT, You always get me choking on your one liners!! STOP IT!

+1

Don't you just hate when they do that 😛

Posted by Stuckinpurgatory
Get naked, and then proceed to sit on his face. He will have no choice but to eat his way out to freedom.

Ahh...the sweet taste of "freedom"...

Posted by DustDevil

Posted by Stuckinpurgatory
Get naked, and then proceed to sit on his face. He will have no choice but to eat his way out to freedom.

Ahh...the sweet taste of "freedom"...

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Kirkegaard, one of the leading existential philosophers, once said that freedom creates anxiety. I agree with that. Like Kirkegaard and Sartre, I'd rather be constricted by a pussy than have the freedom to do anything.... and feeling anxious about the responsibility of creating my own destiny. Freedom bad, pussy is good.

Anyway that's my free interpretation of the existential philosophy 🙂

Posted by Lolacadsha
Lmao I was naked on his bed. I'm sure he would've initiated something no??

Damn. Thats unforgivable.




Unless he has herpes and wants to tell you first.

Posted by enfant_terrible

Posted by lildol
Maybe he's just a gentleman 😉

Riiight.... takes a gentleman to make a girl feel sexually undesirable and unwanted while SHE'S LYING NAKED NEXT TO HIM IN THE BED!

This is why guys get friendzoned.

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Lmao. I dont remember ever being friendzoned because of not touching a naked woman in my bed. I was always friendzoned before there was any nudity.

Although i hung out with a girl in a bed once and didnt touch her. Then again she wasnt naked and it was our first sleepover together so we just kissed and kept it Rated R.

lol p angel

He may be a lot of things, ask him straight forward if he sees you as sexually attractive and if he wants to get into a sexual relationship, if not why, and then you can chose what to do next with him.

The last obstacle for your happiness must be fear.

Posted by P-Angel

Posted by Lolacadsha

I was naked on his bed. I'm sure he would've initiated something no??

Posted by Lolacadsha

Haven't had the opportunity to see him in person since Friday.

You had the opportunity when you were naked next to him, but, failed to utilize it .... what happens on Friday is irrelevant, the moment is past.

Instead of asking why he didn't do anything ..... you should be asking yourself why you didn't.

Unless it's common practice for you to strip naked in front of men, and you'll take whichever one seizes the opportunity .... because that's what is sounds like.

You just lay there naked, and expect someone else to do the work for you .... if you wanted the man, then YOU would have taken control of the situation.

He probably realized that you're a lazy fuck, and changed his mind.

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LMAO! P- Angel, you are such a funny angel